Shin

I don't understand. When I'm searching for my top 10 values, I have a hard time finding 10 values that I find meaningful. After comparing my initial 10 values (removing the ones that mean the same), I'm only left with 7 that I feel that are really important, the 3 left are kinda "cool" to embody, but It doesn't really click. Is this normal ?

What about smiling to the one you like and see what happens ? If she smiles back, just wait for her at the end and engage conversation.

Remove your ego from the equation, and see if the vision still inspires you.

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When you experience that you are everything that ever existed, and that will ever be, this question will becomes dull ^^ We can explain it to you as much as we want, it's not gonna click untill you've realized who you really are. You already are enlightened, there is nothing to add to you.

You have two choices: I'm far from being an expert, I'm only sharing my own experiences, hope it'll work for you

The one that your intuition is telling you to do, not the one where your ego is the hero.

Getting my first girlfriend -> Understanding that a relationship can't fulfill you. Meditation habit + mindfulness 24/24 -> I can now see when homeostasis kicks in (I can no longer bullshit myself), I don't judge people anymore, I accept life as it is, I'm very peaceful. Reading lots of books about psychology/spirituality -> You gradually start to see your body/mind as a tool that you can improve, in order to pursue whatever life you (don't) want to have. It only suffice to embody one good book habits/mindset to start to understand that you can change so much stuff about you ! Generally speaking, whatever the things you fear to do, are the actions that'll grow you the most .

In the Life Purpose Course, there is an exercice where you have to find your 10 top values. By living throught these values, you'll be more likely to experience joy, since you'll probably embody for the very fist time values that you rejected (because of society/your environement says it's stupid), or never had the chance to experience yet.

Gaming isn't bad per say, nothing is particular in bad per say, it's why you do it that counts. If you do computer gaming as an escape mechanics to avoid following your intuition, it is "bad". If you do it because you genuinely enjoy it, and don't feel bad about doing it, why not ? I mean, if you take the time to find what life calling you are bound to take everyday, if you do your meditation everyday, if you take a good walk everyday, and if you read a minimum everyday, WHY you do feel forced to stop something you apparently like to do ? Don't worry, if you really think gaming is bad, and if this isn't for you, at some point you'll stop naturally by adopting new habits that you like more, but trying to stop it in one go isn't gonna work ... You could, but that would be creating a huge amount of unecessary resistance, and you would have to focus on that for months (more likely years), so again, why ? If you were talking about smoking/drinking/eating and sex disorder, or drugs abuse, that would be an another story, but gaming ? What's the worst that can happen ? You'll break your thumb ? You also say you want to stop because you don't want to be judged ? Wrong idea, you'll be defensive on something else then, gaming isn't the problem, your need to be externally approved is. Only a spiritual/self-actualization work can help you there, quitting a minor addiction/a hobby like gaming won't do shit.

Marcus Aurelius

Why do we want to know the truth ? Because we want to know our true self ?

Read this: http://liveanddare.com/benefits-of-meditation/ EDIT: Yoga counts as meditation.

Start meditating 20 minutes per day (increase by 5 minutes every month), and don't skip days, make it your priority. Simply sit on a chair, the back and the head straight, let your eyes open, and simply focus on your breath (try to notice it more than feeling it). (Use your phone alarm, like that you won't have to look how much time has passed). Thoughts will come up every now and then, perhaps almost all the time the first weeks, that's ok, just focus again on your breath, whenever you can, and continue your session. At some point, you will be able to detach from your thoughts, you will still have them, but you won't see them as defining you anymore You will see them from an another perspective, and you will attach fewer importance on them. You need to do this all your life if you want to keep sanity, 99% of people aren't sane at all, They never take time to just BE. Don't start guided meditation, because you'll have a hard time meditating by yourself after that, use them after some months of meditation to discover new techniques, but not now. You can also do some spiritual retreat near where you live (if money isn't a problem), search for a zen dojo/monastery, search on meetup.com, and just see if there is a buddhist community on Facebook in your city (or the main city of your state). I'm talking about zen and buddhism because it is what you'll most likely find, but if there is something else, just ask the forum if the kind of retreat you found can be effective or not. A retreat will speed up your consciousness growth extremely fast, it is like doing 15 to 500 meditation sessions in a row. A higher consciousness level isn't just for feeling peaceful and happy, it will also makes you understand what you really want in life, Because what awareness do in the long run, is to break a lot of your limiting beliefs, you'll just see them for what they are, thoughts, and your true self will start to speak to you more and more, through your intuition. What is also important is being mindfull of your thoughts during the day, all the time, just by looking at them, not judging them. Maybe you won't be able to do that for now, but try whenever you can think of it. It is as much effective as meditation, even more effective if you do it all the time. Yes, you wouldn't have these feelings, maybe you wouldn't even want a relationship anymore, who knows, Yes totally, now you have all the time you need to grow yourself and become whatever you authentically want to be. Don't search a relationship until you are that person. Maybe you are sad now, but this is the best thing that ever happened to you, just wait and see

Take a yoga class, It's a good spiritual practice, and there is TONS of women.

If you're old enough, go to a free dating website, and ask some mature lady to teach you how to have great sex. Seriously do it, there are women who dream about that, let them teach you, don't be afraid. Just so you know, this advice come from a guy who was virgin until 6 months ago ^^

Ok, I cried, AGAIN !

This is nearly impossible to do if you never had a girlfriend and/or if you aren't highly conscious of your mind/society conditioning. Even knowing it intellectually, by reading TONS of books or blog, doesn't help (for most people), you have to experience it to really embody it.

Do you had a depression at some point in your life ? Because this kind of talk does not work at all, it could even make him want to do it even more ...

Learn how not to be fed up with this, because there is no end to it.

So true Whenever you think of doing something, ACTION, NOW ! It works, just don't think, DON'T THINK !

Stop porn completely, only fap, for 3 months. Then stop fapping if you want. Stop completely porn AND fapping for 3 months, if you have erectile dysfonction (you last too long or you come way too fast for example). You don't need to stop fapping though, it's not bad at all, unless you grip your dick too hard or fap too fast. There is even benefits to it. Personally, when I fap, I don't just fap, I exercice too

He could even specify that he looks to improve his sex skills. If a women sees that, she could react in 6 differents ways: - ERK, an asshole that just want pussies, ASS HOLE !!! - What a looser, he can't even please a woman LUL !!! - Hummm, I want a full relationship, not just sex. - Hummm, he wants to improve, maybe does that mean he's already good and wants to be even better ! - Hummm, he wants to improve, maybe he's not that good, but I can teach him ! - Hummm, he wants to improve, maybe he's not that good, but that also means he will be if I let him practice with me ! The first two reactions, you really don't want to meet these kind of girls anyway, they have nothing to offer to you asides drama. So, basically, you have more chances to score than not, just by being honest.

Hi everyone, Currently seeking for my passion, I'm using this planning, it works pretty well, and it still leaves me time to do old habits (even though I'm limiting them). It is a planning that only works if you can afford to be jobless though, but it feels amazing when you acclimate to it. What's yours ? Morning : 8:00AM-9:00AM : 1 hour meditation : Gratitude meditation 10 minutes affirmations : I want to find my life purpose 9:10AM-10:10AM :1 hour life purpose exercices 10:10AM -10:40AM: Music 10:40-12AM: Whatever the fuck you want Afternoon : 00:30PM-2:30PM: Walking 10 minutes affirmations: I want to find my life purpose 2:40PM-3:40PM: Thinking/journaling about what I want and WHY (and why(and why(…))) 3:40PM-4:40PM: Meditation : Do nothing 4:40PM-5:40PM: Reading 5:40-7:00PM: Playing with the dog/Preparing dinner Evening: Just after dinner: 10 minutes affirmations: I want to find my life purpose and then Whatever the fuck you want

~ Carl Gustav Jung