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Then have it. Go to a pharmacy, buy two boxes of condoms, smile, And if she tells you to have a great day (and she will), you could say "well I was planning on having a great night", Then smile again, and give your number on a piece of paper (already prepared). Everything is in the tone of your voice, and how you look into her eyes, this can't be faked though. @Steph1988 It's just a matter of practice, like everything else. It feels that bad because cultures makes you think it's so important and a necessity to your happiness, So you have a lot of pressure on you, but this is all bullshit. It feels nice and it's a great way to grow as an human being, but it's just a nice bonus in the end, Like everything else

Learn tantric masturbation, then you'll laugh at your previous sex performance

When your intuition makes you buy 2 boxes of condoms : When you realize how much peaceful and quiet your mind was when you were meditating for 2 hours a day:

Exactly, it's so counter-intuitive ^^ Right now, when I'm experiencing a "negative" emotion, I'm excited ... Because I know that If I can catch it, and look at it, it will go, and if it doesn't, at least I know what I have to work on. As you say, you want to do this every single moment, every thoughts, every actions, If you can feel through your awareness the emotions you feel, and focus on it deeply, that's it, you've got emotional mastery

Ok, so this morning was very hard for me, a lot of stuff buried inside me for a while was surfacing, and I just couldn't control any of it. It was a while since I've been sad like that, and I thought maybe it would never happen again, but this is a newbie mistake. So, like usual, I accepted my suffering and tried to be very mindful of it, instead of identifying with it. Except this time I choose to go deeper, I choose to look from my early childhood to my present life, and remember all the suffering I ever had. It was horrible ... and amazing. Instead of just feeling the pain, I started to feel compassion for myself, but it wasn't coming from "me". That was very freeing, and for the first time of my life I (kinda) felt love for someone, my inner broken and sad past child who always felt alone. So if I have one advice to give here, is to never flee from your pain, In fact, seek for it, it's the only path there is, All else is just pure fantasy. @Guivs Thank you

I was in the same state just one year ago, and I didn't get out until my depression came to its peak. So, if I could choose how to deal with this now, I would definitely go to a zen temple, then facing all this shit, because you do it with almost 0 resistance when you're that conscious. @Phrae Just find a Zen Temple somewhere in your country, move to an another if necessary, just use internet, it shouldn't be hard to find. As far as I know, there is only one in France, so if you live in Europe, you could check it. https://www.google.fr/search?q=you+need+to+know+the+knower&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&client=firefox-b-ab&gfe_rd=cr&ei=ZPzYWI7pHsPFwgL7y5L4Bg#tbm=lcl&q=temple+zen&*&rlfi=hd:;si:14568284184015835745;mv:!1m3!1d141260.9955640512!2d7.574059!3d48.7209125!2m3!1f0!2f0!3f0!3m2!1i272!2i322!4f13.1

Would be way easier to face it if he stop identifying so much to his ego, But yeah, ultimately, he has to face it, one way or another. There is no secret techniques, no drugs or teachers knowledge that will make this easier ...

Join a Zen temple, and stay there until you start laughing at all this. If you don't, you may never get rid of all this pain, or it might take years or decades of intense suffering. I'm not joking. The resistance you're already feeling inside you after reading these 3 lines, is your ego that wants to suffer. So the real question is: Do you want to suffer, or not ?

Right now, I listen to this while just being (no thoughts at all): http://www.di.fm/melodicprogressive Sometimes I have flash of how my life will be in the next months, And I can't stop crying. @Magic It's a radio, so you might heard a weird one, it's pretty cheerful usually, otherwise I wouldn't listen it ^^ And yeah, one year ago I was listening to some emo trance, with lots of female voice, and all the track could resume to "I need love PLZ gimme love", it's so funny when I think of it now

Might help someone. When you know where the suffering truly comes, you can actually start to supress it with the right actions. Example : Whenever you talk to a girl, you feel a sense of shame arising, be mindful here, it’s probably because you’re virgin or have been emotionally abused by a feminine aspect in the past. The right actions would be to get a girlfriend and/or to make girl friends, to embody for real that sex is not some magical experience that will make you someone greater/women aren’t evil at all (consciously you might not think that, but inconsciously you do) Eventually, you could supress all your negative emotions, well concerning you, you'll still feel sad for others one way or another.

When you want to edit a post but you fail TWICE !!!!!

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2 hours meditation a day, I'm coming:

It is only "wrong" if you can't do the same for an another wife and child when you have the choice. Chances are that you can't, just like 99.99% of people. @Bodhi123 To the death ? I doubt that ^^ It is practical at this relative level, we just don't have the consciousness level required to be able to do it. Well we do, but we don't know that we do

Try dating. @Martin123 No ^^ I'm just saying that dating someone brings you into that playful attitude again, well at least for me.

2/3 months. You can install multiple habits at once, it depends on the resistance you face for each. If you try to install one that already brings a lot of resistance, taking another is risky. Example: Next month I plan to meditate 2 hours per day, I know it will take all my focus to do that, so I'm not gonna install any other habit/nor dating/nor pushing myself too much in other area (except when I have no choice). I'll try to do the exercice to be funny (because I really need it ), and if I see that I start to slack off my meditation schedule, I'll stop immediatly.

I've had this too, the only advice I can give you, is to be totally honest with the next date you have about this (not at first obviously). You need to face the problem head on.

Hi, My name is Flo, and I just learned tantric masturbation, Have a great day ! EDIT: To be serious a bit, no I don't feel that much actualized, I meditate 20 minutes a day, do 30 mins work out 3 times a week, walk for 1 hour everyday, and read for like 2 to 10 hours per week. I only really started 2/3 months from now though, I'm respecting the 2/3 months for a single habit. Can't wait to see how far I can go, because literally everything can be learned

Seriously guys, this is just so fucking good, and you learn to control yourself so much ! http://www.allabouttantra.info/en/english/42-solo-practise-for-men You know what you have to do boys EDIT: Ok, just finished my 30 minutes sessions without ejaculation, this is DEFINITELY a habit to have in place. So hyped to train this shit with a girlfriend now, this is gonna be AM-A-ZING !

So, one of the main problem with relapse, is you feel shitty because you weren't able to control yourself. What if, you use every relapse as a tool to improve your sex performance ? What I mean by that is, instead of simply fapping in 5-15 minutes, why not using your imagination to visualize the girl you like the most/is the most attractive in your eyes right now, as a masturbation practice ? You'll basically just think of her, and imagining real sex with her. Don't start directly with hard and fast penetration, start gently to masturbate by thinking of her sucking your dick, then you can slowly raise the pace. Of course there will be time where you won't be able to take it anymore, then stop and think of your grandma or your mom, or anything repulsive in that moment, then start again, and again, and again ! The goal is to last at least 30 minutes, ideally 45, because when you have a real warm and wet pussy between your legs, it will obviously not gonna be that easy to stop. When you pass the 1 hour treshold, now do it with real movements, it will train your body for the real deal ! No, I'm not joking, and yes, it feels extremely satisfying to relapse when you know you're actually using it to improve your sex life. I didn't have sex since I started this, but I can already control my urge way easier, so it's already worth it for me

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It's not so much that we think it's our idea, it's just that we have a clear indication that we can "enter the arena" @Charlotte What are you doing in front of your computer in such a beautiful afternoon, go in a parc and train what you've learned

This is so true, among the most confident guys I ever known, there was like 1/2 who got the balls to approach complete stranger. It is so easy to get us if you make the first step, but you got to be ready to be rejected, and some guys will see you as a slut for doing that, Again, because their ego has been hurt for not having the balls to do it themselve.

Next step would be to be funny/confident. If you can be funny and confident, Women will jump at you and eat you to the death.

Your ego has tricked you