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Ego is just easier to say that "my thoughts patterns" or "conditioned mind", that's the only reason we use this word, we're fucking lazy To me there is no real entity, just beliefs that cloud reality and makes you think you're separated from all other things. The job is to debunk these beliefs/thoughts, that's all what is really needed, it feels painful because we think we ARE these thoughts, but these are just thoughts, it's abstractions and projections, it feels real, the same way as a dream. That's interesting because yersterday I was daydreaming, and a very sad imaginary moment came to my mind, and I was about to cry when I suddenly realized what was happening, I instantly laughed and there was no sadness anymore. Now this is what's happening worlwide, it's fantasy on top of fantasy on top of fantasy, the emotions are very real, but the content is pure fiction, it's all bullshit, there is no reason to be sad about anything.

1 day ! I made my probable fuck buddy laughed, ONCE !

Choose your name corresponding to what you want to be.

A relationship forces you to be conscious, and sex can be one of the most powerful meditation there is. I don't see why you would pass on this, if you really want to transcend. @username Don't force it, but work on yourself to be able to maintain it if it happens. You can last a while if you practice tantra solo anyway (maybe forever, I don't know).

This. OP, read "From sex to superconsciousness" from Osho, you'll understand why both east and west struggles to "produce" enlightened people (east diabolize sex, west doesn't take spirituality seriously). Sex isn't something you can't ignore, until you transcend it, and you can't transcend it if you don't accept it fully. We are animals, sex is the most sacred energy there is, how could you realize that you're god, If you ignore your own divine energy ? @username Osho talks a lot about tantra, and accepting your sexual craving. Tantra because this is how you can use sex to attain the divine, Sexual craving because if you have good quality sex whenever you feel the need too, you won't think about it that much, and it won't direct your life and take hold of your mind (practically, that means having a girlfriend, or lots of FWB). So he encourage people to have relationship and sex, but tells us that it needs to be transcend, because no matter how good you are sexually, it will become boring after a while, everything becomes boring after a while.

Why do you want to be an alpha male ? There is lots of guys who (think) they are, and they are miserable inside, so think carefully about this. Now, there is nothing wrong to raise your masculinity of course, that's the only way to feel authentic, and you'll never succeed in life if you don't take care of that anyway (succeeding in general, I'm not only talking about work or women). It is simple to be an "alpha" male, but it requires a lot of courage and to be brutally honest with yourself, You simply need these "skills": Confidence (where you are in life, about your insecurities/scars, your future perspective, your self worth) This has a lot to do with your self-esteem, once you take care of your self-esteem, confidence skyrocket almost instantly, because now you know you can do whatever the fuck you want if you take proper actions. Concerning women, the only way to be confident around them, is first to take care of your self-esteem/confidence level, then to start meeting more and more women, you'll realize that you're way more attractive than you think you are (if that's a problem for you, but I'm talking to everyone here). Humour/Playfulness (being able to make people laugh, to be able to laugh at yourself, being in a good and goofy mood) This is extremely simple to get, it just takes time, but you need to be confident to have the balls to say your jokes (cause when you start, it won't work most of the time). It is usefull for everything in life, and a very masculine guy is almost always very funny, it's the mark of leaders. Detachment (Women aren't your priority, you have a goal in life, you don't need anyone or anything to make you feel complete) This one is tricky, because almost no guy have this. A lot of them fake it, but to be able to really be detached, you either need to be a sociopath, or to be on the spiritual path (consciously or not). Assholes aren't really detached, they just fear to be vulnerable, and thus stop the interaction with women when they sense emotions could be involved. Edginess - adventurous, challenging Do you often take new habits ? Do you go out on special occasions to challenge yourself ? Do you do stupid stuff that makes no sense, just because it could be fun ? Well, if you don't, that's something to embody, not only it is fun, but without this attitude there is no way you can feel masculine, men can't just live without new goals, we're built to create and step outside our comfort zone. Intimate and dirty sex Pretty obvious, if as a man, you can't fuck like a beast, how could you even consider yourself as a male ? You don't necessarily need to fuck hundreds of women, not even 10, just learn to fuck properly and to be dominant (just be careful to not transform yourself into an asshole, outside of sex). Practice tantric masturbation (you'll have such an avantage over so many guys, and it boost your confidence and energy level), learn why preliminaries are so important to them and then do it correctly (everytime, even if she tolds you she just wants your dick), learn why they like to be dominated and how to do it properly, learn to control yourself (see tantric masturbation), learn how to make them squirt. I would start to build your confidence level with a spiritual practice, then all the other skills will be way easier to get.

That was just me trying to be funny, I don't think like this nor that I think I could Thank you. @Echoes @WaveInTheOcean Thank you

@ajasatya I've always wondered, why do certain enlightened people are in a relationship, and other are not. Why would you want to be in a intimate relationship with just one person, if you can feel divine love everywhere, from everything. The same question can be asked in reverse, why would you not want to be in an intimate relationship with juste one person, to go even deeper in that divine love. I know there is very few people that can answer to this, but it puzzles me, I'm kinda scare that I could make my girlfriend suffer (a lot) by realizing who I am, and just tell her "well, sorry brah, you're just one tiny fragment of me, why would I spend all this time just with you, this is non sense ! Get the fuck NOOOWWW !" You see.

And you cry, again and again and again and again:

if both aren't needy people, why not.

It is a wild Leo, very bald, very spiritual, it might lecture you about anything in your life, This shit never shut the fuck up. @Sevi You're interested in that, DON'T YOU ?

I swear Loreena, one day I'll fly where you live just to open your head and find what's broken in there @Sevi Tu es jalouse ?

Yep, do tantric masturbation, learn to love your body and please yourself without any other stimulation, it is very rewarding (whether you're a male or a female) @My_Name_Is_Mud Well, as a guy (can't speak for women), it is very rewarding because: - You learn to control yourself (since you don't ejaculate) - You have more energy through the day, - You learn to appreciate and love your body because the orgasms aren't only happening in the penis area (if you do it right and long enough), - You experience a no-self state at a certain point (and it stays, it's not just the 10 seconds from an ejaculation). - If you're good enough, you can even achieve enlightenment with it (after like 3/4 hours with a partner), and I guess that was its purpose in the ancient hinduism age, before the diabolization of sex. Now just imagine this shit with a partner, HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

Seriously, better yourself up to attract any girl you want, otherwise you'll always be crippled in your life, you'll always have problem at some point to talk to attractive girls. I'm serious, because unless you're enlightened as fuck, not being confident with women will ALWAYS fucks you in the end, always.

You can't, you have to suffer to make your vulnerabilities goes, and that means doing the very things you fear the most. I wish there was a trick to do that, but there really isn't.

You fast, but still drink. Don't pussy out, do the Dark Room Retreat for a week and get your fucking awakening.

Still encountering resistance, and it's been almost one year Thing is, resistance isn't really a problem once you realize it's just your mind being a pussy, You'll still do it

Everything but realizing who you really are is a distraction, and will make you suffer one way or another. #negativejerk @Martin123 My mind likes being dramatic Of course you can't just stay in a cave and meditate all day (well you could, but what's the fun in that), you need challenges in life to grow your consciousness. Everything else is secondary, a game, you need to play the game if you want the best moments of it, sure, but if you loose track of the only real thing that matter, you're gonna have a bad time (and you might not even be able to play the game correctly).

Love has nothing to do with sadness, attachement does:

I can remember a night where I thought I was one of the lamest guy at the party. One of my friend who never bullshitted me and was always critical told me I was one of the funniest that night.

Was doing that for myself when I got the idea that it could be cool to motivate people to do it. If enough people are interested in doing it, we could make an another report in 6 months 1 year ago Life Purpose/Career Unaware that life purpose was a real thing Unemployed for 4 years Consciousness/Spirituality Every religions/mystics seemed like a big joke No spiritual practice in place No reading/studying habits Serious emotional problem It was the end of a 7 years depression. Social anxiety Self-esteem issues Loneliness Neediness Every attractive women seemed like a threat Video games addiction (Sometimes) Shows addiction Thinking addiction Dating/Relationships/Sexuality Virginity Serious relationship was only a dream Health/Fitness/Nutrition(+ Alternative Healing) No fitness habit No nutrition habit Porn addiction Fapping addiction Now Life Purpose/Career Unaware that life purpose was a real thing///Doing the Life purpose course Unemployed for 4 years///Got a 1 year contract Consciousness/Spirituality Every religions/mystics seemed like a big joke///Crying whenever some deep truth resonate within me. No spiritual practice in place///8 months straight of sitted meditation, walking meditation, nature/reality comtemplation. No reading/studying habits///Finishing 2 to 4 books a month. Serious emotional problem It was the end of a 7 years depression///A depression seems impossible and stupid. Social anxiety///It isn’t entirely gone, but it’s rare that it happen now. Self-esteem issues///Still can’t understand why it was a problem, seems like a joke. Loneliness///It can happen, but like 1 day in a month. Neediness/// This has never happened again. Every attractive women seemed like a threat///That has been replace by some mild anxiety when talking to women I find attractive. Video games addiction///Right now it seems like a total waste of time, even lying on a bed doing nothing seems more appealing. (Sometimes) Shows addiction/// Wasn’t a problem for a very long time. Thinking addiction///Don’t see the point in thinking anymore, unless it is needed practically. Dating/Relationships/Sexuality Virginity///Just a random guy now. Serious relationship was only a dream///It was great, but I don’t really see the point of a relationship, except with a person that resonate so much to you that ignoring her isn’t an option. Health/Fitness/Nutrition(+ Alternative Healing) No fitness habit/// 3x30 minutes of fitness per week/ 1 walk of 1 hour per day (minimum). No nutrition habit///Stopped eating between meals/Almost no junk food (1 time per week maximum) Porn addiction///Porn seems disgusting and crazy now. Fapping addiction///Still do it from time to time, but there is no ejaculation and I try to last as much as I can (to at least have some pleasure out of it). Future Life Purpose/Career Unaware that life purpose was a real thing///Doing the Life purpose course///Would like to finish it before next year. Unemployed for 4 years///Got a 1 year contract///Would like to get on track with my life purpose at the end of the contract. Consciousness/Spirituality Every religions/Mystics seemed like a big joke///Crying whenever some deep truth resonate within me/// Enlightenement No spiritual practice in place///8 months straight of sitted meditation, walking meditation, nature/reality comtemplation///Today is the day the 2 hours of meditation come back!---Would like to do some Sensshin sessions and meet the Zen master of my city---Would like to do some custom Dark Room retreats whenever my contract ends. No reading/studying habits///Finish 2 to 4 books a month///Would like to get a consistent reading/studying habits. Serious emotional problem Social anxiety///It isn’t entirely gone, but it’s rare that it happen now/// Will take care of my social abilities in the near future (talking/presence/funnyness) and see if anything changes. Every attractive women seemed like a threat///That has been replace by some mild anxiety when talking to women I find attractive/// Will have to meet and talk to more and more girl in the upcoming months, even date one who’s hot as fuck whenever my sense of humor is decent. Dating/Relationships/Sexuality Virginity///Just a random guy now/// Would like to practice tantric sex, not only for the pleasure, but to transcend sex. Serious relationship was only a dream///It was great, but I don’t really see the point of a relationship, except with a person that resonate so much to you that ignoring her isn’t an option///In the very long term, having a deep, emotionally relationship with a very high quality girl seems like an experience my mind will never stop bitching about until it has been done. Health/Fitness/Nutrition(+ Alternative Healing) No fitness habit/// 3x30 minutes of fitness per week/ 1 walk of 1 hour per day (minimum)/// Would like to do 30 minutes fitness every day. No nutrition habit///Stopped eating between meals/Almost no junk food (1 time per week maximum)///Going to be a vegetarian, then a vegan. Fapping addiction///Still do it from time to time, but I don’t ejaculate and try to last as much as I can (to at least have some pleasure out of it)///Would like to totally stop it, and only practice tantric masturbation when I feel like I’m going to have sex with my new girlfriend.

Makes me think there is this cute girl at the pet shelter, she seems quite shy ... Interesting ...

Focus on your breath, feel your body, and look without seeking anything.

I would probably be living/be on track with my life purpose, would have slew most (if not all) my inner demons, and I would probably be enlightened already.

I would tell him to force himself to meditate 20 minutes per day for at least 3 months, and see if anything change in his life.