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The joy of sex isn't about ejaculation, if it were, you would go straight for it (well, that's what some guys do ). It is even more pleasurable, because if you learn how to do it properly, you can feel pleasure in your all body instead of just the dick area. You can even have orgasms withouth ejaculating and repeating the process, but that's quite advanced, I can't do it for now.

What is your job ? What do you mean it interferes with your everyday life ?

You can take care of your girl without ejaculation, it's not like they want your sperm in their vagina/mouth anyway.

Go deeper into the pain, feel it in its entirety. Don't escape it, look at it directly, confront it. With time, it will dissolve by itself.

The feeling you can have when you've gone deep into this work is so intense. It is by far the most thrilling emotion you will ever experience in this egotic life. The hero's journey is like Leo's says, in your own mind. Pushing and shifting your sense of self, which ultimately change how you see and interact with other beings. It is really what life is all about. Nothing is more epic and worth living. You know this very well, which is the very reason why you're so scared. You're going to die, you'll have to give up everything you're attached to, maybe friends, gf/bf wife/husband, even family. Everything. It will take you everything you have, so of course you're scared ... But know that in the end, you'll discover something infinitly more valuable than everything you('ll) ever had(have) in this physical reality. Everything you do in your life points to this, everything in life points to you, the real you. You know what you have to do. Just don't listen to your mind, and follow what your heart tells you. You won't know why you're doing it, nor where it's gonna lead you. But you have to go this way if you want to be free, if you want authentic happiness. Yes sometimes it will be painful, so painful that you will barely stay out of insanity. Some other time there will be moments where there will be so much joy in you that you won't even be able to cry. This is a choice you will have to make in the end Either escape yourself and live life as a slave of your emotions and "random" events Or you go deeper into the rabbit hole and find out there is no such thing as randomness ...

More meditation/constant awareness

Don't know if it's a common practice of it, but today I just rapidly scanned my body sensations (no questions). I did that until there was no way to tell where I'm located anymore, felt like I was in a simulation. Try it

Continue without asking advices. The more advices and books you read, the more expectations you'll have. The goal is to release all expectations, and then it comes.

Yeah, great movie ...

... @Leo Gura Then tell him

That's the only way you can do it, Einstein himself admitted every new discoveries he made come from insights.

Yes and that's why you should have post it on your calendar saying "I will never know the truth fully, better stop thinking I'm the shit". I did it, I think it will be usefull in the months to come

You think you have an ego, and the thoughts that tells you that appears as the ego to you. In a sense the ego does not exist, it's just a thoughts collection about what and how the world function. Knowing that is useless unless you experience it for yourself though, you got to really see these are just thoughts. The only solution to that is lots and lots of meditation and mindfullness (24/24) until you have a breakthrough. You could be an expert meditator and still being easily triggered in real life situation, so mindfullness isn't a luxury, you got to be very conscious of your thoughts and emotions at all time, otherwise you'll trick yourself again and again untill you die. Onji, great teacher, much bald, wow not Leo copino pastorino.

Basically, doing the thing you fear the most.

What does mental masturbation means ? How does it feel ? Can you describe it ? Can I get it ? If yes how ? Is it good or bad ? Is it real or is it bullshit ? @ajasatya I know, that was supposed to be funny

When your mind tries to make you believe you should be sad/angry

Didn't do pick up at all, only focused on getting better at socializing, being funny and most importantly healing my inner child wounds. What I see right now is that most women are interested to talk to me, smile at me, it is easy to be around them (even hot ones) and I can talk about anything (even weird sex discussion) with them. If you do the hard work of being a real man, you won't need to learn how to manipulate women, women will naturally be interested in you over time, especially the one that share the same interest or have a similar energetic signature. Pick up is just a bandage, a temporary solution, it solves nothing, at least not deeply. A lot of men that are good with women are still full of fear, self-image problem, anxiety (well hidden, but still there), anger issue, and the list goes on an on. This is easily explained, because the reasons why someone would want to go that deep into learning how to attract women are in most cases in these two groups: -Craving for pussies and thinks it is the shit in life (no, it's just another addiction). - Craving for affection, and thinks that having a nice relationship will make life wonderful (no, it just means you have a relationship). You really don't want to be good with women, you want to be a man, and a man doesn't need a woman. If you think otherwise, you have deeper issues to solve than being good with women ...

9 days is already great, just keep up improving. What I found that works best, is to have the mindset to never do it again, then it works wonderful. Doesn't mean you won't have any relapse, but at least that means you gave everything you got, and you tend to improve drastically. Oh boys, my balls are on fire, I hope it will get easier in time, otherwise I'm going to get crazy at college @Max_V Well I'm 28, so it must be way easier for me than it is for you 4 months without porn already

1 month in without any wet dream Also ...

On the path to enlightenment What you think you're doing What you're actually doing

Aside from work and some (real) urgent errands, I will start a solo retreat this month. No TV/Video games/partying/girlfriend/friends/books, no nothing. The only exceptions are 1h of music, and that's only because I listen to binaural beats and ambient music, which is calm and peacefull, meditative kind of music. This and 1 hour of videos and reading (concerning non-duality/consciousness). Obviously taking a walk and relaxing in nature is allowed too. Oh, and watching this video before and after work :3 Feel free to join me (that's kind the point of the post ), just do it for one week if one month seems too much, it will already be challenging enough