Shin

I don't know how to put it better, so I'll just leave this here ...

Men, I spent at least 3000 hours on moba alone, with Hearthstone it could be like 10 000. That's not even counting offline games, imagine if I spent all that time meditating or self-inquiring, I would be fucking Jesus by now But I guess that was necessary, I would never knew that entertainment wasn't gonna do it if I didn't do it until I was sick of it, and probably never heard about spirituality (with the proper mindset) if the events occured just a little bit differently.

Going cold turkey for the XX times, god this is a messy process The vision guys, the vision !

The funny thing is that you're already there. You're inconscious that you're conscious, it's so stupid

I'm "doing" it all the time now, I couldn't stop doing it even if I wanted to @Max_V To me it took 3/4 months of 2/3 hours a meditation a day + 1 to 2 hours of walking meditation

Yes, being in the present moment and having a calm mind is very different. In the first scenario you will be ok no matter what, in the second, once your mind starts to become crazy again, you will think you've "lost" it ...

If you're truly introverted, then there is nothing to do except accepting it. Being introvert simply means you need more time alone than an extrovert. Of course, if you compare yourself to an extrovert, you're not gonna be happy, since you think the good life is the life of an extrovert ... I didn't accept it all of my life (didn't know it existed though), and of course I wasn't happy, since I was always going out at parties, socializing all day long, not understanding why I couldn't be as attractive, happy and funny as everyone else. How could you be attractive if you always want to be somewhere else ? How could you be happy if you are always tensed ? How could you be funny if you are always depleted ? That's not possible.

Who or what is needy ? Inquire, go deep, spend a lot of time alone, meditate a lot too. It will awful, it will feel like you're going to die, but this is necessary otherwise you'll never cure the problem at the source. No way people will truly like you if you don't love yourself first (you could, but you would still be fucked up in the inside so ...), and to be able to truly love yourself, it takes a lot of courage and faith, because you first need to see that your current identity is false. If you can see that you don't really are "insert your name", then there is no reason to be hurt, whatever happens. That doesn't mean "negative" emotions won't ever occur again, it just means there will be just the emotion, and not the suffering just after (which is the real problem, not the pain in itself). It's not that difficult, you just have to meditate and be minful 24/24 untill it becomes a second nature and you see your thoughts as something else than you, then they can't hurt you, not really. I could tell you to develop a strong and assertive personality, but it takes longer and will not solve the core problem (it's relatively important if you want to build a strong carreer/relationships, but that's not a priority). If you discover that your current "self" is just an illusion, then you will also understand that you can shape this illusion as you see fit. That means you will be way more confident than any other dudes/girls out there, simply because there is no limit in your mind to what you can do. From that emerges a deep peace and patience towards your current lifestyle, even if you have big dreams/projects and you seem very far away from them. Nothing will seem really important, BUT you will appreciate every moment for what they are, even if you are all alone with nothing to do. That may seem too good to be true, but it is not, and you don't need 20 years of practice to do this, you can do it in less than 1 year, EASILY. You just have to meditate 2 hours everyday and constantly being conscious (mindful) of your mind activity 24/24 (which is not you, the voice in your head is just an another thought).

You could tell us young padawan.

You will laugh way more when you'll realized that you're 200% more egotic than everyone in here

It is easily replicable. You just don't want to do it, that's all. The only thing needed is to do nothing, to the point that your mind becomes a blank. If you "do" that constantly, then it happens, it's not rocket science. The only reason why people keep chasing concepts and think a lot about this is because they actually, ironically, don't want to do it.

Your motivation should be your suffering. If you don't, then truth. If you don't value truth, then we'll see you next life :3

I hope you guys realized everything you're talking about here is also thoughts. Even if you've experienced what you're telling us, it's still a thought from an event in the past, just like a dream.

Master: "You have to be in the present moment" Student: "How can I achieve this ?"

No, it just think it does.

Answers, I want !

How your ego thinks enlightenment will affect its life Before enlightenment After enlightement

You do it every night. You can even do it right now in your meditation.

Cut everyone she knows out of your live, focus on yourself, then attract new friends.

Zazen is commonly practiced eyes open in front of a wall. Zazen is the meditation of Zen Buddhism, which right now is probably the most popular spiritual path in the western world.

As usual, just meditate like a motherfucker. I was probably worst than you in that department, now I can't even make judgment upon women anymore, and I actually like to discuss with them way more than men (they are funnier and more open minded for the most part). This and read The way of the superior man from David Deidas. You will understand why women tend to act and "lie" so much, it all make sense when you read it with an extremely open mind. If you understand women and male psychology, there is no reason to be mysogynist, and you can't be a macho either, neither of them make sense if you truly understand how and why it works this way.