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Then why prophets, popes, priests, nuns, monks remained unmarried, were they not intelligent enough to live happily in a married life ? or their God becomes unhappy when they live happily ?

@Loreena Nobody has courage to speak the truth, marriage is a social need, so nobody speaks about it honestly. Society don't want rebels,society wants slaves, which can be manipulated easily.

Because enlightenment is a death,and we are not ready to die, it is not a physical death every-time , but it is always a psychological death.

If love is dies, then what remains ? Then marriage is a permanent kind of prostitution; deep down, it is not different. Hence marriage and prostitution have both existed together.If you go into it, it is marriage that has created prostitution. And prostitution will never disappear from the world unless marriage disappears; it is the shadow of marriage. In fact prostitutes have been saving marriage. It is a safety measure so the man can go once in a while, just for a change, to any other woman, a prostitute, and save his marriage and its permanency.

Marriage is a hell, but sometimes people need it. What to do? So I have to tell them to get into marriage. They need to pass through the hell of it, and they cannot understand the hell of it unless they pass through it. I am not saying that in marriage love cannot grow; it can grow, but there is no necessity for it. I am not saying that in love marriage cannot grow; it can grow, but there is no necessity, no logical necessity in it.

Sex can be a need, love can be a need, living in a bondage using law, court, police can't be a need.

Marriage is something against nature. Marriage is an imposition, an invention of man – certainly out of necessity, but now even that necessity is out of date. It was a necessary evil in the past, but now it can be dropped. And it should be dropped: man has suffered enough for it, more than enough. It is an ugly institution for the simple reason that love cannot be legalized. Love and law are contradictory phenomena. Love is creative, marriage is destructive. But love is not dependable: this moment it may be there and the next moment gone. And man wants permanent things; he is obsessed with permanent things. He wants security, safety, he wants to cling. Hence love is not reliable, so he created marriage. Once two persons are tied together freedom is lost and anger arises. When freedom is lost everything becomes ugly. Love means that freedom remains intact: marriage means that freedom has been dropped. You have bargained for permanence, for security, and you have paid for it with freedom. Jesus. Mahavira, Lao Tzu Chuang Tzu, they all remained unmarried. Buddha left his family , they lived blissfully, I think there was no internet two thousand years ago.

@Sidi Only long distance relationship can work. The happiest lovers are those who never meet. One of the great poets of India, Rabindranath Tagore, has written a book. THE LAST POEM is the name of the book, but it is not a book of poetry; it is a novel. The hero and heroine are in deep love, they want to get married, but the uniqueness of it is that the heroine has agreed to marry him only on one condition: that they will not live in the same house. They are very rich people and the woman suggests, "You can make a house on the other side of the lake. We will not invite each other; we will be meeting accidentally. Once in a while I may be boating, you may be boating; or I may be walking around the lake or you may be walking, but I want it to be accidental - and once in a while, not every day. I want to long for it, I want to wait for it, and I don't want to destroy it by having too much of it. I love you." The man cannot understand. He says, "This is nonsense. If you love me... what you are suggesting, no lover has ever suggested. Lovers don't want to be separate even for a single moment. And what kind of love is this? - that I will be living far away on the other side of the lake. It is miles distant and you cannot invite me, I cannot invite you. We are married but we have to meet like strangers once in a while by chance, not by arrangement." The woman said, "If you cannot understand it, then I am not for you." What the woman is saying is perfectly true. If every lover had understood it, life would have been a very joyful experience. But lovers cling; they want to be together twenty-four hours a day. And they destroy something beautiful because they don't give a rest. It becomes a burden rather than a joy.

Every seeker is in this situation: you don't know what you are seeking, you don't know what the goal is, you don't know where you are going, why you are going. A deep urge is there, that is right: a deep thirst is there, that is right. But you have never tasted that for which this thirst exists. You move, you grope -- when suddenly it happens, you will be troubled. Jesus said : When he finds he will become agitated, when he become agitated, he will be astounded, and he will reign over the all. Either we can trust Jesus and other masters, or we can turn our back and escape. It is a great gamble. When we grow spiritually, and don't escape from sufferings, we transcend them. Life becomes more and more blissful. So, we can trust enlightened masters that infinity contains blissfulness, not suffering.

In life, only mad people ask for perfection. The perfectionist is another name for someone who is getting ready to become mad. Relax into your being. Don’t have any ideals, don’t try to make something out of yourself, don’t try to improve upon God. You are perfect as you are. Perfectionism is a neurosis. It is an illness. And the more you try to become perfect, the more frustrated you will become. The goal of perfection has led the whole of humanity towards madness; the earth has almost become a madhouse. A perfectionist is not only a perfectionist about himself, he is about others also. A man who is hard on himself is bound to be hard on others. His demands are impossible. Man has been conditioned down the centuries for goals, destinations, purposes, meanings -- that's how man has lived hitherto, with the goal-oriented ideology. That's why you go on thinking in terms of goal or destination. It is not you: it is the society that goes on thinking in you, through you; it is your parents, it is your priests, it is your politicians, it is your pedagogues, who go on thinking through you, and you are identified with them. You don't know that you are separate. The more utilitarian a person is, the less he is fulfilled, the less he is blissful. The more utilitarian the approach- the more one is in business life-the less he is living, the less he is ecstatic. The part of the mind that cannot be made useful in the utilitarian world has been denied. The utilitarian life is necessary but at a great cost: you have lost the festivity of life. Life becomes a festivity, a celebration, if all your potentialities come to a flowering; then life is a ceremony. Spirituality means transforming life into a celebration. The dimension of spirituality is the dimension of the festive, the nonutilitarian. Death is the culmination of life. In death the whole life is summed up, in death you arrive. Let me tell you in this way: whatsoever your life is, death reveals only that. If you have been miserable in life, death reveals misery. Death is a great revealer. If you have been happy in your life, death reveals happiness.

PRACTICE OF BRAHMACHARYA (celibacy) By SRI SWAMI SIVANANDA A DIVINE LIFE SOCIETY PUBLICATION http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahma_nopic.htm http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahmacharya.pdf

That’s what is happening to you: somehow you have been blocking your love energy. May you are expecting love from others , in return. Love is an unconditional gift, it is not a bargain. Shower as much love as possible, and let it be unconditional, with no expectations. Just give it for the sheer joy of giving... not even for the future, hoping some day you get returns. The moment the idea of return enters into the mind, love dies.

Whole modern education consists of reasoning, logic, intellect, mind. To much emphasis on intellect and reason makes us lopsided. And love is not capacity of intellect , it has a different focus.

A relationship is a lower state. The highest state of love is not a relationship at all, it is simply a state of your being. Here, you have to learn…just being loving. If you grow in love, meditation will happen like a shadow. Love and meditation are two aspects of the same coin; if you have gained control of the one aspect, the other follows. If you meditate, love will follow; if you love, meditation will follow. This you have to choose. Meditation is easier, love is difficult. Unless you want to move into the difficult unnecessarily – that is for you to decide; otherwise with meditation love comes automatically.

LSD: A Shortcut to False Samadhi Year of publication : 1971 Publisher : Jeevan Jagruti Kendra Edition no. : 1 ISBN None Number of pages : 25 http://www.satrakshita.com/Books/Osho, LSD Shortcut To False Samadhi.pdf http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13488661-lsd

When Buddha was a seeker of truth, he had few fellow travelers, they respected Buddha very much because he was torturing himself in every way. One day Buddha became so weak that he was unable to cross the river. Then he decided to give up all his practices. All his fellow travelers left him, assuming that Buddha has become corrupt. All friends are with you when you follow certain conditions, then your freedom is not absolute. Buddha called his community sangha. Sangha is a community of those who live with the same attitude, who live a life in common, who commune with each other. This community is a family of fellow seekers, not of fellow believers. When you believe, the community becomes a sect. If you can live alone happily, then only you can live happily with others. If someone is living blissfully in a sangha , it means he has learned the art of living blissfully alone.

That's asking too much from poor money. Money can't buy everything.

May you will learn many things from your experiences , later in your life !

No, I am rich. Once you have experienced, in the deep silences of your heart, the beauty of your aloneness and the ecstasy of your aloneness, all fear will be gone.

@Beau I live alone, this forum is my only contact with world , and I am tremendously happy. Every relationship will give you frustration in the end, no relationship can give you contentment , learn meditation.

We are born alone, we die alone. Between these two realities we create a thousand and one illusions of being together - all kinds of relationships, friends and enemies, loves and hates, nations, races, religions. We create all kinds of hallucinations just to avoid one fact: that we are alone. But whatsoever we do, the truth cannot be changed. It is so, and rather than trying to escape from it, the best way is to rejoice in it. Rejoicing in your own aloneness is what meditation is all about. The meditator is one who dives deep into one´s aloneness, knowing that we are born alone, we will be dying alone, and deep down we are living alone. So why not experience what this aloneness is? It is our very nature, our very being.

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