Spiral

When it comes to friends/family members, it is not the amount that is important. It is the quality of the relationship that matters and to some extent the "quality" of the other individual. You mentioned that you have a feeling he might feeling lonely. I would guess if that is the case, that the many friends he has are primarily the type that you party/smoke with. Instead of the ones you can have a deeper connection with and rely on when you need support, this is especially common among guys as the have a harder time opening them self's up to other men. Not to mention the people that also do not try face or even recognize their problems by seek pleasure in that way. They have surrendered, no longer trying to solve but rather live with them. Recover from such a state is very difficult as you often don't truly know the alternative and be look down upon by those who do. What i would do if i was in i were your shoes,i would be to try finding some whom have been thought something similar, or a friend you already have and create a strong bond and learning to open yourself up in a healthy way and with time create a deeper connection that can benefit you both from. From there i recommend also finding people seem whom have a higher point of awareness and learn from them by spending time together and you will find happiness . This is not easy, i know this from experience and it requires luck and determination. I made my first real connection when i was 19 and i was the happiest I've ever been,it felt like i could see the world thought a new lens for the first time. One of happiness and positivity . All of my previous "friendships" were nothing more than a excuse to do the things i want to and could not do alone. Regarding my question, yes i admit i wrote that in a horrible way. what i was interested in knowing was, if the freaking feelings comes from thoughts or came randomly and were"inexplicable". If the thoughts that haunt you are conscious or subconscious in other words.

We are all suffering is some way, assuming we are not enlighten, He is simply trying to avoid it in his own way. Weed: yes as it is suppress your the (sub)conscious thoughts bad/good that are created naturally, giving more "space" to think about what ever you like and be not by hindered by bad thoughts. I.e if you have a calm/good state of mind you will not like it if you use it recreationally. Sex: Is a bit more tricky as we are suppose to enjoy it due to our biological need to reproduce, but a healthier mind will wish for love and intimacy instead of meaningless sex. So that the joy of seeing another in pleasure give us more pleasure than the sex itself. I would look at like this way, he is escaping his suffering by having sex and smoking weed, quick fixes are never good and will lead to addiction and he will not be able to do them forever.What then? Would you say that they have close and open friends, families -relationships? You can find much greater joy from kindness, closeness to others and friendships and the lack of this leads one into pleasure seeking. This is why religions often tells you to avoid it. Side question if you want to share, are the freaking feelings constant or more based by your thoughts about yourself and/or the things around you.

No more let life divide what death can join together. - Percy Bysshe Shelley, Adonais

Without: Ideologies: Materialism (this guy is the real villain) Authoritarian/Totalitarianism Nationalism/Patriotism (And yes i know there not the same) Racism Character traits: Fanatics Xenophobia/homophobia...... Greed/Power hunger Mental illness: paranoia, sadistic and so on Religion in some cases Why could we ever justify/want war, suffering? Missed anything?