Spiral

While in conversations, try to be calm and aware of your breathing. Talk slower and focus on the words you speak to more impactful/clear in the way you pronounce them. Don’t over use compliments and I try to avoid complimenting the girls actually body for two reasons firstly it can come off as inappropriate and secondly you don’t want her to fell too validated. Touch is important as it builds trust, shoulders are a great place to touch early in the conversation. Also touch everyone you talk to I.e be a universal toucher.

As for the racism, it’s kinda specific a lot of people are anti “muslim looking people” due to the influx of refugees and immigrants. So people of colour that aren’t for instance Somalis are look upon better. Racist people tend to view people from Kongo and ex-colonies better in other words. It’s not so much about race so much as it is islamphobia.

Everything isn’t related to spiral dynamics.

I would try to reframe as something positive. Both the girls and the guys spread good vibes through their interaction. Making other people happier around them, excluding jealousy etc. Girls/women are not rare, there are billions of them. So your not really missing out either. Tried scream therapy?

@Eric Tarpall Why not approach? takes two minutes.

@Alexop That's just the beginning. You should check out the documentary: "The Swedish theory of love"

It's the basically the same.

Slightly different topic, but if a girl has had plenty of boyfriends, and those relationships didn’t last very long I get discouraged.

Get rejected and try again.

Lots of mind games? That stuff only works short term. Unless you want a crazy broken gf that is. The useful traits you have gotten really is the social skills and confidence authenticity.

I suppose this could be useful but Scandinavia is super green and people here generally look down on people who are very active on social media. So this advice kinda feels outdated and this whole thing was cool 5 years ago. I suppose it depends on where you live.

Cold showers are great way to wake up in the morning, boost immunity and burn fat. You don’t stay in there very long but it should be done regularly for best effect.

Should be fine he isn’t cite a bunch of news articles and uploading other people’s content. Users are the problem here as they have tendency to. Dark web actualized.onion is gonna be great otherwise.

I would definitely say that i'm mostly at fault here, because to be completely honest, they feel like strangers who raised me. I don't feel any connection with any of them and I do not feel any interest with spending time with them. Although they haven't really done anything wrong I've travel plenty with them and they definitely put aside time for me as a kid. Now a days I feel like I'm mostly a means to quench their loneliness and for instance when I turned 20 the only person who congratulated me on my birthday was a cashier at the liquor store (it's the legal age in my country). I don't have any siblings and my parents are seperated, yet all my grandparents and so on are alive. My cousins are either 0-3 years old or extremely spoiled, one even had a crush on me once. I've been told that, I acts as if I don't have any parents and never bring them up. I recognize that their are advances to having a good relationship with your family and it's not like we are fighting, or rather we never fight ever. We simply don't care enough. Generally when we do meet, which I intend to do so this christmas we small talk a little and that's about it. If I ask for advice they generally just brush it away with something like "i'm sure you'll figure it out". Something I brought with me from my childhood was "It's better not to say anything", as most of the time I'll regret it. What's your take on this, is your relationship to your family important? How would you go about improving it?

@Alex14 Tried explaining how you feel about this whole thing with your parents? Maybe they can be convinced? I would also go for dates one on one. Get to know each other, you don't need to rush anything but you can't take 3 months to make a move either. Study-related stuff is ok at first unless she is very motivated with her studies. I would try some other things perhaps a visit to a café? On the other hand don't spend too much time together, this is a classic mistake young guys make.

I recommend skype

Have faith that things will get better and that you'll feel better with time. Being optimistic helps.

This guy is really useful for learning how to deal with this type of interaction, he uses a date example but it works generally. Long story short, a guy asks him where he got his haircut, implying that is looks bad.

Let's say that it eavesdrops(and tracks your location) on you and everyone else, does it matter? Are you hiding super important secrets?

I do agree with you at being male isn’t good enough, but it shouldn’t be either. Just like the other way around. When I meet my ex I had of the things you mentioned. A smartphone “normal clothing” friends(ish), hobbies besides gaming( anime etc), I did drink alcohol but she didn’t not introvert but not really extroverted either. I was renting a (super small)apartment but using borrowed money at a student discount price. Was studying for a degree. Does a girl ask you about your car? I thinks that’s strange I’ve never brought it up. Why not carry your smartphone? if nothing else you can see what time it is or call people.

Well I don’t see a problem with girls getting together with invaders, it’s only natural. Our society’s is what’s figurative. As for girls being picky well that also makes sense after all if everyone has kids, what happend to evolution? 90%\10% is probably better since most people genetics is rather poor. Imagine if we could breed out inherited disorders, poor eye sight, dyslexia, low iq etc.

If you want to be idealistic a perfect dictatorship is the best, although that's completely unrealistic. As for being in minority, you'll have to promote your ideas, spread the word of whatever you what.

In my experience girls are very often insecure, often for completely irrational reasons. It’s tends to be temporary. I’ll give you a example, back in uni when we had new girl students. The younger once among them often had a feeling that that weren’t good enough, not good looking enough even if the most appealing guy was dating them for instance. They had a strong need for compliments. Ironically the most unappealing trait they had was their insecurity and the behaviours the had to deal with it.

Girls are less dangerous than guys in most aspects. Expections include SCRUM girls.

It’s technically possible, although I cannot say I’ve experienced it. Nothing wrong with tension though, makes things more interesting.