Spiral

I’ve been single quite a few years now. My last and only relationship was very unorthodox to say the least. I don’t know if the following is truly the case, but it seems so to me, based on family and friends. Basically you as a guy, go on a bunch of dates. To restaurants, malls, Christmas markets and a bunch of other “boring” stuff to keep your girlfriend happy. Ideally this works, but it’s not usual that’s it doesn’t. Is this really what that’s like? If so how often do you need to do this? Or maybe I’m just picking poorly if I don’t enjoy this sort of stuff

Sales and marketing is devilry, always has been

Woman are a mystery to me. Sometimes they just like me for some reason, that’s when I get lucky. It’s not about me doing anything particular

No point sharing more than needed. I don’t see how that would make anything better for anyone

I’m too cowardly for this, furthermore I thinks it’s a bit pricey

You don’t need to agree to validate her feelings. She terrified of the coffee machine? Fine you can comfort her. Rationally explaining why the coffee machine is harmless isn’t helping anyone

Asking is overrated. Making a guess is more fun

I’m not suggesting you should do anything unethical

Anger management experts can aid you in this endeavor

By the way, having huge balls is advantageous with girls. None remembers a coward

I don’t want to ask, better to just flirt with them. This way they have the convenience of telling me that they have a partner if they do or lie if they’re not interested. Drawbacks include, they can cheat. Furthermore they can have a bf who gets upset

That’s not how I define vulnerability, however yes. What you describe is a required approach to getting what you want from other people in a sustainable way

Little pitchers have big ears. Or in the other words kids hear more than you might expect

Don’t lie Don’t harm others(including emotionally) unless you’re forced to Don’t tolerate disrespect Don’t get caught up in all the negativity, especially cultural/political Don’t try to convince people who have already decided what they believe. Don’t consume toxic men’s advice Don’t expect anything from women (at all). That’s probably toxic, but I’ve been disappointed too many times. Don’t drink or consume drugs alone. Don’t buy things you can’t afford, except housing Don’t gamble Don’t be too greedy, do consume some. I’m not a material person, so I don’t buy something unless I need it. Don’t live in fear Don’t stay in a bad situation for too long

One trick is to give someone money you really don’t want to lose. And then tell them to only give you back that money if you do the thing

I think school of attraction is pretty solid

Yeah those things are nice and a privilege, but everything has a price

The greatest limiting factor for men is cowardice and for women pride. If your are failing that’s probably the reason

@Boost I get that, you can do so anywhere. Sure you might find more stage green people at certain places for instance. The particular place isn’t going to make a meaningful difference. Familiarity is more important, or in other words places you frequent. Like school and a job, the gym. A bar. Or wherever else you go. In other words, the location question is a red herring.

If you are afraid of rejection and being misunderstood, you will not let people in. If you do not let people in you won’t connect. If you don’t connect and you’ll feel lonely. If you don’t socialize enough you’ll become more unusual and struggle more socially. This makes socializing even more difficult. If you go to the gym for instance you can start there. Just be more friendly, put on a smile. Say hi to strangers, don’t expect things to lead anywhere there. That sort of thing takes time

In my experience girls who struggle, play hard to get to ensure the guy is actually interested in her. This is because guys often are not. I girl who can sleep with a guy on the first date(if she feels like it) and still feel confident the guy will remain interested is a girl of high value. Now I’m not saying you should go for the girl that sleeps around. A Rolex watch is very pricey but not very useful. A great friendship is amazing but free of charge

Being hard to get does not appeal to me. Even if it’s authentic. Hard to get is essentially high maintenance, which is an unattractive prospect. If it’s not easy it’s not right. Now easy in this case can also be medium difficult. It’s not literally about being easy. It’s more about not wasting an enormous amount of time and energy on something that probably won’t lead anywhere. And if it did, probably isn’t worth the effort.

@Rafael Thundercat This isn’t the sort of thing one just solves. It goes away on its own. Give it 25 years

@Shermaningeorgia I’m sorry I don’t understand your point. Indiens in temples? With broken English?

I get stupid if I don’t supplement with omega-3. That combined with alpha wave self-hypnosis for enforcing flow-state keeps you sharp