Spiral

Iran

It's not about understanding, it never was. You have to go deeper on your own. To glance beyond the veil. It is dangerous and maddening.

It's an event where everyone is single. Meet and mingle. Nothing structured. Have a drink or two.

Going around pointing fingers isn’t helping anyone

I've been to a few. It's been single bar nights. It's mostly a fun activity to do with your friends and meet some new people. A social activity, more so than a dating activity. Made out with one girl at my first event, that can happen too. I wouldn't take it too seriously, but have some fun. That's the most important part.

To help others is to help oneself

Guess I’ll die

You can be conservative is the sense that you carefully and slowly alter society. Even if that is in a progressive direction. Alternatively you can be progressive, in that you quickly change society in any direction, at a speed some would consider irresponsible. This can lead to backlash and be counterproductive.

Left and right is a oversimplification. In my country liberal is right wing.

Religion is a waste of time

America is like a circus or like watching a train crash in agonizing slow motion. Everyone is talking about it too, like the latest game of thrones episode. However yes, generally. Although not by as much as you’d hope.

If it’s not easy it not right. In terms of communication and setting up dates that is.

For me women was the first real struggle I faced in life. I figured out the basics, well enough to have abundance, got lucky in some ways. I can however certainly empathize with it. It hard and it can feel hopeless sometimes. It does feel like magic sometimes, some days I’m super popular, some days no one is interested.

Never a fan of this one. Gave me bad vibes

Cool, what’s with the seemingly unrelated flag postage?

Your biggest competitor is not other potential mates. It’s the person you are dating. If they are unkind to themselves, being a 4/10 in terms of how kind you are is still better than them being alone. A spiritually enlightened woman, is hard to attract as the requirements are astronomical. This applies to both men and women. Things like video games and other escapism sort of undermine the desire for partnership.

I recommend Garys economics, a UK YouTube channel. It will show you why billionaires support the alt-right. It’s in their own interest.

Sure but why describe the right side as woke?

When I moved to Stockholm, I downloaded Jodel and meetup. I meet a lot of people, however the nature of these meetups, didn’t lead anywhere meaningful. You go out to meet people, grab a beer. Maybe exchange contact information, meet up a week later with that person for yet another beer. Eventually the “friendsship” fades. You need to meet the same people regularly to really establish a friendship. Unless you’re super charming I suppose. You can be very friendly(but brief) at the gym or something like that also.

I find that people who has strong complaints about feminism and such generally spend to much time on the internet, probably watch YouTube vids). There are issues sure, but on the average day (in real life) you’re more likely to encounter issues with your plumbing. Not everyone is great in person, but I’ve found that most people are friendly enough. I have a crazy feminist at work, real nut job. That’s ok, none takes her seriously outside in work-related settings. She just comes off as someone with massive mental issues. She is friendly as well for the most part as long you are polite. There is no point trying to change her mind.

I think that’s a combination of two factors, firstly the girl might now have her own social life. Secondly and more importantly, it is to a great degree of about quality. A girl needs to feel safe knowing you value her and the relationship. Sitting around watching tv, won’t really cut it as time spent together. So doing that or some similar won’t cut it, even if it is three hours a day

I do think he’s terrible with woman. And he certainly has room for growth there. Let’s take something more normal. A house, a wife (in an moden/equal relationship) that treats them alright and kids. Perhaps unrealistic in this economy, but let’s imagine it isn’t. In terms of tangible benefits, this doesn’t seem all that great for a lot of guys. Probably better than what they have now, sure. But it will require an enormous amount of work to get there and they are likely to fail in the end anyway.

I think a lot of men do not feel like it’s worth it. To do what society wants from them, to mature and contribute. It’s a reward/effort equation that doesn’t go anywhere good. Maybe they tried, maybe someone they know got there and that ended up being discouraging. Like for me, my father is a CEO of this company. He is miserable, always working, his wife treats him terribly. I have more of these examples in my family and some friends. I do not want to be where they are, so I do not want to follow in their footsteps.

@Joshe You do not need to spend three hours a day on the relationship. 1 hour of “bed talk daily-ish” and 2-3 dates a week works fine. Besides you’re probably having dinner together most evening so you do not have to count that twice. Kids however will ruin your personal time

Today it’s a romantic display of commitment. With legal ramifications. Possibly religious ones too, if you are so inclined. Everything else is fluff. Marriage used to be for social cohesion and diplomacy. To marry our families together, not just two people. That’s not just for nobility and royalty but for the average Joe too. Than it became more of a protection for woman, back in the day when woman barely worked outside the household. So that they had something to their name if something went wrong in their relationship. Now it’s a relationship goal, to show that you as a guy is serious about this relationship. That makes the woman feel safe in knowing you really want this.