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@Jesper I'm really glad you are making progress ! @8LanguageStud Usually I would say something on the lines of "Don't shit where you eat ". In this case, simply say have a positive non-creepy vibe and be calibrated. Just say hi and be curious. Something on the lines of : Are you like a celebrity/yoga coach/w/e . Just don't spam approach. Just a random cute comment with a nice vibe and calibrate from there.

@Rita The success rate is quite low for everyone at the start so don't get discouraged. Nonetheless I can't give any specific advice for a women because I'm not one

Girls get annoyed when guys start seeing stuff in simple friendly gestures. For me touching a girl happens most of the time naturally now but I've had to work a lot on physicality in my pick-up journey and well I'm not done yet. Even asking her about it sounds creepy, like...Hello there Martha, the way you touched me on that and that ocassion made me think maybe we should be more than friends ? *Poor Martha runs away* Actually, you never know, so if you want more from her, well, try to kiss her and if it doesn't work out, well, whatever, you were at least true to yourself.

Ask yourself the question, why am I a match to that ? In terms of vibration. If something exists in your reality some part of you is a match to it

This doesn't work if you're not attractive. Ahah. And you can't magically become confident either

Also : Watch some more of them once you feel like you need to keep going

He meant a random girl coming up and introducing herself to the guy Basically the girl picking up the guy.

@AlexB Wanting to heal it too fast is a way of resisting it, because you want it to go away. You can simply stay present with it as long as you can. Also, knowing how harsh a break up is, I recommend Teal Swan's and RSD Tyler break-up videos !

@Cabot Sorry, I should have framed it in a different way

Stop spreading social conditionning and slut shaming. 1) Yes, it's important. You get bonus points if you do it because It means you're free and not oppressed by the society. 2) Who would not be groomed shaved etc ? 3) Slutiness doesn't exist. It's a concept created by people who can't get laid to try to shame others for doing so.

@Naviy @PinkLadyApple Hold the horses guys. Most of the results most likely come not from nofap itself but since I Was using masturbation to numb my emotions, the results came from the energy cleanse and the work on the un-number emotions I was now able to feel. Just to clarify. Also I've invested a lot of work, been meditating for a year, so it's normal that my energy levels are higher than usual

I will give you props for being really self-aware. You can indeed use that as an excuse and be like : Oh I only want this type of girls so I won't try to geet the ones that scare me. Unless you have tried everything you don't know what you actually want. Actually I like your way of thinking. You will INDEED have no chemistry with CERTAIN GIRLS, but the more attractive you become, the more girls you will have emotionnal, or at least sexual chemistry. There is an old saying that if you are really attracted to someone on a physical level, that might be because of the compatibility on a genetical level. IT SEEMS TRUE, but there is no scientific proof of that exact fact (aside from the fact that genetic compability indeed helps mating) , but use it to your advantage => In the end, don't be too specific, if you feel attracted try it out. And be honest to yourself. Those are limiting beliefs. You can meet LOTS of different people. In one year, I met like 5 girls twice, out of let's say 1 thousand approaches. Girls with HUGE BIG OR AVERAGE boobs are not rare. They're all out there. And what if they like alcohol ? Almost everyone drinks time from time. That doesn't mean that they are in love with alcohol and that they are therefore lower value...I mean to feel good and free you have to do a lot of shit like meditation and energy cleansing, hence lots of people take the easy way out. Exactly. Don't use techniques, but go to the places with the higher volume to get more references. It is indeed not sustainable, because it takes a lot of effort and calibration. I use it sometimes to get attention simply because girls don't respond to anything else But yeah, you got it right. Like I'd do the same kind of right. Ahah. Would love hearing back from you about your progress ! Good luck mate !

This only means you did it wrong which is...quite...sad. Why did you choose those ressources ? A great fondation, what for ? I will check those and report back.

Couldn't agree more. I wanna meet her myself. To everyone not relating to the more mystical and spiritual stuff, it simply means you simply, or more precisly your ego is not openminded enough. I can relate to that one some level and it isn't mystical at all. It's one of my inner chearleeders, along with Eckhart Tolle and RSD Tyler

When I really started pick up, it was a break up from a 11 month relationship. I was 21. Before that I only had crushes and small failures. Basically me idealizing the girl for month and doing nothing, like simply trying to talk to her and then fucking up. I also had a small group of friends, and a very fucked up mind. A bad habit of gaming and depression with sometimes suicidal thoughts. Everything was a struggle, because it's like fighting in an arena. You always have your elbows in the mud. Once you get used to it you become seriously ICY which is a really nice state. The biggest ones are always : understanding what's going on. WHY something works, WHY something doesn't and WHY in similar cases sometimes it works and sometimes NOT. There is an overhelming lack of logic because the whole pick up world has a logic of his own which if you're not used to it doesn't make any sense. You have to solve paradoxes, understand what and how and when something is important and when it's not, etc etc, it's simply insane. Another big sticking point of mine was not being totaly at ease and relaxed. Another was and still is outcome independence. And neediness. Okay seriously now that I think about it let's ask the reverse question, WHAT WASN"T A BIG STRUGGLE : Having almost infinite motivation, writting field reports, being seriously invested in this, going out a lot, finding a minimal amount of okayish wingmen, optimizing the whole process to evolve faster, finding relevant pick-up ressources. Everything else was a big struggle Never ever. Once you stop, you're done. So no. No. It sounds as a really good excuse not to talk to girls. Your social skills will TREMENDOUSLY improve as you talk with girls OVER and OVER. So stick talking to as much girls as you can you're welcome

@Will Why is it a limiting belief ? Happy to be alone ? What ? You can't find what wants you back. It's the opposite, you have to find what you want and attract it. A better question would be to ask " Why can't I attract the girls I'm attracted to " ? Is it beliefs? Lack of experience ? Putting them on pedestals ? State + Shock formula works sometimes, if you wanna be more advanced, remplace it with : Relaxed,at ease, cool and sensual. Lack of comfort is quite often a big issue.

Why do you want one in the first place ?

@Niki Of course. You will upgrade yourself endlessly attracting more high value people. You will also learn to communicate better, and most importantly for relationships, build it in a NON-needy, WIN-WIN way, which unless you've done QUITE some work on yourself will never happen. Most of the concepts are either to upgrade yourself or to be able to have a better experience with someone else, so yes it helps quite a lot

I have exactly the same, but it's litteraly 50/50 ! But I'm considered as INFP. I can also switch to E because I trained myself to gain energy with social interactions.

Sorry, the answer may seem harsh but : it's because you're a match to that. You attract what you are. The way you framed the problems makes me think that you are not in fact positive, because it's like : I LACK HIM where is HE frame, which is a form of neediness. Do not worry : with enough progress you will attract many great people into your life.

I've been on nofap for 5 days now, benefits : - More confident - WAY MORE energy. Can sleep 4 hours less and be full charged. - Way more present, smoother. - Mood is EVEN more stable. - Meditation is even easier. - Emotionnal healing is also made easier. (Finally can see images while working with emotions). -> 100% recommended and approved.

@azlatev9 Thank you will check that and report back, seems really cool

@Endew Learn pick-up, spent like 1 hour a day for it to geet moving with A. At the same time fix whatever issues you have with B since A is being taken care of.

@Jesper Watch : shift ( aka making a shift) by RSD Julien. It covers your issue entirly. 100%. From start to finish. Feel free to ask any questions once you're done Also, I have started really really low and built myself up quite high, so I will tell you right away : it's doable. It is doable. But there is a price. I will tell you a bit more about my journey so you can understand. While in school, I had only 2 friends, and girls wouldn't even give me the cheek to say hi. I've never got a girlfriend till I was 20. I've had many many devastating hearthbreaks. After my break up, thinking I would never get laid again I got into cold approach pick up. And I got laid again. It took some time but I did it. I had litteraly the GREATEST experiences of my life. I won't spoil you, but you're gonna be amazed at the possibilities of life. AMAZED. You're gonna look at the sky in PURE AWE and thank god you were born. But, since progress is quite...painful...most of the time, you will be in pure pain and trauma and wish you could die. It's not easy. Here I've been gifted with optimism, and in the darkest times it helped me a lot, being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But the more you evolve, the more you overcome, the more happy, solid, and overall great you will be. And you will feel pride in what you've accomplished. I choose not to stay as I was because I felt truly miserable. What about you ?

@Free Spirit Yes of course, I simply meant to warn that just being nice isn't gonna help you getting a relationship in the first place. I love being caring and gentle but those are mostly irrelevant in making a women attracted by you. (Unless she sees a lot of value in someone who is caring and gentle, depends on her blueprint).