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1) More than one 2) Real Social Dynamics = a pick-up/dating company 3) A) Be really serious about this and seek REAL progress : meaning go out and do tangible stuff and monitor your progess. Unrelated to pick up, I've read some journals with things like I've been doing this for 2 years, and I'm like, you've been doing what ? Where are the results ? or when I asked about the life changing habits, someone told me buying flowers. In pick-up lots of people sometimes go out, sometimes talk to girls, and sometimes get results (sometimes here means once a year). Take this seriously : keep a journal, watch content, do what's hard and what needs to be done and keep track of your results. B) Take action and when in doubt trust the process. Focus on tangible doing (aka talking to girls) and learning and understanding the principles. Also put yourself out there and be real. Let your core change. It will hurt, but learn to handle your emotions and you're gonna see huge benefits and permanent change coming from that. C) Don't let your mind trick you. Self-awareness, aka noticing what's going on inside helps tremendously. Your mind will trick you will excuses, rationalizations, tremendous lies not to change. You have to recognize those and move past. I could write a lot more on this topic but I'd rather answer to specific questions like these

@Philip I always tend to give advice based on all my knowledge/experience, and sometimes, well, I feel some people can't relate nor comprehend what I'm really saying, because I need to clarify all the small things that are obvious to me. And generaly I tend not to give advice unless people ask for it, because, well, they're not gonna really TRY to understand or make use of it.

This one would be really great.

@JevinR To be entirly honest I'll also say that I'll got the best moments and experiences in my life by doing cold approach. Hence it's up to you how you use/see it. If I kinda discredited it in my last post it's because currently I am in a relationship and I'm working on my life purpose.

I've had glimpses of that, but, could you provide guidelines to exactly do it ? I feel like my pain is not strong enough anymore to be able to do that @Ayla !

I can't really asnwer this question, because it depends heavily on each person subjective experience and perspective. It would be stuff like not being able to manage emotions, holding back, resentment, and such that cannot be dealt with. The biggest problem I see happening if you're with the right person is the pain body one, that's why anyone dating me is obliged to read eckhart tolle. As for if the person is not right, well, once you feel yourself strongly attracted to someone else, to a point where a tension is created, it's usually a huge sign that your mind wants you OUT of that relationship. You have to ask yourself and honestly seek to recieve the answer. For anyone. But it comes from a man's perspective so guys may found this read more...touching/relevant? And I'd say women have it easier to some extent. Also I heavily doubt the veracity of those statistics.

Well. No it doesn't mean he is hung up on his ex. And for that you could simply ask him whether he is over his past relationships or not. It is extremely important. The number of partners, their age, the duration of the past relationships. You can understand A LOT about the person simply by their relationship history. Daddy issues, insecurities, etc. It also helps for red flags. You don't. It's actually a projection. if you're fine with your past, you'll be fine with people not being fine with it. And almost always if you're fine with your past, it's gonna be fine for other people. It's an issue only if you make one out of it. You are actively hiding it and escaping from it and of course the way your reacted about it, he must have felt that you have something to hide and are uncomfortable about it, which will make him wonder about what's wrong. Sorry if I was too harsh.

@JevinR The deal is : there is no other way to get the experience, the references and to build up the "skillset" if you wish. Your other options are : do nothing. OR : Spend even bigger amounts of time to gain a huge social circle and instead of introducing yourself to girls you wanna meet, have your dozens of friends introduce them to you. -> Cold approaching is technically learning to socialize. And you can get really good at it. There is nothing wrong with cold approach in itself. But @Endew (Btw are you distant light from RSD nation? I'm glad having you here ) stated something I agree almost entirly. Hence we are having a huge paradox. Although you are learning and evolving, because doing cold approach could be seen as a sort of behavioural therapy, well...it is unprofitable. You could make a huge list of factors that fuck you up in the end no matter how good you are, starting from "the girl was drunk" to she just changed her mind. BUT, while learning it, you will have a huge number of experiences, and learn great great principles such as freedom from outcome, calibration, empathy, having fun, which it's almost impossible to have naturally. Also, you will be required to make inner changes, such as learning to deal with your emotions or with your belief system. And it will give you leverage to handle all those issues. Despite all of that, even if it changes you sometimes on a core level, making your more attractive by having empathy etc and more confident due to all the experiences you had, it's still on a quote on quote superficial level. I love to use the game and game analogy because it's often times true : View all of this upgrading process as : upgrading your gear and getting skill points by leveling. Yes, they have an impact, and yet it's usefull, but on a deeper level, you also need to level up your stats. You are attractive as who you are, what you're doing in your life, what you offer to the world, how meaningful your work is, the dept of your personnality, how evolved and true to yourself you are, etc. Looks and money don't matter much, I've seen that, and it's not marketing coming from big companies. But personnality, values etc matter a lot. Knowing languages, having different skills, reading, life purpose, everything that is making you a high quality man is extremely important. The goal here is not to be a high quality chode : being rich or famous without knowing how the whole dating thing works and simply not knowing how to convey your personnality but to grow your inner potential and then express it. With the same amount of cold approaching, different people will have VERY different results based on how they built themselves.

A book by Neale Donald Walsch. What can I say ? I knew most of the stuff but the your life flows out of your intentions lesson hit home. He was talking about how he was sad loosing his job, to which god answered something on the lines of: You see yourself as a victim, but in fact you didn't choose the job. You were not motivated and thinking about doing something else. Your intentions are powerful.

Has anyone here practiced any letting go of emotions method, such as a energy cleanse, or sedona method, to achieve courage, acceptance or peace ? I feel like for some reason I'm always stuck on apathy. Does anyone have specific tips for that ?

Are you a guy or a girl ? Either way, practice is the key.

Following up the Leo's video on why you're getting used for money. I'm not at that level of course but I can't see what I need to keep in check here. Amongst my insane number of normals and nice interactions, I have recently had really weird situations, such as : I'm always man to women, so I am clear in my intentions. I meet the girl and we have a great interaction. I have randomly met a girl at my uni and the conversation was great, and she would not go on a date and later told me she had a boyfriend despite all the great vibe, like If she was trying to friendzone me. Same with another girl we when on several dates with, we kissed, but when it came to sex she simply bounced. And now I'm coming from a 2 date where I had kissed the girl and she even proposed a netflix and chill 2 day ago, which we had to postpone, well didn't wanna kiss me and like friendzoned me. Overall which is a huge huge waste of time. Lord. It MAY sound retarded and maybe my mind is making this up and it's a temporary bug (Since it doesn't happen that often, but often enough for me to worry), but I feel like I'm getting used to validation/attention, maybe just for a nice conversation...like just for the emotionnal stimulation.

@Will Dude you're giving such high quality feedback I wish I knew you when I just started pick up ahahah ! Thank you ! It's more sublte. The feedback I am getting in this case is not relevant and doesn't help much, hence I could be getting way more interesting feedback somewhere else. It's all about efficiency. This happens only in 1% of my interactions and I'm thinking about those things simply out of perfectionnism. And also because sometimes smaller problems can help uncover bigger issues ! I forgot about the whole thing the day after so it's really not something huge. I would delete the whole topic if I could because it sounds like small nonsense to me now x) I've recently started a relationship I am enjoying a LOT, so I don't have any closing problems

I am really glad that's the case for you, and yes I believe this could be seen as a more "mature" way of doing things. But : Moving on is NOT easy, and taking 2-3 month of not moving on simply because you failed to get rid of the person in your life is not affordable. I am sick of watching all those drunk text memes and so on, it should never ever happen. Most people lack strong boundaries and staying friends with their previous partners will never be beneficial to them. Of course any advice has to be taken with a pinch of salt

She will feel it yes. Then reframe it in a funny way : I haven't been outside in a month because of x project and I forgot how to socialize. You have to go trough the fire and burn away the impurities. There's no other way

@Canadian Go out and talk to girls a lot. This solves any basic problem you may have. Behaviour therapy for the win

@The Son Thank you ! I hope so, I was seeing so much break-up topics I thought I could help some of those folks. @Diane Prego @Henri Thank you ! I stated the 25 year old thing because I tend to believe that before that age you are not gonna find any life partner thus making any break up totaly irrelevant in the long run. But after 25 messing up a relationship with a potential life partner could be disastrous (Well, you're gonna have tremendous amounts of emotionnal leverage and change into a whole new person and have an even better relationship...so...actually not ). Simple put be more attentive when you settle, have enough experience, so that you don't spend years and years in a relationship that goes nowhere while you where looking for a life time partner. Either way, always remember that there is nothing the human spirit can not overcome

Why can't I edit my posts to add more content several day/weeks later ?

@Ray Positive affirmations are great but by themselves they're not gonna help you getting the relationships or beautiful women you want You can't get good at interacting with women without interacting with them a LOT and there are no magic pills or shorcuts !

@Donnie Maybe you do not feel integrated in what you percieve as the "white society" and you believe getting a white girl will on a symbolic level change that ? You tend to project whatever you lack into someone you fall in love with to solve that by getting the person.

@kalter000 Yes, because external validation is hell and low consciousness. I disgusts me more than anything almost I'll just erase this story from the record and label it as 5 random weird percent of people. Topic closed.

22 ! @kalter000 Ahahah we got quite some things in common

@Princess01 I wrote a full guide today for people like you You may be addicted to abusive partenrs so you definetly wanna explore that part of yourself to check whether it could be true or not

I watched RSD videos and products. I have watched and taken notes on all the free RSD videos from Tyler and Julien and most of Todd's. Blueprint, shift, pimp. Oh god, I watched some parts of PIMP like ten times to undestand where I was fucking up in my interactions They have general principles and are explaining how to make yourself more attractive. No bad pickup lines, that stuff is primitive now. Yeah, it's all about upgrading yourself and cutting the crap, returning to your core, etc. I couldn't agree more !

ahah You're right. You can't close every deal. Altough, ABC ! Well you know what feels good. Imagine going out with a random girl who you would never sleep with because she's not attractive enough but you simply hang out because the vibe feels good. And she hits you up and you're like okay that's cool we can hang out but you don't mean it in a sexua manner. And I'm the girl in this case, and at some point I will be like : wtf you're wasting my time if you have no sexual interest. It bugs me even more because I was clearly man to women. I wouldn't care if she considered me in a sexual manner and then said sorry we don't have chemistry. But when you're in not for the same thing it's just annoying. @clytaemnestra sorry you are heavily off topic.