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In Toxic Shame, John Dradshaw talks mentions the fact that masturbation is used as a emotionnal relief and to numb yourself from feeling your emotions. That's why so many people are addicted to it, they simply need it not to feel the bad emotion underneath. But that also means if you handle the emotionnal issue, for instance by letting go, the desire to masturbate will naturaly dissapear

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Honestly unless you run arround scaring girl after girl... Even if 10 or 50 find you weird it's fine in a big city. Nothing to worry about. It's almost impossible to creep out an entire city unless it's 5k people small !

Thank you It was last summer, I met a really awesome girl. The best chemistry I ever had at that point. 36 hours of hot sex when we met, then one month of romantic chatter in like 15k messages. Then after another month it all went down the drain for reasons ( Could write and entire essay about it) and it felt really horrible. I spent a whole week listening to taylor swift unable to do anything else than experiencing the pain. The memory of the pain almost puts me in pain. Hilarious. Either way that was a really beneficial experience and I've matured a lot since ! In the dating/relationship forum.

If you can do it right and without creeping out the whole city - yes.

Could we provide bans for people who target others with massive downvotes ? Reputation is meant to underline post quality, not get back at someone because another user "dislikes" a piece of my content. Would you look at this : The reputation system should be as unbiased as possible.

Best one ever. I watched it myself COUNTLESS TIMES

Get a wingman to go out with you. Doing it alone most of the time is annoying and counter-productive. 100k people is still a lot. You're gonna most likely have trouble with girls forgetting you rather than remembering you. Either way as long as you're not creepy and don't feel creepy about talking to girls they're never gonna label you or anything. You shouldn't worry about anonymousity all that much. If you wanna get meaningful results it's actually hard to talk to more than 10 girls per night (because you have to stay in set to screen the girl, get the number, etc which can take sometimes HOURS) and let's say that 30k girls are in your age range. You'd need 3000 nights to talk to them all ! You're not gonna run out. If you live in a touristic area a good trick is to go to the bars there because there is always the tourist's inflow and outflow and you can practice on it all you want Same for a big city. Simply don't : open if you see a girl you really like in a parc or something, but otherwise work on your projects and move out into a bigger city. Unless you a really really into game doing it at night should be enough Or simply on the large shopping avenues, there usually always are a lot of people ! There are no specific places aside the ones with a high traffic. You don't have to sign up to any yoga clubs or anything. You are a bit less anonymous during the day but as long as you don't run arround every day opening every girl you see again there should be zero problems ! You simply need a wingman. Or enough wingmen for everyday you're going out. Having friends that aren't into pick-up is not gonna help improving your skills. I can relate to you. I've had the same close friends for a while and we just hang out at each others or eat together at lunch. I never ever go out and drink and just talk to people. There is nothing judgmental you're simply taking your success seriously. Sometimes when I'm out I bump into people that are gaming since I know most of the community here and I'm amazed at guys drinking and just talking to their wing for hours. And In my head I'm like : If you wanna fucking talk to your friends do it at lunch or play monopoly with tea on a sunday evening but don't waste your time drinking and not learning anything. So yes, the normal "socializing" is just sad. Getting drunkn for 8 hours and talking garbage meanwhile just to feel better while it can be achieved just with some 40 minutes of meditation. Lord. Either way, friends are cool and can invite your to parties and events, don't worry about that. You need 1 or 2 cool wingmen to learn game and that's it. No social circle. Nah honestly it's prefectly fine. It's not a small (10k people) village or anything. And in terms of time all you need is 30 minutes a day. Often the most complicated parts is wanting to really change and evolve, not the situations itself. for the routine : the best way of doing it is 30 minutes a day to get used going against your emotions and learning to open. ( As stated in Julien's shift). You will shift your whole personnality and once you get used to it you'll feel free to open any girl you like. Then take numbers and go on dates. If you sometimes watch content and stick with your daily 30 minutes you can get decent within months. If you have more time to spend stay longer during weekends and try to pull It's impossible to have statistics in pick-up as there are too many variables. WIth enough "if's" you can always and never get laid at the same time. Let's say if you get good at this you can have an abundance of girls you really like, feel more free and happier overall. And when you go to a club most often you won't finish your night alone

There is enough material on it already and even though you're given advice you need to act to stop being needy hence another video on the subject is pointless.

It's not, they simply cope with it because they have no other options ! You didn't get my point here : I asked you to go and experience that first hand yourself. You can use pretty much any argument and elaborate complex theories but once faced with reality there are no other options : it works or it doesn't. For instance, everything I'm saying on this forum comes from my real experience of going out and talking and sleeping with girls, practicing social skills, reading a lot, doing experiments, etc, what's called first hand experience. So when I said if you want proof, I actually asked you yourself to go out and pick-up a non religious girl and trying to get a official relationship without having sex with her ! Once you do that I'll be like okay I was wrong, but I can't agree with something that doesn't seem quite right in my experience PS : I usually don't trust statistics

Well, unless you pull But never use it as an excuse to do nothing ! Massive action is required for results.

Just copy paste it there and we'll act as if nothing happened

Yes they are, and unable to create one unless with someone who is also asexual. Unless both parties are extremely religious and want to hold off sex till some later date and meanwhile still commit it should be doable altough experiences tells us that the girl will usually cheat on the side x) Either way a relationship in the common sense, like we're dating/ being together/ is IMPOSSIBLE without having sex. If you want proof, try to engage in a sexless official relationship without her cheating and being heavily religious.

It's not such a harsh truth to accept. There is way worse such as like half of married women having children with someone else without the father knowing, the huge cheating rate, the lies, etc. I'm not sure how accurate those things are but they could be true and they are way worse than simply the fact that you need to have sex with a girl to actually have a relationship.

Not at all. If you approach a fattie is she higher value than you now ? Or if a ten opens you, does that mean you're lower value than her ? You do not have to qualify yourself and should never do it. If you can explain as to why you feel like qualifying yourself, or why would she be higher value, I could give more specific advice ! The blueprint helps a lot for that one. But no, you're not lower value for approaching. If you do it perfectly you are even HIGHER value than anyone else, because honestly, do you know anyone who can randomly approach and chat a cute girl without shitting his paints ? Meditate/ Handle your emotions to be in a smooth mood And to have more energy, well. Get momentum if you want more positive energy, and become kinda state reliant. OR, go trough a bad break-up and learn to be attractive from whatever comes out. Strive to be real That's the way I personnaly learned it. It's even hilarious because when you're sad as fuck and you open while not caring you are SO attractive. And you're like...why have I spent months and month trying to self-amuse when I can just go on and chat ? Unless you can talk to a girl you like. And only if you want to. Never forget about effeciency. While you talk to some random guys your ten is flying away.

You're welcome ! Well. Learning takes time, and the most efficient way you have to learn it under time constrains is doing 30 minutes everyday, and then when you have some more time during the weekends and such do more, like 2-3 hours and try to pull. This is stated in shift as well. Problem is you need time to watch content, read and take in all the inner game stuff. Writing field reports and so on and so forth. I can understand studies being demanding. To bring more balance, try to do some pickup for 30 minutes everyday for instance before lunch, then alway write the report while eating and decide you're gonna text the numbers at a given time everyday. You're not gonna be flexible but at least your studuying and meditation won't suffer. Aside from those allocated time periods, get it out of your head. Learning pick up can also be very demanding so it's up to you to entirly figure out how you wanna proceed and what to invest your energy in. But that's the most efficient way It could be done I believe. (I mean unless you study medecine, even if you study 8 hours a day, or let's say 8 hours of lectures + 3 hours of studying + 8 of sleep, you still have 5 free hours left ).

I'm looking for habits, that once done regularly, changed your life in a really significant way. I won't include reading because it's part of my soul as intellegentsia ( Ego, seriously ? laugh with me on this one) and brushing my teeth as it's really basic. The ones that had a DRASTIC change : Meditation Going out and socializing Nofap Energy cleanse

Try it. And then come back with the result. Saying something along the lines of I just wanna fuck you is immature, inconsiderate, lacks empathy and will lead only to disastrous results. Even if you both want only sex framing it this way isn't gonna work.

Good lord no, she's gonna run away. Even if you wanna tell something of the kind, never tell it this way. It's only gonna make her uncomfortable. You are not supposed to do anything. But first : never say I love you unless you really love her and it's been some time you've been together. Otherwise she's most likely gonna run away because it feels really weird. Like the guy loves me after one date what is this ? You can tell her you want a relationship only if you want one and after sex because there is no relationship stricto sensu before the sex. No you don't have to say she's beautiful. For all the compliments, say them only if you feel like it's true and only after there is enough intimacy, or otherwise she's gonna feel like you're another random guy who is wanting something from her with compliments. That's social conditionning there my friend. You don't have to try, when you feel the moment is right, simply stop talking, look into her eyes, and lean in. Also you don't have to fuck 20-30 girls to get some sort of achievement. You seem pretty young so I actually recommend sticking with one girl for some time, because it can be really nice if done properly. Inquiry as to why you want so many girls

@JevinR If you are that bothered by those type of questions, start going out. Most of the stuff will fix itself after going out enough and talking to girls. I strongly feel you're trying to find excuses not to do it. Finding solulutions to imaginary problems, overthinking, and so on. As for the question itself : in itself it's not. Expecting to get laid SIMPLY because you have what you call a heart of gold, being a good guy, being nice, is. You can have all those qualities and remain unattractive. And you have absolutly no right to believe that you deserve to get laid simply because of that. And what you cool good guy, although is being manipulative isn't that good are often needy because they don't work on themselves. Imagine a poor guy on the street feeling like you owe him money simply because he was a good guy and has a heart of gold ? That's how girls feel. As for getting cheated on, handle the fear on itself. Usually, if you don't have any fear it usually goes smoothly. You simply have to choose right. Choosing the right girl, as with everything, requires a lot of experience You get crushed infield because if you're not used to it it's harsh. And it got harsh rules. It's reality. Not the beautiful world where everyone loves you simply because you're good.

@Consept Talk to the girl and ask her what she wants (This implies you are able to be real and attractive at the same time and also able to form a somehow "deep" connection with a girl quite fast). And actually plenty of girls will be down for a simple sex relationship, because sustaining a actual serious relationship requires time, energy and investement. There are plenty of girls like these, maybe even more than those who want something serious. In reality you can get a so-called fuck buddy relationship without that MUCH effort

Never stress that you are nervous because of her because you will appear unattractive. => Say something easy like I've been working a lot lately and kinda forgot how to socialize normally. More generally speaking it's such a baseline problem (Canadian is as of today a living proof of it : he solved it after going out for a month at 16) that I'm almost AMAZED at the amout of reaction it generates. @Canadian Great Job ! Try going for the kiss and look up concepts called : -Escalation -Leading -Pulling Basically : Once there is enough attraction you kiss the girl. Then : From there you invite her over or she invites you over somewhere where you can go on having sex. You can use a random excuse such as let's go watch this movie, netflix and chill, or whatever. Here, proceed to : whilst kissing her, start fingering her, then undressing her, then putting a condom, then having sex. If she ever says no, back off, for the love of god, and stay at ease. Never be pushy. Also don't argue on a logical level, simply massage her, talk as usual, bring some drinks or whatever. What I just said is EXTREMELY robotic but I believe you asked for CLEAR guidelines. Also, make sure not to make her uncomfortable at any stage but also don't forget to move things forward at the right pace ! Best of luck!

@Emerald Wilkins A huge huge thank you ! I will make time to actually practice all things related to OBE and shall report back

@Emerald Wilkins My opinion of Teal Swan was lowered because of this whole vaccines crap and the fact that her satanic cult story sounds a bit too...made for marketing? But otherwise she is really really great. I'm really glad to hear you had a great experience and I hope you will flourish as a spiritual teacher. When I first saw your picture you had kinda the same vibe as Teal so I'm not surprised

I've never done it but it sounds like a really interesting experience so I'd be glad if you could report back @Emerald Wilkins