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I find this utterly hilarious because you seem to miss the man's perspective. Of course from your point of view you don't have to do anything because the guys just come and talk to you and you're free to choose whoever. You know what's gonna come with patience for a man ? Nothing. Without taking action there's gonna be no results and if you're unattractive you're gonna stay unattractive. That's it.

I've tried it once and it did not work for me. I just can't understand how it's supposed to work in the first place, seems like a really uneffective method compared to other emotional techniques.

@7thLetter Don't forget that the way your mind views people is to some extent related to the way it views itself and your form identity. It's a bit off-topic but have you also noticed that people that usually seek help and are just starting, or doing this for only 1 year or 2/not doing it seriously or whatever are generaly way more complicated to interact with than let's say normal people who don't do self-actualization ? Like if normal people have a normal degree of "fucked-upness" which makes them barely interesting the ones that actually engage in self-actualization because of their deep problems are even worse and often not frequentable at all?

@Leo Gura Thank you a lot for making the forum ! You totally deserve a dedicated community, and I really hope you get some more public exposure by having this forum and are helped by the feedback all the users provide in their discussions here. I wouldn't call this manipulation, it does look like a WIN WIN situation for me, one where everyone gets interesting data for himself.

I'd like to explore the whole unconscious side of me more, which for sure contains a lot of repressed emotions which I'd like to let go off. Does anyone have anyone idea on how to bring them to the light ? Same for the rejected, repressed or "forgotten" aspects of self ? How do we bring the light deep into the subconscious ?

I believe it's outside the self-actualization stuff and wouldn't be that usefull. That kinda would be a waste of Leo's potential.

+ 1 It's really a great and excellent idea

Okay guys back to the topic : how do you achieve such experiences ?

OKay, now anyone has any idea on how to achieve 4, 5, somadhi and the truth ?

Yes. If you really wanna commit to doing it. If it's not happening naturally it's the only way. I haven't seen, heard or read any other option unfortuntely ! Look up all the classic RSD stuff if you wanna start smoothly. Best of luck !

I can't fanthom a reason for that unless your shadow is full of pain, dispair etc and you need to feel it on a conscious level. But as everyone here stated that's not gonna solve the problem. Just learn dating and get a girlfriend. Your first experience sets the frame for all the rest, so wait to have a decent one rather than building your whole sexual life on shambles. Best of luck

I've watched all of leo's videos and I wanna become better and more consistent with meditation. I've started doing it before I discovered Leo and it's based basicaly on Eckhart Tolle. I am not resisting the thought, observing them, and staying as present as possible. And over time I got more present and present doing it, basicaly being the awareness in the present moment with nothing. And Content tends to fall off. At the same time I'm kinda simply feeling my body and the present energy. I don't feel that much progress from it hence I'm wondering whether it's really effective. Leo said that we do not possess the ability to stop thinking, while I believe that if you stop feeding the mind with energy it stops thinking...so I'm a bit lost here. Any help appreciated

Something like : I'd love a girl to be my partner but generaly it's simply too hard and overall complicated and I don't know you that well so I'm not sure you could hanble it...? Call her out on being needy for wanting a relationship too soon...act freaked out even...tell her it takes time to really engage and know each other Most likely will work if you are high value !

I was intrigued at first, but then I saw one of his free videos, where he not only BEGGED for donations, but made a moral arguments as to why we are supposed to give him money, because you can't alway take take take, while he's putting out a FREE video by his own choice. I was in utter awe seeing such bad ethics. Who wants to learn from such a whinny .... guy ?

You have to do it a lot and go trough the painful emotions. There is no magic pill here, you have to practice. That's it. There is nothing else. And also check your belief system for stuff like needing money or looks to get girls.

@reez Ten game is kinda dissapointing because there is only like 2 hours of content, the rest is mostly infield I haven't watched yet, so I wouldn't recommend buying it Just find a free summary online and read it, it's gonna be enough to grasp the key concepts ! Tyler's hotseat at home is really great though, huge chunks of content, 10 missions and lots of infields to come. After you've seen shift and Pimp don't forget the practice a LOT

The way you frame it feels negative because of the usage of words "cheater" and "faithfulness". I feel like you're almost asking, I wanna love this really bad person, can I ? As far as I know monogamy is needed for strong bonds, and if a situation of a not exclusive relationship arises, well you can feel in yourself whether your ego is detached enough for it or not.

You can find most of the big and excellent products ( PIMP, SHIFT by rsd julien, the blueprint by rsd tyler, and so on) on the web for free if you look up well enough. Most the products which are actually insanly good are so popular they get leaked for free, unless it's a really niche thing. If you really want to spent money then do it on a product which gets regularly updated with new content, such as Valentine university. Todd has plenty of free videos so you can see for yourself if you like him or not. If you have 200-500 dollars to spent, simply go to a hotseat for 50$. It's an unique experience and it can help you progress a lot Also more expensive doesn't mean more growth. You have to invest TIME - mainly for going out - for the orders of magnitude of growth, not money !

Honestly, children tend to miss percieve how their mother behaves and see things that aren't even there. Until you have lots of perspectives from different people, friends, therapist, forums with similar cases, don't do anything drastic. Once you're sure it would benefit you then yes, cut it.

Take viagra once so you don't have that stress anymore and then proceed to have sex and you won't have the issue anymore because it shall boost your confidence. If it doesn't work don't get hooked on viagra and go see a psychologist. No porn/ no fast and meditation for being more present should also help.

Honestly, as I've seen with my own parents, focus on the stuff that is really hard to repair later on : mainly unconditionnal love and support. If you have this one right the rest is not as important and can be learned later on once she needs it. There is no way you'll do everything perfectly because that's simply impossible, hence focus on the essential part and don't panic by blaming yourself too much. Overall don't worry about it too much and honestly just do your best. Start with yourself, and once you're in a really good shape lift your daughter up as well ! Best of luck !

Aside from the fact that from an outsider perspective you seem to be quite in a lot of pain, which you most likely are, what bugs me out is the multi purpose life thing. Don't blame yourself for everything "wrong" in your life and focus and upgrading one thing at a time. Writting a book drawing or being a life coach takes a lot of time and excellence which you have to invest. For the life coach thing there is a huge tendency of...giving advice while you shouldn't. You see guys basicly reciting all they have read on dating forum without even having talked to one girl. Everyone wants to feel clever and powerfull with their awesome advice and not actually help people. And theory is not enough in this matter : the reason I follow Leo is that he tried everything himself and I can see the practice behind what's he's saying. Actual experience. Myself sometimes I'm used to think I'm so clever and I know all this stuff on how to handle life while I wasn't getting any tangible results for it. Nonetheless I'm doing 10 time greater than I did before, but I'm never giving any advice for things I haven't settled yet or I'm not doing myself. I have seriously no idea how you will pull yourself together but good luck

@Natura Sonoris Well it could be a really nice way to jump start, just don't forget to follow up by talking massive action later If you're really serious about this 100 $ is nothing.

Simply get rid of those bad influences as fast as you can. I can't understand why you're listening to those people or keeping them arround. If it's your family, break ties as soon as you become independant.

Honestly you can achieve it by yourself and people see bootcamp as some sort of magic pill. It would be better if it was at least 4 day so you can learn something more consistent, but at least, you will get another professionnal perspective which can highlight any of your shortcomings in the area. That can be priceless. Otherwise, don't expect magic !