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That's sort of cool. I don't know if going alternative 1000% is the way to go to live a fulfilling life though. Some people can pull that off. But you are still living in a world where people make snap judgements all the time. Don't be your own worst enemy. But I would think it's sort of obvious I am trolling this thread. That doesn't mean it's not true that people are attached to something as simple as a haircut. You can be attached to your alternative non mainstream haircut or head tattoo as well though. Just as that you can be detached from your corporate accepted haircut but still wear it. What about going to Yoga in a Hugo Boss suit or Michael Kors blouse? Or are there some attachment issues with your image there?

How does that haircut even remotely resemble the haircut of the monk haircut I posted?

Haha, that's right Billy Bob!!! I think it's time you take it to the next level though.

@Old Soul we all know that a shaved head is cool and Alpha as fuck. And that the manliest of men naturally gravitate to that hairstyle. The point is that you should change up the haircut style that you identify with though. I think a thight little mohawk is the solution for you.

@eskwire if you want to go celibate fore-ever I can see how that would be liberating. But then while you are at it why don't you join a Monastery and cut all ties with everything else you are attached to. Since you are looking to detach from ronantic relationships and sex. In these New Age circles the romantic relationships are easily the scapegoat and often the do-er of all evils is seems like. But there are so many other things that you are attached to and holding you back. Your family can be, your friends can be, the TV shows you watch, the car you drive, your sports, your haircut you may just as well cut your hair off, etc etc etc. (Dont cut your hair off) I can see how going celibate could be liberating but after you decided on that then what? You are still attached to all that other stuff, the only thing is now you don't have sex. So you cut out one of the most fun things and keep all the other potentially distracting and harmful habits and people in place. I am not really getting a sense that you want to go celibate fore-ever either. I think you are just frustrated. You are like 30 something right? When it comes to sex you have been there right? Then refraining from sex for a year or so won't hurt you. After a year or two years it will still be there. You can pick it up then again. I think what you should do is set a goal. Like make X amount of salary at a new job. Or reach this weight/body fat percentage. Or travel the world for a year. Or get a degree in subject X. A goal that takes some real effort to achieve. And that will truly improve your life. And then don't quit until you have achieved that. And then allow you a relationship and sex again.

Not sure about that. Many birds try to look real hot with bright colors and feathers. Like Peacocks.

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I was thinking about this the other day. They are able to crossbreed human and animal genes now trough cloning. They did it with human and pig genes in an embryo and it lived for a while. Also we are going into an age where donor implants and computer chips get implanted in the body. Sort of a Cyborg thing. Computers are real fast, but human brains are more complex and have more 'depth' to it. But since we can mix human, animal, machine, and computer these days in one person, in the future it is possible to create something completely new. A higher functioning person/thing that takes the best of everything. That may very well be governed by a computer software program that taps into the full potential of the human brain, but at the same time overides other biological tendencies to become enlightened and to get detached. "Artificial enlightenment" lol.

We are social creatures. Love is a biological mechanism to increase the chances of us successfully procreating and surviving. In the end we are just a bunch of highly evolved monkey's.

You can love someone with your mind, your heart, and your body. Loving with the mind: This this the logical and rational look at your lover. You rationally love or do love him/her because of objective reasons. Promising/great career/dead beat Good looking/ugly Flashy car/bucket Liked by your family/disliked by your family Good credit/bad credit Kids/no kids Owns a house/lives with parents Polite/ rude ............. ............. This list is endless. But thats what we are talking about when we are talking about 'dating up' or 'dating down' . Loving with the heart: This is the romantic love. How you feel about the person. The warm fuzzy feelings. Loving with your body: This is not about looks very much. But it is about the blend of chemicals, hormones, and pheromones two body's produce. This goes mostly by scent but on an unconscious level. Some body's mix better with certain body's then other body's. Its about biological attraction. Basically it is about how well will two gene pools be able to produce prospering offspring. A lot of times people will fall in love by one or two out of these three ways. So their body's may like each other, and they love them with their heart. But rationally they think they shouldn't. (Or another combination of the three). So the best thing of course is to find someone that you love with your mind, heart and body. And they love with mind, heart, and body as well.

@clytaemnestra since the US I believe has the highest divorce rate in the world I think that the way they approach relationships may not be the best. @Rocky do you about this internet community called "The Red Pill"? It's basically a forum group of pissed off men who have developed their outlook on women and relationships. It's all about the Blue Pill vs Red Pill mindset for them. Blue Pill men are defined as Beta-male type of guys who suplicate to women and put them on a pedestal. And Red Pill men are defined as Alpha-male guys who go their own way. Me personal I think that the best way to go is probably a mix of those two like a Purple pill with a glow red. A lot of people in the Red Pill community are very jaded and bitter. At the same time it's an interesting perspective and you can take away from it what you want.

This is true. I am European but I live in the US. What you say I experience to be a big difference between dating in Europe and the US. Me being European I hold the same believes as you do what's acceptable and what's not.

It's all connected. Sex, emotions, and spirituality. And don't know if sex is directly linked with spirituality. But emotions are. And emotions are also connected to sex.

The way you describe your situation is exactly the way a lot of women live their life. They will have multiple guys orbiting around them who they will be sort of close with keeping them hoping for more, which ofcourse never happens. Meanwhile claiming that she doesn't understand what the big deal is and that she didnt know what was going on. The only reason it is even considered egotistical is because you are a guy.

What are the Attractive Traits and Non Attractive Traits for both men and women according to the people on this forum? Anything from personality, physical, to achievement traits.

@Elzhi can you be more specific?

A lot of mental problems happen because people live in unnatural environments these days. Basically not being able to get enough physical exercise and not being able to run or fight off fight or flight stress responses triggered by daily passive aggressive behavior from their environment. I have always liked this video. @ZX_man

From my experience those things I listed by far not everyone possesses. And then to have them all present in one person is even more rare. I could come up with a few more examples and some R-rated ones but that's besides the point. Now I don't have this desire to date up. If I want success, status, or money I will go acquire those for myself. But women I think are biologically wired to date up.

Thanks for your reaction. I don't see it being difficult as a reason not to try. Nothing ever happens in the comfort zone. I have heard the same thing in my career; people would not have taken up the profession if they knew how much time and effort goes into it. I have heard people claim the same thing about other careers. But I don't complain. What I am interested in to know more about is that systematic approach you are talking about and those terminologies you use.

Making money

Thanks I will look into it.

Well you know I dont like fat women. I can do a little juicy sometimes. And I like a nice booty as well. I like a woman who is smart. I like women who are as intelligent as me or more intelligent then me. I like a woman who is good with kids. She needs to like kids. A sense of humor is important. She needs to be affectionate. I love to cuddle if she is not into that then thats a real problem. Its not going to work. I dont really care if she makes good money. Thats a nice bonus but I can make my own money. I can date a waitress or a cashier. I dont like women who get cold and resentful either. She needs to be able to kiss and make up quickly. I think thats a real good quality. Sometimes I like a little bitchiness. I like it when mamma is strict on me Ohyeah and a real good quality is when she is generally can have fun doing anything. If that is going for coffee, the museum, the club, the beach, the park, watching a movie at home, hiking, road trips, traveling, etc, etc, etc. Its more fun like that why limit yourself.

Well my man like I say: "A spanking a day keeps the brattiness away" Sometimes they have to go over the knee and you need to show them who daddy is. That will fix that illusion quickly.

I can give it to you more direct. What you say there in that comment; what do you exactly offer here that not literally every other other girl in this world can offer a guy if she has the slightest good intentions towards the relationship? This is exactly the same as sort of comment that your typical 'nice guy' that you find not attractive will make: I am nice, and faithful, and I respect your opinions. Really thats it? Level up right? If that is all a girl says she has to offer then that would really not do it for me. Its a dry cake. Where is my icing? Where is my whipped cream?