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@Wisebaxter from my experience when a woman talks/mentions about her ex within the first 3 dates in any way shape or form that is a Red Flag. I hate the term Red Flag. But it really is.

Mmm that seems a bit extra. For a couple only together a short time I can understand such flare ups. But if you are together for a long time you would expect things to be more mellow.

How long have you been seeing each other?

@assx95 it just ain't going to happen dude.

Any big endeavor is like shoot for the moon if you miss you will still reach the stars. Leo is putting a lot of effort into all of this. And he is sharing it all shamelessly (in a non negative meaning). It's too easy to knock his work. Be happy you get all this presented to you for free....the bed made for you....food on a silver platter. Me growing up we got smacked over the head if we didn't eat what was put up for dinner.

That's just how growth goes. Grow grow grow.....plateau....grow grow grow....plateau...grow grow grow....etc.. It's normal.

From what I get your parents (dad) are real racists. But are you sure they are real racists or just Bigots? A Bigot is a person who will just say all sorts of ignorant racist things but at heart they are not racist. Their actions are not racist. I used to have this neighbour who would always fix my car. He drove a pick-up truck with a big American flag with the eagle on the he back. He would always say all sorts of racist things about Black people and Latinos and Obama. Then his favourite nephew would come over and they would fix cars together and grill steals and stuff, and this kid was half Latino and looked very much Latino. He would help Black people fix their car and stuff too. In my family we say all sorts of racist stuff and make racist jokes and my girl is Black and my daughter is mixed and they are totally loved and accepted. She and her family joke about White people too. If you never introduced your girlfriend to your parents maybe you should do it. They can get to know her for who she really is. Maybe at heart they really are not that racist. Maybe your dad just thinks it's funny to talk shit.

What do you consider the perfect age to have children? What age do you consider too old? What age do you consider too young?

You should not start talking about all sorts of heavy deep troublesome problems with a girl you are dating/trying to date until you have well established a relationship with her. Like 3 to 6 months in. And even then it can not be the main focus. You got to keep it light and fun. People got enough troubles already.

Trump becoming president will make him and his clan a lot of money, now and in the long run. Also in this world money and power/status can pretty much be traded in one on one for each other. Especially when a person reaches the age of around 30s.

Probably very motivated. People who earn a billion dollars are very motivated to always make more money anyways. That's why they are billionaires.

I used to live in Pennsylvania. I have been to Pittsburgh several times. Pittsburgh is Pennsylvania after all. Historically there was a lot of coal mining in PA. There is a lot of Stage Blue foundation in Pittsburgh. Mixed in with Orange. But also a lot of Stage Green. They got a whole district that breathes very Hippy/stage Green. People generally seem very friendly there. Even if what you want to do isnt really their thing they will still just let you be and do your thing. The weather isn't always very nice in PA that's true. Very seasonal. Like I said real estate and rent are cheap. Now I remember, taxes are actually high in the area. On things like fuel, and food etc I believe. For some Historic reasons. Still financially you should come out ahead though I think. I rather don't have grey clouds lingering over my monthly expenses.

@playdoh Pittsburgh is actually surprisingly nice/cool. It definitely got some Green going on, much more then I expected. It's also one of the most affordable cities in the country when it comes to real estate.

The best revenge is living a good life. Don't get even, get ahead.

Groningen, The Netherlands. I might be biased but it's a great city that got everything to offer that Amsterdam has but on a smaller scale. Also it has been 'the bicycle city' of Holland for many years I ba row. Very pedestrian and bicycle friendly.

Honestly I think you should just find someone that turns you on and that you get along with. And then Actualize together. If you expect this partner to be Actualized already you place an expectation in them already. What is Actualization anyways. It never really stops the self-improvement.

Depends on the guy I guess. From my experience when gay guys know you are straight they don't really seem to consider you an option. So it's not really an issue. Plus a lot of times they have a lot of girl friends and a lot of insight in girl psychology so they can actually be quit beneficial as guy friends.

Also a funny observation I made is that a lot of hot girls got more in common with Nerdy skinny Beta guys then big strong Alpha guys. If a petit skinny hot girl had been born a guy she probably would have been Beta. On the other hand if the big strong Alpha guy had been born a girl he would have been a big boned girl. Lol. It's like when they were created in the womb someone flipped a coin. A lot of girls at heart are Beta as hell. They just don't get questioned for it because they got fine features and a nice ass. They will watch endless reruns of TV shows. And Game Of Thrones and stuff. Watch cartoons. Etc. Actually a lot of times Beta guys can connect with a girl in some areas a lot easier then Alpha guys can. I actually have seen it enough that Beta guys can have quite a lot of success with a particular girl just doing their Beta thing. It's not all that clear cut. In the end I strongly believe you just got to do what works for you.

One thing about the whole Alpha thing....don't try to be more Alpha or masculine then you are. There is nothing more cringy then a guy trying too hard to be masculine. Embody the masculinity you already possess by 100% just don't try to go 200%. Some guys are just more masculine then others. It is what it is. If you want to to improve go 101% but no more. I consider myself quit Alpha on the spectrum. (I consider it a sliding scale). If you want to improve buy a leather jacket or something. It will be awkward as fuck at first. But over time it becomes the new normal and you will just be that guy. That's how I experienced it highschool. You got to make small chances one at a te over an extended period of time. You can't just go from being one thing to being another thing over the weekend. That would require a lot of faking. It takes years. And even then, some guys are just better fitted for it. Also being Alpha is relative. Like Alpha with women, Alpha in the job environment, etc. Also the most Alpha guys I have ever met like 90-100% up the scale they tend to be fucking assholes and I have seen them get in trouble with the law and stuff. You got to wonder if that's what you want to be. Like someone else mentioned in this thread it's basically that all guys possess both Alpha and Beta traits. Basically the more Alpha traits you possess and the less Bets traits the more Alpha you are. And vice versa. In the end it's also just a model. Even in the Red Pill community "Alpha" is just considered a place holder term for lack of better words.

Yes it's ok. It's normal.

Texting isn't that big of a deal. It's way too easy to do it too much. And to 'over game' trough texting. As long as she wants to meet up in person on the regular you should be good.

Yes you can but it can't happen overnight or in a week or in a month. But you can do it by making lots of small changes and keep doing them over and over and over again.