Michael569

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  1. The mayor difference is the psychological point of view. Running on treadmill can get pretty mundane and even depressing because it takes all the joy out of it. You seek ways to distract yourself to avoid staring at the wall or TV. Outside gives you the natural distraction of the environment, sounds and vibrations. When you run on the meadow or in the woods, you feel connected to the nature in a sort of spiritual way. Your pain is more tolerable and you are more optimistic which at least for me boosts the performance. From the physiological perspective, it is very similar and there might be slight differences like the surface. Running on pavement causes more damage than on treadmill but than you can also run on a dirt or grass. Running outside also has the benefit of versatile terrain (uphils, downhils). True you can set uphill on treadmil but it feels like a hamster on a wheel. Of course finally there is the safety element where indoor wins(although I've seen some nasty accidents due to lack of concentration or uncontrolled speed) but unless you are foolish running across highways, you'll be fine. Hence I'd definitely say outside but try both. Give them a 10 day challenge and see what works for you best
  2. There is no "One." What we see as "falling in love" is actually a sexual desire being disguised as something we call love , a noble feeling from the higher universe if you will or god if you will. Most relationships start with this sexual desire which is a result of our body and mind tricking us to produce offspring and drive the evolution and survival of human species on Earth. The real "love" is a conscious/unconcious decision to participate on spiritual growth of self or another person. In exact words of Dr Scott Peck “Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... Love is as love does. Love is an act of will -- namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love. Hence you don't find the "one". You find someone you sexually desire and once that drive is reduced, you will need to make a decision whether you will continue to grow this relationship or seek elsewhere. That is why so many couples split after they've had enough sex to start using their pre-frontal cortex.
  3. I used to be the same way. I though I had a great job and I did not really see any other way. Bills were paid, occasional travel, felt like I had all I needed. Never had a strong sense of purpose until I discovered actualized.org channel. Now I feel like my life is upside down just because of all the habits I'm implementing and actually I have more stress than I had before just because I am terrified but still believe that down the road of 15-20 years it will all connect and it will all be worth it. My advice to you is don't listen to other people but try to listen to the voice deep within you. Does it say that maybe, just maybe, there is something else out there for you? If you ask it, it will give you signs. Create a meditation habit and get in touch with your true original humanity, the tiny flame that we all have in us. Or if you have extra money, try taking Leo's life purpose course. I bet something will come out. That being said, if you feel like you are not ready or that you really don't need change, than stay as you are and see where it leads you. Maybe you already have your ideal life without realising it. And maybe the voice within you will start to grow stronger.
  4. The advice people are giving you might actually be correct but you should call it different. In our modern culture , it is not viewed positively if somebody is consulting a psychatrist. Many people see their patients as nuts and completely "out there." Similar to crazy people locked in Sanatoriums. Where in reality the true is that these are one of the bravest people because they know they want to uncover their deepest fears and go the extra miles of facing them under a guidance. Instead of psychiatrist, call them therapists or medical professionals because that's what they are. If you read "The Road Less Travelled" from Scott Peck you will understand that this way you can achieve amazing results. I strongly encourage you to look into that book if you need a motivation. A lot of time our anxieties stem from our youth, from the way we were raised but also can be based on as little as single negative experience in childhood or adolescence. I strongly encourage you to seek out a therapist. You don't have to tell anyone about it and No, you are NOT CRAZY if you admit that you need help and will work with a professional, far the opposite, you are wise because you want to work on your problems. Just a food for thought
  5. Toilet seat must not be warm
  6. @pluto that was beautiful ! Thanks for inspiring words and the wisdom.
  7. Basically it is the procedure of sticking up a hose up your butt and pumping 1-2 litres of water to cleanse your colon and intestines just as they do prior to surgery. To remove all the toxicity that was accumulated over decades. I heard that it can be tremendously beneficial, like a rejuvenation to your body and mind. Like jumping into a cold pool after hangover but I didn't have guts to try yet. Any experiences from you guys?
  8. @pluto Thanks man! I was thinking of starting with pure filtered water just to see how it goes. Bought the kit on Amazon, ready to put it to test.Also heard about the coffee cleanse, that might be my next move once I feel a bit confident in it. I'd like to make this a weekly or biweekly habit if I make it past sticking the hose up my bum Cheers!
  9. First of all, take the responsibility in your own hands. Accept what is but note that you have what it takes to change your life. In your case it may mean that you need to MOVE OUT. For me that was one of the best things that increased my growth in life. Separating myself from my family location-wise. They weren't happy but got used to it over the time. From what you say, your parents would rather prefer that you were numbnuts with no brain who would do their bidding all day long. This is a common symptom in our culture and it is a reason why people domesticate pets because they can control them and they do not talk back. Same way many mothers love their babies until they start talking back becoming hard to control so they just get more babies. Stand out for what you believe in and start looking for other options. You say you are 20, so maybe you have a university life ahead of you. Think about moving to campus just so that you can separate yourself. To sustain yourself look for a source of income on a part time job or a student internship. You say you love fitness and nutrition so maybe become a part time fitness trainer in a local gym while you figure out what to do next. It is amazing that you are 20 and already know your LP, you have a nice head start against most of us. First of all however you need to build an infrastructure to create your life purpose. One of those being, get a place where you can actually do the conciousness work. Maybe go study nutrition or sports science, this way you combine your passion and separate yourself from your parents to go live on a campus. If you don't have money, look for support programs. I don't know where you live but there are many support programs for students in each country. European Union for example has many of them and they are quite easy to claim. Or look for an employment in another country to leave your parents. Lots of times they offer employment and accommodation with little salary. My girlfriend got started that way when we moved to London and from that point she got a decent job. She worked at a hotel, although she earned shit, she had accommodation and slowly in her free time acquired knowledge and some money to move on to better job. The possibilities are endless.
  10. Because they don't see the point just like you didn't until you learned the benefits of it and tasted it for yourself. Some people are more close-minded than other and generally they will resist absolutely everything that threatens their comfort. Not only resist, but they will actively try to sabotage other's efforts. You cannot change anyone besides yourself. Change yourself and lead by an example not by commanding and criticising. Your happiness and enthusiasm will rub of them and they will want more of it and if they won't...fuck them. Your happiness needs is your primary concern.
  11. Our bodies are incredibly capable when it comes to self healing process. Tell her to be patient and to listen to her body. If she doesn't let it heal properly, she may end up needing another surgery. Exercising might not be the best idea if her scars are still fresh. However if the pain prevails, speak to medical expert instead. People on this forum are mostly not experts in the area, you may need a professional opinion of someone who's been in it for decades. Consider signing her up with a professional post-trauma rehabilitation programme. They may not be cheap but can work miracles
  12. Buy a filtration jug on Amazon. They are quite cheap these days and help you rid of the substances with large molecules that are commonly found in tap water ( iron, mercury, copper) However they do bad job with smaller substances. Just make sure you change the filter as often as suggested on instructions manual. I am toying with the idea of trying distilled water but haven't done enough research to justify the benefitfor myself. What I found though is that even though it has 0 mineral value, it doesn't contribute to your bodily toxicity the way usual tap water does. If your diet is healthy enough, you already get sufficient amount of minerals / vitamins. Filter as much as you can, you will actually tastes the difference if you live in country here the water is quite "hard" with a lot of chlorine.
  13. If your reason for heavy drinking is the social aspect and just "cooling down" it is still the better case. Unless you need the bottle to help you sleep or to let go of anxieties, you are still good. That being said as guys commented, it is fucking you up really bad. You are an intersection of 5 people that you spend most time with. If 2-3 of these are people who contribute to you getting wasted every weekend, you should consider cutting these relationships, as painful as it can be. I have terminated many of my past relationships with people that i only hang with due to certain obligation or legacy relationships from Uni or even primary school. You don't need many friends. You need people who challenge you and give you critical but constructive feedback. You need people that grow you spiritually and who you grow spiritually in exchange. Everyone else is an obstacle as arrogant as it sounds. These days I drink on average 1-2 beers per month. These I do home after a hard day or taught workout to cool down. Just don't see the point in doing it any more. It takes your money, your energy, your passion and your health most of all. The amount of damage a wasted Friday does to you is to kick back your whole healthily lived week even if you are a raw food vegan athlete living in Nepali mountains.
  14. I try to keep my mindset and nutrition/exercise on optimum level so wouldn't blame it on stress or lack of movement/ healthy food but generally noticing that I am not as interested in sex as I used to be a year ago when I started the self-actualized journey. I'd actually go as far as see it being a distraction sometimes. Although when I have sex, is more intense than it used to be which is good I guess Any similar experiences?
  15. I think what many of us face here is that once we identified out life purpose, we want to just drop every "sandback" and go all in 100% commitment. While that is great, you can't simply abandon all your obligations. Your plan is great and very realistic if you believe in it but the transition takes a while. That's why we get frustrated being in our current situation that is not fulfilling just because an all in transition could collapse catastrophically. There are few things you'll have to consider before cutting of your current lifestyle. * Will you be able to manage your life financially? * Do you have a source of income? Will you have one if your parents cut you off? Teaching student is a fine idea but first do your research, maybe print out few posters, post them around school, talk to people, do your advertisement and see if anyone is interested. Building momentum takes years. Work hard but be patient. If that means sticking to your major for now but spending all free time, weekends and nights working on your life transition, than be it. Also you can already start building your reputation on You-tube. If you are confident, make 2-3 videos, throw them out there and see how people react to it. Whenever you feel lost, revert back to your highest self, your top Core Values ( if you know what they are) often, that is a good guiding compass I find when in doubt. Your mind is good at coming with different options but your values will help you make a decision that generates happiness in your life. Start building habits like early waking up to give yourself the extra time to dedicate towards your mastery. If you really really want it and your vision is powerful, the law of attraction will bring you the life you want. Just be patient and avoid making a hasty decision. And one final tip: consider hiring a life coach if you have some extra money. Working with Life Coach opened my eyes and my mind to new opportunities and ways out.
  16. Hiring a business coach could be a viable option however be prepared to pay a bit more than you'd like. The greatest advantage is that you get an info that is very specific to your case and very much personalized. Usually you don't need more than 5-6 lessons, maybe even less. The first talk is usually for free for around 20 minutes where you explain what you are facing and they'll give you a brief overview whether this is something you guys could work on. I suggest going with a personal coach who runs his own business, not through an agency or a consulting company, as they focus a lot on corporate clients and you will be charged agency fees. Also don't go with a coach who focuses on anything from business to spirituality to money to relationships as they may not be well versed in specific topics. Try to find someone who specialises on starting businesses and even better starting consulting businesses. If you are in doubt watch Leo's coaching video that talks about ups and downs of this approach. And if you feel like this is not to your liking or maybe that it is too early, just google for "how to start consulting business" and see what you can find. There are also thousands of business courses and seminars for any topic you are interested in. Do your research. And lastly, look into some literature and just start taking notes. Books tend to be a great starting points if you feel lost as they can give you a good guidance for a start. Hope any of that helps
  17. To those of you who engage in 24 hour fasting once a week or maybe once in a certain period. Could you describe how you prepare for it? What do you drink? What benefits have you observed or researched? Anything else that is important to know for a newbie to this topic? I'd like to give it a shot but wanted to hear few direct experiences. Thanks
  18. @Siim Land thanks man, great article! Had a look at your web and some of your content, great stuff, I like the "early wake up" article, Currently experimenting with my regime but backsliding a lot You are doing an awesome job, keep it up ! Wish I was at that stage with my life purpose.
  19. In Leo's concentration video, this was one of the suggested things to focus on. Your thumb and index finger create a pressure which becomes a source of your focus. However I've read that many of ancient oriental Mudras actually had healing or other spiritual purposes like elevating anxiety, energy circulation, increasing positivity, acceptance. Haven't tried myself and not sure I believe in them either but wanted to ask you guys whether you've tried any Mudras and whether they had any effect on you whatsoever?
  20. @Arman thanks, awesome explanation! I'll take your advice and just leave it be for now. Also not sure if I want to base my results on some external "forces" that I have no knowledge about. I suppose the Law of Attractions play a big role as well. If you believe it works for you, it will..
  21. @Shin yeah, you still need it but the urge even when you are super into it is just not as powerful. Not to mention things like tasty food, pc gaming, party, alcohol all of those I used to do a lot, the will to do those things is just not there anymore. Weird stuff indeed
  22. @Prabhaker thanks for the insight. I think you are right. Quite often I thing about other ways I would prefer to spend the time & energy than to have sex. I assume for most (especially single ) guys this would sound completely nuts since that is often a number one priority. Or maybe it is like drugs that once you've had enough of it in your life and you feel this side of your life satisfied, you can move on towards higher values. Lot of my energy currently flows towards the my life transition, exercise and studies so maybe it is simply a question of having no energy left.
  23. I've identified my LP as something being completely out of what I studied and work in. Decided to return to Uni and study for new degree as a part- time and work full time during it. Haven't figured out where exactly do I want to turn my career to but i suppose I will clarify this during my studies. Scared shitless and worried about finances and my future but I know that if I don't do it, I'd regret it till the day I sign out from this non existing reality.
  24. You should see a medical professional for this sort of concern. Forums such as these may not give you the advice you really need.
  25. Let's say you were to explain to a person who has never done any self inquiry and personal development, what spirituality is and why it is important. Not talking about religion or the standard understanding but about practical and conscious spirituality practice. How would you define it?