Raphael

@Pallero What is your budget? I'm very interested in travelling, but I don't have much money.

@Key Elements Well, compared to average people, my lifestyle is already a little different as I meditate every day, do self-development work, and take care of my physical and mental health. However, I sometimes think about being homeless and travel the world with few personal stuff. I'm a little into minimalism as I remove more and more useless things from my life. I sometimes think about go live naked on a desert island or in a forest How about you?

Yes

I'm really not an expert, it's only a thought that I'm having right now. I think that we first remember bad experiences because they are much more enriching than the good ones. When we badly fail at something, the most painful it is, the more we learn from it. Therefore, such experience is going to be useful for an entire life, as we generally don't want to suffer we remember it.

I don't listen to a type of things in particular, but today I've watched several motivations videos and listen to a study music on youtube while working. When I procrastinate I tend to watch stupid stuff on youtube, but also read a lot of politics and news in general. I know that it's not helping me, but I'm sometimes so bored with everything that I'm just clicking on random links on the internet.

Hey everyone I need help and wise advice here. I'm currently a college student doing an internship that will end in less than one month, I'm going to drop out of college because it doesn't satisfy me. But, I have no job for the moment, I plan to return to my parent's place the time to find a job. However, I know that I will not be able to stay there my entire life, and if I don't find any job I will maybe become homeless. I don't like my family so much, living with them is going to be difficult again. A big problem that I have is a lack of motivation, I was really motivated in the past but my world collapses more than one year ago when I realize that what I was searching for was only success and that it will never make me happy. So, I'm completely lost from one year now. I'm a vegetarian since almost one year and I go to the gym four times per week. I was very skinny and shy most of my life, at school, I was bullied because of this and that led me to depression and social anxiety, so at the gym, I like to push myself. I did a lot a progress since two years, I'm not really so shy nor depress now (thank you so much Leo), but I'm completely lost and bored with most things. I was thinking that the gym would help me to sleep and reduce stress, but it didn't change anything. I'm really stressed and cannot sleep at night, in addition to that I'm always tired. I've recently bought three food supplements: 5-htp, magnesium, and maca. Yesterday I've taken two pills of 100mg of 5-htp, I was still stressed and didn't sleep well. During my days I always feel sleepy, so I tend to procrastinate and read/watch stupid shit on the internet whereas I have three fucking reports to write. I try to wake up early and not sleep too late, but because I take times to fall as sleep it's rare that I get at least 8 hours, so my days are difficult and unproductive. And there's also enlightenment, I'm not enlightened, but I meditate every day for 30-45 minutes, sometimes more, sometimes less. More and more I meditate, I feel like "It's ok, you will be homeless, you will die, it's ok nothing is important, it's not bad to be stressed, to procrastinate, to do stupid shit, to waste your life". I think that my ego is playing with me, I'm stuck into doing and going to the truth, I cannot decide, and nothing happens anywhere. I fell lime I'm missing some theories about enlightenment (I've watched all of Leo's videos on it), and also enlightenment itself. If outside it feels like I'm calm and relaxed, it's not the case inside. My brain is like a tornado, I'm bored with all theses people always complaining about their life where I'm not. Sometimes, I think like "Let's go to the street and slap all theses assholes in their face", or worst "Let's go and rape someone" (I'm still a virgin who never had any relations with girls). But I don't take this seriously, and hopefully, don't take any action on it. I consider myself as an open-minded person, enough open to admit that I'm unconsciously closed-minded in some fields. I always try to put myself into others perspective, so I don't do any of theses silly things. So, I'm stuck now, can someone help me? Thank you

I meditate just after showering and before going to bed. I've read in one of Leo's insights that it's maybe not the best time to meditate, but I don't have any other time and I know it's better for sleep if I disconnect myself from distractions before bed. When I meditate, I sit on a chair with my back straight, hands on my knees. I've been meditating for more than one year now, when I've started I was concentrating on my breath, observing my mind and always trying to bring it back to the now when it was going into monkey mind. I did this for severals month, then one day I've had a very strange experience which I've described here. After that, I choose to not try to do anything while meditating, and now most the time I'm trying to let go. I can meditate for one hour and I also do a 5 minutes concentration meditation after waking up in the morning. The results that I get until now are quite awesome. I mean, it destroyed my entire world and really kicked my ego in his ass sometimes, but it helped me a lot on social anxiety. I don't take peoples critics very seriously now, I'm still sometimes afraid of doing unfamiliar things, but it's really less painful than before. Now, my problem is that I don't know what to do with my life and where I'm going

Hey ! I know what you are feeling, I have the same problem, but my states are more irregular and not so black and white. I'm currently not in my best state from a little long period (maybe one month), but my bad states are not so bad compared to yours. I don't have a lot of motivations, but I don't think that my life sucks, and I'm still meditating every day. I've had periods in the past where I didn't meditate for several consecutive days. Currently it's a little hard for me, I'm stress and under pressure because I'm going to quit college in one month and I don't have any job, but my still meditating, eating well, doing sport five times per week. It's very difficult for me to sleep, I'm a little sad and anxious My advice for you is simply to not give up your goods habits, you need to break the loop, you will have to do another big effort to reduce the bullshit. Good luck man !

"Don’t be distracted by surface appearances or unnecessary features; start by solving the immediate problem with a “beautiful” solution." I've get it from this post.

It's a nice place for medidation and personal introspection. The do nothing technique is working well

Hello, I want to show what is meditation to a group of people that maybe don't even know what it is. I want to make them feel quickly relaxed and calm in 3 minutes, so I did this : Be in the present moment and put all your attention on your body. Feel completely your body, from your foot to your head. Notice your respiration, feel this movement in your body. Feel yourself breathing in and then breathing out. Notice every others sensations. The pressure of your body on your chair, notice your heart beating, feel your clothes on your body. Now let go of everything that’s in your mind and just be in the present moment. Let go of everything else and continue to feel your body. Imagine that there is no past and no future, the only thing that exist is this present moment. Notice the sound of my voice, now notice this silence. Become the silence. You are this silence, you are calm and relaxed. Enjoy this moment. I’m going to count to ten, when I’ll will be at ten you will open your eyes. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10. Open your eyes. What's your thoughts on this guided meditation ? Thanks

No it's not for a youtube video, it's only for a school classroom. I don't think that it's too short, I've already done some experiments and it seems that speaking more make concentration a little bit harder. I'm going to make some blanks of 5 - 10 seconds and speak slowly.

Hello, over the last three month I've been seeing a psychologist to help me work on myself, but I found that it's a frustrating waste of time. In more than three month I've didn't learn anything on me, and it's also seems that she doesn't like her job and has some personnal problems. There are many blanks in our sessions where no one have nothing to say, it's very awkward. I feel resistance to speak with her, our sessions never last one hour it's more 45 minutes. It seems that she is pressed to end the session. It's just like thinking alone and doing some personnal introspections, which I already does and I also meditate 40 minutes per days (10 when I wake up, and 30 before going to sleep). Should I stop seeing her ? Until now for me it's just a big waste of time that can be useful for doing other stuff.

I've cancel my next appointment and chose to stop the therapy, but she called me recently. She said that she did some researches on a diagnostic center that can help to specify my type of disorder (development, etc.) and which therapy could be better for my problems, than a simple psychologist. @Lynnel I've already saw three of theses videos, but I didn't really applied it. I actually know that this is what I should do, but my ego is always very resistant. So like Leo's said : I speak a lot of shit, but didn't applied this to myself.

Thanks for the answers guys, I've never feel good at speaking with her since the beginning. With Leo's videos and others content that I've read/watch I already understand more the way of how my mind is working and that the big problem is the ego. Another problem that I have is social anxiety, I'm a very (very, very, ...) solo person, I've thought that it was great to see a psychologist to help me on this point.

Note : English is not my native language, sorry for language mistakes. Hello everyone, I've start meditating five month ago for 20 minutes and now I am starting to be a little more advance. It's past midnight for me, and I did my last meditation two hours ago, I don't want to go to sleep because I'm scared of what happened to me during my last meditation. After a moment I've start to have some tingling sensations (if the expression is correct) in my right hand, my breath speed increased, I've stayed like this but my timer rang, and then I opened my eyes. I was feeling very lightweight and in a state of vertigo, in a certain way I wasn't really in my body. This sensation scared me a lot, after this I've start to do some movements, to run very quickly because I didn't wanted to die. This was my sensation : feeling of death. Now I'm afraid of meditate, and going to sleep. What should I do ? Is it normal ? Have you ever experienced sensations like this ? Thank you

Since this experience I don't look at myself the same way. I don't always feel that my body is really me, sometimes I have the sensation that a part of me is floating around the body.

After reading some stuff about astral projection, it seems quite similar to what I've experienced. This is not the first time that I have tingling sensations in my hands, the first time I stopped quickly. Last time I stop myself when my timer stopped, I didn't pushed it too far actually. I'm not even sure about what I'm going to say, but I think that I have a memory of a top view of my scene, but I don't remember any view my body.

I didn't sleep a lot these last days, I were tired during my meditation. Does it matter ?

I don't know it was very scary to me, I don't want to die. After I quit my public bench I felt that I could fall if I don't try to control myself.