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This could help.

Oh. I thought this is your first time. Do as you want then. But I don't think your self enquiry is gonna be of high quality there. The energy and atmosphere in there is made specifically for vippassana.

First could be dissolusion of karma. But this doesn't sound like something Leo would say

Sorry, I realize that this was not the kind of advise that you were looking for you just wanted some quick advise on how to initiate interactions or smth and we give you this spiritual stuff :D:D But do you really want an advise like that? I can give you some if you want. Be confident, speak laudly, smile, know what you want to talk about, keep eye contact. But is this really the kind of advise you're looking for? it's not gonna solve much I think To be honest I'd recommend you to try something from sadhguru. Either yoga or kriya or something. There're many things that he offers. Especially because his beginning programs are highly focused for things that you're talking about. Good life. Happyness. Easy living. Joy. Love. Friends. Health. Energy. Adventurous life. It's made like this on purpose. That you satisfy your basic needs and then the other programs are then about nothingness and shiva and enlightenment and stuff. You said you're looking for those things. Sadhguru would be helpful to you. Other meditations like self-enquiry or vippassana doesn't care about your happyness. It's goes straight to the enlightenment. But you say you don't care about it. So I think sadhguru would be what you're looking for.

There's some truth to that. But you can cultivate your desire. Educate your desire. For example whatching Leo's videos can greatly inspire you to do self actualzation. I for example every time listen to sadhguru speak about spirituality I get so hiped to do something, some meditation retreat or smth. You can cultivate your desires like this.

That's my same question here. This no-thingness has an intelligence of it's own. And this no-thingness can perceive apparently

@Leo Gura wouldn't it be more accurate to say that. Yes there is a perceiver but perceiver is not a thing. It's not physical. Nonetheless, it exists. What do you think?

Could it be that the reason you have trouble with friends is your inseciurities and psychological issues and all those anxiety stuff? In that case. If you want to have good relationships you need to fix yourself. And to fix yourself you need to meditate see, anyways you need to meditate you can't escape it

I love your honesty

First rule of finding friends or a girl friend is - don't be desperate of having one. If you're desperate to have friends people will pick up on that. Learn to be without friends. Then everybody will want to be your friend because you're not needy anymore. Whenever people see desperate person looking for a relationship, it's like a walking trouble. Bhuddha abandoned the whole world, now world can't forget him. That's the most attractive quality in a person when he's not desperate. In fact, being desperate is never good in any sphere of life

Without interpretation we would not survive here for a moment. One couldn't tell a difference between a rock and an apple without interpretation. It's just visual colors in your eyes. We make the meanings of these colors In fact even colors are interpretation. You can actually see things with zero interpretation. Just the way things are. Not the way your mind interprets things. This is some Zen level achievement here. But it's possible very much.

That's absolutly terrible idea But I still recommend you try out vippassana.

Are you also self-enquiry practicioner? Somehow I noticed that only advaita people go on talking they're enlightened

You receive data through your senses. And then you attach meanings to what you persceive. That's called intrepretation. For example, you hear someone talking. It's just nosie actually if you listen. But you interpret that noise into meanings. Wanna hear something interesting? The moment you experience life without any intrepretations will be the moment you get enlightened good luck

@winterknight what do you think about Mooji or Papaji? What mudra do you keep, or where do you keep your hands when you do self-enquiry in sitting position?

Best thing is not to have any identification. If that's not passible yet, then the second best thing is to have one pointed identity with your teacher or guru. Also I heard that if you have strong identification with the body you will be much more about sex and pleasure. It's better to be identified with your mind. When you're identified with mind you become more about your future and what to do in life. If you want to know where your identification is dominant. Sit silent for a few minutes and see if thoughts are comimg about people and relationships, then your body identification is stronger. If thoughts come about your future and plans in life, then identity is with the mind

What are you trying to make?

Sorry I fixed it.

So one person thinks wow her personality is so amazing and you start feeling positive emotions. But still the emotions are happening from within you. You're just using external means to make yourself loving. It's like you're on the push-start. Now you think without some reason you can't be loving. You need another person otherwise it's not possible. That's not true. You can make yourself loving without any reason at all. Simply, nothing is happening, but inside you're sweet and loving. It's very much possible. The need for another person is there only because one is not capeable to be loving without extarnal stimuli, if you know how to be loving from within you would see, the need for a partner is gone. But the beauty of relationship multiplies many times because you no longer extracting happyness from another person. Now You're a source of happyness by yourself to everybody. ?

When you say reciprocal love, do you mean like two people in a relationship stimulating each other, stimulating sweet emotions? There're two ways to be loving. You use other person to stimulate your emotions. Or you're on self-start. That means you generate love from within. That means you sit here in a total love affair with a whole cosmos, everything is under your love, not just a specific girlfriend. And there are methods to do that in two to three months. It's simpler then simple. If you're truly on self-start you'd not have any problems in any relationship at all.

Depression and negative emotions are numbing. It's a slow death in some sense, poison for your soul. Love exhilarates life. It's intense, it's vibrant it's alive and blossoming, it food for your soul, it's the opposite of numbness. And it's always full of awereness and no ego or very little ego.

If you see some beautiful quality in a person. Like wow he's so loving, wow he's so joyful, so detached, so peaceful, all inclusive or whatever. And you want to inherit that quality. Then you ask them and follow their advise as to how do I become loving like you, joyful like you, detached, equanimous, all inclusive, whatever. Then anyways you don't need to know if he's enlightened. This knowledge if someone is enlightened doesn't bring you anything in the end.

That's not true. There's something valuable to learn even from a begger on the street. It's much smarter approach to life when you don't care who's enlightened and who is. Just wanting to become free from suffering and looking for answers from everywhere is a smart way to be. Then even an ant can be your guru. Whoever is of some help to you to grow - use them. Who cares if they're enlightened.