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Could sharing be your Life Purpose?

Check if that's a reaction to something that happened to you early in your childhood. Just a possibility.

just shut up and do it you sucker

@Leo GuraHey, thanks! After contemplating on it, I found that forgiveness was a strength that I had developed over time because of many conflicts that I had when I was a turbulent child. That led to the need to forgive, for the sake of mental health. Although it was originally brought about through negative motivation, it has now become a part of my skills. I did another test in the same website + 1 children test (because I'm 17) + 1 children test on another website. I cross-checked those with my intuition and now I have a list that feels very authentic. It includes Forgiveness. Amazing course! It really opened my eyes to my authentic self! I'm on the ~57th video.

I have done the exercises and have 5 Character Strengths. From those 5, only 1 feels like a Signature Strength. It's not clear if the final Strength List is of all 5 or just the signature ones. Because I feel like this 1 strength is really within me but the other 4 are not.

@Leo Gura Ok, so I did that and got strengths that resonate more with me. Forgiveness and Mercy keep popping up on the tests. I'm skeptical to whether this is actually a strength or that I am good at stop caring about conflicts and accepting people after a while... (is that a strength?).

As I've been raising my awareness, I've come to notice more often gut feelings. These feelings become very apparent when I am about to do things that I don't really want to, but rationalize myself into doing them. When I became acutely aware of this phenomena, a word popped into my mind - intuition. After watching Leo's video on intuition and doing the exercises on the worksheet, I was blown away by the power of this phenomena AND how I've been suppressing it since I was a pre-teenager. Intuition As A Guiding System After a lot of journaling, I came to realize that you can decide ANYTHING based on your intuition! When you get in touch with that core feeling, you don't need to bully yourself inside your mind into doing stuff anymore. Nor do you need to explain to yourself in your mind (as from a friend's perspective) why you're doing what you're doing. There's no need for justifications, intuition is more right and more powerful than any rationalization! The biggest blunder for me was thinking my way around intuition and completely ignoring it. Acting upon life through logic-exclusive lens. If you're doing ANYTHING, whether it is deciding what you want to eat or what you should do with your life... feel your way through it. This was such an amazing insight for myself that I had the urge to share it in here, even though there's a lot of content on this topic. After having acquired this insight, I reviewed all the events in my life where I ignored my intuition. The same theme occurs again and again: ignore gut feeling of what's right and think, think and more think. What happens when you follow your intuition is that your Personal Integrity rises to the top. You don't boost your Personal Integrity by writing down laws by which you act. You do it by doing what feeeeeels right deep down inside. Intuition vs. Pursuing Comfort Don't confuse intuition with pursuing comfort. One thing is what you deep down feel it's right to do or pursue. Other thing is what's more pleasurable and emotionally easier. What does your Higher Self really want?

I'm trying to figure out my values and I'm having some issues 1) I love the feeling when everything fits together, whether it be in maths, programming, the universe, design, conceptualizing... And I like creating stuff that gives me that core feeling. I don't know what to call this "value". 2) I love creating stuff. Is this Creativity or Productivity?

Dude, you asked her on facebook. On fucking facebook. From what I understand, you have very low Self-Esteem and, really, you're just a starter on this stuff. Face your fears and start approaching girls that you find cute. Yeah, it will be fucking terrible the first time, but it will get better eventually. Looks seem a big deal to you because you don't really understand women's psychology. Yeah, it seems that the only problem is your looks...... but women don't look at men the way men look at women. It's a biology thing. BTW, if you really suck and have no social intuition with women, this book can be a hell of a kickstarter: You still have to invest emotional labour into this... learning math theory won't make you good at math unless you practice... same thing applies! https://www.amazon.com/Manual-What-Women-Want-Give-ebook/dp/B00FZ6FCXY/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1495289706&sr=8-2&keywords=The+Manual

@Leo Gura I'm curious. If you're enlightened, then anything that happens to the ego is not relevant. Why did your enlightened friend refuse a higher dosage after puking? After all, all that puking must haven't caused any suffering, if he indeed does not identify with his ego, right?

What's the most efficient process for dealing with the Shadow? I hear many people talking about it, and in many books, yet I wonder 1) How do you actually know what's in your shadow 2) How do you own what's in there

I'm at the same place... Love computer engineering, programming, making beautiful code and creating beautiful systems that work with each other. On the other hand, I want fucking Truth am I right?! Truth and Personal Growth are some of my top values!

Your negative thoughts never stop do they? So isn't that pointless?

yes

I should get rid of things that fit in my Zone of Incompetence. What about things that support my Life Purpose or that are mandatory for my success, yet I suck at? If this is the criteria I use for doing things, doesn't that defeat the whole purpose of working through obstacles and improving in the various areas of life?

I was following Leo's video on the Hero's Journey (on his Life Purpose Course) and somehow I got emotional and started revisiting my childhood memories. I played an inspiring speech and started a deep process of visualization. I visualized myself throughout childhood as this little kid and I gave him LOVE every time. In every situation, place, time, I gave that kid all the love I could and knew how to give. My love language is physical, and as such, I gave him LOVE with hugs. I loved him all the way. In those moments, I started crying, and lots of tears came out of my eyes. I stayed in this state a few more minutes and gave LOVE till there was no more LOVE to give... I just accepted him, looked at his big eyes and loved the little creature. Now, the kid is no longer in my arms receiving my love. It's full, it's playing in the park, dancing and being innocently happy. This was the speech I was listening to (not intended for this type of work, it was just a mere coincidence):

Yeah, I would do something to get to Solitary Confinement and then Meditate 24/7

True. This wasn't my first session, and it won't be my last. The first session I did a couple of months ago, I thought I was finished, but not so far...

geniussssss

Yeah, in the 2nd month of my meditation I almost fell off track and did not meditate (I meditated just 5 minutes). It's the homeostatic system at work. You have to push through it. There's no magic pill to this. Emotional labor is required. If you're not serious about it, might as well not meditate at all. Make a vow to yourself to meditate for X minutes every single day. The days you grow the most in willpower are the days where you least want to meditate.

I think so. Boost the time. I know Leo says that you shouldn't boost the time freely like that, but even though I lose focus 5/6 times per session of 10 minutes, I find that the concentration still develops. I'm at ~10 minutes now but I occasionally bump it up to 30 or 60 minutes. Also, the first effects of heightened concentration can be appealing and feel really good but eventually that good feeling effect wears off.

Well, it's to expect that concentration practices will be hard for you since you have ADD.

I'm doing a lot of research on this psychedelic and an idea popped up that doesn't seem to be addressed nowhere on the internet. Would a concentration practice of, let's say, 1 hour right before, be useful for entering the experience more smoothly? If one has a more focused and steady mind, there's less space for resistance and over negative-thinking, is there not? @Leo Gura

It inspired me to meditate harder and longer and to join a retreat with my cousin who is now also into spirituality!

If there's nothing I'm truly passionate about then I have no purpose, no mission, and I'm not enlightened yet