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The sentence "I don't know" feels like the most honest thing I have ever said. Truth seems relative. Compared to "I don't know", everything else feels like a lie.

Does Leo know about this?

Then why are we here on this forum? What are we searching for?

Acceptance is simply recognition. For example, you spill coffee on the floor and you're thinking: "No, this is not happening!" See, this thought is a lie. A lie is the opposite of acceptance. On the other hand, acceptance would say: "Yes, this just happened. I'm gonna clean it up now." So, acceptance always says "yes" to everything that happened because that's the truth. But you see, acceptance is not passive, instead, acceptance acknowledges what happened and it reaponds with the appropriate action. In other words, acceptance is the opposite of the denial of truth.

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@BETGR164128 Sorry if I misunderstood you. I might be more helpful if you give me a specific situation to work with.

@Gnosis what I meant is that every relationship is different, every single situation is different, every second is completely different than any other second. Nobody can give you an advice that you can religiously apply to any relationship and to any situation. You have to be constantly aware and you have to constantly learn everything about every situation. How else do you want to be functional? I personally don't take relationships seriously in my life. I let people come and go as they wish. The only thing I care about is to express myself from my deepest authenticity. And this authenticity wants to help people in their evolution. And this translates differently to every situation.

I think you are missing the most important part of it all: consciousness. The difference between functional and dysfunctional is the level of attention that you direct into it.

Every single nanosecond that's passing by right now is a little death of the existence. It will never come back. Is this a tragedy? Meditate on this.

This is a pretty deep question. My way of dealing with this is that I don't try to be in any fixed way. There is an attitude in me that wants the best for everyone around me, so I simply act on that. If I feel like my co-workers need more politeness at the moment then I am becoming more polite. At another time, if I feel like my friends need some funny insults then I'm delivering that. It's like transforming from a person into a harmonizing factor of the present moment. The key is to not to take the social game too seriously and then you can easily change your character to fit any situation in life. Just flow with it.

@Mongu9719 what I meant is that I don't experience what you experience right now. And I don't believe in anything other than the here and now. It seems like I'm sitting in my room right now and I'm hearing the music that is playing and this is all I know. This is the only thing that exists for me right now. I don't believe in entities behind the scene because I don't believe anything that I don't experience right here, right now. If you experience entities right now, then this is your experience right now, so this is what's true for you. But the mental stage behind what you experience doesn't exist. There's nothing behind the scenes. Only the here and now exists. Only experience exists.

"Just" staring... Don't underestimate staring. I've taken many kinds of psychedelics but "just staring" had one of the deepest effects. It's amazing how deep our experience can get just by reducing a bit the sensory and mental noice.

Every one of us is experiencing a different reality, so I don't know what's true in your one. What do you feel right now? What's true for you right now?

The simplicity of this description is amazing. What were you doing when you had this experience?

It's because of beauty. Like, do you know the Mandelbrot fractal? It could be just a nice Buddha shape, and it would be still beautiful. That would be the case if the universe would take the simplest way of creation. But it's not taking the simplest way. It's creating much more complex forms because it's always creating ever higher levels of beauty. Look how beautiful can be the complexity of the simplest mathematics:

@ivankiss You're building a religion, aren't you?

Yes, you can put it like that if you want to be poetic. I was referring to mental answers.

I'm glad I could help

That's a very good question! So how can you ask a question without making the mind active, right? The answer is: you don't ask your mind, you ask your whole being. It's like asking: What color is my hand? You don't let your mind answer, you just look at your hand and you just watch it. Or: What's the sound of silence? You don't go to your mind, you just listen to the silence.

There was a few weeks of period when I listen to this video every day. Later I listen to all his audiobooks and it totally changed my attitude to life. If you feel pulled towards his talks then listen to them. You have no idea how transformative can it be.

Self inquiry is not really about finding an answer. If your answer to the question is THIS, then it might be helpful to start asking the question What is THIS? Or How is THIS? In my case, self inquiry is teaching me to live with ever deeper questions without the need for any answers.

It's helpful to realize that you cannot speak love. Love is not something that you say, but it can be expressed by words. And it can be expressed in many other ways. For example, if you see people having an accident then going there and telling them how much you love them doesn't have as much love in it as calling the ambulance. So the quality of love is not about what you say, it's about how you express it. And this leads to here. I love @ivankiss, just like I love you @zeroISinfinity. But telling you that I love you doesn't have as much love in it as giving you something that actually helps you. So I gave a peek into the freedom from perspectives because I felt that this gift expressed the most love.

That's true. But saying that love is all you need is a perspective in itself. It's not more, or less true than saying that unattachment is all you need. Or clear seeing is all you need.

I have to disgree with Leo here. The theory that everything has its own consciousness can have a huge role in awakening. I'm not familiar with Rupert Sheldrake, but if I understand you correctly, he's saying that everything is conscious and that consciousness is an interconnected phenomenon. It's kinda the same as saying that everything is an infinite mind. Actually, it's a theory that you can test for yourself, but science will never accepted this method of testing because it doesn't have an external result, it results only in an internal realization. The method is the following: Let's start from the base statement and let's try to prove it: Everything is conscious and consciousness is interconnected. So if this statement is true then you are conscious, your shoes are also conscious and there's a communicative connection between you and your shoes. I think you can discover the connection with a few meditation sessions. (You don't even have to wear your shoes for this ) If you're willing to do the experiment then come back to me after you meditated on this a few times.

Somehow this never worked with me. I'm like a schizophrenic person who constantly juggles with multiple paradigms without letting one paradigm have its place and time But it's giving me a great sense of freedom when I'm not attached to any perspective, when I don't take any position. And when you let me see your perspective, I wanted to give you another perspective on the topic of self and other. If you're the type of person who wants to discover other perspectives then I recommend you to read again what I wrote from the beginning. I was trying to choose my words very carefully. If not, then just let it go, it's not that important anyway