Zenterus

@Hojo Thank you for your response but none of what you said relates to me. You don't know me nor her nor our dynamic like that to make all these assumptions. I will say that one thing you're right about is that I will learn from this experience and grow from it.

Bro, men are way more superficial than women are, what are you talking about? If a woman isn't physically attractive, the average man wont even look at her direction or even pay attention to her other attributes. Women will do that. You can be an ugly guy and have some weight on you yet if you have a solid personality and you are a man to the core then women will develop an attraction to you. Men have it so much easier when it comes to dating than women when you look at the dating world from a holistic perspective.

I personally dont like the idea of it. I feel like the moment you get married, as a man, the likelihood of you getting screwed increases dramatically. The beautiful thing about being in a relationship outside of marriage is that you're both free to leave without much of a hassle or legal/financial consequence. This makes it so that both parties, generally speaking, try their best to keep their partner happy and engaged in the relationship. However, once you sign the marriage contract, the incentive to work on your relationship goes down drastically because marriage provides a false safety net in the form of legal repercussions in case of a divorce. Thats how people end up in sexless marriages, getting nagged, putting on weight and becoming unattractive to their partners and, eventually, divorced. I understand that this is a very negative view on marriage according to some. But marriages have been on a massive decline for a reason. So, if anything, I find my perspective to be pretty close to the reality of the situation. You can make it work, but the numbers are against you.

Sounds good man. Again, its via tinder so no need to do too much flirting since the context already sets the tone for the date. Have fun on the date, man! Let us know how it goes.

Do what feels natural. I personally wouldn't hold her hand but if the girl gives you a very warm hug, you can go for it.

Alright, man. Before I say anything else, just know that this is just a learning experience. Don't get too emotionally invested in this. Have fun with it. But to address what you said here: Do not have her be your tour guide. I've done that before and ended up regretting it. You are the man, you lead. I don't care if it's your first time in the country. You still act as if you know what's best. Trust me dude, even though it doesn't make sense logically, this is what the girl wants on an emotional level. I suggest you do your research, find 2 spots nearby your house and ask her to meet you somewhere nearby and just be like "Hey, you like tea/beer/coffee/matcha? Cool, I just saw a cool spot on my way here, let's go check it out" and just lead. Now, as for keeping the conversation going, I would recommend to make a list of 5-10 things that interest you and 5-10 interesting questions that you could ask her. Conversation skills are a whole thing to talk about but a simple formula is 1] ask question, 2] she answers, 3] you give your thoughts on what she said or tease her based on the answer she gave and 4] share your own perspective on the topic. So, for example: You: What is the most adventurous thing that you've done recently? Her: I went bungee jumping! It was a lot of fun. You: Oh fuck yeah. I always wanted to do that. Not gonna lie, I thought for a second you would be the type that says 'oh, I once snuck out of detention' or something, so I'm glad you did something *actually* adventurous, haha. Her: Hahahah, what about you? You: Coming to Thailand is definitely up there.. etc etc --- Don't overthink it, though. If the girl likes you - which she clearly does if she's going on a date with you - she will carry some of the conversational load as well, so don't fall into the mindset that you need to entertain her. This is a two way street. As far as flirting goes, that is a biiiiig topic as well. The basic idea behind effective flirting is that you want to talk to her as if you're evaluating a future relationship with her either in the positive or negative. So, for example: Her: I looove to dance salsa! You: I knew there was something off about you.. Her: Whaat?! What do you mean? You: My mom told me to stay away from salsa girls, they're too dangerous That's an example of you playfully disqualifying her for dating. Here's a positive example: Her: [Talks about something she's very passionate about] You: Okay ... You need to stop talking to me with all this passion cause I'm gonna fall in love with you and I'm way too busy in my life for that shit. So slow down please. Her: hahahha -- I recommend that you come up with some flirtation lines of your own or just look some up online. I would honestly not worry too much about it though because this is a date from Tinder, so the girl already knows what's up. I would focus more on giving her very strong eye contact and glancing down at her lips every now and then when she speaks. Nothing fancy. Now, when it comes to escalation and motioning for her to sit closer and stuff.. fam, this ain't rocket science. Literally say "come over here, I don't bite" and tap the free space between you on the bench. Then put your arm around her and just keep talking as if nothing crazy is happening.

I typically just give her a hug and say "long time no see" as a little joke.

Awesome, man! Happy for you Ok, when it comes to dates, you have to be a man and lead. So, although you're just going for a walk, make sure you plan where you're going to walk and where you want to instant date. Unfortunately, leading is a huge topic that I just dont have the time to break down now, but I will say that you want to be decisive and have a lot of certainty in what you do. Pick a location to meet that's nearby your house. When you guys meet, tell her "lets walk this way" and lead her straight to a cafe, restaurant, bar, whatever. Dont do lunch btw. Do a beer or a tea or a coffee. Shit like that. There just vibe and have a good time getting to know her. I usually try to pull, but i wont confuse you with all the mechanics of that. Focus on having a pleasant date with her first. After your drink, take her somewhere else nearby your house, such as a bench or a park or whatever. Talk for a bit then motion for her to sit closer to you and put your arm around her shoulder. Keep talking, talking, talking. And then you can say something like.. "would it be terrible if we kissed right now?" No matter what she says, just slowly move in to kiss her - unless she responds with "yes," which in that case just say "i agree" with a smile and continue the conversation like normal. After that, talk a little bit more and tell her that you have somewhere to be later and end the date. This should last anywhere from 2 to 3 hours. Im trying my best not to overwhelm you and give you a very simple gameplan, but follow your intuition and most importantly, just have fun with it. It's not the end of the world if it doesnt go anywhere.

Bro, ignore @Looks. Literally every post he makes is empty garbage. @Leo Gura Please look into his post history. He might be worth a warning if not outright banning from the forum. @fopylo As for you, homie, keep doing your thing. Instant dates might be a bit too much for you at the current stage you're in, but if you want to give it a try, go for it. I will say that at a more advanced level.. instant dates are not efficient. They cost money and dont guarantee a date, plus they risk potentially lowering your value in daygame cause the girl might start perceiving you as someone who isnt doing much in his day to day life, hence why you have all this free time to spend with her, which she hasn't earned. I personally prefer sitting girls down on a bench for a few minutes to solidify the number and then bounce. Although, instant dates are useful if you plan on pulling the girl home after you solidify a connection. But then again, sitting on a bench can work just as well.

@Leo GuraI respect that, although I found that these types of openers rarely result in a normal solid interaction. But then again, everyone has their own style and strengths, so yours may be to make these types of openers work, while that may be my weakness, who knows. Do you still go out though? You say "my wings and I give each other.." in the present tense.

@Leo Gura RSD popularized the idea that the opener doesn't matter but I found that concept to be false. The opener absolutely matters and it becomes clear in the extremes. If you approach a woman saying "hey I want to fuck you" you will most likely get rejected (although not always, I've had it work), conversely if you approach with "hey I want to meet you" it will go a lot better most of the time. These are extreme examples, sure, but they clearly illustrate that the opener matters. A good opener lets you start the conversation in a positive frame in which the dynamics are in your favour. A bad opener can set you back in the interaction, leaving you to play catch up instead of moving forward in a positive direction. My favourite way to open these days is by putting the girl in a negative frame and then having her fight to work out of it, after which I reward her by validating a more positive identity for her. For example, I approached a girl last weekend with "You.. You're a red flag, you know that? I saw you earlier in the night, I see how you move. My mom told me to stay away from girls like you." Of course she reacted with "Whaaat?!! WHYYY??!!" And that opener set me up in a position of power as she spent the rest of the interaction trying to prove to me that she's a sweet girl, actually. After a bit of banter, I finally gave it to her: "You know what? Maybe I was wrong actually, you do seem to be a bit of a sweetheart." Transition to rapport building and normal get to know you and boom! Solid game right there. Would I recommend this to a beginner? Hell no, cause if the woman shit tests him or gets offended, he won't know how to reframe it in a positive way. But I found these to be great openers, much better than compliments or random statements that come to you in the moment. The opener absolutely matters at an advanced level.

The less good looking you are, the more polarizing you have to be in order to punch through her emotions and leave a strong impression. The more conventionally attractive you are, the more you can just lean back and focus on normal conversation and rapport.

Dont listen to this person..

Game was invented to emulate the behaviour of high status men that naturally attracted women through their ways of being. These men - whether they are rich or poor, handsome or not, tall or short - exhibit these behaviours because of their inner psychology. A man who believes he is a catch will naturally behave a certain way that is aligned with that mindset and women, who are biologically attracted to signals of abundance and strength, are going to notice and gravitate towards that man. The problem with a lot of inexperienced guys is that telling them that they're enough, sexy and cool and should, therefore, behave as such is not enough to create long lasting change in them. Therefore you first teach them the behaviours. You teach them technique. You teach them theory. And then as they adopt these behaviours and the world responds favorably as a result, it makes it easier for them to slowly start seeing themselves as being attractive because of the results that they get. The end result of game is not the behaviour, it's the mindset they adopt over time. The longer you stay in the game, the more your insecure and needy behaviours get punished out of you and the more your abundant and strong behaviours get reinforced. Then one day you wake up and you feel like you really ARE the cool guy. You always were. And in fact using pickup techniques takes away from the power of your being. At this point in my journey, I'm just being myself and women just vibe with it. I dont think in terms of pickup theory anymore. I am enough and that's the goal.

@fopylo Man with 10 years of cold approach experience here. Look dude, you're overthinking this and the comments here are not helping you much. Forget about scanning the girl to make sure you actually like her, forget about having elaborate openers and the right way to do this, etc. Whenever you're learning anything new you have to small chunk it: Pick the one main thing that you absolutely need to work on yo get to the next level and once you've mastered that then move onto the next. Right now your main issue is approaching, so focus on that and forget everything else. This is what you're going to do every day: You approach 3 women a day. That's it. Whether is at a bar, the mall, the street, the grocery story, doesn't matter. Approach 3 women a day directly. Don't worry if you want to have sex with them or not, don't worry about their attractiveness, don't worry about having a conversation. You're not there yet. These are all things that you can worry about later after you stop shitting your pants at the idea of approaching. For now, all you should be doing is approaching 3 women a day. Everytime you see a woman, just mustet up to courage to go up to her and say "Hey. I'm on my way to [the gym/school/work/wherever] but I have to say you look amazing!" That's it. Thats 1 out of 3 approaches for the day. After you do that then you're free to walk away. You won. If you end up having a conversation then great! If you end up getting her number, awesome! But thats not your mission, those are just extras. Your criteria for success is going out, approaching a girl, saying the above line as smoothly or as badly as you can muster and then walking away and doing that for a week straight. Simple. Master that and then we can talk about the next steps.

Bullshit. The term alpha male was coined to label the behaviour of a really cool guy called @Zenterus so that other men can mimic him and be as cool as him. Problem is that no matter how many men try to emulate his behaviour, its always a poor mans version of him. Ultimately he's the coolest of them all.

Internal abundance is the way. Just like you, I've been through phases in my life where I've dated multiple women, or had multiple options or leads and I found it to be very unfulfilling and dull because I didnt really care about any of them. Also, being attached to the idea of being in abundance with women puts you in a needy state (funny enough) where you're constantly searching for more and more abundance which is a scarcity mindset, actually. At this point in my life, after 10 years of pimping, I'm in such abundance that I wouldnt even call it abundance. It's more about being indifferent actually. Im good not having a girl in my bed tonight and I'm good if I do. It matters very little to my quality of life. I focus on my daily routine and working towards my goals, because these things ACTUALLY fulfil me. So if I happen to click with a girl when I'm out then cool, but I'm not going to try too hard to make it happen and if it does, it has to be in my pace and under my program. Basically a take it or leave it attitude that is independent of whatever external results I may be getting with women. Im in such of an indifferent frame these days that i often forget to get back to girls, or don't notice if a girl takes long to text me back or I simply dont ask for a girl's number if I dont feel it 100% That said though, when you're learning and developing your game, being attached to physical abundance isnt such a bad thing as it forces you to play the game at a high level and master it rapidly. But once you've gone through the journey and come out the other side solid, then having this more relaxed attitude is better long term.

Some people get horny and they just rub one out and move on with their day. That doesn't come as easily to me. I've been in pickup for almost 10 years. During that time, I used to practise nofap, eating foods that were natural aphrodisiacs, swore off porn (on and off) and had a habit of actually having sex whenever I was horny. I've come to realize that that lifestyle is no longer serving my higher self. I'm currently talking to this one girl who I see great potential with long term and I really want to straighten myself out before I find myself in a relationship. Today, I spent like 3 hours edging because NoFap conditioned me to retain as much of my sexual energy within my body for as long as possible. If I were to relieve myself sexually, it would feel like failure. Yet, If I don't, then I can't get shit done, since I'm extremely horny and I will be tempted to go out to the club and try to pull a girl. Now, is going out and pulling bad necessarily? No, not really but I hate feeling like a slave to it. I hate feeling like going to the club is something that I'm doing with an agenda behind it rather than something that I'm enjoying deeply with the potential of meeting a woman and hitting it off being a bonus I don't mind integrating pickup and sex and women into my life. But I'd rather it be a natural byproduct of who I am as a person rather than something that I'm focusing on or go out of my way to pursue. I've seen glimpses of that in my life, but then I have days like this one, where I'm completely enslaved by it and I don't know if I'm just fighting a losing battle against my own nature. There is no question. I know the path I must follow. But I really needed to vent all the above to whoever is out there willing to listen. Thank you.

Im sorry for taking your comments seriously. You're clearly mentally challenged in some way. Wish you all the best!

Uh.. no i dont. I masturbate once a week. Crazy how this discussion devolved into a discussion about NoFap when the reasons behind my masturbational withholding is due to pickup programming. 🤦🏾‍♂️

Strap up, this'll be a long and powerful value bomb for your game. If you look through my post history, you will discover that after 10 years of pickup experience, I've become quite disensitised to it all and have grown to resent the entire paradigm as it is taught. However, after looking through this sub, I've realized that while I'm doing my dramatic exit, there are so many men who are just now entering the community and may fall victim to a lot of the misguided advice that is often given in pickup forums and other sources of dating-advice-for-men information. So, in spirit of that, I thought that I might as well do my part in making sure that the new "gamers" dont fall into the same traps that I did while I was developing in the game and maybe ensure that the future of pickup is more holistically sound in the process (hopefully - I'm only one dude in a very niche forum, afterall) Anyway, the first topic I want to tackle is the topic of direct game and why this is not only negatively affecting your results, but also negatively affecting the women that you meet. Before I get to my breakdown of direct game, I first have to state the following disclaimer: This is an ADVANCED topic. Reason being that in order to get good at pickup you have to be comfortable with your sexuality and your desires as a man. That is the foundation of all of flirting and masculine confidence. If you lack that within yourself, going direct with women and experiencing the positive reactions that you get from it, as well as the results that will come as a consequence, is a great way to prove to yourself that it is okay to be a sexual being. However, at an advanced level, direct game is simply not the optimal strategy. Let me explain. 1. It creates a low value dynamic This is the ideal story: Girl meets a guy by happenstance. They engage in a very fun interaction and it becomes clear to the girl that she has very good chemistry with this guy, who also seems to be pretty cool and someone who she actually respects and admires. Additionally, she feels a certain vibe between them that is sexual/romantic in nature but isn't sure if she's reading too much into it or if she's feeling it accurately. The guy seems flirtatious with her sometimes but then also dismissive other times, which adds to this tension. As a result, she remains fully engaged into figuring out where this is headed and becomes more and more invested as time goes on. The more they get to know each other, the more the guy moves from dismissive, playful and indifferent to more interested and genuinemy impressed by the girl. The interaction goes from light and fun to more authentic and congruent. She feels like now they're genuinely connecting and that her initial suspicions of an underlying vibe were correct. She's aroused, she's excited, she feels the tension in the air and now she's certain he feels it too as things naturally progress into more and more intimacy. Sounds familiar? If not, then here's a hint: This is how women typically experience a natural romantic progression with a guy who they meet through their social circle – which is where the average woman typically meets the men she dates. The problem with going direct, is that it skips a lot of steps and can create a dynamic in which the woman isn't sure about you, yet your direct statements of interest make it clear that you are absolutely sure about her. Therefore, she's still evaluating you while you're kind of already sold on her, which is low value. One way that PUA has found to offset this is by doing push pulls; meaning showing interest and disinterest back to back over the course of an interaction. It works very well and I definitely advocate for them. However, I do believe there's a superior way to open, specifically, that emulates more of the natural progression that fits into the romantic narrative stated above. Emphasis: USE PUSH PULLS. They work great. This thread is mostly focused on Opening. 2. The girl has to make a decision with very limited information. This is big. Cold approach will forever be a number's game, no matter how good you get and how much you optimize it. But direct game is the ultimate number's game because all the girl has to go off of is how you look and the confidence of your approach. It's very common for guys who purely do direct game to experience 10 nos in a row before they get 1 (maybe) yes. And the funny thing is that those same 10 women who initially said 'no' to you on your approach, could've been crazy about you if you had met them in a normal social setting in which you had no romantic intentions expressed and simply got to know each other as people. What holds guys back from realizing this is the reactions they get from direct game. If you approach a woman directly, she has an instant reaction to your boldness. She laughs, she blushes, she reacts and guys who have low self esteem or who dont have much experience with women need that positive reaction as a sign that they're doing well. However that is a false positive and your results reflect that, if you are honest with yourself. How much a girl laughs and is amused in the interaction has very little to do on whether or not she will want to sleep with you, date you, invest in you. All that actually matters is her perception of you and the unique chemistry and connection you share with her and if a girl rejects you within the first 5 minutes of you talking to her, you cannot establish neither of the above in a positive way. 3. Over time it can kill your reputation among women Especially true if you live in a small city but just as valid in bigger cities as well. The thing with cold approach pickup is that it requires a high volume of social interaction for you to get results - even if you're advanced, there will always be a numbers game element to it. Over time - within a span of years or even months maybe - you will start encountering women who you've previously approached in the past at random locations. This could also happen in a closed environment, such as a club, where you're bound to run into the same people again (depending on where you live) either the same night or over the span of multiple nights. Now, if you game properly, as I will explain later on, then this is perfect! You can re-approach without it being weird of awkward. However, if you're the direct burn-it-to-the-ground type of player that goes all in and shows all his cards right away, then it will result in you having an awkward reputation eventually. Now, having a reputation isn't necessarily bad, if you know how to handle it and use it to your advantage. But I'll tell you this, for sure: Nothing turns a woman off more than when she finds out the guy who she's dating has been running around flirting and complimenting and getting rejected by the majority of women in the city.. especially when one (or a few of them) turn out to be her friends. 4. Closes the door for a more nuanced approach to game (social circle, for example) The highest forms of game are subtle and allow you a lot of manoeuvrability. Let's say you approach 2 really beautiful girls. Both are hot, both look good and you'd be down to actually date either one of them. But for the sake of directness you choose one of them to direct your intentions to. However, you find out that not only do you not have that much chemistry with her, but that she also has a boyfriend! On the flip side, her friend is way more interesting and engaging to talk to and she's single. What do you do? Switch targets? You could, I've done it and had it work out. But the vast majority of the time, the girl will just feel like the backup option and reject you even though she might have been interested in you. Alternatively, let's say that both of the women have boyfriends but they're super cool to talk to and you'd actually be down to befriend them and potentially even meet their attractive friends By approaching them in a very direct, polarizing manner and then trying to switch to being their friend you run the risk of them perceiving you as a loser who is trying to sleaze his way into their pants through the friendzone. Again, low value. Now don't misunderstand me; It can still work - practically anything can - but it's just way less likely. You want to approach game in such a way that allows you to be flexible within an interaction, whether that is switching your target or the frame of the approach itself, while also maintaining a high value perception of you in the woman's eyes, and direct game isn't the optimal approach for that. The optimal approach: Before we get into the actual approach, let's lay down some foundational principles behind the Opening style I advocate for: - Attraction is not a choice. You don't have to tell a girl you like her or be overtly flirty with her for her to feel attracted to you. If you're a cool guy, who is sexy, dominant, assertive and fun, she will get attracted to you whether you directly established that frame or not. - Being the buyer not the seller As established previously, the ideal story you want a woman to experience emotionally when you're interacting with her is one where she's uncertain about your interest level at first and then slowly - the more you get to know each other and the more she impresses you with her character - the more your interest grows and becomes more obvious. That way, your interest, feels more earned and special. - It just happened Romance should feel spontaneous, genuine, authentic and fateful. No woman likes the idea that her was man sitting at home plotting, strategizing and pracising his approach for weeks and months on various women and she just happened to be the one who "fell for it." Women want to feel like things just naturally came about and therefore your opening style should reflect this fantasy. Now, one last point before I tell you the best way to approach. I must emphasize that this post is about OPENERS. I'm not saying that you shouldn't flirt at all or never convey your sexuality to the woman. What I am saying is that your sexuality and intention should be gradually revealed - mostly through the vibe but also through the subtlety and implication of your verbals, which is a topic for a different day. With those principles in mind, the best way to approach is indirect direct. What does indirect direct mean? It means you approach from an indirect high value frame while still maintaining your dominance and "potential suitor" vibe. This means you should still hold strong eye contact, speak with authority and breaking rapport tonality, be expressive, be leading, etc etc. But open the interaction in such a way that doesn't immediately give away your intentions. This does require some creativity on your part, but lucky for you I am feeling generous, so here are some mental frames you could embody on your approach: [] "I'm already having fun and loving life and here I am sharing it with you, just cause I felt like it." The frame speaks for itself, but it's one predicated on you living a full life, having fun, doing cool things and on your way to live this cool llife of yours and you just felt like sharing some energy with a stranger. I discovered this years ago when I noticed that whenever I was travelling, going to a cool ass event or coming from a badass hangout with friends, my approaches would go so much better because I would approach from a completely different frame. Like, I'd be hanging out with friends shooting the shit, making inside jokes and such and on my way home I would just approach a girl in a very self amusing way by using one of the inside jokes I had with my friends earlier that day as an opener. The girl would have no context for the joke and wouldn't get it, but the vibe did the talking. So, how does that look like in practice? One way you can actualize this frame is either by actually, you know, living a dope ass life or by doing warm up approaches with the sole intention of just being silly and having fun with the women you talk to rather than getting a result. That will eventually pop you in the zone which will make the above frame very congruent. As a training wheel for this, try approaching a girl from the frame that she approached you and you're flattered but not really interested. For example, "Hey excuse me. Look, I just wanted to say that I appreciate the confidence, really, Im super flattered! But I'm not looking for anything right now. You seem like a really cool girl, though. We could totally be friends. Hope you dont take it personal!" And continue the interaction as normal. Just for funzies. See what happens. [] "I'm on my way somewhere, living my life, but I'm curious about something, real quick." This is another great high value frame and, compared to the first one, its more easy to apply. It is self explanatory, instead of going direct, you approach from a place of curiosity. "Hey, excuse me. Im on my way to [whatever] but you look very creative and I've been meaning to meet more like minded people. Are you an artist by any chance?" Very simple. Of course, modify it to fit your personality and genuine interests but you can clearly see how this type of approach not only conveys your unique value system but also can potentially spark a more genuine interaction from a place of common ground interests. Of course, to reiterate, you do have to gradually reveal your sexual interest in her through your vibe, eye contact, tone of voice, dominance, etc. Don't get stuck on the curiosity frame without switching to a more personal "I want to meet you" type of dynamic after establishing some basic rapport. [] Teasing Another great, playful way to open that sets up a very flirtatious dynamic without being explicit and direct about it. Again, the frame you should be coming from is that you're already living your life and she just caught your attention by accident after catching her doing something silly or ridiculous. I'll give you some examples below off the top of my head, but keep in mind that these should be said playfully and with positive energy: 1) You see a girl wearing all black. "Sorry, I have to say.. you got that emo look down! Haven't seen that since the early 2000s, takes me back to the good old days. What's your band's name?" 2) You see a girl walking down the street with a very serious expression on her face. "Excuse me.. you look like you're on your way to beat someone up and I'm here for it. Who is getting jumped? I'm ready, let's go!" 3) A girl is out with 2 of her friends who are currently talking among themselves without her "Hey you.. *sigh* I totally feel you right now. Being the third wheel sucks. I know that feeling. Fuck your friends, we'll have a secret conversation of our own here and get them jealous ;)" The above are merely a few of infinite examples of various frames you could embody and their applications. You could also approach by asking for directions or to share a random experience that you just had which you just had to share with someone, or to ask for an opinion, etc. As long as the opener falls under the principles and theory laid out here, it will successfully set the correct dynamic for a proper seduction while side-stepping all the negative aspects of the direct approach. Now, let me be abundantly clear: Direct game still works. Especially if you're creative with it instead of going out with these lame, cliche, low effort openers such as "you're beautiful" or "you're cute." What I'm saying here is that the direct approach just isn't optimal long term and will stagnate your potential results, if that's the only way you know how to approach women. Hope this was helpful.

My buddy just texted me: "Wanna do some game tonight?" I'll update you tomorrow.

As someone with a massive DONG, I can assure you, it's very overrated. I've dated a lot of women who, although I had great chemistry with, we just couldn't have satisfying sex because of my size. That would end up frustrating both of us and then we'd end it. I wish I had a shrimp.

As stated in the beginning, this is Advanced advice. If you barely approach women and have never gotten any results from cold approach, this advice wont work for you. I wrote this for guys who are actively in the game, who have worked in their grooming, their dominance, their charisma up to a certain level where it works passively for them and want to improve further.

The more you do it the better, cause you get disensitised to it. Schedule a day where you will do 30 approaches back to back, just for the fuck of it. Doesnt matter if you're attracted to them, just do it to get into a flow. Also, it could be that you're viewing this as an obligation or work rather than a fun time. If you can reframe your approaches as you just having fun and just playing around then it wont be as nerve wracking. It could help to meditate and visualize yourself approaching women from a relaxed, fun, value giving place in which you imagine the woman loving you and responding well to you, until you reframe the whole ordeal in your mind. Another common reason that you might get stressed is because you feel like approaching women is somehow weird and thus are afraid of being judged by people around you. Here are my thoughts on those: 1 - As for cold approach being weird, I would recommend that you go to a night club for 2 consecutive days in a row and dont approach anyone. Just watch. What you will observe, if you're sharp enough, is that men are approaching women, women are giving out signals to men, people are flirting, people are hooking up, people are going home together. Women want to meet a cool guy and men want to meet a cool girl. Nothing wrong with that. You're not weird for going after women you find attractive. In fact, its the most natural thing. If most guys had the confidence to approach women in the day time or at random locations sober, men would be doing that en mass. In other words, just by the fact that you're willing to do it makes you a catch by default. 2 - As for people's judgement of you, I'll put it like this: It doesnt matter. People dont care as much as you think they do, first of all, and very often their judgements of you are more about them than you. When I see a guy approaching a woman, it boosts my respect for him, but then when some incel loser sees the same event take place he is hating. Who's right? Who knows. Doesn't matter. Think about all the times you saw people do weird things in public that make them stood out. So you remember their face? Would you be able to recognize them if they were standing in front of you in the starbucks line? Probably not. I once saw a guy in a crazy attire filming a music video in the middle of city square with loud music blasting. Everyone was looking at him. Judging him, humoring him. He didnt give a fuck. He's living his life. And honestly, if that same guy walked past me on the street today, i wouldn't even notice. People are living their own lives. No one really cares what you do, so you do you.