universe

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  1. You might want to drop that desire to become a real man and become a real woman finally. ❤️
  2. Yes. Spending 50% on living and food expenses is also acceptable.
  3. Good question. -Always see yourself as the victim. So whenever something doesn't work the way you wanted it to go, blame others for it. To the point where you have no responsibility whatsoever. -Focus on lack "There is not enough". Are you sure you can even afford food tomorrow? And remember: It's not your fault inflation is so damn high. Someone else got something you wanted? Great! Focus on the fact that now there is less of it available for you. -Increase your needs Wherever you go your needs can hardly get met. Your need for approval, love, security and control are insatiable. And even if you get a lot of it, you crave it again the next second because as you remember, yes, you are completely in lack of everything. -Talk bad about others (behind their back) You have to be very vigilant about noticing whatever is wrong with people around you. Especially people in your social circle, close friends and family. Even if they seem perfect from the outside, they are hiding something atrocious. You know it. Tell their friends about it. Bonus: Mention that nothing they might try to accomplish in their life is possible. -Self-Fear Absolute Fear. You fear everything - people, objects, ideas, yourself. You have a specific world in your mind and nothing you see fits what you have imagined reality to be. Instead, it tries to destroy your world. You can not accept that, therefore it must be feared. -Resist everything You did all the above and now you finally feel depressed and anxious. Don't let this go to waste. You have to keep this up. That's why change is to be feared and avoided at all costs. Whenever a feeling comes up - push it back down. Try to store as much emotional energy in your body as possible. Also resist what others (enemies) do or say. -Tense up Roll with a gentle tension in your body. This is the best way to resist whatever you might face throughout a long day. But you can also mix it up by getting really tense from time to time.
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  5. Are you a man or woman? I looked at your profile but it wasn't mentioned there, sorry if I missed it in your post. In general you should not let things like this pass. It's part of growing up to set boundaries. Whatever you might thought of as o.k. or tolerable in your childhood, you should examine your beliefs and see if they still hold up to your standards now. To set boundaries you state them calm and firmly. State the consequences if someone breaks them, then follow up with those consequences once they are broken. You do not need to be violent but don't be afraid of confrontation and tension either. Is S like this to everyone? If not there is something in you that makes him think that it is ok to act that way. It could be valuable and eye opening for you to find out what, if that's the case. If he is like this to everyone just throw him out with the help of the others.
  6. You maybe have completed one heroes journey but then in another area of life you will start a new one or you are already in the middle of it. Or you have multiple heroes journey throughout different stages of your life. The heroes journey is all about transformation and the way in which humans usually deal with it. It's also very much tied into story telling and culture. And you will find it in movies like -Matrix -Lion King -Star Wars -Lord of the Rings Watch this video, it will make it easier to asses in which chapter you are in right now.
  7. Depends on who you ask. In general, yes. Being a professor also helps. Though nowadays maybe not as much as 50 years ago. But still. Why do you ask?
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  9. There are many reasons for this. Just to name a few, because unlike men, women don't get aroused by just looking at a man. They are not like a light switch, instead they are more like an oven, which gets hot gradually - over time. And also because a woman will have to know you before she will be attracted to you because of personality. These are generalisations of course. Then you have the whole social conditioning going and there needs to be a way for a women to assess wether or not she will be safe with you or not. Some men actually use this technique and will find a match. It is not what you say. It is how you say it. Women are like military grade scanners. They will locate your true personality, find your hidden agendas and know where to push in order to collapse your whole machinery. Most guys come with a paper plane and crayon on their faces and think that's enough to outsmart them. I'd recommend you to learn and master communication and social dynamics.
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  11. Question your beliefs. Are things really the way they seem to be? Ideally, you wanna exhaust all stages to a degree and integrate them fully. They are experiences and perspectives. What can you do to change your experience and perception right now? How can you change your perspective?
  12. As @flowboy already said. This goes deeper. Think therapy session deeper. Techniques and just approaching won't do the trick alone. They are too surface level. Also invest in a good coach who knows about these deeper levels, has been there themselves and can show you results. Do your research. You want to gradually transition to making going out fun. If you always think about it as hard, there is this pushing energy and you will exhaust yourself. Do it for the fun first, girls come later.
  13. Yes. Even better if you can love it. ❤️ But identification works on a different level. If I turn a hetero man into a hetero woman, he would stop craving images of naked women on the internet. If I turn you into a kangaroo you'd never crave social media one second again.
  14. If you can I would definitely focus more on life purpose first. Learn the skills and get some work done. Hey, maybe it's good that it didn't work out between you two. You will find a better women for you which maybe you'd otherwise have never met
  15. Yeah relaxation is definitely important. Maybe you also had too much anticipation. Sex with someone else is different to masturbating alone.
  16. Get a girlfriend. And then you can also install some wild beliefs like "I am not someone who looks at porn". And/Or "Porn is cheating and I don't want to cheat on my gf". It's not that hard to quit porn. The question is just do you really want to?
  17. Sounds great! You can do both. Psychology and art, as a holistic approach to life.
  18. Great report! Yep, psychedelics will get you absorbed into experience. Your paradigm shifts. It's good that you took a low dose, so you will be better prepared for a stronger one. Set & setting are really important so take your time and a dose that feels good for you. Body high on LSD is nice. Felt healthy to me on regular LSD. I always feel like my experience on psychedelics is way to sacred in order for me to turn on the TV. But that's just a bias I have. ❤️
  19. Remember our Guidelines and stay respectful to each other. Thanks.
  20. It is, everything is about you. It shows the way you perceive reality. Imagine someone explaining: What's the point of engineering, we build a bridge but it collapsed immediately. What is engineering today? While building the bridge we spend so much fuel and energy. Fuel we could have used on the boats! Finally, there was so much corruption going on and some people were really grumpy while on construction. And that is what our society has come to? I see people engineering all around the world, it's sad. I think Leo is correct here (16:50) Still, I can enjoy a party. And I understand why people do it. It's fun to celebrate. Do it however you like.
  21. Take responsibility. If you want to connect and meet with other people it is your job alone to get that stuff going for you. It's not humanities fault for having shitty rituals and society with their bad habits, don't make it so easy (in the long run very hard) for you. If one person on this planet made connections at a party then it should be possible for you, too. Resourceful, abundant thinking vs. fearful and lacking.
  22. Confidence comes from your emotional state. Lower your needs and you will become confident. You are afraid that someone won't like you? Afraid of not having control over the situation? Afraid for your safety? These are all needs that you can lower and lower. If you have them super low your emotional state will rise naturally.