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Feel the sadness and rage. Welcome it. Its all good. You just try to suppress your feelings, that doesnt work out.

You are a bit too direct. Do some small talk first. Laugh and have fun. This way you can already see if she has time or not right now. If she is in a rush, you can calibrate. Whish her a nice day and leave. If she has time for small talk, maybe around 5 minutes, and doesnt seem to be in a rush. THEN you can ask her. Also if you are making plans for future dates, suggest one or two days (maybe Friday afternoon and Wednesday evening). If she declines and doesnt suggest any other day its a good sign that you are wasting your time.

Who told you to be nice? You dont have to be nice. Just be ImHooper.

Im not sure you and me have the same definition for success And also if it would be like that. I guess there are 864729101 people who have a vision of ruling the world. And then there are even more people who have a vision of living a life of freedom and peace. Which kind of goes against each other. So by making one person fullfill his vision you denied thousands or millions their vision. Have you checked out Leo's video on the related topic?

You need to chill more. Chill more with all the calculating and especially with how harsh you are on yourself. For doing something that is pretty normal to do. Most people do so, to some extend. Its helpfull if you dont want to get fucked over by someone. CreamCat already gave some good advice. Here are my suggestions. See how much you value your relationship(s). And I dont mean "Ah you mean everything to me" kind of stuff. You really need to reconsider materialistic and interpersonal worth. How much is this relationship worth to me? And is it a good decision to risk it for x-amount of money. I think people around you might also feel that you are not generous with your money. Which in turn makes them less generous. Maybe try to be more generous and other people will be, too? And if not, what does it say about them? Then you might also want to look at your relationship with money itself. What does it mean to have money? Is getting money hard or easy? Is there enough or too little? Maybe its just that you are living above your means (because your boyfriend earns more). You could tell him that its stressfull for you and you could try to live more frugal. Or find some other solutions. Either way, I think it would be good to talk with him about it

Yes. Time doesnt exist. Sorry time! Sometimes times goes by slow, sometimes fast. I found.

It will depend heavily on what the actual value is. And then again what the value means to you (everyone has a slightly different view on each value). If honesty would be my value I would maybe call all my friends and tell them something I was afraid to tell them before. And would maybe encourage them to share something with me. You could also ask yourself "Where am I bullshitting myself" or "Where am I not completely honest with myself". You can do that every day, every week, every month. Just make it a habit. Then feel into what stops you from being honest, what are you afraid of? Then release this fear. Im really not that experienced with releasing emotions but I think most techniques work well. For me it all comes down to 1. feeling the emotion. So most likely, when your are at home you dont feel "fear" or what ever you want to release right now. So you need to bring it up again. You can do that by imagining again the situation where you felt that specific emotion. Do it as best as you can. Then the emotion will start to come out again. So after you can feel it now 2. you have to say yes to it. Give that emotion space to be there. After all you just summoned it right? Also there are no good or bad emotions. Just emotions. If you feel utterly like shit and highly depressed. You can be thankfull for having this deep feeling right now. It means you are human. Then repeat step 1. and 2. They will increase like a spiral. After you agreed to the emotion. It will grow more. Then it will be harder to still say yes to it. You do it again and it grows again. It will grow more and more and more. Until you cant even imagine how you can feel so much? At this stage you might have puke. Its normal. When you have purely felt the emotion and might even learned something from it. Then the emotion is happy that you listened and will go away. Such is life. A good book might be the "Sedona Method", the Yes-Technique Is really good. Should be in the book.

Well it depends on what you define as being the best. But if you mean it like in being "successfull" like making a lot of money, banging a lot of chicks, being on the higher end of the social hierachy. Then its because of survival. The ego is constantly in fear of being erased. Of dieying. So the number one interest for the ego is survival. The more ressources, the better. Then comes validation. Because like foreign countries, it doesnt exist if no one acknowledges its existence. Then there come many other things it wants and how it does what it does to suck power and validation from you. Yes, stage orange dictates this behaviour. The ego follows it because its the best way for survival in orange world.

Heavily depends on your state in life. 1. Depressed -Inspect what in your lifestyle gives you energy and what depletes it. So getting rid of junk food, video games, netflix, youtube, porn. See where in live you give away power/responsibility. Where are you judgemental. Where do you hurt others? -Do stuff that gives you energy. Drink lots of water, do some sport, eat some fruits, eat some nuts etc. Find out what activity that is for you. Meditation, Yoga, Do nothing. And as leo said, aligning yourself with your life purpose. Figure out what you value in life and work towards it. 2. Normal -Start embodying your values. Find ways to embody them more and more. -Define life purpose. Learn about your life purpose. Practice your life purpose. -Network and surround yourself with people who share your values. -Psychedelics, solo-retreats -Learn about emotions. Release emotions like fear of death, fear of loosing control and fear of not being accepted. 3. Almost enlightened(?) -By now you have figured out practical ways to live your values. So you are almost always maxing them out. Allocate enough time for these practices. -Share what skills and knowledge you have with others. Find one or more student(s) you can teach personally. -Find ways to inspire a revolution you like to see in the world. -Gift your life purpose to the world. Allocate time to create, create and create! -On an emotional basis: You feel aware, calm, complete, free, centered, love, peace -Visualize and materialize what improves your situation and release every barrier that comes up. -Break down dualities to non-dualities, become very lucid. These are just three made up stages to get the idea.

I like your observation! Yes many things are refurbished. But there is also original stuff evolving. Emerging from infinite intelligence. Words, music, ideas, pictures. They are all tools. Tools to express yourself and mostly to manipulate (can be good). Now if you dont fit these to our current culture, to our era, to a person, to YOU etc. To make them appealing. Then your tool doesnt work. No matter how original or new it is. At which point you could just stop with it.

Its only hard because you think that you are important.

Yes, I remember back when I was younger I got bored. I was bored? And I distinctively rememebr reading a book that described a person who was never bored. How he wasnt even sure what the concept was and he was perplexed when his friend told him he was bored. It is so long ago I dont remember which book but must have been some of that self-help stuff out there. It really changed how I looked at boredom and made me decide to never be bored again... It somehow emotionally and logically convinced me. So if Leo would make a video about it he might look at what boredom is. What is it essentially? Its kind of a state, in which you are waiting. Waiting for something to happen. Something entertaining maybe? Maybe if you realize that you dont need to be entertained in any way. And become fully responsible for making things happen on your own, your problem with boredom will be solved.

Here is a list of 10 things that are harder: -Meditation -Self-Inquiry -Getting in touch with your emotions -Stop labeling / non-needy perception -Yoga -Getting rid of neurotic behaviour -Making money -Being grateful -Breaking through beliefs that put you down / the barrier around your heart -Start to build a habit of practice and learning in your desired life purpose -Learn to embody your values to the fullest I could go on and on. There is so much that is harder than getting over boredom. The last time I felt bored was maybe 10 years ago

Allright cool. Its just advice tho. Actualized doesnt force you to become this spiritual guru. You are learning a new skill. Lazyness is one thing. Sitting on your computer is one thing. Getting validation in an online forum, having deep cravings for an intimate relationship, a deep need for having control over your surroundings. Go inward and see what is really there. There lies great potential in you for unlimited change, growth and contribution. Build a strong relationship with yourself. Be someone you can trust. You know people who have great coaches in their life and learn so fast? You can be that coach for yourself. When you found out what you want to accomplish, get the skills, get the practice and at the same time learn that there is nothing to accomplish. You are already complete. There is nothing wrong with being lazy as well. But it will make you deeply miserable if its a way to run from your problems. Being miserable is ok, too.

You need to think bigger. What excites you? Also do you feel insecure about becoming a psychologist? Maybe you have a resistance because you feel like you cant do it. You can work on that resistance.

Feels to me more like you feel lonely rather than bored. Thing is, even with 1000 friends you will still feel lonely. We are alone here. You dont need someone else. When you can accept that. Go ahead watch some of this videos https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand Then apply yourself in the real world. You will make friends pretty fast.

This is a question an intelligent AI may answer?

Easy. You bring it into consciousness. Do this exercise. Ask yourself if you can give yourself love and acceptance. If yes. Ask yourself if you can give yourself yet a little bit more love and acceptance. If not. Ask yourself what is stopping you from giving yourself love and acceptance. Feel into it. Repeat until you are at the point where you cant give yourself more love and acceptance. There are many techniques to release emotions. One starting book would be the sedona method. You can find more if you just search the internet.

Seems to me like you are still emotionally attached to him. Let go. You cant move forward if you are still holding on to some thing of the past. Over romanticizing past relationships also happens to many people. We tend to only think about the good stuff and forget about the bad stuff. Or the other way around depending on the movie we want to play in our head.

Well you are lucky. Life is a love simulator! You are already whole, release the resistance that comes up to feel it.

What exactly is that value? What behaviour do you mean? In general, if it is something that is important to you then its your value! The importance you assign to some values will change during your life.

And dolphins! You dont know what these fish dolphins are up to! Topic: Much of his appeal to the masses is his charisma and debating skills. Only watched a few videos in 2018 I think.

Read the replies here in this thread. There are many ways, meditation, experience, reading a book etc. Its your job to see what works best for you. Everyone is different.

How much did you learn in this time? 1.5 years is really not that much. I have a friend who coaches and has around 10 years of experience. Not saying you need that. But if this is your purpose, go all out for it! Read everything you can find and practice a lot. Leading by example, people need to be convinced that you are actually good.

Its your ego and needyness for validation and control. There are many ways you can go to grow out of that. When you realize that you dont need either validation or control you have grown.