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maybe I should have put it on the intellectual thread. Facepalm

If we found a way that communism works fine, do you believe is good or bad? The way I see it it's good, because it's actually everyone has the same money with other people. Why would someone be against this? I don't know anything about communism or capitalism, I am completely cluless, so I try to understand better. Maybe I am wrong , maybe I am right, I don't know (I want to learn).

I think I am one of those men, can't learn game for various brain reasons, no humour etc. . I think I will focus on art, languages and becoming 10% body fat (which may never happen) . Do you really think a ''loser'' can find a gf? I don't think so. It wasn't meant to happen to me, determinism is cruel . If things could improve it would be different, but they can't. I wish I could cry to feel better, but it doesn't come out, LOL. Please note, the advice ''learn game'' doesn't work for me cause my brain is wired differently and I have low IQ. People also tell me I have no low IQ just low self confidence. No, I have low IQ, I know it, I can see it, it's so sad that some people have low IQ. That's why I want to know if reincarnation is real, so I go to the next life, but I am so coward I am going to stay and live this life till the end. I am not a pessimist, I am a realist, if I was high IQ I would not have a problem telling it or keeping it to myself. I really needed to vent. Do you think dying a virgin is a big problem? Are any of you in the same position? how do you cope? Thank you for all the support and answers you give me all this time, this forum is amazing and helpful, thank you so much. Just saying.

@HojoI am too coward to suicide anyway, I decided to live my life till the end of this perspective.

Idealizing women makes me unnatractive to them. Also it makes me so anxious I forget how to talk and can't look them in the eyes or face in general. How to stop this? Also is it true that the more experience you have with women the less you think they are goddesses and you become more relaxed when you are with them and thus you are more attractive? If yes, how do I get experience if I find them so attractive I can't talk to them? When I see an unattractive woman I have no problem talking to her with ease. I even become bored talking to her pretty quickly. But when I find a woman attractive even if everyone finds her unnatractive I am filtering everything i say at least 5 times and I end up saying nothing and I don't know what they think, they probably think I am weirdo or that I am a snob that doesn't even talk to some people. This life is so hard for me honestly pfff.

@Leo GuraIf someone suicides, will this affect his next life in negative ways? also how long does it take to be born in the next life after death?

that valuable things take time. This is the most important thing that I learned that gave meaning to my life. Then that everything is One so I am everyone and you are everyone.

I think at 40 you are already at the end of attractiveness, with peak 25-35, 25 being the best, 35 being good and then declining, 40 being at the end.

I have no looks or intelligence. When I was a runner that did also a little muscle workout 10 years ago, many women used to be attracted to me (i know cause they complimented me or talked to me. They didn't talk to me when I hadn't this body fat). They were also taller, rarely much taller. Some even made specific eye expressions that meant they were approachable they were 20-40 years old. I was just an 20 year old autistic kid so I was too scared to approach. Even now I would be scared. Also I had a ''friend'' back then, he was a sociopath although I thought he was a good guy. He was short (166 cm) like me (167 cm). He had and suspect still has so much action with women, even taller than him , you know why, because he was so funny. Being funny means you are intelligent and also make women feel happy. Honestly I start to think that you have to have some looks and intelligence (great humour) or have great looks and zero humour. And even then humour will get you more than great looks. But you still have to have some looks. For real attraction you need no serious money, not great kindness, not great social circle, no great influence and power, you just need some of that, which is easy when you have either looks or some/great looks and intelligence (humour). All these things (money etc) are for long term relationship. But real attraction (which is often short term) you need only these 2 things. I lack the one, and I struggle to get the other. What's your experience? No one can pursuade me looks don't matter, as a short autistic (low IQ) man, looks were the only solution. No one can pursuade me that being extremely funny doesn't work, my short sociopathic ''friend'' that didn't look as good as me (although not bad looking) were extremely attractive to many women his whole life, many more than me although they didn't approach him as much as me. What do you think, is this the only thing that matter? Or other things matter too, for real attraction, not for long term relationship?

Assasin's Creed Odyssey <3 <3 <3

@Leo Gurawith so much misinformation on the internet I don't know what's true and what's not. Is your 3 parts attraction series all I need to know?

relative to me that my brain is low IQ, everyone seems like he/she has superpowers. That being said I really think some people like 1 in 15 are so smart they have superpowers relative to other people. It really depends how you mean it.

As someone that has been physical being bullied for 3 years from 13-16, it's really disturbing that the other 13 year old that destroyed my life didn't go to prison, cause ''these are just kids''. I don't care if you are 8 or 13, if you destroy people you deserve to go to prison, I don't care if it helps them or not. That being said, I am really scared of authorities abusing their power and sending innocent 13+ year old teens to prison. I don't trust the system. Metaphysical speaking, if they are me I am just punishing myself.

@YimpaI can't find psychedelics in my country. Plus they are illegal. I am also to autistic and dependent to travel alone. Honestly if I had psychedelics I would definitely try them. They have offered me some here but I can't risk doing something illegal in my country that doesn't respect human rights that much , so they wouldn't understand. Do you believe psychedelics can change someone so much? and if yes what to do when I try them (how should I act?)? Also how many times should I try them to reach the things I am missing? Lastly I live with my parents, if I were to try them, could I do it in my room without them knowing? Also do you think I can travel and try them abroad?

1. more people = more taxes 2. Demographic problems (again more people more taxes). 3. cheap labor (locals don't do the hard low paying jobs) both sides have racists by the way. The idea that immigrants can't be racists is mostly left wing ideological idea and the idea that locals can't be racists is mostly a right wing ideological idea. I am local and have been physicaly bullied tremendously both by immigrants and locals, bad and good people are everywhere, in every country so it's lauhable when people deny that.

i got diagnosed with asperger too. It's no longer called asperger though. Yeah it's lonely, cause I feel stupid and cognitively powerless. It's sad that other people got ''powers'' that I have not.

I feel the same, I want to take my life but then again what's the point of taking my life, if reincarnation is true then I am going to be back here again maybe as an ant or something and not a human. Plus it would hurt my family. What keeps me alive is having goals (learning a language, learning to draw), journaling and imagining that I am with the girl i love (she doesn't like me at all which makes me want to take my life even more so I just fantasize about her and me being together). It's the goals for me, some day my life will be better when I will learn a language and know how to draw, when I will become thin. I had a rough childhood and teen years and even later, too. But I try to forget my traumas as suggested in Leo's videos about trauma. I don't know how to help you but maybe if you set goals and try to use your imagination to feel better it will help. To be honest the best thing you can do is talk to a psychologist/psychiatrist. I mentioned I want to take my own life to my psychologist and she tried to help me, also she told me to try being grateful for the things I have cause it helps.

I know a guy that I would describe him as sociopathic sadistic criminal. He tried to bully me sometimes even showed me a hammer and I and my father called him on the phone and told him that we would go to the police if he bothers me again. He agreed and told us that he would stop bothering me. Some days ago after 6 months from the hammer incindent I saw him and he did a quick ironic laugh. That was enough to trigger a panic attack although I tried not to show it. I doubt I can go to the police or a district attorney and tell them that this criminal laughs ironicaly when I am near him, especially in my country that doesn't bother that much protecting citizens unless it's clear that very bad things have happened. Not only that but this question isn't a legal question, it's about how do I relax, it's like I have PTSD from him and from my past bullying experiences as a teenager. I try meditation but it doesn't seem like great solution in this instance. I am really scared of this criminal, I think about mma moves all the time just in case he tries something. I live in a small town so I am definitely going to see him again some day and although I am planning to move abroad it will take years (I won't move abroad cause of him). We have talked to a police man and told us if he bothers me then I we should go to a district attorney and show them my diagnosis that I have mental problems like autism cause it helps with the situation if he ever tries to do anything. I have 2 appointments in 8 days with my psychologist and my psychiatrist and I am going to tell them, but till then I don't want to bother them. I told my mother and she told me that unless he does something worse then ignore him. How do I relax? How not to let obssesive thoughts and PTSD take over my mind. I understand this forum isn't about talking about these stuff so I understand if this question gets deleted but I hope it doesn't. What to do to cut these obssesive PTSD thoughts, how do i relax? Thanks in advance.

I just learned something really scary. After you lose a lot of weight (like I do), your body increase hunger and make you less satisfied in order to go back to the weight you started, maybe even more. And it takes a lot of time till the body gets used to your new weight as the normal. So what can someone do in order not to regain the weight he lost, since the hunger is going to be very strong....?

I have an asocial brain(, probably autistic if the psychiatrists that examined me were right), I am slow thinker, non creative, not smart, not good memory, I am super great at analyzation as far as I can tell but that's all I am good at. All these have serious implications like not being able to relate or talk to others, not having humour, being humiliated in social interactions if a bully disrespect you and don't know how to act. And generally not being able to think quick solutions in daily matters that require fast flexibility. I am short, I can't work cause of autism (i am on welfare that is super low money, although I am greatful for it of course). I was bullied and now I can't function properly (i don't want to remember the painful trauma details). I am also super short 167 cm (5'6 I think). I asked how to have a girlfriend on this forum months ago, I lost a lot of weight although I have a long way to go, but I start to slowly realize that I am not going to have a girlfriend. Hope and encourangement is good but some people just weren't meant to have relationships. I mean, it's a neurological problem, not a matter of self fufiling prophecy and lack of trying. Today I saw my crush with another guy and I felt both relief and sadness. If everyone is ONE then some lifetimes were meant to live this situation. When you have a ton of things to communicate to a person, my non creative mind is blank, it literaly can't find anything to talk about. It's not anxiety or lack of skills, it's an innate biological blank brain. I like drawing and I can't even imagine anything to draw, I don't have aphantasia but it's pretty close to it I think. I don't think I will ever find a girlfriend and that's ok if you know how to cope, but I don't know how to cope that well, I need help. I am kind of embarassed to talk to that to my psychologist but I may will talk about it, but other people's opinions is a good thing. ''Just practice'' doesn't work to me, I know people that give that advice have good intentions and I appreciate their advice but this is not a typical situation. So... how to live without romantic love?

You make your own meaning. Ok. So what's your meaning. What's the point of life for every person? It must be something more than eating bananas or watching the sunset. These things are wonderful but they aren't really enough, are they? What are some possible meanings in life, what's the point of it? Socialization, making a family, helping others, art, hobbies? I can't think of something else. Is this it?

I am desperate for a relationship with a woman. But it doesn't seem that women feel the same way for men. I always believe that truth is better long term than lies so I want to know the truth. Maybe it's a me thing, so other men aren't desperate, but let me tell you , as a man that never had a girlfriend, there is an emotional need to be connected with the opposite sex, to be desired, to come with contact. But all I see on the internet is women don't need men, don't like men, and they definitely mock men's issues or completely ignore them. So I have suspicions that women weren't meant by evolution to feel deep love for men like men do, they were meant to be independent when survival meets were met, while men were made by evolution to need a woman in order to feel very beautiful feelings. I am ready to accept the truth even if it hurts, I finally want to know even though I was afraid to know the answer. If the answer is that they actually do love and need men the same way men love and need women, that's awesome, if not I am ready to accept the reality I denied. There is no reason to point that no one ''needs'' anyone. Yes the word need isn't exactly right but to be fair it feels like an emotional need even if you can survive without the love of the opposite sex. You still feel bad without this need met even if you can survive.

It doesn't matter if it is 1%, 10%, or 30%. The point is there is a myth (or a fact) that women are only genuinely attracted to a minority of men and they only settle for the rest, even make families with them. Is this true or not? I belong to the bottom 5% according to my estimation (maybe even less) in terms of attractiveness so I really have no clue what's true or false.

@Opulence i see what you are saying. Don't you think that romance is the best thing ever though? I am beginning to think I will focus on art instead of relationships since no woman likes me. But I doubt art will be better than relationships. Maybe I am wrong.

@CARDOZZOI can't be funny and learn social skills. I am autistic. I am sorry for being pessimistic but it's true. All I can do is become 10% body fat and it will take some time (years). It worked before, I hope it works now. Well I can become better at social stuff but there is not much improvement cause of autism, I definitely will try though, thank you!