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Rock hard arguments right there

When they say disagreeableness , people mean disagreeable personality. Personality is basically what you think, feel and how you behave. Or it other words your being. And if are agreeable or not is not a spiel. It is how you are being with people. That is how I made the link between agreeableness and personality. Perhaps you have different definition of personality? And about your dad: be nice to him. I don’t think disagreeableness is a virtue to begin with. It is just a trait of his strong personality. He got your mom so he was doing something right.

@integral disagreeable is just showing personality in my opinion. It creates polarization and dynamic social energy instead of energetically stagnant information exchange that happens in nice guy interactions like “what do you do?” ”I do x, what do you do?” And so on.. Polarization just happens authentically and from flow if you are just yourself and just tell your truth without fear or shame.

People wouldn't be asking these kind of questions if people just read Ken Wilber instead of trying to reinvent the wheel. One of the biggest problem of spiritual people nowadays is that they are trying to reinvent the wheel and feel genius. I'm not above this mental/spiritual masturbation.

This took a very long time for me to figure out but the cause for procrastination or being stuck in bad habits is lack of energy or bad vibe. You need to fix your vibe through taking care of your body, stopping porn, and taking care of your soul (fixing your samsara / trauma) and feeding your soul through quality time with yourself. Joe Dispenza’s work in cutting edge on this topic. He is undervalued on this forum while a lot of people have mental, spiritual and physical trouble on this forum. So I would definite read his latest book.

If your parents were able to shag it is likely you are too. But personally I don’t think all guys are destined to reproduce. Historically most of the guys were not able to pass their bad genes and that is a good thing.

And I’m not even into MILF’s. It is just effortless for me to attract them. I just have to be and they give me signals of interests or just come up to me. I prefer 18-21 though or early 20’ies and I don’t know why these don’t come up or show signals of interests. I heard they like a little bit older but I think this age bracket doesn’t approach at all? Last weekend I was kind of not feeling ok and there was a proper blonde MILF of 41. It was really the archetype that guys are into that are in this age bracket. So I was in the nightclub with her dancing with her, stroking her hair and doing stuff and I saw some girls winking at me and giggling at me because I was with her. Perhaps I should just play with the toys god is giving me and not make a fuss about it. Probably the truth is that I still have a boy psychology and it shouldn’t be that big of a deal but it is. I’m kind of annoyed at this situation.

This is a major insight I had after doing some RSD blueprint exercises. In the same way we can have stubborn muscles that can’t relax and cause for mobility troubles, our soul can have same stubbornness. These are emotions that we hold onto and can’t relax into. A lot of the primal survival programming we have is sub conscious and it requires a lot of mindfulness to just notice them. And just relaxing these survival emotions is just another ball game. Very long and tedious work. Owen says guys have primal emotions that prevent us to be successful, get a hot girl or step out of our known habits because it would put us into danger. Actually having a good survival mechanism is anti success in this day and age. Nobody is going to kill you if you are rich and have a hot wife. At least if you live in the western world. Most of self development is emotional and not mental. Mental part is most easy part. For me the most important is to lean into my fear, shame, guilt, grief and other survival emotions and just massage it out of my soul , through trail and error and exposure therapy.

Truth is a bomb for your emotions.

Girls do this all the time. So to a certain extent you need to integrate it and find a good balance of selfishness. You don’t owe her anything.

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MILF´s mindset in a 20 year old. Pff, that would be something.

How much does personality weigh in and how much looks for you? Like 40/60?

Women tend to feel it out. So for example I’m not into MILF’s so they make conversation and find that out and don’t escalate further. Women are very emotionally and socially savvy. Men tend to just barrage and go for a hard rejection. That is what I meant.

Girls never direct approach. Milfs don’t do that either. They always do some indirect stuff. That is only because women need more time to warm up. They need to experience their personality.

@something_else they do drop hints or do social games

Makes sense now. Sounded like something else at first.. 😅

So guys come to meet your wife and they are not even acknowledging you all the while you put head phones on so you don't hear what they are doing? I'm so confused.

Ralston is such an interesting guy. He is one of the few guys that surprises me and catches me off guard. Watching his podcast will definitely be worth it.

@integration journey why

Most cutting edge stuff on this topic is from Joe Dispenza. His latest book is crazy.

The key is to not identify with the feelings and thought patterns of a victim. If you make an identity through identifying with situations you becoming your false self which is based on these false patterns that are not based on love, joy, fulfillment and peace. God's premise is that you are love, joy, fulfillment and peace and you are these because you are, no conditions or evidence is needed to mirror yourself in the image of God which is made in love, joy, fulfillment and peace. And if you notice you do feel emotions of separation. No foul or condemnation.

Intuition is like autopilot on a Tesla. It needs to be honed and allowed to make mistakes and learn. And like a super computer your sub consciousness takes all that information to improve its auto pilot.

Where did all those people go who said he would disappear in prison