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Some judge based on 5 minute video 🥲

That is like saying gravity is suffering. Yes it is suffering if you don’t know how to deal with gravity and keep falling and injuring yourself. But don’t forget that gravity is needed for your bone density. In the same way suffering is needed for growth and repair. Gym people know this. No wonder you like Breakingthewall. You are both grade A fools.

Ralston reached the highest echelons in marshal arts and is an expert is skill building. You really have to be a total Sméagol to not enjoy the fruits of his work. Only for couple of bucks you can learn what you learned in decades. Skill building is a meta skill that perhaps one of the most important things in life. If you know how to build skill in life you will reap benefits in life that will outweigh the suffering in any endeavor.

Ending suffering shouldn’t be the end all be all of things. The truth can cause a lot of suffering but it is a process that is worth while. I think you have it ass backwards. Suffering is just a force of nature. Of the psyche. A necessary part of the mat-rix. Not feeling suffering while you should feel suffering is where the real damage happens. People numb themselves with alcohol and drugs for this reason.

He uses this word all the time but he doesn’t define what his definition of state is

You just have to change your thinking. Don’t make it a rocket science with structure of this or that.

@Breakingthewall you are constantly misinterpreting his work. It is getting tiring to constantly have to correct you. Obviously there is necessary suffering but his book is called ending unnecessary suffering (that one creates with unnecessary additions of the mind)

@Breakingthewall I think he doesn’t contradict you. He calls it mental activity versus mental action. He is not anti mentalism. Did you even read his books?

@Breakingthewall That is not what he is saying. He says we can make things worse than they are with our mental activity / mind.

My guy is dropping bombs. 💣

@Natasha Tori Maru that is a book worth rereading.

Finished reading the book. It is basically the book of not knowing 2.0. It is so simple in the sense that truth speaks for itself. At the end of the book I thought “why didn’t I know this shit?”. I do recommend to make annotations or highlights. His books are always hard to digest sometimes.

How can truth be empowering but also be anti self?

The best way to develop this skill is through trail and error (and thus optimizing intuition). Just go on a lot of dates and care about your skills and principles more than the result you desire. A good way to do this is to go out with girls you don’t necessarily like and just run the set into the ground guns blazing.

It is an old video but insane how he unraveled on tape

Softness

I wasn’t there so let’s leave it at that 😭

@Natasha Tori Maru you literally told me you left after he asked you to go to couple therapy. You can go and read it back. If he only saw you as the problem he wouldn’t do that. People who blame others don’t go to therapy.

A guy wanting to go to therapy and you dropping him for it? You really dropped the ball by letting him go. But it is typical for a woman to do that when a man shows weakness / vulnerability. Although women claim otherwise, men shouldn’t show vulnerability to a woman.

Maybe that guy didn’t fuck it up but aced it from his POV. Probably that guy had so many options that he didn’t mind to pee in the friendship pool. Especially if he didn’t have anything to lose. That guy was attractive in the first place because he was detached and playing the field. If he acted like an incel; clingy, needy and codependent, he wouldn’t have gotten laid and not be popular in the first place. If a guy is an incel, the solution is not to find one gf. His aim should be to create abundance of options because that will give him the freedom to express himself authentic way without a fear of losing her. That is what charisma/charm really is. It doesn’t come from being a nice guy.

Videos should have chapters if they are multi hour. Now they feel like a blob of a video.

Social circle game works but incels don’t have a social circle. I noticed that if you are in a social circle, the girls compete with each other for a guy and that is what gets them laid. It is not the guy doing anything than just being and not doing something stupid to fuck it up. Pickup guys and such are doing non social game and that makes things a lot more difficult because women need social proof or you need to offer something else like looks / charisma / funniness.

Congratulations to the new addition

Problem that I had for a very long time is that I was chasing success. One has to internalize the success so that it doesn’t even matter how others respond and if you have that attitude they respond well because you aren’t putting pressure on them to like you. Owen Cook calls that state of arriving instead of chasing. Good friends can help you with creating that state of mind because you don’t need to have good vibes to be accepted by them.

Just say you don’t know and roll with the punches. Even when you find somebody who fits your liking, it is still constant chaos with them.