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@Conscious life i think whether or not you're doing survival, whether or not you're thinking about it now, you still have to do it no matter what. You're still here in this world. A person doing survival doesn't make him/her less conscious. How can you say that we don't do survival when instinctively we all do? Some just mastered it. If you eat food, if you breathe air, that's survival.

Before a person join any groups or make any decisions on what to say or do, think about this: is your objective to uplift the other person/group on whatever issues the other is having, or is it to silence and bring down the other person/group to prove that you're more right? Wouldn't it be better if your questions are: how can I help this person achieve his/her goal? What can I bring to this that only I could bring? Am I misinterpreting / misunderstanding the other person? Am I being a good listener? Did the other person misinterpret what I'm saying? If yes, that's not an excuse to debate, debunk, or attack the other person.

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@Shin that's good that you're in good health now. I was too until something unexpected happened. Sometimes we get so caught up in life that we forget to notice other areas. I'm only saying this. Now, since I'm almost fully recovered, I could continue with my goals.

Hmmm... There's nothing wrong with social media. It's a great way to stay connected. It's a great way to meet new ppl. I just met a group of ppl from meetup today for networking. Dating on social media is more tricky. Of course it's not wrong; it's just more tricky. You still have to meet that person in real life. And, when you date, most likely you're putting your best foot forward. You wouldn't really get to see the other person's true colors unless you get more intimate. You can't just read off a list of things on someone's profile, and that's what you get. It's not a job. It's not a resume (CV). In a job, you could fire someone if he/she does a poor job. If you breakup with a person, for whatever reason, that's different.

What about... -The person doesn't allow other ppl to share different ways of finding solutions. He/she just completely shuts off others. It gets worse when this becomes chronic. This person could adopt a "one size fits all" type of mentality. "There is only one way of doing things (or a handful of options)." -The person doesn't want to hear other ppl out, especially the ones who are totally different. This person has reached a desired "norm." This is not just in relationships/dating. This is in all the other categories. It's very difficult to open up to someone who has accepted certain norms and blocked off everyone else.

@Arcangelo what about the other areas of your life? Are you working on them? Sometimes that's where you meet your match--along the way, when you work on yourself. Because I do notice that the couples who end up staying together started off meeting each other when they were not even looking. They were not even saying to themselves, "I want a gf/bf," not even thinking of it. They just get along, and it felt right. Just saying, ok? Not sure if you thought of it this way. You know, when you ask couples how they've met and how long have they been together. Of course, they will not say everything. Ppl only open up if you're a great listener, open-minded, and non-criticizing.

Maybe. It's hard to tell. I could only go by what my friend said. She takes the side of her father and can't get along with her mother. But, see, my friend is only the daughter. We don't know how her father is treating her mother behind everyone's back. Or, the mother has very low tolerance and complains about everything. She may not have learned to adjust and compromise. When a family lives together, everyone has to adjust in some way and contribute in some way. Yup. Not sure what's going on. Like I said, in any long term relationship(s), you cannot have it 100% your way. There are always adjustments, and you cannot be close-minded too. Raising three children and living in a house in a good neighbood is overwhelming. Still, I see couples adjusting to that in some way or the other. I had neighbors who had a daughter (toddler). The father is the stay-at-home dad (homemaker, househusband), and the mother goes to work at a prestigious university. The father had no problems with that role. He loves his daughter. Why the "reversal of roles?" It's not really like that. The mother made more money from her career. That's why she kept her career.

@Nickyy you're right. The man could have done something out of love to make things balanced. I'm thinking he already did, but it didn't really work. Their eldest child also moved out without informing them. I wonder what's really going on. Yes, we don't really know what's going on.

Once you get into a relationship, it's a test of your nature, your inner balance. That's the best I could describe it. Are you both able to adjust in a balanced kind of way? Both have to be willing to adjust. There was a friend of mine I knew since high school. She told me her mom left her dad. I was wondering, "why?" They were married for 30+ years with three children. But then, I found out that the mom had a passive aggressive type of personality. Nothing pleases her in the family. She was always complaining no matter what anyone did, even though she had smart kids and a husband who is soft spoken and helped out around the house. He literally raised the kids all by himself and did all the housework, whatever he can. They were both university professors of the same university. He was the president, and she was the dean. To me, I think she allowed her ego to get the best of her. She never addressed her personality. She had everything going for her. She made all the major decisions. She made no attempts to stop herself from being passive aggressive. There's a saying, "don't make a moutain out of a molehill." In this case, the woman was out of balance. He chose to be with someone who eventually got out of balance.

You could sing this song, and I think you should too, but make sure you watch your health. Get yourself checked up by a doctor and request for a blood test. Be aware and mindful of your mind and body. You could sometimes lose your health just like that.

Turning points... These two really stick out for me. I have to do mine soon.

Hey, it's up to you. We all have nothing against your decisions. But then, how will you react if security guards come into the picture again? Or something happens...I dunno. I guess you wouldn't mind. There's always some turning point to the story. But, it's up to you. I'm just talking about the big picture.

@Leo Gura after a guy goes, "wham bam thank you ma'am," I think the gal is going to regret it. I think even the guy. There are always bigger fishes to fry in life. You said that answer many times. Maybe it's time to change? It's up to you. Btw, you know that it isn't really possible to actually 'be' with someone, right? Even if you're together for life.

Ok... interesting topic. Here's the thing I would say to myself if I was a guy interested in pickup: what did I learn from this? However, I would not fingerpoint other ppl, not the gal or the security guards. Only you could answer your own question. There's a saying from a life coach, "Life does not give you what you want. It gives you the ppl, places, and situations to develop what you want." Well, what I could say is, think deeply on this one. I could also tell you that you're not living in a village in some foreign country, and so you could change your situation.

Hi, just sharing... Join a nice group with a common goal. What are you trying to accomplish in this life? Let the goal be professional and profound. Study the group before you join. Plan ahead before you join. Think of just a handful of good questions to ask about the topic. Try to have a good discussion. Be a good listener. I wouldn't jump into a friendship right away. Real friends take time. Another key thing: be professional first. You don't expose everything of yourself all at once. Watch your step. There are ppl who will take advantage of you if you do this. If you're on a deeper level, then many ppl are only meant to be good acquaintances to casual friends. We are usually meant to be each others' stepping stones.

@Nickyy "friend zoning" is healthy. To me, it's not an excuse to not talk to a man and learn. I'm connected with married couples, and friends with the man, both in business and in friendship. It taught me a lot. The guy who made my website has incredible talents, and has a completely different background than me. I'm still connected to him as friends. We sometimes talk on WhatsApp on what to do. These men are very grounded.

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I love instant Bru coffee the best--heated on the induction with water and milk. I don't go to Starbucks anymore because of this.

The most cockamamie route has the most detachment. Of course, it applies to relationships. Guess where else it applies?

I gotta add something to this. Add decades to the relationship/marriage, and it will get "mundane." The question is: will the both of you adjust? There was this newlywed gal in my workplace. She wanted me to describe my marriage. I didn't really want to because I knew she would start saying something that is not really true. It would sound like she's criticizing and judging. I told her that I've been married for years and that's why we're detached. She told me, "my husband and I are not like that. We're attached and having fun." Then, she just walked away. We tried to avoid each other after that. See, I think if you actually get married to someone, and it doesn't work the way anyone in society wants it to work, the average Joe will start avoiding you once he/she heard you talk. My favourite word: cockamamie (29:06). Or, better yet, the average Joe's favourite pastime: gossipping, joking, and spreading wrong info.

@Preety_India what I mean by good acquaintances and 'just be friends' is, for a stretch of time, are you able to be free with him and talk about all different kinds of stuff with no trouble? And then, by the end of the day, independently, the both of you go off on your own and do your own things: career, entrepreneurship, life purpose, hobbies, etc. Oh boy, , lol, here's a difficult topic to talk about. I bet it's a test of commitment, and how well you and your significant other self-reflected enough to talk about it from all different sides. Almost no one talks about it: boundaries. Boundaries are not one-sided. If a person calls himself open-minded, why is he only looking at it from one side? He can't add more than one side to it, to whatever it is. I'm just going to start by saying two examples of the most unpopular boundaries nowadays, and let ppl think about it. I'm not saying they're my boundaries or someone I know. I'm just saying them as examples. Two unpopular boundaries that no one thinks about nowadays: 1) asking someone close to you, "are you a virgin?" 2) sex after marriage. You see, even these two things have more than one side to it, and imagine not being able to talk about subjects like this with someone you're planning to marry. 3) what are your views on gays? 4) how do you feel about going to this country in the near future? And name an unpopular country. 5) Oh...good one: how do you feel about cousin marriages? You know, why do I feel that narcissists and ppl who don't put too much work into themselves will only answer these questions with the answer of: eeewwww! Or, something along this line?

@Preety_India you know, tbh here, I think patience is a key word. For example, he and most other guys, maybe, are not willing to be good acquaintances or friends for a long stretch of time. If this happens, if the exes were more willing to 'just be friends' from the beginning, then you would have seen their characteristics better. You might want to hang around 'happily married couples,' or other ppl from different walks of life. It's just to observe different ppl and learn from them. I'm picturing that your exes just want to hurry into an intimate relationship almost immediately. I don't know what you were thinking in those moments, but to me, any guy approaching me out of nowhere is a very unattractive quality because I don't know him at all. It doesn't make sense to me why he's behaving like that. I just assume that all he wants to do is just to get laid, and that's it. It probably shows in my face that I'm getting pissed, and so they stay away. But, of course, some can't read facial expressions. In my mind, I'm saying to myself, "why is he doing this? You don't even know what I want in a guy. You don't know what my boundaries are. And, I'm not going to tell you too. Because if I did, most likely you're going to tease me and call me funny names." See, I bet a decent guy would not only wait a while, but he would have self-reflected enough to discuss boundaries--any boundaries. And, he wouldn't go around gossipping to his guy buddies or gal buddies about whatever you said. What are the pros and cons of any boundaries? You cannot just pass off a boundary as a con and just say, "hey, anything goes for the better." There has to be some planning. Hint: boundaries turn approaching guys off. They don't want to do the work.

I was going to say to do an anonymous survey of what others are saying, but that's an overload of work if you're popular. You got to narrow this down. Just be on the lookout for what others are doing for their life purpose, especially when their life purpose is profound. Don't judge and make hasty conclusions about others too quickly. You might be the one who is completely wrong. Questions to ask yourself: are you sure that you have the most profound insights? Why do you claim that? Why does the other person think his or hers is the most profound? What is really going on here? I'm saying it like this because I think the most profound insights/answers can only be shared in a life purpose, not in posts. It's probably only useful to those who will understand it, and they are few. Those who don't will say, "you have further to go," but they don't know where exactly you are and what are your insights even though you tell them.