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@Hardkill I definitely see the far reaching consequences of the gamified world of app dating As for the inequality between men and women in terms of matches etc, as a man you absolutely have to own your own terms in a relationship and communicate that. You have to be willing to let her go As a man I see this as the only way to redress the balance to ensure dating and relationships work for you both. You’ll find you don’t really need her you just want her and it’s important that you set your terms for a relationship if she wants to be with you. She will respect that

My heart goes out to Palestinians. The suffering is unimaginable This is one of the greatest human rights atrocities of modern times. I can’t stand how my government has done nothing to stand against the genocide going on. They’re pathetic small people

@Hojo Lol I love the overtly sexually way you have described it. Very David Deida Yeh the masculine wants to penetrate the feminine and the feminine wants to receive and open as love. Thereby they merge and you are one with everything The separation between the two is an illusion. You are divinely masculine and feminine

Hits home just how fucked we are as a human species if we don’t change track. The level of global coordination and cooperation required to shift the dial. My god Capitalism is our Achilles heel. Without spiritual growth there is no world for tomorrow that is better than the last

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@Zen LaCroix Insight would be a better word. Yes all insights are my own. What I have said here is different to what Leo has said. David Deida’s work on masculine feminine dynamics is a foundation You would do well to be less cynical young padawan

@theleelajoker I’ve found David Deida’s work very helpful. The masculine is the awareness and the feminine is everything else (life itself). There is no life without awareness and without life awareness is nothing anyway. Awareness is the divine aspect as it is eternal and unchanged. The feminine can’t touch that. When life gets hard your ability to detach and enter the timeless moment is what gives you masculine power and you become unshakable. Again these dynamics are in both men and women but as masculine identified person I lean toward consciousness but still love life. If I didn’t I might as well be dead

Business development but going into secondary school teaching in design and technology. Specialising in wood work

This is why I like this forum. I have not heard of those practises so will be trying them out tomorrow. Thanks for sharing Any particular style of Pranayama or Qigong for grounding that you would recommend?

@Leo Gura This may have already been asked but will you be adding all your recent episodes to podcast player? I use Apple Podcasts

@Verg0 By spiritual I would see this as the pursuit to 'understand reality' - and why anybody would want to do this can only be for love whether thaqt be in the relative domain or the metaphysical I have found psychedelics to help me understand reality through an elevation and change of consciousness. They're definitely a great tool

His episodes on love are some of his best. What is love I also really enjoyed his episode on conscious politics and the role of government

I have noticed a day after taking LSD (only a small dose) I find I am depressed. Does anyone else experience this and what are people’s thoughts on it? I would not say that my life as it stands is as fulfilling as I would like but without going into the details I am in a transitional phase where I don’t have a lot of options so I feel it heightens that emptiness. When I’m on it though I fucking love it tbh. I don’t need a lot but I find both my connection to the present moment and love simultaneously get better. I feel like myself but my performance in the relative world is enhanced. If I’m usually at Lv6 on LSD I’m like a Lv9 (out of 10). Again this is on a high micro dose

@Nilsi I know yoof. I’m in limbo for another 5 months. I’ve tried but it looks like the universe wants me to stick with it But my life ain’t that sucky. In one way I have a very full life but the level of meaning and purpose that I need from my work is just so much more now. I am not content with my current career. Burned out and fucking bored of it I don’t want LSD to be an escape. I never take psychedelics for that reason. I only do it to enhance myself personally. In many ways it has and others I am not so sure yet

@Vynce Yeh it does seem that way. I said the day after but it was actually a couple of days after my mood tanked. On reflection it is mostly my situation that is not satisfying because my current job is just shite. No challenge and no meaning for me now. I have it very easy. Actually the day after I did DIY in the garden and was fine. The next day I was sat on my laptop thinking wtf is this shit lol I am in limbo and for the next 5 months I don’t know what the universe has in store but it looks like it wants me to stick where I am until teacher training. There’s only so much you can do But it does make me think I need to be more mindful of the post mood dips when I’ve not got the meaning in my job that I need

@HMD best technique is simply keep it out of sight. Same principle that applies to having cookies in a jar at home. It’s just easier to not have cookies there so you do not have to resist the temptation Leave your phone at home and go for a walk/bike ride

@Yimpa yep I mean more recent additions

What do people think about starting a family? I find many are just not in touch with the deeper purpose behind it We’re actually talking about something that is an inherent part of the evolution of the human species. It’s not ‘traditional’ in that dismissive attitude some people have but it’s baked into the fabric of the human species. Family units were a core part of tribal societies it’s not just some conservative mid-century option. We are hardwired to procreate and care for our children unless very dysfunctional Also I would say that what makes a boy a man and a girl a woman is when they are ready to start a family - this is irrespective of whether they actually do or not, the point is they are mature enough to do it properly if they were to. It’s a good test of your own maturity. Do you truly believe you are mature and strong enough to be a grounded, loving and stable father figure or a compassionate, loving and nurturing mother? A big problem is that many people are not mature enough to be parents. This is so obvious with people who can’t fully take on board the responsibility in being a parent I’ve seen posts where people will dismiss the family option and go their own way with travel or whatever. That’s fine but it’s this dismissal and the conception that it is a traditional option that bugs me. Starting a family is a beautiful thing. It’s not a lifestyle but a core part of us it’s just that maturity is the key to it

@Unlimited That’s hard I’d be very hurt by those comments You can’t change their minds on the matter so I would just try as best you can to let it go. They are where they are. You’ve got your life and they’ve got there’s. You’re not responsible for them especially being the child in the dynamic. The onus is on them But try not to judge them for it. I don’t know the dynamics but they have done their best for you I would hope If it helps to break free of the dynamic do it and don’t feel guilty about it. If you feel that it is holding you back in some way take a break from them. Focus on your life and developing yourself and then when you’re less emotional about it go back to them

I would say both on maturity. Hopefully someone would naturally mature with age anyway but you need to be at a base line level of maturity. To be stable psychologically, emotionally and financially is very important. In terms of commitment that’s where you have to want it like with anything in life. You’re not going to be committed to something you never wanted As for staying committed to it your child is your own flesh and blood. You brought them into this world and as a parent you have got their back no matter what. That perspective does require maturity and letting go of your own ego and selfishness Just to add to the maturity thing it is ideal that you are with someone committed to the child as well. It’s very important to have a good father and mother figure. The child can learn from both masculine and feminine energies. If it’s a single parent then the child potentially misses experiencing another universal energy. Boys with single mums as parents have to make up for the lack of masculine energy and vice versa for girls with single dads as parents looking after them. Having both is ultimately the best but leaning to masculine or feminine whether you are a boy or a girl Obvs we can talk all day about how identity is relative but for practically getting by in the world and not being dysfunctional kids need certainly and understanding around their sexual identity. Polarity is a healthy thing but that’s another debate!

You have a lot of self reflection here which is a positive thing and is a sign of being a good parent but as you say you may not quite have all the qualities to be as good a parent as you feel you can be. Very mature response. I’ve only recently at 31 felt that I could be a decent parent - that revelation came through psychedelics full disclosure You are totally right with the quote above. Expecting your child to turn out a certain way is selfish. It’s projecting what you want on the child rather than allowing them to explore what they really want out of life

@eos_nyxia That’s true. Capitalism has rotted society from the inside out because most business marketing practises leach off the ignorant (easy to please) such as children. Social media is atrocious for this. Parents have a job to protect their kids from the utter garbage fed to their children on a daily basis from these addictive mobile games, junk food, social media, mass entertainment etc It’s a war on our attention and our children are the biggest victims

You don’t understand what I mean by that Yes it’s a big deal to start a family

@Basman Only recently I’ve been struck by the divine around starting a family. Has never really been on my mind as something I would Purposefully want to do but after a divine communication on mushrooms it basically told me that I’m ready to start a family now It does make sense because I’ve been working on myself a lot over the last few years and have radically changed as a man in many respects. So for me it’s more that starting a family feels now very purposeful to me. I can see the deep meaning and value behind. I can’t force it to happen it’s up to the universe but I feel more intentional about that

@NewKidOnTheBlock If this is your thinking this should immediately tell you that you are not mature enough to start a family