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@Shin change the mindset from "I wanna last long" to "I wanna do the best I can for my partner to have a wonderful time". Make the sex about pleasing the girl. If you dont and even if you figure out how to last longer, it will just be a mechanical change but the energy between you wont shift. Once the energy shifts, lasting long or short will literally stop being an issue

Of course, please pursue your life to feel good. People who are the biggest philanthropists, messiahs, givers, charity sponsors and other ways they choose to serve the well-being of all is because to them it feels incredible.

Youre fine, a narcissist would be in awe of this being the case.

Isnt aurora amazing?! Runaway always has me in tears. New album out!!! Oooooooo

honestly Leo I have to give you all the credit in the world for emphasizing growth as distinct from enlightenment, and it's importance. It is so rare to see an integrative non-duality teacher. There can be so much dogma dismissing the growth parts as illusory as a way of avoiding them and clinging onto non-dual insights, and yet you bring the best of the two worlds. It is very inspiring to me! Thank you Leo.

Hey yes I absolutely think it can be regulated. Not sure if totally prevented, sometimes it is a thing we have to go through. Depersonalization often times comes when you start disindetifying with your ego. It is a subtle mechanism thats saying "Im not this ego, lets detach." The problem with that is that you start saying what youre not without having any solid grip on what you are. The remedy for this is making peace with being identified with ego, and allowing the patterns that exist within you, no matter how undesirable they may be, to have a safe place in your consciousness. You see there are people who are too identified with the ego and for them self-enquiry will help to have some space for it. On the other hand, some people are less identified with the ego, and once they start going through the awakening process they start depersonalizing with the anxious energy of not wanting to be your ego, because it is a inferior ego and you see it as undesirable and unworthy, starts jumping "I am not that stinky mess, I am not that awful ego". So really having a right to have an ego an to be "in it", is what allows the depersonalization to disappear from your field. Does that make sense?

I know and it sounds like its a pretty sucky situation. The only thing I can recommend to you is no matter whether you commit or not, whenever there are difficult emotions connected to the work at hand (or as you said when you lose joy), allow yourself to love and support yourself through it. You might find that it is not necessarily the job at hand that brings you fulfillment and enjoyment, but how willing you are to love yourself through it. :-)

@GaiaGoddess I can offer you a solution that I know works for me. It is about dealing with the discomfort of being here. We can often not feel totally safe in the body and on the planet. This can then look like your dabbling and youre looking for your purpose. In truth, what we need is to feel safe. Once we are safe to commit, there is no limit to how incredible our life purpose can be. This can be really painful. Committing to things you might not totally like will be probably really frustrating. From my own experience I literally can feel like I am allergic to the thing I am doing. When this happens, I stop whatever I am doing, I take some "me time" off, I allow the allergy, frustration, pain, sadness, loneliness or any combination of those just be there. I love myself through feeling these difficult emotions. And then I commit again. Babysteps, babysteps :-) I just really want to point you in a different direction than most self-help will show you. Most self-help principles stress "finding our purpose" and "building our life", while some of us actually need to learn commitment to what is in front of us. I wish you good luck, this isnt an easy task to manage.

@GaiaGoddess hohoho Hi partner, commitment issue allert! I know because SAMEEEEEEEEEE

Hey Spiral, I actually had the same thought as you did. And I do agree and it is important it doesnt lead to rejecting females for good or on a larger scale. However when you remove yourself from women, or even better you remove yourself from reliance on women to provide the feminine energy, you are closer to finding the feminine nourishment and strength within you, and becoming a balanced expression of the dance that the masculine and feminine express together. It is a really positive step. :-) Rather advanced emotional development. Of course there is a danger of it becoming rejecting towards women, I think incels have fallen into this pattern... but then again they are in it only to be woken back up. edit: It is actually another way that helps out with balancing our left and right hemispheres, which is one of the byproducts of meditation. Isnt that incredible?? O:-) Because Left vs Right hemisphere is a battle between the feminine and masculine. With this movement, there is the opportunity for the masculine to say "I will fight you no longer, I have to carve my own path." And how ironic it is that it will only find its path back to the feminine, that has never left its side. Oh this is just too cool to be true, I feel like I live in some sort of an epic adventure... I guess I do! Edit2: It also balances out the sacral chakra, that has to do with codependency, and personal and sexual power. If you ask me this is a healthy way to empower men, just like feminism can be a healthy way of empowering women. Has feminism gone wrong in some cases where it became man-shaming and rather than equality promoting, it created more fight between the feminine and masculine? Of course! But thats all just the feisty energy being played out, and it needs to be played out before it is surrendered. Oh I wish I could show you how excited I am about this for all males!!!! Go males, our emotional needs, our need for love, compassion, kindness, respect and appreciation. We all deserve all those things, and we are not receiving them from females, because females havent developed the safety to provide all those things because of their repressed masculine, that was caused by men acting out an aggresssive, misogynistic behaviour. Who were only aggressive because nobody told them that they deserve their needs met! And so with MGTOW they shall realise the daunting reality of their needs......... This is SO SO beautiful and positive and exiting!

oh my god I had no idea what this is! I just did a quick google peek. This is actually AMAZING. As strange as this sounds its the first step of men embracing their own femininity! I LOVE IT! YES!! Thanks for creating this posts and opening my eyes to this! :-)

oh my god he moves to Australia to pick up the accent as well! Wow Leo some Life changes waiting for you, I am so excited!

@Amanda R Batista Yes definitely. Ego acts insanely only for the purpose of getting your loving attention. Just as a naughty child with a parent would, same dynamic.

I saw the whole retreat livestreamed, it was epic. So whats your wound? Afraid of loss? Codependent? Have you been on the receiving end of abuse, or have you been neglected? What combination is dancing in your subconscious mind? I have certainly been conditioned into codependency, through my parent´s absolute lack of boundaries. As a result I have a really deeply ingrained fear of change, and at the same time fear of staying in the same situation for too long, as a result of neglectful memories. What a paradox!

@Catley Oh, Namaste to you too :-)

Thank you :-)

@Barna And also no matter the discomfort in your body, you deserve to receive the abundant loving reality of your radiant being as your birthright. Just know that dearest heart. You are god, first and foremost, the rest of the world can wait, for it is your sacred presence that will bring peace to all hearts.

Exactly that’s why I am motivated to say these words to you. No matter how strange it sounds to your mind, it’s only telling you that it’s unfamiliar to your nervous system. Doesn’t change the fact that you deserve the love that will transform your entire being. ❤️

I understand Its a cool joke. BUt lets just start with you individually that deserves all the love in the world <3 . The rest of "You" can wait a minute, you are the center of the attention. And why shouldnt you be, gosh out of all people on the forum I gotta say you have been on of the sweetest folks to interact with. I am really sensitive to peoples energy, and yours has a wonderful glow around it, and I wanna give you all the credit in the world for that. <3

Mmmm I know what you mean. Thats kinda shame tho you are such a lovely dude and have so much to share, dont just talk to yourself! Talk to others :-)

@Barna Mhhhm no thank you I do not care for experimenting with pain Frankly I dont need to. Pain will find me when its time to be transformed...I do see benefit to all pain, every painful moment is a moment of transformation, just like Jesus on the cross was being transformed. But after the crucifiction, what else is there to come but the resurrection. It perfectly describes the process of transformation, every death is a moment of transformation, every pain reduces us to ashes just so we can rise like a phoenix, more bright and radiant than before. I am not afraid of pain, pain knows my address and its been knocking on my door every day for the past 3 years. But that doesnt mean I like the experience of it. I mean... lets be honest its awful I hate it Ive been in so much pain that I prayed to god to take me out because I cant take it anymore. And even that doesnt stop me from facing it. I think when we try to make pain into pleasure, it can be a subtle form of denial. I appreciate the honesty of saying "I hate pain, I dont like pain, but I can acknowledge that it is a moment of transformation."

Could we just slow down a little? How about a party for the wellbeing of all... I think that sounds like a much better idea...! Freaking Jesus... setting unrealistic standards for all young aspiring messiahs. Jesus is the reason why a 12yo spiritual boys check themselves in front of a mirror all the time and weep and weep and weep while putting nails in their hands... they just wanna be included!!! |STOP|THIS|

Aw I’m sorry. That’s a really painful experience. You know maybe it’s not a matter of patterns coming back once you stop, but the moment you stop your subconscious mind feels safe enough to release the patterns. So rather than regression, it’s a moment of healing. much love to your prescious heart

@Pilgrim You sound like an empath my dearest friend! I get it, the sense of not belonging is something that used to haunt me constantly. Not only that, but you feel almost like people are avoiding telling you the truth about themselves, because they say things, that are not what you feel from them empathically, and subconsciously this tends to manifest as a feeling of rejection. The most important decision we as empaths can do is to choose to be the love for ourselves that we dont receive from others. It cannot be any other way, because even if there are people who genuinely want to connect with us, we are still empathing their unresolved issues which leaves us feeling unworthy of the affection we receive. This is why families can be so painful. Not only do we empath their pain, but the love they actually can give us cant be received because we feel a sense of unworthiness that we gather from them. So its like "I love you"... "Thankss... I dont believe you but I appreciate the effort, thumbs up" Your natural level of emotional intimacy can often feel like its too much for other people who are not familiar with that, and who are actually afraid of it. You are doing amazing beneficial things for them, clearing them of emotional density in every interaction, and the tragedy is that we dont know that and what we clear we make about ourselves and think its ours, or what we feel around other people is their opinion of us. It can feel like you are being rejected, and thats real and painful. In actuality it is their soul saying "wow I cant take so much goodness in I need to go and hide in darkness because I havent been trained to trust the light".