Spiritual Warrior

One of the couples from last week didn't show up to their lesson. During the previous lesson, we struggled to make much progress on any of the moves I was trying to teach them. I fear that because of how poorly the last lesson went, they felt like they are incapable of learning to dance. This is a dance instructors worst nightmare. I strongly believe that ANYONE can learn how to dance. If they don't think that they can dance, then it is MY FAULT. Whether they believe in themselves or not falls on my shoulders. I have to get them to feel like they can do it. That is the most important thing early on in their dance journey, just get them to believe in themselves.

Hi, I am a dance instructor. I will be journaling about insights that I have gotten in my dance instructor journey. My goal in life is to master the dynamic between the masculine and the feminine, I just so happen to dance.

Principle 2: What is your Life Purpose: My life purpose is to master the dynamic between the masculine and the feminine and to master the art of bodily movements through dance.

They're all great, especially videos from past 2-3 years, but this one I come back to most often:

This is perfect, just be yourself man. If you're sad, be true and authentic to that. And he's right, the date may lift your mood. Don't bail on her.

Couple #2 (Tall Canadian) Lesson #3 They are actually pretty good and can move around the dance floor. Here is my lesson plan: Merengue - play music, get them moving (Danza Kaduro) Hustle - Teach them the hustle and then rotate it, play music (Girls just want to have fun) Waltz - Review Waltz, then do underarm turn, play music (American Waltz mix on Youtube) Rumba - Teach them all of the crossover variations - Crossover, Continuous Crossovers , have them dance, play Ring My Bells

What am I going to focus on with each couple that I am teaching tomorrow? Couple #1 (Guy from New York) lesson #3 They asked me last time if they could focus on just Foxtrot and Waltz. As their instructor, I knew that this is not a good idea but I allowed them to dictate what we did for the lesson. Tonight, I would like to share with them that I feel like we should do more dances in a single lesson. "I want you to learn the hussle and the bachata today because I can tell by your personalities that you'll enjoy it. I think it will make our lessons flow a little cohesively because I want this to be fun for you guys."

I can't tell if you're joking

It doesn't matter, meet more girls, approach more girls. You will find women that think youre hot shit and they will want to date you.

2.27.24 I Had three lessons yesterday, and the bulk of my insights came from a young couple that I taught at the end of my day. A young couple came in at 7:45 last night. We started off with the waltz, but they were struggling with the footwork in the underarm turn. We then moved onto their favorite dance, the swing; we hammer home two new moves in about 30 minutes and they are able to dance around to some music. Here are my insights: Insight #1: Let the man cook! The man in the couple is a young guy, 18 years old, very energetic, confident, ambitious, wants to learn, wants to lead. At times as their instructor, I would stop their dance because the footwork was off, what I could have done more of is allow this guy to lead his lady out of the footwork mishaps. It's not always going to be pretty, but it is the mans role at times to brutely lead the two of us out of a pickle. Let the man cook! Give him the reins to figure it out for himself! Trust that he can do it. Insight #2: Fight for their progress! At the end of the lesson, I didn't push for them to come in the following week. I said that they can come in whenever they want. I am not being a good instructor here because I am not fighting for their dance progress. If I were fighting for their dance progress, then I would have tried to get them in as quickly as possible... Because the longer you wait to come back in, the more momentum that you lose as a dancer. Insight #3: Get out of your head! One more, I had a 19 year old girl early on, and I feel like I was again correcting her too much. I want to help get her out of her head, she is thinking too much about the steps. I can do this by talking to her while we're dancing or making her close her eyes.

Wise

Do it over and over and over and over and over and over again.. That's it

What a beautiful journal 🏞️🌊

Nope The more years go by the easier and easier it'll be to get those blazing hot 20 year olds... A man gets more and more attractive as he masters the ways of life.

I have had success using these positive affirmation videos as a complementary exercise. Its not an end-all-be-all, you still need to put in the hard work and emotional labor of interacting with women. But its a great place to start, you will start to become more hopeful about your current situation.

Welcome! Don't be afraid to dive right in, we don't bite... hard 😏

I would take a look at this statement, is it possible that you are avoiding the emotional labor that is required to get really good with women? Maybe you have constructed this viewpoint so that you don't have to put in the hard work... or maybe not .. just be honest with yourself.

It sounds to me like you should take a break from intimate relationships for a little while and take a look at the situation from a disconnected viewpoint. A lot of times this is what gives you clarity on a situation; distance yourself from it and things will fall into place. Only you can answer this question

This song is filled with so much love

I don't know kizomba, but I will learn it now since you've brought it up I can teach waltz, Foxtrot, merengue, salsa, bachata, rumba, bolero, foxxy, Hustle, swing and chacha

I walked into a dance studio to learn how to dance. They ended up hiring me the next day. I've been a dance instructor for 6 months now and I am addicted to it.

"All fear is ultimately fear of no-self." - Jed McKenna

I struggle to read him as well I intuit this means I'm not mature enough yet I will come back to his teachings when the time is right.

Inspired by @lostingenosmaze, here are some music videos that bring me to tears. We all need the emotional release of crying. If you struggle to cry, I recommend playing some sad music and either going for a drive in your car or locking yourself in your room.