You have to socialize with many other girls.
Never place your hope is some girl who barely even cares you exist.
This is your wake-up call to change your lifestyle to a more social one.
I know the pain, but it comes from a fantasy. You don't need a girl to enjoy life. In fact, you will get sick of that girl and crave freedom. You can be at peace without that girl, but you built up such a potent fantasy of her in your mind that what I say doesn't seem true.
The mind is very powerful at spinning these illusions. The sooner you realize that the happier you will be.
There are a thousand other girls you can have intimacy with. Don't get hung up on her.

30-60 minutes every day for one year, according to Leo's video. I haven't read the booknyet, but it will probably have some guideline as well.

We have a Kirya yoga mega-thread that answers many newbie questions.
Follow the books.
I suggest focusing 100% on pranayama spinal breathing. All other techniques are tertiary and mostly unnecessary.
You could reduce all Kriya yoga to just pranayama and maha-mudra. Which makes it so simple.

At your stage of development grinding might be the right thing, for a time.
However, eventually you'll realize that no matter how hard you grind and how many material goals you complete, you will be no more happy or satisfied than you are now. Even less satisfied because now the illusion of goals making you happy will be shattered.
If you want real progress you need to work on changing your internal relationship to reality. That's the only thing that will change your condition.
Of course if you are just looking to break free of wage slavery, hustle culture has its purpose. But once you are free of wage slavery you will still be exactly the same slave of your mind that you are today.
I've spent so many years achieving goals that today the prospect of pursuing a material goal hardly interests me. My only goal now is higher consciousness of God. But it took me 10-20 years of work to get here.

Here are the full notes. In my opinion it is the best program he released because it is so structured and based on social principles that he coined.
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### **Program Overview**  
The **Hot Seat at Home Mastermind** is a 12-week immersive course designed by Owen Cook (RSD Tyler) to transform social and dating skills through **inner game mastery**, **practical exercises**, and **advanced psychological frameworks**. The program emphasizes **self-amusement**, **non-neediness**, and **sociocentric consciousness** over scripted routines, focusing on authenticity and emotional resonance. Below is a structured breakdown of the curriculum, principles, and key takeaways.  
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### **Core Philosophy**  
1. **Cause vs. Effect**:  
   - Be the **"white ball"** (cause) directing energy, not the "colored ball" (effect) reacting to external forces.  
   - Rooted in **Stoic principles** : Control your mindset, not outcomes.  
   - *“Wisdom is knowing the difference between what you can control (intent) and what you cannot (her response).”*  
2. **Inner Game Foundations**:  
   - **Self-entertainment**: Prioritize your joy over seeking validation.  
   - **Entitlement**: Act from self-worth, not desperation.  
   - **Freedom of outcome**: Detach from results while pursuing intent.  
---
### **Weekly Breakdown**  
#### **Week 1: Core Principles & Transformational Mindset**  
- **Objective**: Shift from reactive (effect) to proactive (cause) mindset.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Sequencing**: Principles → Practice → Integration.  
  - **Upward spiral**: Small actions compound into confidence.  
  - **LOC (Level of Consciousness)**: Operate from  (neutrality) to avoid neediness.  
- **Exercise**: Journaling to identify “effect” behaviors (e.g., seeking approval).  
#### **Week 2: Mission 1 – Certainty & Emotion**  
- **Objective**: Speak with **authoritativeness** (leadership) and **emotion** (transcendence).  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - Women respond to **emotional spikes**, not logic.  
  - *“A boring handsome guy loses to an average exciting one.”*  
- **Exercise**: Approach 5–10 groups daily, improvising stories on unfamiliar topics with conviction.  
#### **Week 3: Mission 2 – Free Association**  
- **Objective**: Break linear thinking to create **emotional trance**.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Informal > Formal**: Sex and attraction thrive in chaos, not order.  
  - **Law of state transference**: Your energy dictates hers.  
- **Exercise**: Talk for 1–2 minutes without logical connections (e.g., “pineapple, astronauts, disco”).  
#### **Week 4: Mission 3 – Polite Collaboration**  
- **Objective**: Master **subcommunication** through neutrality and friendliness.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Collaborative frame**: Assume everyone is a friend; avoid arrogance/submission.  
  - *“Friendliness is dominance when paired with intent.”*  
- **Exercise**: Approach 10–12 women daily with questions like, “What’s your story?” while staying relaxed.  
#### **Week 5: Mission 4 – Storytelling Without Compliance**  
- **Objective**: Lead interactions by **giving value** (stories) vs. seeking compliance.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Freebies**: Offer anecdotes without expecting investment (e.g., “I saw a kid flip me off today!”).  
  - Avoid “interview mode” (asking too many questions).  
- **Exercise**: Spend 4 days telling stories, 3 days asking questions.  
#### **Week 6: Mission 5 – Sexual Energy & Calibration**  
- **Objective**: Normalize sexuality through **subcommunication**.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Triangle gazing**: Shift eye contact between eyes and lips.  
  - **Assume familiarity**: Mentally rehearse intimacy to project confidence.  
- **Exercise**: Approach older women to practice flirty banter (e.g., “You’re trouble, aren’t you?”).  
#### **Week 7: Advanced Principles – The 5 Pillars**  
1. **Freedom of Outcome**: Authenticity over neediness.  
2. **Clarity of Intent**: Pursue inspiration, not validation.  
3. **Entitlement**: Command space without apology.  
4. **Self-Amusement**: Prioritize your joy (LOC 540+).  
5. **Sociocentric Frame**: Merge with the group; avoid ego-driven agendas.  
#### **Weeks 8–12: Integration & Mastery**  
- **Missions 6–10**: Focus on persistence, identity refinement, and logistics (e.g., isolating women, seeding pulls).  
- **Key Themes**:  
  - **Decision fatigue**: Act without overthinking.  
  - **Persona fatigue**: Drop “game” and embrace authenticity.  
  - **Vulnerability**: Share freely without filters (e.g., “I’m nervous, but I had to meet you”).  
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### **Critical Infield Techniques**  
1. **Bambi Eyes**: Look for dilated pupils and soft focus to gauge attraction.  
2. **Kino Escalation**: Touch upper back early; if resisted, joke (“I’m shy, promise I won’t bite!”).  
3. **Free Association in Bed**: Use playful, illogical chatter to disarm logic (e.g., “If you were a pizza topping…”).  
4. **Collaborative Frame**: Reframe rejection as feedback (e.g., “You’re saving me from my future ex-wife!”).  
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### **Transformational Takeaways**  
1. **Energy > Content**: Women mirror your vibe, not your words.  
2. **Non-Linear Attraction**: Silly/absurd interactions often outperform “logical” game.  
3. **Power vs. Force**: Letting go (sociocentric) creates magnetism; forcing (egocentric) repels.  
4. **Abbundance Mindset**: Approach all women (not just “10s”) to build momentum.  
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### **Bonus Material Highlights**  
- **Webinars**: Emphasize **win-win energy** and **vulnerability** as aphrodisiacs.  
- **Infield Breakdowns**:  
  - **San Francisco Rampage**: Use humor to normalize sexuality (e.g., “Are you Italian or trouble?”).  
  - **LA Silent Sets**: Lead with presence, not words.  
- **Momentum**: Treat each interaction as a “micro-win,” regardless of outcome.  
---
### **Conclusion**  
The **Hot Seat at Home** program is less about “pickup” and more about **personal alchemy**—transmuting fear into freedom, ego into empathy, and neediness into magnetism. By mastering **cause-driven intent**, **free association**, and **sociocentric flow**, students learn to navigate social dynamics with the ease of a “river” (Owen’s metaphor for effortless influence). The ultimate goal? To **“be the party”** rather than chase it—a lesson applicable far beyond dating.  
**Key Quote**:  
*“Your metric of success isn’t lays or numbers—it’s how much fun you had becoming unapologetically yourself.”*  
 

Of course.
Most importantly, commit to the pursuit of truth.
Recognize that making mistakes is how you grow. What matters is not the past mistakes but who you will become thanks to them in the future.

This may be technically true but it's way too reductionistic because most of your life is wrapped up in meaning you create.
For example, if your business collapses you will not feel any physical pain, however the mental suffering can be immense as you have to face serious loss and you have to reflect on things you did which caused its collapse. You cannot just take the position that "oh, well, it's just a story in my mind". No, it's much more serious than that because the stories in your mind determine whether you live or die.
There is much suffering to be had simply from reflecting on your on inadequecies. So what are you gonna do, not reflect on your own inadequcies and mistakes? You gonna ignore them in order to feel at peace? That's not gonna go so well. Imagine how you'd feel if you were pulling out of your driveway and accidentally ran over someone's child. Are you gonna sit down and silence your mind to meditate your way out of that?
And what about all stuff in your life that you could lose? Are you just gonna act like nothing happened if your house burns down? If your child or dog is run over by a car? If your health is ruined by poison? If your spouse dumps you? If your best friend steals from you?
There is endless suffering waiting for you behind every corner. You just aren't aware of it yet.

@Display_Name My only advice to you is to this:
Become very serious about what kind of thoughts you allow your mind to entertain. Take responsibility over your own mind. Do not focus on things that disempower you. If you notice a certain line of thought is consistently disempowering for you, make a commitment to stop allowing that line of thinking into your mind ever again. Just drop it. Let it go. Practice letting go. Watch my video: The Power Of Letting Go.
You are under no obligation to entertain every negative, depressing, disempowering, ugly thought that enters your mind.
Focus your mind on how you can best honor the miracle that is your current life. And stop thinking about bullshit.
Reality is your dream. So if you dream of horror and torture and shit, that's what your reality will slowly become. Until eventually you reach Hell. That's all Hell is.