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Sekiro has been one of if not the best experiences I've had with gaming. The palpable sense of growth and accomplishment as you journey from start to finish is unlike any other games I've played. One of the best combat systems in gaming. You will be stonewalled in this game and you must grit your teeth and earnestly try. But the victories you get feel earned and are so worth it. My biggest triumphs in gaming have been with Sekiro.
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Rainworld is amazing albeit the brutal learning curve for new players due to the difficulty being centered a lot around knowing what to do. It is not a game that is particularly difficult execution wise unlike something like Sekiro. It is hard to describe the beauty of the game, you really should try it out yourself. It has a bunch of Buddhist themes in its story, which I know many of you will appreciate.
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It could be a skill issue. You get more out of socialization if you are comfortable with social friction, know how to approach and talk to people, etc. I get energy and joy from a conversation with good flow despite being a conventional introvert all things considered. You could combine an interest with socialization, like sports, art, nature based hobbies like hunting or kayaking, etc. That way you enrich your life with a meaningful activity and socialize at the same time. You also will have the advantage of a common interest in that case. My brother works a 9-5 and used to just be gaming after work but after being introduced into viking fencing by a colleague his social life exploded as well as gaining an enriching hobby where he travels around the country. He even got a girlfriend out of it who shares his passion.
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Games aren't about elevating people spiritually but the wonder of slipping into another world. In this respect RDR2 is very successful to many. Not the first time someone makes a thread trying to mix gaming with self-improvement. At best you'll get something artistic out of games by playing them a bit but you shouldn't really be playing games if you think you got better things to do.
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No kidding, lol. That nefarious evil sorcerer moon grass.
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Yeah I know, the words being overused excessively lately but I didn't know what else to call it.
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Contemplation is pretty hard if you are not used to it. In my experience, you just have to kind of sit there and keep thinking on the issue with a undistracted mind. The answer will not always immediately be clear to you and can take some time but never that long. It just feels like a lot of time because it is uncomfortable to contemplate with such focus I find. Another problem when answering the questions in the life purpose assessment in my experience is a lack of experience. A lack of experience can make it harder to know for sure what it is you want exactly. A estimation of what you want approximately is sufficient in my opinion if you make the express intent of accruing more experience in the future so you will become more clear. Life purpose is a long-term intention you set for your life. You don't need to figure out everything in one go.
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I'd move back to Amsterdam, help take care of my aging father, draw a lot, date around and find a partner, pay off my debts. Travel at some point to. I'm not that ambitious, really. You are right that all of these things are huge time sinks, not only money sinks, but I think it can be bit of a trap to over-value your time. Life doesn't need to be 100% efficient to be worth living and you can always get rid of things once they've been exhausted of what they are worth to you.
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Ok, it is locked in now lol. Stay away. Done.
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I think people who grew up "on the streets" learn to tell apart people who you should avoid because they are exposed to so many colorful people, some unsafe and chaotic. I think it is good to be wary of people. When I see someone who's kind of "weird" in a way that signals that they could start drama I generally avoid them as much as possible. I don't look at them even. I mind my own business. Ghastly. The botox make her look like a cheap slut.
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There are clearly positive aspects to her, playful, friendly, beautiful. But she's clearly a mess. She seems desperate for some kind of unconditional love which could be a hold-over from unmet childhood needs and she seems to project that need very intensely. Wanting unconditional love from adults is a childish notion and maybe why she is so obsessed with this "Tim" guy. He seems to her like someone who is going to give her the kind of love she craves. If you where unscrupulous you could easily use her for sex. I can see it being harder to resist the temptation if you are more desperate for sex. she is supposedly beautiful.
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I second to avoid any "women bad" social media content. It is a whole cottage industry know of videos "criticizing" the dating market, the behavior of certain women, criticizing women for being "illogical", etc. The problem is that it frames women as an "other" and shrinks your world view. Gender war derpstate that can get in the way of growth.
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The "last version of Windows" is about to end. 4 things you can do: Upgrade to W11, though this may require a hardware upgrade. Stay on W10 at your own risk. You can permanently keep your PC disconnected from the net to mitigate security risks. Subscribe to ESU for three years of extended support (delaying the issue). Switch to Linux. Bloatware, ads and privacy issues are going to be a problem with W11, though it is apparently possible mitigate this problem by trawling through settings and disabling all sorts of widgets, bells and whistles. Copilot, while I'm wary of data harvesting, could potentially speed up data work. I'm considering switching to Linux though I've heard programs tend to work worse for Linux as it is an unpopular OS and therefor less prioritized. Thoughts?
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Conflict isn't the end of the world. You should learn to prioritize your needs as opposed to compromise to keep the peace constantly. You need a strong sense of self to make the most of life. It shouldn't really matter what people think of you. Not being able to confidently say "no" to others is a huge disadvantage and will rob you of a lot energy and joy. How people treat you is generally an extension of their survival strategy. Maybe they are nice to you again after you started ignoring them because they rely on you for work. Point is, don't take it so personally. I recommend reading the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Glover. It is a self-help book about "nice guys" who struggle getting what they want in life. It sounds like you to be honest.
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From your writing, it sounds like you try to keep the peace by placating what you perceive to be other people's wants as opposed to making your personal needs a priority and maintaining boundaries, I.E. it sounds like your needy. Needy = trying to get what you want and avoid conflict by being "good" to others. People might treat you badly because they sense this paradigm in you. It gives them a sense of power because you care about how they feel. The work culture at your job sounds kinda toxic as well. Very competitive and jealous.
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That is SD Stage Orange for you. What we find attractive are generally signs of health and reproductive fitness. Glass hour figure is attractive because it signals fertility for example. It is genetic.
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How so? What is the difference between selling your body sexually and clocking in to your 9-5 every day?
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Social media tends to take a point and exaggerate it a lot. Women have always been valued for their looks. For better or worse, they are the peacocks of our species. The trap of being valued for your looks is basing your long-term survival and happiness on it because looks tend to fade with age.
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Definitely, but nowhere to the same extent as with women. It's not as practical to deconstruct male gender roles. Women's roles used to be very stifling and the economy had to expand. Income is still the biggest predictor of long-term dating success/failure (divorces) and I think It is going to stay that way for the foreseeable feature regardless of cultural stereotyping simply because love is an economy of give and take between partners and men simply don't have the same innate features that add to the relationship like women do (beauty primarily).
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I believe that conservative governments tend to rule more selfishly, creating policies that have short-term gain but damage a countries long-term prosperity. Often serving corporate interest. That's my idea at least. We have had a draft in Scandinavia for years, but in practice there are enough volunteers that it is rare for anyone to be drafted involuntary. If the UK makes conscription attractive (free college, pay, etc.) then getting the necessary amount of draftees per year shouldn't be a problem. The military prefers their recruits to be motivated and willing. The benefit of mandatory military service is that you have a bigger pool of trained manpower you can call upon in a time of crisis. I see it as a form of insurance. Like making winter preparations during the summer.
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Basman replied to Husseinisdoingfine's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events
Really ironic that Russia justifies the invasion of Ukraine by saying they have nazis over there. Projection perhaps? -
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Yes. It is better to just not mention it, ever. They are too charged and stigmatized. People have different definitions of what words mean. Perception trumps truth in normal human interactions. People mostly learn of these words through biased sources that use these concepts as an extreme example to make some kind of argument about men or society. And most people just don't care enough to research the topic beyond that. Saying your an Incel is like saying you support seal clubbing.
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I think the difference is here is just that a low-status man is worth a lot less to society whereas women are valued for their beauty. I believe another factor is that feminism deconstructed what it meant to be a women compared to before feminism while the same hasn't happened to the same extend to men. To this day, we still largely expect men to be providers, protectors, etc. though the expectation is softening with time I think.
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Of course news matters if it directly relates to your life. I'm sure Ukrainians follow the news on their war intently even if they are refugees in another country because their life is shaped by the events that will transpire in the future in a tangible way. The same isn't true for 20-something college kids in relation to relative importance. My problem is really is that it is not the best use of your time to spend so much time and energy debating, fighting and protesting something that is not even your fight. It is unproductive and unlikely to produce anything meaningful. In fact, I think it can very well embitter and radicalize you. All this charged energy. To be clear, I don't think it is wrong to care about a foreign affair but there's a point where the energy you put in is just wasted. The best example of this is the college kids who got a criminal record during the campus occupation fad recently. Hurt their future prospects for nothing really.