Basman

What is the truth then? I honestly don't think its that deep.

If men have an understanding of women that works in real life than that understanding must be true, otherwise it wouldn't work. Like if your understanding of carpentry does not result in a house than you don't understand carpentry. Its senseless to argue with a carpenter on a fundamental level about houses when he has built hundreds of houses already. I suspect that there is degree where attraction feels different to women than to men but feelings don't necessarily equate to reality. Something can feel one way but in reality be a completely different way. A man can feel "just right" to a woman but that doesn't mean that there isn't cold survival incentives driving their feelings. Its not a coincidence either that women that feel attractive to men are usually fertile and young. I don't think men need to understand the entirety of womanhood anyway, like no red blooded male needs to understand how women menstruate. Most women don't really care what it is like to be man either and that is fair. What about these kind of discussions makes you so mad anyway? I always see you writing walls of text whenever there is talk about how women work. Do you think your above being an animal?

Treat everything less like a grind and more like a hobby. What excites you? What do you value intrinsically? What will give you peace? There is no law in the universe that states that you have to treat your body like a temple.

You can't be tricked into being attracted to someone though. If you are made to be attracted to a man due to his deliberate attempt at seducing you then that attraction must be genuine. I think what he is insinuating is that there is an asymmetry between men and women when it comes to dating and that successful men apply their knowledge and experience deliberately.

He's quit successful with women though with a pedigree for making truthful and holistic statements. Why would he talk out of his ass considering?

Your dissemination is clearly unpopular with the girls here. Why is it painful for women to learn this stuff exactly? Is it because your undermining romance as a concept?

Bro, we're getting fucking wasted.

SD Stage Blue is such a self-biased stage while being completely oblivious how self-biased they are. Like, how convenient that god bestowed you all this land that happens to run along all of this profitable coast line.

The natural state of a child is complete confidence, therefor we can assume that insecurity is the result of certain experiences with the world. In my personal experience, insecurity tends to lead to one shutting of from for example socializing, limiting your exposure (and maintaining your insecurity). Therefor we need more experience with our problem area to overcome our insecurities. People who are highly experienced in something tend to be confident, therefor we can assume that experience is key to solving insecurity. The general strategy that works for me: Learn to understand your insecurities. Why are you insecure? What are you afraid of exactly? etc. Journaling, therapy and reading up on your kind of neurosis are all good methods for doing this kind of personal archeology. Learn the principles that equip you to better handle your problem area. Read self-help, watch videos on the topic, etc. When you have an understanding of how for example socialization works theoretically then you will feel more at peace and less to the devices of your inexperienced mind when you are out there. Expose yourself to more experience. This is the most important step and the most emotionally taxing. Go out, socialize, volunteer, whatever excites you. There will be a pain period in the start where it is really challenging and you will feel really bad but you just need to continue exposing yourself. You'll be surprised how fast you'll get over your insecurities. You'll reach a point where the excitement of progress overrules any fear. Its worth pushing through the pain period because progress will make you happy and fulfilled, unlike how comfort can. It will give a zest for life, like you can do anything.

Yeah yeah, back to work.

But it is a mental matter.

Well, what if it is psychological?

The human mind and generative AI are not the same. That much is obvious. Generative AI is limited when it comes to creating new ideas for instance nor does it know or understand anything. Now you can discuss to what degree humans are truly creative VS just iterating on past input but I'd argue most people aren't being as uniquely creative as they could be due to a lack of drive rather than ability. Also, I think you and people here in general should stop with "projection" thing. Its just annoying and passive-aggressive and 9 times out of 10 its you who is projecting a projection unto others, putting words in peoples mouths and making assumptions. I don't think humans are superior to AI because I don't see AI as a person so there is no comparison to be made.

This sounds like stoner techno infused bro-science. "The human brain is just ChatGPT, man" is just the updated version of "we must be be living in the matrix, dude".

As in telling them how their parenting turned you out, the issues you got from them, etc? Personally, I think its a bad idea most of the time. It is just going to come of as judgemental and be emotionally distressing to the parents unless they are completely ambivalent to you (in which case you probably don't even have a relationship with them). Like, is it not enough for you to know for yourself how your environment shaped you? I'm asking because recently someone I know who is a parent had their daughter visit (who has a diagnosis) and they basically laid into them with criticisms and blame. Obviously, quiet an extreme example but even if you are more cordial and less emotionally charged it doesn't seem wise in the majority of cases. Like its too close to home, don't you think?

I can't be the only one who dreams of the day that AI has truly destroyed the job market such that UBI or whatever becomes a necessity (assuming we go down that path). Imagine having the freedom to just exist and focus on your values and passions. Its going to sound spoiled but I think that future societies will look back on our current times and view our relative lack of subsistence rights as barbaric, like how we view colonization as barbaric.

Formulating your opinions such that others can understand what you think forces you to verbalize your thoughts which is itself a learning experience as you develop your ideas and contemplations further. Having to relate to others is an opportunity for growth. People can also come with insightful input and tangents and expose you to new ideas and concepts that you didn't know existed which you don't get with AI because AI only gives you exactly what you put in. You can learn different things without having to directly seek it out on forums unlike with AI. AI can't give you real life experiences. Those who have had those experiences can answer your questions directly. There is also just the joy of sharing. AI is good for making general statements in my experience but you have to take everything with a pinch of salt as it doesn't "know" anything. Its literally a thousand monkeys with typewriters. If you really want to become well-read on certain topics you have to read up on high-quality sources.

I'm an artist but I'm worried that making my art my career will kind of kill the passion while paying less than a more practical job could. in the book Mastery, the author proposes a type of career where your day job is something that makes money (still aligning with your strengths and values) and then you making your art how you relax, with the aim of selling it somehow down the line. It feels a little more secure but there are obvious drawbacks here too I think.

Considering that its just about releasing your own emotions essentially, it would be unethical to not honor the agency of your parents in this case. If given the choice, would they want to have this conversation? I don't see how you are losing anything by not having such a discussion with your parents. Its not about living a lie but having the maturity to include other peoples wants and needs besides your own assuming you maintain healthy boundaries. You don't need to do this in my opinion, which is the problem. People are not obligated to suffer your pent-up rage.

Not feeling emotions sounds like a psychological issue. In my experience, if someone doesn't like to party in general its because they have some sort of emotional hang up when with other people. Very rarely do people not enjoy being social and having fun in essence.

Awaken the Giant Within by T. Robbins has a lot on motivation and how to make yourself take right action. The pain-pleasure principle I leverage in particular a lot. Basically it means to convince yourself that something that is initially painful is actually more pleasurable than painful and vice-versa (in terms of vices, laziness, etc.)

Most problems can be solved with money, so making more money should be a priority. It will make you more at peace as you worry less and feel more free to live according to your values. Get a job/go into education. Besides that, there are a lot of cheap/free resources on the internet. Library is also free and often have desktop computers available. Journaling is cheap and a tried and true self-help tool. See what social services are available to you and if they help improve your emotional state and future prospects. If you are a woman, having kids could be a way to receive benefits in certain countries (only if you like kids).

I think Leo has improved a lot in terms of his delivery since I started using this forum regularly. Used to be way more arrogant and obnoxious. Its good to see him striving to improve and it inspires to be mindful of how I act myself. In my own experience, the little things can make or break someone. Like someone being randomly rude or annoying, despite being relatively insignificant, does add a little bit more to someones emotional bucket and could be the drop that tips it over. Looking back over the bad experiences I had in general, the little things did matter.

I can see your argument if you think its necessary in order to continue the relationship somehow but in that case I think the relationship is already damaged to a point where its too late for a "normal" relationship. I don't think its worth it if it damages the relationship assuming you maintain healthy boundaries moving forward.

I'll never be like you dad.