Rafael Thundercat

Well, she is stating her taste. You can assume she uncousciously still will fall fpr badBoys and It must be the case, but in the beggining of the thread I didnt say we are not allowed to express our personal preferences. For example, I am not attracted for promiscuous girls. Promiscuity is a subjective thing so would be difficult to make a list of all behaviors I would declare as promiscuity, but to give an example, there is a girl, a german girl in one of my circle of friends that in the vision of another girl is the model of sensual ,sexually liberated woman yadayada. And for me her usual behaviors totally repels me sexually. This is the Girl that is hitting in this girl boyfriend. For me what is atractive is a bit of elegance, sensuality yes, but not a performative exagerated archetype of the Lillith or what some NewAge Hippies call the SacredWhore or whatever. For me just be a human being, nothing of pretentions. So, is ok to have preferences, and to know how one wants to be treated. The women attracted by Assholes, let them be, they maybe lucky and the Asshole was just a fake mark or the Asshole was a real Asshole and she will harvest dissapointment. The focus as a man is to train yourself to cut througth bullshit and be honest with what you want and dont get disappointed yourself.

I have a friend that is Atheist. And I gave him this exact Challenge: Forget asking me or others Who is God, first Try to find and prove the existence of "You" This is what I feel when I see many futile debates in this part of the Forum. This video speak all I want to say when I see some debating here. So I am posting then I will not say more anything.

I studied Many models, Astrology, Human Desing, Gene Keys, Brigs Mayer, etc... but what this guy say here is true. In the end of the day we undertand others and even ourself by asking the carrot and stick question. What pleasure are you looking for and what Pain are you running away from. In other words " INCENTIVES"

Is importat to give more context, at least about at least what State or City you are located because Geography play a lot in the matter. If you are young and life in isolated contryside you of course will have less expousure to new oportunites. I lived in the Mountains and the nature was amazing but socially I was lacking a lot so I moved to the city and next to the Beach where I can still have good ocean baths, clubs, social events if I want. So what you want if optionality. Options, so you will expand your soul. For now be very precise in you routine, diet and information consumption so you dont get distracted with unecessary bullshit that will not directly change your life. But again, if you want more help from people here you need to give more precise inputs of your context.

Well, we all know that If an Animal is acting out of its niche and is trying to accomplish what his natural capacities didnt fit him to do he will fail. Or because the Niche is Wrong or because he is trying to offer what he are not fit to offer. Imagine a Jellyfish tring to survive in a desert. Based on this, How do you define a niche, what are the important crucial questions to make? How to find out if what you decide to offer as Value, have really Value or is just a dream?

Is amazing we have this today. As someone who was present in a person dying in front of me recently I can say to Observe it is a big experience. To see someone who you was talking with or even having breakfeast in the morning and in the afternoon you are there seeing her inert in the flow with the eyes open with that profound static stareing is very humbleling. The experience was for days in my mind, realizing that one day, this biorobot I am will eventualy turn of and this is it. A whole life gone in a second. To die is as normal as to born.

@James123 bro, you are boring. You sound like this idiots who pretent they know it all with this Absolutist short answers. Why not give life a little more brilhance. Have you ever experienced Infinity? Have you ever did at least a good amount of 5Meo or other psycadelics end hit the rock bottom? Take your head out of your butt and go do some work. You make questions to people not knowing that maybe the person you are asking maybe in fact experienced what you are asking. But the way you ask sound like you are just asking like a troll.

Maybe is because you have secure attachment and a healty knowledge of your own psyche and know your boundaries. Some people as the girl I know had a father that used to ignore her and dont give her appraisal etc.. so now this father wound makes her get attracted exactly by man that reenact the way her father use to treat her. Weird but true. And the more crazy is that she is aware of this factor but she say she cant avoid. So even knowing consciously the cause of her discontent she still end up following her subconcious patters.

As clear as possible What dosent kill you make you wiser.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/persistent-non-symbolic-experience The whole Leo Post is great and for me it is about the only thing that I being working my whole life to understand: Distinctions. Duality and Oneness Merged as it never was separated. We live by making Distictions, you could not even know the difference of a cup of poison or a juice without learning distictions, distinctions that where giving to you by others who also made distictions and survived by it. No distictions and is all a unified indistinct something. So I started watching this video about the Gnostics Essenes, the video explain that Jesus or Yoshua was not a Christian. Of course. He was a Mystic. And there is a point in the video he brings the history of Adam and Eve and the two trees, one is Eternal Life and the Second is the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. So, here we have the original Sin, the fruit of Distinction. Who to say what is good and what is Evil? Good, help me survive, Evil can Kill me The video is amazing if you are able to see that is teaching somehow the exaxt process of cutting distinctions till there is only pure objectivity, pure Isness.

If you are not commited with Virility, then there is no Hack that will help.

Now one knows where humans learn how to control each other. Who was really the first sheepeards?

Our direct experience is biased by our present organism. If you could have eyes like that crazy ocean lobster I forgot the name you would have a totally different reallity. As far as my experience goes I was able to see things after 3 cups of Ayahusca that I could now say that is nuts, fairy tale stuff. So when we go day by day navegating reality we are ignoring by defalt a huge part of what is really going on. All for the sake of our sanity

Yes, I ego nature thar is the same to say that is human nature. Yes I hard to reject, for us man is hard, for women even harder because they are use to be the ones who are used to make the picking, and being rejected must hard to the self-esteem

I think the easy way to create your own ecosystem is to create a community, not online, really in real life, a space where there are frequent meeting to share topics, drink something that dont involve alcool, have pre-planed topics that the participants will study during the weeek and bring their insigths. Almost like a book club but not necessarialy about reading a single book. Almost like a chuch but less the dogma and rituals that have non sense. Maybe the Websites Perspectiva, The Stoa and similar movements are a model for it. Something like a third place a Philosophy Club with defined rules of conviviality and a moderator do have some order or a guide leader.

One nigth in a Club I hit on a girl and she rejected me. Later she Saw me dancing with another Hot Girl and she came fixing me, I ignored her. So she spill her drink while trying to dance with me and suddenly started to scream: Idiot!! You spill m drink!!! She got ready crazy, and tried to even punch me. I could see what was going on, and she was of course drunk, so was the subconscious playing its tricks. Since that day I avoid clubs as a place to look for girls. Smoke, Drunkness and Noise. I will not look for girls in the Trashbin.

I know a friend, a woman who keeps declaring that she have a crush for assholes and badboys, but she keep in loops of wanting to tame down them to commit only with her and she cant. And when she push the guy to it he say " I am a free man!!" The guy in this specific situation end up having affait with one of her best friends. In the end people need to compromisse some fantasies if what they want is Happiness. But woman want the whole cake. And there is a reason for it. Delusion, yea, but a suble reason that even they have difficulty to explain themselfs. We all will have all we want one day, and this may be Awakening, or for some, when they die.

sometimes we create very strong intellect as a coping mechanism to not dive deep into our fellings. To avoid where it hurts. The thing is, when a wound is not treated it dont vanish, it pesters. Yes, there are enviroments that are better to our brilhance, but never forgeting that wherever I go, I take myself with me , my guts, body and all the things it carries, included traumas.

And this one is for the Ladies. I personally know one friend, a girl Who are frustrated that she cant get the Guy she ready had some sex to commit with her. I didnt knew what to answer to her what she could do about it, but I think this guy explained all. At least for me, I will not ever commit after the woman show that is worth in the long term and this demands that she have also some game, the commitment game

@Leo Gura speaking of Value, here is a analogy about the Men Woman Stock Market Value. Mating Game is Harsh.

You assume a Who and a time of creation. Who told you that there is a need of a Who, a subject? You project subjectivity because you are a subject. Where your subjectivity came from? Who created your sense of self? Time started with you, do you ever experienced any time that was not your time? Or the time of your life? The question is Who are "You"? Who created "You"? You want answers from others but yoi dont even know how of when or where you created your own sense of being a self

Distinction create this nothing, you created not only this distinction of something and nothing, your sense of self and a sense of another ones, dimentionality, colors, linear time, your storyline, memories and much more. Is a big mesh, almost like you are stuck in the middle of a muddy lake stuck in ball of silky hair, trying to get free from it and the move you move more you get yourself entangled on it. You will not get free by using language and symbols because you are trying to use the second order to understand the first order, the more you think more threads you add to trap youself in yourself. Distinctions all the way down, backstories upon backstories. Focus on your present direct experience free from backstories. But of course, you will just try to do it you probably will not really doing otherwise you would fall in the floor in total existential terror

MOAI – Connected for life https://ikigai-accessories.com/moai-connected-for-life/ excerpt from the link: MOAI – Mo•ai (/mo,eye/) Japan – connected for life . Moai is the name for a lifelong group of friends that look out for one another. MOAI, THE POWER OF DOING things together Elders in Okinawa, Japan, one of the original blue zones longevity hotspots, live extraordinarily better and longer lives than almost anyone else in the world. ‘Moai’ is a concept, from this region where people live much longer, happier and healthier than average. Moai is the name for a lifelong group of friends that share their joys and troubles, a source of support essential to their health and wellbeing. Moai, one of their longevity traditions, are social support groups that start in childhood and extend into the 100s. The term originated hundreds of years ago as a means of a village’s financial support system. Originally, moais were formed to pool the resources of an entire village for projects or public works. If an individual needed capital to buy land or take care of an emergency, the only way was to pool money locally. Today the idea has expanded to become more of a social support network, a cultural tradition for built-in companionship. In small neighborhoods across Okinawa, friends “meet for a common purpose” (sometimes daily and sometimes a couple days a week) to gossip, experience life, and to share advice and even financial assistance when needed. They call these groups their moai. Traditionally, groups of about five young children were paired together and it’s then that they made a commitment to each other for life. As their second family, they would meet regularly with their moai for both work and play and to pool resources. Some moais have lasted over 90 years! Members of the Moai make a monthly contribution to the group which is used for dinners, games, meetings or whatever hobby’s they have in common. Part of the funds are used to support members of the Moai that have financial difficulties. Having such a social safety net helps to prevent loneliness and maintain emotional and financial stability. The feeling of belonging and support gives the individuals a sense of security and helps increase life quality and expectancy.We believe in the power of Moai. Studies reveal that close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives. Those ties protect people from life’s discontents, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes. With everything from losing weight, quitting smoking, exercising, studying, the support of others allows us to stay engaged and achieve more powerful results. Group accountability helps us to show up, and enables us to turn lofty ambitions into consistent routines. We do not have this kind of social life in Europe, but perhaps we can learn from it and look around us at who we might be able to help socially. Because more and more people are lonely and simply need a helping hand in the form of a cosy gathering.

@DreamCryX W hen you say "We have zero control over it, it's not our choice." you are talking about the average man of course, because Conscious men can Control themselfs and make concious choices of who they interact, and be aware to not hurt and use another person. I personaly when I see a woman wants me and I dont have genuine feelings for her I dont advance, I be clear and compassive. We can control ourselfs and not destroy peoples lifes.