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Its ok, you cant change that, but you need to play to your strengths and reframe your supposed limitation. First of all, you need to become a master at: -oral sex -finger game -squirting -DIRTY TALK Biggest part of sex is abstract, emotional, not physical, especially for woman. Its not her pussy, ass or breasts the more erogenous part of her body. Its her brain. You have to become a master at making her wet without penetration, without even touching her. Can you make her moan just by gently kissing her forearm? Get to the point she is BEGGING you to fuck her. At that point your d size is really no problem. Try learning about sex so you reach a point that guys with bigger ds become jealous of you. Become a mystery. A fucking contradiction. So you get in the sauna and guys cant believe hot girls want to keep having sex with a man who is not 'that big'. Become the dick-paradox. But more important. Nobody really gives a fuck about your d size. Check out some of these: - https://sexualquantumleap.com/ - Don of desire: (buy his ebooks if they are available). - Sex God Method. - https://www.youtube.com/@JasonJulius/videos The key here is to understand the psychology of sex (especially for women), and forget for a while about the male POV.

I just rewatched the 'Burning through Karma video'. How hard it is! Sometimes it feels that is never going to end. Going back to previous vices, habits and attatchemts. For example, now Im in a long term relationships, in my 30s, and I have this urge for the past month or so to date other women (younger). But its not just sex, its more like a short type honeymoon phase romance. I feel bad about it ofc. No shame though. How do you handle this guys? One of the tips in the video is to exhaust cravings. Well, I did it. I had sex and connection with multiple women to the point I felt bored about it, even some times I felt dirty and regret and emptiness after sex. I feel it goes like this: wether you do it (exhaust the craving), or not, you are going to keep having it, if you do it, maybe less than before, but you will. I feel there is no scape, but to deal with them. But at the same time, if you tasted great sex and great romance, and if you felt competent why would you stop? Thats the tough part for me. With food, porn its easier. You dont really get anything of value, but sex and romance... damn

Yes, but if you are attractive you can use tinder or Instagram also. Get a date ASAP and follow up from there in real life.

5+years. I dont want to break up. Its about the urges, the cravings for the experience. What really piss me off is that they keep coming, and is not just sex/seduction/romance. Its also sugar, social media... hahah Im not planning doing stupid stuff (especially drunk). That leads to regret, which is way worse than the pain of the cravings. Im not feeding it, thats the thing. I have cravings for something that Ive tasted in the past but I dont have now, even though Im in a LTR. I hope I get to old for it. Sometimes these cravings highjack my mind. But I feel is not that easy. I asked a friend in his 40s if he has less sex drive, and he answered me: 'no! its even worse. In your 20s you are attracted to women in their 20s, in your 30s you are attracted to women in their 20s + 30s, in your 40s you are attracted to women in their 20s + 30s + 40s. So it gets even worse!'' That hit me hard. Im curious. You said in the video you have that craving for deep intimacy and romance. Have you satisfied it? But still.. here is the problem I see. If you haven't, you will regret it. If you have, it will fade, and if it was so good, you can became addicted to it. I guess we have to pick our poison. Exactly. The problem is that in my area there a lot of beautiful women. I was re-reading The way of the superior man, and yes, its a masculine thing. Im accepting more the craving now, feeling it, letting it flow through my body in stead of feeling bad about it. There a couple of chapters titled: 'you will often want more than one woman' and 'your attraction to the feminine is inevitable'. So yeah, but still, it seems that it never is going to go away. My guess is that we have to embrace that and live with that cravings from time to time. Just try to make them less intense. Yep. Thats the problem I find in Burning through karma concept. I feel that it can backfire. Nope. Love and lust are two different things. Also if one person in the relationship grows, stay fit etc... and the other doesnt... it creates a gap, and its easier to 'look around' in that scenario, even if its unconsciously. tits and abs are important, especially young. Don't kid ourselves here. Otherwise incels wouldn't exist.

How did you 'fix' it?

nope, caloric surplus makes you fat. you can eat 100% carbs for a month with a 30% caloric deficit and you will lose weight. Ofc this is not recommended. Also carbs make your workouts better, so the weight you lose would be mostly from body fat, minimizing muscle loss.

Ok, trust me on this. Stop the cardio. You just need 2 things: 1. Diet. -Calculate your calorie needs. Eat -30% of that daily. -Eat around 150grs of protein per day (2x your BW) 2. 3-4 days a week strength training. You can do full body or upper-lower split. Also, instead of cardio, just walk more. IF you do those things, you will lost fat, WHILE maintaining (even gaining) muscle mass. And to answer your question. Yes, you can lose 20kg in 1 year. But why do you want to go down to 53kg when you are 167cm? thats not healthy. Around 65kg with decent muscle mass will look great.

I just wrote about it deeply to my audience (I got feedback telling me I should write a book about it) It goes something like this: --- Groupthink makes you believe your peak years are your 20s. Why? Sex, alcohol, party, healthy, little responsibilities... Your body responds, your mind is fresh, everything is new and you can 'maximize dopamine'. But what happens when the law of diminishing returns starts to work against you? (and it will). What happens when new things are no longer exciting? Thats the 30 year old dip. And a huge gap is created between guys that make a shift and the ones who just give up. Most people buy the lie 'your 20s are your prime', because they are trapped in pleasure seeking. And that doesnt work after 30. People need a shift. A shift towards spirituality, life purpose and self-education. A shift towards eudaimonia, mindfulness, bliss, peace, awakening. A shit towards enjoying simple things in life. Things that are not glamorous per se. Leo has a video titled: ''why valuable things take time''. Well, thats true. You can go have sex, or get drunk tonight, but thats not the good life. The good life is more sophisticated than that. The good life are the things I mentioned above. And that requires work, patience, discipline, integrity and maturity. Damn, even as I go through a challenging period in my life now, I feel that the negative emotions Im feeling are more 'pure and deeper' that the ones I felt when I was younger. - This is top tier stage orange advice: And most people need to play the orange-green game for a couple decades (It seems Kant was a party guy until 40...) But what 1stMan does not see is the spiritual side; so for us, age can be an even bigger upside. +40 is when you can get really deep results in spirituality, life purpose and self-awareness. For me the keys, now getting into my 40s are: -Health: Strength training, healthy nutrition and stretching/mobility training -Life purpose -Spirituality -Constant self-education -Optimism/Vitalism And of course, arguably the most important thing of all: Life really does begin at 40. Up until then, you are just doing research," -Carl Jung

Top tier video. I was getting distracted by tons of things lately and I was noticing that I was being pulled back into groupthink. Just 1 hour in and found it truly valuable. Time to get back to the drawingboard.

Yeah, the left is totally wrong about immigration. They wont admit that, because admitting that would be accepting the far-right premise. Its obvious that the numbers of immigration in Europe and the US is getting out of hand. Some people live in their bubble, but when they travel to some specific cities they realize whats really happening (because they wont accept the data). I know people that vote for the left but admit that the far right is correct about immigration. Its not about hate, its about whats best for your country and for your people. Its about having solid borders, the same way you have them at your home. You invite people in, yes, but there is a solid standard.

Of course its clearly demonstrated A quick google search is enough to find out.

hahah the second paragraph is exactly what most right wing parties propose. In fact if you say that to most leftist, they would label you as 'extremist' or 'fascist'

This is a easy one. You can have an awakening on psychedelics and change nothing in your life. Your baker could have and awakening last year on dmt and you wouldnt know. You dont transform into an Osho-like character.

So, you could have an awakening, realize you are God, Oneness, but still, ''you are seeing/perceiving'' the chair in front of you. Is it really possible to just be, without perception? My guess is that even if you have a (sober) awakening, you can't eliminate the senses. Or with a high dose of 5meo or similar, can you really lose all perception and just 'be'?

Its not an experience. When the self disolves and you realize you are One, there is no experience. You can label that after the fact. The ego can recall it like that. But its not. If you get drunk and somehow you have an insight that your wife is cheating on you, and you are correct, then that substance showed you the truth. Is that a non legit way to get that realization? The truth was there all the time. You couldnt see it. But now you see it.

Mold? lol These people live in their own bubble of health optimization...

but are you genuinely and permanently directly conscious of your true nature or the nature of existence? No. You will just have memories of exceptional experiences that you thought gave meaning to something, and it may help you challenge some conventional assumptions, but it won’t give you a direct consciousness of the nature of you or reality. >Enlightenment is not the same as awakening. Direct means direct, drugs can NOT be direct—by definition they are completely indirect, since they are not YOU! Direct means it must be you, not an experience or perception of any kind that you have, which are actually both indirect >Yes they can. He talks about experiences or perception, but the ''drug'' can get you to Oneness, the colapse between subject and object. It seems like he talks about having cool visions, which of course is not awakening. You can totally understand what you are without experiencing/perceiving nothing new (0 changes in the content, just a change in CONTEXT). Therefore, no drug, no change of state, no perceptive-experience, no matter how fantastic it is, can produce a direct consciousness. >He still asumes that the drug cannot erase (momentarily) the object-subject duality. These are true believers, who may also pursue Buddhist teachings and have lived in monasteries and such. But all of these drug induced experiences and rituals haven’t changed their life at all, except very temporarily, and certainly hasn’t increased their consciousness at all. So, there’s that. >LOL. Cherrypicking. And if someone says to him that he had a proper awakening with drugs, he would dismiss it. So damned if you do, damned if you dont. I know two people who’ve had enlightenments that tried this drug to see what it was about. They report that it is a strong and demanding drug that can have positive or negative effects, but none of it increases consciousness or is enlightenment. >Same as before. There are yoguis who took mushrooms, and said that yes, that it was the same state they reached from years of meditation. So, who's right?

Dan Peña just read 5 books in his life. And one of them is his book lol

Dude, this is so deep. Had the same a couple years back in an awakening. Almost no one talks about this.

LOOL

I guess with age you become a bit more angry (more dense energy like he says), but take George Carlin for example. Hyper funny. He transmuted anger into comedy like no one else.

oh oh Just the first 2 minutes. He always respond to: ''will this approach work?''' '' FIELD TEST IT' But keeps talking about psychedelics, and not testing this.

Owen was so funny back in the day. Damn it. It was better than most standup guys. Also Jeffy, Max, Julien pre-2015 were very entertaining. Maybe RSD makes more money now, but it has no soul.