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I agree! But my issue is not with the emotion itself, but the actions I do because I'm blinded by the anger.

It's time for me to take life in my hands. I want to be more proactive. I need to be productive but let myself rest, and not overdo. I have to accept that I don't feel good every day, and that I can't be motivated always and every day. I have to learn to be more understanding and compassionate. Towards myself and others.

I'm glad I'm practicing guitar properly, although my forearms hurt a bit. I'm getting back on track, I'm practicing difficult passages for a duo (flute & guitar), but it's not ready yet. I'm far from ready. But it's gonna be good. I need to be dedicated. This afternoon I'll make a schedule for this month - I want to: Meditate 30 minutes a day when I wake up Stretch at least 10 minutes in the morning Workout daily Practice properly and mindfully (at least 2h a day - the goal is 3 mindful hours - when I work it can vary) Schedule Instagram posts for growth, and my newsletter Work on growing my business in as many ways as possible Journal daily Read at least a page per day (I can start fiction books to relax) Let go of small addictions - dopamine Work on life purpose Work on business ideas Be kind to myself Keep being mindful through the day Learn to be selfless Go out, meet people and be more social Live life more, explore and learn new things, do new activities Let myself rest

But the actions you do because of anger do impact others

Def gonna watch it

⚫ Dad Today dad is okay. He is doing good physiotherapy properly, but he looks depressed. I understand he's tired, but he has to do, otherwise there's no future for him, and especially my mom.

You're not alone❤️

I did it a couple of times but I didn't get much effect... Maybe I did it wrong idk

@Princess Arabia thank you for the insight❤️

@Applegarden8 thank you, have a fast recovery!!

what are these practices?

@LastThursday thank you for the great advice, ill look into NLP for sure. Yes, I do want to unlearn this behavior. In the toxic ways of my family, I learned to scream, fight, offend, and more. I detached from them and I'm becoming different in many aspects, but I'm still trying to work on this one. It's very difficult because I don't get angry very often, and when I do I have to be 10x mindful (with daily things it's easier to unlearn or change things, but if it happens once a month is tougher)

@Ero I might start going again, thank you for the idea... I don't do any sport so that's a problem for sure

I like bouldering, but I'm a guitarist and I need nails to play. with that, I ruin them or even break them

uf I get so bored at the gym... I've been going for years, but maybe I should start again, do more cardio, make my heart run a bit haha

@Princess Arabia I totally agree with you with most of what you say. Yes, those are stories, but they do happen in the now, and it's a very unpleasant now. I am doing strong mindfulness work, and I can say that I live in the now most of the time, me making this post is about reflection and growth, not about blaming or criticizing. The problem is not anger, as I said before, but how I act because of it. I can move on, and I do, but the people that I hurt don't. And apart from this, I simply don't want to hurt the people around me (this is what the whole post is about, but maybe I was not clear enough), and if I learn what anger is, and how to deal with it, I can be a healthier person with myself and others. Hence this post.

Nice not to be alone🙂

Btw I'm glad that for you it's not a big deal!

@Schizophonia I see your point and I agree. I live abroad away from my family, but I come back once per month/2 months. I will go back to my city after I finish my studies to help my mom. This situation has become terrible, and it's not about helping my dad anymore, it's about helping my mom. She's alone and has only me and my brother. Anyway I think I have an anger problem, and in this case my dad is the main trigger, but if he wouldn't be, it would probably be my mom, or other things, idk. I can't walk away from problems because they make me angry. That's why I ask about anger here, to see which are the ways to be better.

It's a good advice and I'll use it with people, thank you! Even tho I recognize that in the moment I'm angry it's difficult to have a lucid mind and be able to communicate effectively like this.

@Sugarcoat you can't communicate to him, he won't understand. One example is: my mom, dad, and I are in another country for him to do an intensive therapy. After the accident tho, he became super lazy, and he doesn't want to do. We try to explain that he has to do it to have his life back, and also because we spent tens of thousands of euros for this. And he says: "yes yes!". But he doesn't really understand. Or maybe he does, but he doesn't remember. So if in some moment I communicate my anger he doesn't understand. Or maybe he starts laughing for no reason.

I do accept anger itself, but not how I act. I can't be violent with words and actions. I accept the emotion but I don't want to act the way I do.

I understand. What is your relationship with anger? Do you or did you also have the reactions I get? If yes do you want to change them/did you manage to change them?

@Sugarcoat I understand. But I feel my main anger issues come from my dad. He has a brain injury and it's indeed frustrating and difficult af. Most of the times I'm compassionate and trying to be helpful etc. but it's super difficult. This is the situation that probably creates blocked and suppressor anger.

Is it an online course? @Ishanga