Sincerity

Spare video please...

Thank You. We're all learning from each other here.

My literal reaction to this information...

My heart is crying because the main post is going over your head.

You know best what You want and what You don't. So perhaps my advice wasn't applicable to your situation - You gotta assess this. I will bring up this point though: This may sound silly, but I think You can still enjoy something that You don't really want. I understand You feel accomplished, proud of yourself at the gym, etc. And that's great! Nothing wrong with that. But thing is, why do You procrastinate and lose momentum for it then? You could contemplate it like Alexop recommended. Maybe it's just me but when I'm doing something from the heart there's just no way for me to procrastinate (for long) or lose momentum. On the other hand when I'm forcing myself to do something it's IMPOSSIBLE for the long term - even if it feels good when I do it! It just doesn't work. So what I do is focus on what resonates. You mentioned You've been strong on the entrepreneurial side since your teens. I'd guess (?) that You don't have to force yourself much to take on this work when it's the time for it. If so, then why is starting this work easy, but going to the gym is hard? You did have the drive to consume a lot of content on building a business, take notes, etc. Maybe that's how it feels when something clicks with You, and the cyclical loss of momentum for the gym is how it feels when it doesn't click? I don't know. I just think that if something really clicks with You, starting doing it is rather effortless and You don't procrastinate much. But hey, maybe that's just me! You are a different person. I don't wanna discourage You from going to the gym if that's what You want. Though You have to examine your emotions and find out why You are feeling the way You are feeling. And note that if You wanna escape a vicious cycle, You can't do more of the same thing.

For the record I don't remember your posts 😭😭

I found myself in a very similar situation to You in the past. Actually I still feel similarly at times with certain things, but much less I'd say. Here is my advice. You think You need to do many of these things (like go to the gym), but the truth is that You don't really want it. AND THAT IS OKAY. It seems to me that your case could be described as follows: the mind trying to force the heart into wanting something. But the truth is the mind will never succeed in that. You will only cause yourself pain. It's like You're trying to go against the current of the river. The mind should serve the heart and NOT the other way around! Listening to the heart instead of the mind is difficult. Your mind will provide You with all the explanations of how You will be DOOMED and how You will DIE and your life will go to HELL if You stop going to the gym for example. But it's all bullshit. The heart is guiding You well, You are just afraid to follow its wisdom. You are afraid to abandon the mind, but the mind's guidance is retarded. The mind thinks that something should be done and the heart knows what should be. It's not that going to the gym is bad. But maybe it's just not for You! I don't know what your heart wants but let me tell You, You could find many alternatives to the gym - You could be going swimming, You could sign up for yoga classes, You could be dancing, running, playing tennis, walking 10K steps everyday, I don't know! Hell, maybe it's a matter of just going to another gym! Point is, instead of trying to force yourself to want something, start doing what You're really dreaming of! Because if You have to force yourself so much to go to the gym it's a clear sign that You're doing it out of the mind. See, if the heart wants something it's effortless. You just do it. You don't have to fight. It's easy! Going with the current is easy, while going against it is a constant fight. In practice, how do You start listening to the heart? First of all You could LET GO of your need to go to the gym for example, let go of the "shoulds". Just let the whole thing go and be okay with it. You have to trust that something else, something better will come eventually. HAVE FAITH! Be open and wait for it. And then it will come. Maybe your friend will mention to You some martial arts classes that he heard of and You will think "oh hmm, that sounds interesting..." - and this will be it. You will then sign up for these martial classes and You will be going there effortlessly. It won't be what You thought You should be doing - it will be something better, the right thing. Notice I said that your friend might mention to You this possibility. A friend was an example, You could see a billboard or read something on the internet - just go along with it. My point is that THIS is how it often works. You "accidently" hear about something and it instantly somehow clicks with You. But with time You can realize that these aren't accidents. It is much more magical and profound than that. But in order to be open to these "accidents" You have to let go of the retarded "shoulds" of the mind. Don't be afraid. Break the cycle. Actualize what You are REALLY meant to be. Hope this resonates. Happy new year.

Bump. As others said before, this should be pinned.

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As for the kind words Y'all are some really interesting and inspiring people. Reading through the journal subforum is easy proof of that. There's so many of them but I love @Everyday's 165 Days Before College journal for example, or @Zigzag Idiot's ladder of objective reason. It's so cool to read about someone else's journey, their highs and lows, etc... And check out the videos/sources they post. I discovered many new sources which clicked with me thanks to y'alls journals. @LastThursday @Carl-Richard @DocWatts @Bazooka Jesus I especially enjoy reading your posts. I would list more but I don't remember the usernames lol. @ZenSwift You posted some good trip reports. I didn't comment but I enjoyed reading them! Good work! Thank You to the rest of the mod team for the great work! (Not that I'm unbiased but still hahaha ) And finally, at the beginning of this year I met up irl with a user from our forum and we became great friends. We live in the same city, we talk regularly, we meet up. Such fun times. We're similar in many ways and yet our paths differ so much - which makes it interesting! I'm very grateful for You, *****. Thank You!

An alien would have a 5 hour long interview with him.

Happy to lock this circus...

@Leo Gura Suggestion for a new user type: member asexual These discussions are so repetitive it's really getting boring...

That is true to a degree. But such a discussion with You is flawed from the very start because You're coming from a very biased place. For the last time: You are fighting foes in your mind. It's YOUR FEELINGS of shame (or whatever) which You're not looking at which are the motivators behind the majority of your posts here. And indeed, You are not taking responsibility. Look how many people here (including Leo) are telling You to look at yourself. This is NOT a disservice to You, this is a blessing. You are resisting VERY HARD and kicking wildly, but for what? It's your life and You're giving it away to fight imaginary foes and blame the other...

I don't know what tf is this question. It's feelings and it doesn't change a darn thing. I don't need to earn your respect...

Well, You ain't respecting it dude... Blind bias is not what we call commitment to truth.

And You are unreachable. This is a self-improvement forum. I don't know what You're doing here.

@mr_engineer

Your concern with the others' feelings and blaming the other all the time is a self-deception keeping You from taking responsibility and LOOKING AT YOURSELF. But it's not really the others' feelings. It's your ideas of it. Do we? It's not about fucking male sexuality. It's about YOU. YOU. YOU. YOU. YOU!!! YOUR FEELINGS. YOUR SHAME. YOU. It's not going to get more obvious than this.

You shouldn't be so concerned with others' feelings in the first place. You just ain't taking responsibility.

Responsibility is not a burden. It's a virtue. No one is telling You to take responsibility for others' feelings. Take responsibility for your own and LOOK AT YOURSELF.

They, they they....

Yes, so start taking some. And stop endlessly blaming the "other".

"It's the women!" volume 1000...

Edgy.