Saarah

There's a book called The Power of Focus by Jack Canfield et al. I started reading it and it was very good at showing you how to form and stick with habits and how focus is key It's something that I personally need to work on also, although I started reading the book, I never got far because it belonged to an auntie who has a problem with me, so i'll have to look for it elsewhere Another useful tool i'd like to share with you is Zenhabits, this is a website led by another Leo (lol!) and it's all about habits, but I heard he's releasing an app soon to help you develop good habits, so look out for it. I think he already might have an app out of some sort, he also has a paid sea change programme which helps with that stuff but I've never done that.

Even your username suggests to me this is just eating you up You should leave and laugh your way out because clearly something isn't right, the clinginess and all that chimpiness I grew up in a Muslim family and still am (i'm secretly an atheist) and here the expectation is that marriage is this big step and part of life and I've already been asked if I want to get engaged to so-and-so and I of course said no. I'm 18 for crying out loud, and I don't see it as necessary anymore, I used to think 23 was an ideal age, and now I realise that is way too young, if you wanted to get married in the first place, which I don't think I do anymore.

I felt like this last week You just may not be feeling very optimistic or happy with life and everything you have to do in the day, I would wake up thinking "what's the point". From that the first thing to do would be to change your mindset about everything, It certainly helps to listen, read or watch something inspiring as soon as you wake up I know people say don't check your phone first thing in the morning, but I think if you do it to do something inspiring instead of draining, that helps a lot

West Yorkshire, England

I've recently been listening to Yellow - by Coldplay You know how he says "look at the stars, look how they shine for you" reminds me of Alan Watts when he talks about the fact that there is no light without your eyes to perceive it, life is relationship It reminds you to remove your identity and your ego, and to realise you are part of the universe, you're not some separate entity, and that you were not put on this universe, you came out of it which ties in nicely to enlightenment

This is what I've felt too You just have to understand that they're not aware of a lot of the things you're aware of and you have to be non-judgemental about it. They are as they are, and as you come across many people in life who seem asleep, you just got to see yourself as playing "the human game" or the society one, whichever, lol

I don't think it would be worth it, a lot of stuff we learn in personal development like not being judgemental, this is a huge theme that runs many religious texts like the bible I believe there are these 'golden threads' which run through religions, like being grateful (albeit to god) and being self-less towards others, these feel good factors of religion trick you into believing that you feel good because you follow god, in reality it's just those nice acts, the golden threads that can be done without religion that are actually making you feel good

Anger was one of the first things I tried to deal with too when starting personal development Thing about anger is, it's often a result of wanting to control things and wanting things to go a certain way Whenever you find yourself being a control freak, you have to remember that everything that is happening just is, you have to accept reality, and remember the only thing you can control is yourself not other people or situations That's just something I always remember when I feel angry to stop myself from acting on my anger and whenever I am acting on my anger - always remember to be mindful of what you're doing, just watch yourself, and learn from it It's ok to feel angry, you just need to learn not to act on it in a way that can be destructive