Lila9

I'm russian even though I live neither in Russia or Ukraine. I have family on both Russia and Ukraine and all this situation is so surreal and brakes my heart. Russians and Ukrainians belong to the same ethnic group, that's absurd when humans are in war with each other but what's more absured is that they are in war with people from the same ethnic group, literaly a familiy, a tribe with the same genes. But I guess that Putin's ego is much more importent than anything. Yes I know that it's part of God's expression and all this spirituality and that conflicts are part of life etc. but on the hunan level, for me as an individual, I can't deny that it breaks my heart.

I'm gratful for feminism. I see what is happening in countries where women rights aren't that trivial like in my country and I feel sorry for those women, I feel their pain. I kiss the air of my country merely because it allows me to do almost whatever I want as a woman. Of course there are some social expectations like to get married, have children while looking like an instagram model, but I don't have to do that and there will be no life threatening consequences if I choose to not do that. Of course there are still incels and women haters and awful men who see women as sex objects only, but at least I have the option to avoid them and complain about them and to get some help if they harass me. Of course there are still areas that have to be worked on in relation to equality, feminism is still highly needed. But, I understand that it can be frustrating when some feminists act in a masculine way, and expect other women to act in a same way as if it's more superior. Some of them even shame women who express more feminine traits in certain situations or choose more traditional life style. It might come with a good intention to help those women but it also might come with dark intention to feel more superior to other women which is a kind of disguised misogyny. There are also misogynistic women who hide behind feminism, or narcissists, masculine and too dominant women who use feminism as an excuse for their shitty behavior. On the other hand there are feminist circles that are very balanced and are very supportive of femininity and talk about things like women sexuality, mutual support, acceptance of the self and of other women, self development and self love, hobbies, compassion to animals and to the environment, trauma healing, LGBT issues, how to have healthy relationships with men etc In fact, most of the feminists are pretty intelligent, feminine and balanced from my experience, they deeply care about making this world a better place for women, and all the hate they receive from mediocre people don't stop them. I mostly encounter masculine women who shit on other women among those who don't define themselves as feminists per se, but it's only my observation.

Sweden people are different in mentality from immigrants who came from islamic countries, especially from war areas, usually with more extroverted mentality compared to Sweden people. They are the complete opposite, of course there will be some conflicts. Broadly It's stage -orange-green vs red-blue It's a green thing to be humane and patient with immigrants, it's not bad, it's wonderful and I wish all countries were like that. The question is, what immigrants you are not ready to accept, where is your boundary, where you mark a big red line, because there must be one. There are differences in cultures mentality and consciousness development, it's not racism to point it out, and it doesn't mean that they can't change or develop in future, it is what it is now, better to admit that than being deluded and act as if there is no problem, or that it's not part of the problem, and then pay the price. As someone pointed it out here, it's an importent part of Sweden development, it's a lesson that stage green has to go through, to realize that it's good to be good, but it can't and shouldn't save anyone and everyone according to some utopian fantasy, that sometimes reality demands you to make priorities. What is the solution? Imo, first to admit that and second, to not allow/to be more strict with illegal immigration for few years (or forever), later to become more authoritarian, make it clear that there will be serious consequences for people who do crimes, no prison ease, no short periods of confinement and in some cases deportation from the country.

We are biased in our favor. The more conscious one, and its survivul isn't much threatened, the more likely he's to care about animals and nature, anything that isn't a human. Some people are so lack in awarness and bothered with their own survivul issues that they even don't care much about other humans, that's why for many people, becoming a vegeterian/vegan sounds so ridicules, because when they don't care much about humans, why would they care about animals? Those are also the ones who criticizes vegeterian/vegan people for not caring about humas enough, they tend to say "first you need to take care of humans, animals later"- what they mean is not that they want you to care about all humans in the world, but only those who share the same values as they are. Usually they are blue/orange in spiral dynamics, usually right wing people who don't really care about humans suffering on the collective level.

"I have no philosophy of life, I have life itself"

It's nice as long as village's people are young and healthy, but the situation might look different when they are old or sick and need some help from someone who's younger and healthier who cares about them. They will die without any future generation to appriciate and develop all their previous artistic, spiritual and intellectual development. It will be as they have never really existed. Children are a symbol of continuity and hope. They are manifestation of God, expression of God. Having children is a big sacrifice on the personal level, it's a noble thing imo. The problem arises when people have children unconsciously, or out of duty, especially if those people are poor and not mentally healthy or that self aware, which includes many people in our society, or most. Our society isn't that safe for children, it isn't that safe for adults either, we are very confused about our future and there are many struggles in the modern society. Unlike in the past, today we get the choice to have kids or not, so I understand why many people prefer not to have.

A week ago I talked about her and inside my heart I wondered what if she will pass away soon