Lila9

From birth to death, to birth, to death, to birth, to death. The endless cycle of life-death-life 🙂

Of course, the problem is always me. It's not my job to do your job. Work on your bias as a mod because this is disturbing.

The thread was derailed by unrelated comments to the article, despite what the thread opener respectfully requested, and no mod says anything. So convenient.

My communication style is sincere, yet I do put lots of time and effort in my posts, and they are often backed by resources rather than moody rants. My communication style is not very different from other men whom you would regard as "rational" and "intelligent" on this forum. There are men who literally say the most horrible things here, and you will brush it off because they are not women. I already explained that when I say men, I don't mean all men. It's the same way I say humans and don't mean all humans. I don't know what else I need to do. I see multiple men here, including you, as a woman, who generalize women, and no one blinks an eye because this is the default. Why do you hold me to high standards that you not only do not follow yourself but also do not enforce on other men the same way you enforce them on me as a woman? Do you suffer from internalized misogyny? If so, you got some work to do girl. I will not shrink myself or fawn to appeal, to be liked, or to be convenient so people who hate women or expect women to shrink themselves feel good. I know that I am a very kind person, and I have radical empathy for humans and animals, and I don't need anyone's approval for what is already obvious to me. I know that I was very kind and respectful on this forum, beyond what is even necessary to people who blatantly disrespected and demonized me which was a very traumatizing experience for me. This made me realize that this is not really about my communication style, as I was often gaslighted to believe, but about my presence as a female in a male-biased forum with opinions that challenge the status quo. Please let us be real and stop brushing this under the rug. As I already said multiple times, those who want to understand me will try to understand me in good faith, without demonizing me, without personally attacking me and my character, without calling me names and disrespecting me, without projecting their biases onto me, and without distorting my words to suit the box they want to put me in.

@Nivsch Oh I forgot Australia! Yes their song is beautiful. It reminds me of Sweden's song by Lorin which won a few years ago. Same 🙂

Duality does exist, but it doesn't mean that non-duality isn't true either. Both are true. Two things that seem contradictory but exist simultaneously this is a paradox, not something that can be resolved by logic, nor is there any need for it. I think that non-dualists, ironically, even though it may not be their intention, are spiritually bypassing if they don't acknowledge duality and if they completely disregard the body, the ego, the difference between truth and falsehood, health versus illness, good versus evil, light versus darkness, consciousness versus the subconscious, and the earthly and daily aspects of existence, which are not necessarily contradictory to spiritual development and are crutial part of spiritual development.

@Nivsch Cool! My favorites this year are Israel and Romania. I think there are fewer good songs this year, but maybe I’m wrong. What are yours? Noam's performance was good, and the song is catchy.

❤️ The Eurovision semi-final is today. I'm very excited 😊

Thank you 🙏 Same to you! I was real about the decline in mental health and finances, especially since 2023. But this is nothing unique, unresolvable, or out of control. The rest was written sarcastically. I am not suicidal (never was) and I don't want to move out (even if I could). I just got frustrated from their unrelated NPC comment to my post. I am really tired and angry at the government, and I just hope the elections will bring justice, which means everyone who is not Bibi and people like him. Do you feel the same? What do you think about the elections overall?

I'm happy to hear that you are in a good place and that things are going well for you. Yes, it could be wonderful if the Middle East were united like Europe and we could travel across the region by trains and buses 🙂 Syria has beautiful nature. You are right, life is a gift.

Anger protected me so many times during my life. Sometimes it consumed me in an unhealthy way, though. This is a fire that one needs to learn to control, but it is a vital energy, life energy sacred and as important as fire itself. It has the potential to burn you and your surroundings if you are not careful, but also the potential to protect yourself and others. It can be a fuel for destruction or protection, which can later secure creation and life.

Antisemitism is irrational and tribal human behavior, like any racism or classism, for example. There are many things that may be used to explain the reasons for antisemitism, which may seem true, but at the core, these are only rationalizations for irrational behavior. This is also related to what Sartre said about antisemitism (the antisemite chooses antisemitism first, then looks for “reasons” later). Sartre argued that the “Jew” (as a social figure) is created by the gaze of the antisemite. Jewish identity in modern Europe is shaped by how society treats Jews as outsiders, regardless of who they actually are. “If the Jew did not exist, the antisemite would invent him” He also criticized well meaning “democrats” who claim not to see Jews at all (“I only see humans”). He said this can erase real experiences of persecution. Ignoring difference can be another way of avoiding responsibility. I think that this can also be said not only about liberals or democrats but also about people who deny antisemitism.

I unfortunately no longer expect an intelligent, respectful, and grounded conversation here, especially on matters that are not directly related to men’s romantic issues. Not only are people here very reactive and have a short attention span, but many of them also see the world through their unfulfilled desires and a resentful view of women, which distorts any grounded thinking and truth. I bet no one has read the article and no one is going to read it.

I thought for some reason that you live in Egypt. I didn’t know you are from Syria. I’m very sorry to hear that. I hope there will finally be some stability there 😔

That's amazing. Drawing accurately from imagination is a skill that you can practice and aquire. Did you know? There are also free sources that can help you like https://drawabox.com/ If you can afford a subscription, this art program is brilliant: https://artwod.com/ He also uploaded some free video tutorials. Here his YouTube channel:

This video is such a good and detailed analysis that focuses merely on historical facts rather than on the political agendas of each side and their distortion of those facts. At the end, it shows that the Arab peasants in the country were exploited by the Ottoman Empire and their Arab family elites, who ended up stealing the land from the Arab peasants. The elites later sold the stolen land to Jewish elites, who rented it to ordinary Jews escaping persecution.

Cool! There is also another good video from this creator explaining Patriarchy: This also a good one:

Thank you for your kind words. That's ok, I'm not the only one. Hope you are doing well 🙏

Beautiful. I don't recall visiting there either, at least not as an adult. Maybe as a child.

Sure dude, I will move (if I don’t commit suicide before then, as my mental health has declined over the past couple of years) but I am broke due to the war and the situation in recent years. My dream is to move to the Netherlands, Denmark, or some Northern European country. Do you wish to sponsor me?

I always got from him this uncanny feeling that something was off, even in his “Green” era.

That's for sure, women are responsible to be more critical of beauty standards and the social expectations. But they can't control the way some random man sees them. I didn't say it. My point was that men can own their sexual desire and perception of female body instead of automatically balming women. I Googled already. Didn't find anything too reveling or hypersexual. That's why I asked. There is pressure on women to fit into certain beauty standards that may be objectifying, and there may be consequences for not fitting in. While women are definitely responsible for questioning and resisting them, I often find it unsettling that women are often blamed for trying to fit into those standards rather than people questioning the system that heavily pressures women into this objectification and conformity to begin with. Ok.

Now it is not only roaches I will have to tolerate but also their angry spirits 😢

Oh God I wish we would finally be able to get rid of him.

I don't watch sports. But can you give me an example of what women sports clothes you are referring to? Do men take enough responsibility? How many men understand that the female body is not merely sexual but also functional and neutral? It doesn't matter whether a woman is wearing clothes due to self-objectification or not. If a man wants to objectify a woman, he will objectify her. A woman can dress in any way without the intention to be objectified and yet, she still will be objectified. Men objectify women even with a hijab or niqab, imagining them naked. It is not a woman's job to regulate men's sexual desire, nor is it her responsibility, because only men can control it as they are the one who experiencing it.