Lila9

I'm an INFP 4w5 too (also called the Bohemian). I haven’t been diagnosed with ADD, but I do have a problem with focus. For me I personally find that it’s best to consume as few substances as possible. I do drink coffee in the morning though. It helps me start the day more focused and be more organized at work. I can’t work more than five hours, because after that my brain becomes like glue. Some days I really struggle to work because of boredom, mood, etc. I think this is just part of being an INFP 4w5. It requires a different strategy from other personality types. We need a structure, but it has to be flexible and non-rigid, with breaks, based more on devotion (to meaning, beauty, art, truth, or whatever we value) rather than robotic discipline, and include small rituals to ground us in reality/body.

It seems that due to some ideological reasons you view Israelis and Jews as purely evil, rather than as humans trying to survive in a complex reality. You don’t see Chinese people the same way, even though atrocities are committed by their government (an actual genocide). At this point, nothing Israelis do will satisfy you unless they cease to exist.

CNN and BBC spread lots of misinformation, and there were multiple times when they said something wrong that painted Israel in a negative light, which later turned out to be false, as admitted by themselves. So Israelis don’t trust those channels because of their obvious bias and perceive them as untrustworthy. On the other hand, the local channels they do trust also have bias, which leaves people very confused and misinformed, even on social media. There is one post showing destroyed buildings in Gaza and another post showing well-fed and well-dressed Gazans opening a new restaurant or waiting to purchase new iPhones. Additionally, even if some Israelis are aware of it, the average Israeli is too busy, traumatized, and immersed in survival to do anything. People criticize Israelis for allowing Gaza to be destroyed, but in the same way Americans can’t control their government’s actions, even if they resist and protest, Israelis can’t control it either. Also, Hamas started the war on Israel without any preparation to protect Palestinian civilian lives. If you start a war, the reasonable thing is to make sure civilians are protected. Hamas (and Iran) literally spent so much time and resources building tunnels for Hamas and deliberately placing their weapons in vulnerable places like family homes, hospitals and schools. They could have built civilian bunkers and shelters instead, hidden their weapons elsewhere far from civilians, have their troops further from civilians etc. They could do so many safety measures to reduce the risk of killing civilians but they didn't. They knew what they were doing and did it anyway, so they are not innocent and clearly bear a significant part of the responsibility for the destruction and the loss of innocent lives in Gaza.

My point is not that opposing genocide automatically makes someone antisemitic. People are allowed to criticize Israel, Netanyahu, and its actions. I agree that Israelis don’t fully know what’s happening in Gaza, partly due to media and political framing that creates distance and emphasizes real security threats. This also makes it hard to accept that Israeli actions have caused civilian deaths, even unintentionally. Especially after the October 7 attacks and ongoing threats from Iran and its allies. However, when parts of the Western far left condemn Israel while justifying the October 7 masccare (targeting civilians), ignoring other global atrocities, and promoting slogans like a “global intifada” (which basically means genocide) it raises questions about consistency. This rhetoric can feel deeply threatening to Israelis and Jews, for whom “intifada” is associated with real violence and trauma. So the concerns of antisemitism are valid. If genocide and human rights violations are wrong, they should be opposed consistently, everywhere, and by everyone, not selectively or for ideological reasons.

Is it anti-genocidal when non-Jews commit genocide (Sudan, Myanmar, Ethiopia, China, Congo)? Oddly enough they are very quiet about it.

Quit being an idiot. Grow up, and stop quoting me.

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Really? Then why so triggered?

I appreciate your nuanced and critical thinking. It is weird that people paint it as absolute evil vs. absolute good. There is a mob on the far right and on the far left that is heavily brainwashed by the algorithm and various antisemitic conspiracy theories. This is a lost case.

I don't have an addiction to Instagram, but I do have a general addiction to the internet, so I can relate to the frustration. Usually, there is an underlying reason for that. For me, it's stress. Every time something stressful happens in my reality (death, war, tragedy, uncertainty, stress at work etc.), I feel the need to escape reality because I am so overwhelmed with anxiety. When I address the anxiety and consciously work on regulating it with the tools I have, I am well. But there are times when I am so overwhelmed by anxiety because reality is so painful that I forget to be conscious of it, and all I want is to forget reality. I guess it's a "better" addiction than heroin or fentanyl. Not that I normalize this.

My father was the one who decided to divorce my mother. She had poor judgment in marrying him and even after the divorce continued caring for him because he is mentally ill. My mother tried to remarry, but her boyfriend sexually assaulted me, so she has been cautious about letting men into her home since then. Women often the ones who initiate divorce is because marriage often benefits men more than women. Many men avoid domestic labor and childcare and lack emotional intelligence, which is exhausting for women. For children, it’s better to grow up without a father than with an abusive or dysfunctional one.

That's fine. Bluntness and directness are something I actually appreciate in women, especially when backed by wisdom. We as women have so much to say, and we often feel social pressure to be pleasing, harmonious, and to erase our voice in order to perform femininity in a way that is convenient to the system that oppresses us. While it is important to be polite and considerate, this shouldn’t come at the expense of our voices. I am happy when a woman says what’s on her mind, even if I don’t agree with her. However, when women treat men with softness and infinite understanding but don’t apply the same standard to other women, it bothers me. Not that I’m saying you do it, I just notice the conditioning in some women. They can be very blunt and harsh with women, especially younger women, while being very understanding and kind to men, even men who aren’t good and don’t deserve such treatment.

Why do fathers abandon their children? You don’t blame the parent who abandoned you, but the parent who stayed and raised you? That’s weird dude. I was also raised by a single mother, my father couldn’t have cared less about abandoning his kids.

@Natasha Tori Maru I felt that you had wrong assumptions about my post and weren’t genuinely willing to understand or receive clarification, but rather to judge and educate. This is my observation, I may be wrong. If so, I apologize.

I already explained that I don’t actually refer to all men when I talk about predatory behavior. Those who care to understand me are not triggered. If I say it to a secure man, he doesn’t give a shit and may even agree. Men know how predatory other men are. I’ve heard it from men themselves. I also say that humans don’t care enough about animals, but that doesn’t mean I’m referring to every single human. Of course, there are humans who do care about animals. But there are enough humans who don’t care to make it a systemic issue. If someone says that humans don’t care about animals, I wouldn’t get triggered, because I know that humans as a collective don’t care enough, even though I personally care about them to a large extent. I also never said that men are inherently bad or evil. I always say that they are socialized that way. I am not some bioessentialist who believes that men are a lost cause due to biology. I know they were socialized in a certain way, and I know that they can do better. I expect them to take responsibility and do better. This is actually a good thing.

@Natasha Tori Maru It’s funny that you try to educate me as if you have some authority over me and as if I owe you any discipline. We are adults, don't agree with my opinion? That’s okay.

I choose to disregard it. This is your understanding, not my intention. It was coherent enough. Those who want to understand me with a good faith, will often do. Ok.

Yes, I assume that it’s common in organized religions or in any sort of spiritual bypassing. This is why I think that if spirituality is genuinely practiced, then there is more acceptance of the fear of death because there is greater acceptance of the unknown (as death suggests).

Where did I write that one gender’s pain matters more? I wrote that women are hurt by men statistically more than the opposite. My statement is coherent enough. I don’t need assistance. If I wanted help with writing my post, I would have asked.

Thank you, this is much appreciated.

@Natasha Tori Maru No, I don’t minimize men’s suffering. But men’s suffering caused by women and women’s suffering caused by men is not equal. There is a lot of data backing this. Equalizing it is a distortion of the truth to make men feel better. When I say men do X or Y, I don’t mean every individual man, I mean enough men are doing it for it to be a systemic issue. And no, I am not going to stay quiet because of it. People often try to silence women so they will be more convenient. I don’t want to be convenient, especially to people who don't have my best interest in their hearts. If a man says predatory and misogynistic things, he needs to be aware of it. I am actually doing them a favor because I am putting a mirror in front of them. if they are conscious this gives them the opportunity to reflect and to reevaluate their views of women, especially since many of them consume toxic manosphere ideologies. I am really sorry Natasha, bless your heart.

I’m not going to waste my time proving anything to you.

Same 😔 My dogs whine every time. The sound of the early warning is really harsh (though important).

You don’t know me. You’re not in a position to know what I care about.

Your grandmother sounds like a very important presence in your life, and like a very special woman. I can feel in your words how difficult this period is for you 😔 I am with you, sending many hugs and support during this sensitive time. Your grandmother is lucky to have such a loving and supportive granddaughter ❤️ You both are so lucky to have each other ❤️ I lost my grandmother a few years ago. She was a strong, talented woman with a huge heart. In her last years, she had Alzheimer’s and didn’t recognize me, but the last time I saw her, she surprisingly remembered me as her granddaughter and told me she loved me so much. I got excited, hoping for improvement but sadly that wasn’t the case.