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Thank you @Eskilon and @Hojo for these insights, I will integrate them!

According to Leos „Burning through Karma“ episode it is.

@Norbert Somogyi she has the right mindset of working through discussions and practical problems with me and we seem to solve our issues very well. But I am not sure about the quality of her character once the attraction will fade in a year or two. Unfortunately a lot of emotional and trauma healing is required from both partners and I feel like I am much farer along on the journey than she is. The problem is I have rarely met emotionally mature, developed women in my life. And Im not sure what to expect from girls in ther 20s.

So here’s where I’m at: I’m in my mid twenties, I run my own business successfully, I’ve had some success with women (did some pick-up), and I’ve had a few short term relationships. Right now, there’s someone in my life who I like and she made me commit to being in a relationship. But I’m stuck with this question: Should I commit longterm (living together, plans about future etc.)? Or is it too early in my life to go all in? I still feel like I haven’t burned through all my karma with women. There’s curiosity left. And at the same time, I don’t want to mess around forever. I want depth, realness, intimacy but I don’t want to lie to myself or her. Sometimes I think: what if I give this woman my time, money. energy, emotions and in two years it ends? Was it a waste? Im not sure she is the right person for me and there are some things that I dont like about her that make me doubt about her long term traits as a partner. Of course, there are even more things I do like about her and Im willing to give her a chance. I also prefer being with her above being alone. Ist that enough for now? Should I be completeley honest with her and share my feelings? My intuition tells me I‘m not gonna be with her forever. She wants to be though, and it sometimes feels immature in the way she loves me. She has an anxious attachment style. For my age I would claim to be emotionally and spiritually developed. The problem is I have rarely met emotionally mature, developed women in my life. And Im not sure what level of development I can expect from girls in their 20s. Would love to hear from others: When did you know it was time to commit? Or not? What does commitment mean really? I dont want to hurt her or lie.

I’ve been evolving more into Stage Green (focus on connection, emotional depth, and shared growth), but my partner is still strongly Stage Orange (ambition, achievement, and individual goals) and not interested in green. She’s driven and growth-minded but sometimes I feel a gap in emotional depth or shared introspection. I wonder how a stage green girl is different in the dating/relationship life compared to a stage orange one. Has anyone made both experiences? I recall Leo recommending to go for the stage green girl.

@Princess Arabia Thanks for your reply, I can deeply resonate with it and from my personal experience it is true what you are saying. I used the principles of the law of attraction successfully with money/business success and romantic relationships. Deep down I know that I will heal too when the timing is right. Gods delays have made me doubt and become discouraged recently. Sometimes I forget how powerful our intention can be. I guess I don’t really have a choice, but to keep going and keep the vibes high. This spiritual path is indeed an interesting one.

Yesterday an incident happened that I didn’t think was possible. I’m 25 years old and for the past months/years so have struggled with chronic illness. During the last few years I have also experienced my first awakenings and god realizations through meditation and psychedelics. In the past weeks/months I have somewhat lost faith/hope in my condition and started to question more and more why I’m even incarnated in this low consciousness 3d society, telling god that I’m ready to leave this earth plane for some higher planes of consciousness, since I thought I had advanced enough spiritually. Currently I’m on a heavy antibiotic and antiparasitic protocol from my doctor in order to rule out any chronic infections. This protocol made me really fatigued. Yesterday I decided to smoke some weed, since it is legal in Germany now. After taking a single hit from a bong, I immediately wasn’t able to stand anymore. I had to lie down and a bad feeling overcame me. I had troubles breathing and seeing clearly. I tried to stay as present and conscious as possible but these symptoms just didn’t leave. It felt like I was about to die and I felt God/my higher self pulling me from my body, telling me that this is what I asked for. In this moment I realized strongly that I wanted to stay and that I didn’t want to die yet. It felt like an extreme struggle for survival. In my almost comatose state, I made the following realizations: 1. I didnt want my ego to fully dissolve (die) because I didn’t want my mum/family to see me die like this. 2. I serve as an angel/protector for my family and people I care for, I have a part to play here 3. I am exactly where I want to be, I enjoy life on earth 4. God was teasing me that I’m not as spiritual as I thought. I do care for people around me and I don’t want to die, even if I thought otherwise 5. I should stop complaining, see all the good/blessings/opportunities you have in life here on earth. It‘s amazing 6. My mission here is not fulfilled, it isn’t my time to leave yet. I made a firm commitment to stay here / I begged god to keep me alive lol Since my physical symptoms got really bad and I was on the verge of passing out, I called my mum and she drove me to the hospital where I got some infusions and spent the night. Feeling well now. Wondering if it was just a horror trip or if I was actually about to die. It definitely felt like the latter. It reminds me of how Leo said that we are all full of shit and when a crocodile is chasing you, all your spiritual shit flies out the window. Im interested to hear your opinion about it. Practical learning: don’t take psychedelics when you’re on medication or don’t feel fit otherwise.

Thank you for the soid advice guys (and girls)! Really helpful as usual to see beyond my own perspective.

Since in Europe drinking is such a big part when going out, I wanted to know how you guys handle it during night game? Background: Due to health reasons I dont drink. When I get to know girls in bars, clubs etc., having drinks is a big part of what people do there and Im not sure how to go about it. Question 1: Do you order water in a cup? How do you react when girls as you if or why you dont drink? Question 2: What are some fun things you can actually do with a girl in a bar/club environment? I move her around, have silly and deep converstions to stimulate her emotionally, go to the dancefloor etc. But when you avoid the bar and drinks completely it feels like missing out on another fun activity. I read the goal is to go on as many mini adventures with her as possible/ move her around. Or is good verbal game enough and it really doesnt matter what you do? I really appreciate you guys and this forum!

One of my favourites

https://www.greatgenius.com/truth-about-what-happens-after-death Those are the relevant excerpts.

@Leo Gura I thought it was obvious that this was meant as a joke 😂 sorry for the confusion, love you man

That really hurt my feelings. I thought we had something going on here. Always knew you were an asshole..

@CoolDreamThanks I get what your point of view is: The world created by ego is evil and we need to overcome it through spirituality/truth. I don't think it contradicts what Leo says. He always says that selfishness exists. The more selfless you become, the more godlike you are. The more selfish a person is, the more he acts like a devil. The result can be seen on planet earth (wars, starvation, business scams etc.) You overcome this devilry by realizing truth. From what I understand it works like this: We are in "earth school". Most people incarnate are free souls with an intention to learn certain lessons. They need to take the curriculum as Ram Dass says. Some more experienced souls incarnate to also learn some lessons but mainly to awaken others. If I were God, I'd cast myself down to darkness and separation in order to free myself from delusion and find out all over again that I am love/truth/all powerful. It's just so juicy to realize and fun to play. Don't discredit Leo for his suffering. All the great saints suffered immensely. Dolores Cannon says in one of her transcriptions that the line for disabled/sick peoples bodies is longer and than the one for the normal ones. Why is that? Suffering erodes your ego slowly and binds you to the truth. It's the best catalyst there is. How I see my life purpose: I'm here to master my emotional state/frequency independent of circumstances. Help yourself and then help others.. or be the white dot in the YinYang symbol, i.e. the opportunity for truth in the dark. God isn't evil, there is always the opportunity to realize god. Bashar and some others said it: Earth is hard. So cheers to you brave bastards for coming down here. Sometimes I'm tired of this shit too and wonder why I was so foolish to incarnate here lol. God forgets quickly, the greedy motherfucker.

@tezk Thanks for the answer and the tips. I'll check out the book (also know him from YT) and watch your video. Very interesting stuff. If we can stay in this mindset we can handle it man.