mr_engineer

How am I offending others?! They're the ones using the swear-word of 'creepy'. That's offensive and that's what we have to taboo. It's just this word that's the problem. If we stop using it, all the problems will be solved.

Exactly my point.

Please read the thread.

@Emerald Then don't blame men for the powerlessness you feel, step into your power.

If we taboo this word, this will be very good for men's self-esteem. It will also be a statement against people who make others responsible for their feelings, it will promote emotional consciousness.

No, it's not more than that. In this thread, I prove that it's just a curse-word and nothing more.

@Emotionalmosquito It's a slur. It's like the N-word for Black people. And we have to taboo it.

If I did that, should I be sued for it?

Which of these is illegal? The reason this question is important, is because that's what can be regulated. This is not about me, this is about dictionary-definitions of words.

My point is, you cannot make blanket rules about what is 'calibrated behavior' vs what is 'uncalibrated behavior'. So, even if you wanted to regulate other people's behavior like this, you couldn't. Maybe those people doing the 'creep-shaming' should learn about context. Which, ironically, is a part of calibration!

You continue to make this personal, about me. I'm not personally attacking anyone here. Yall are.

If my behavior is legal, maybe they're the ones who should be dealing with their issues and facing their fears. Do we want a society of cowards or brave people?! Not me, a lot of other people do that. Because, as I said, they're racist. They're implying that when someone is 'Black', they're 'scary'.

Depends on the culture. So, you judge men based on whether they adhere to social-norms or not, and not based on what you actually like/don't like?! Kay, fine, that's all I need to know.

You said that 'asking for a kiss or a hug would have been better received'. There's no guarantee of that, prove it. The word 'creep' itself is a demonization, a personal attack.

There are situations in which it may not be 'uncalibrated' to look at someone's crotch. That would be, in the bedroom. When you tell someone that looking at people's crotches is 'scary behavior', this actually holds them back, sexually, because it demonizes their sexuality. You tell them that there is a time and a place for it.

A lot of people think Black people are 'creepy', because they themselves are racist. This is why I likened the word itself to the N-word.

Yes, it does. 'Creep' means 'scary person'. Meaning, the person fundamentally is someone who evokes fear, not love! (Fear and love are opposites.)

Are they doing this because they're socially uncalibrated and projecting that onto you?! Or, even worse - are they uncivilized? Because, in my books, that's way worse than being uncalibrated.

Then why do people resort to a personal attack, if it's not personal? The word in and of itself implies 'unlovable'.

What I'm saying is very serious and important. If you think I'm wrong, please, prove it.

We shouldn't be cowards, we should face our relationship-problems instead of running away from them. To call someone a 'creep' is a sign of cowardice.

I shouldn't be able to sue you for those things. How should I deal with you, then? By asking you why you're doing what you're doing, by getting to know you better. If I run away from you, there's a million other people doing what you're doing, because it's legal. How many will I run away from?!

Because smearing shit on a stranger is illegal.

@sda If I were you, I would take their advice with a grain of salt. For two reasons: They resorted to name-calling and demonization. They demonized you, using a word that implies that you are unlovable. They only told you what not to do. It was a 'don't do this'. Did they tell you what to do instead?! Nope. Why?! Because they don't know what they're talking about, they don't know what you should do instead. Here's what you should do instead - find someone who operates in relationships from a space of love, not from a space of fear. That person will love you for who you are.