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@Lila9 'Our problems are real problems, your problems are not real problems'. Look, you don't need to go around invalidating other people's lived experiences. Just talk about your experiences, just talk about who hurt you.

@Natasha Tori Maru Next time, please make a couple of these instances public so that we know that we're safe here.

And what about the negativity against men? What's being done about that? Take yourselves, for example. I have never seen you mods police anyone for spreading negativity against men. When someone spreads negativity against men, I've never seen them being asked who hurt them, or what is it that they're generalizing to all men. (In fact, when I decided to take the initiative on this, I got warned for it lol) This means, that the general sentiment towards men is not positive, right? Whenever someone makes blanket negative statements about men, that's man-hate. Whether it's about 'toxic masculinity' or about how 'all men are complicit in the patriarchy' or anything else, it's very important that we ask them to not generalize. Otherwise, we're complicit in the spreading of man-hate. What's happening, though, is very different. When negativity against men gets spread in the MeToo movement and there's a counter-movement to that saying 'not all men', feminists hate it! They do not want to say that it's not all men.

Ah, the 'nothing is so simple' argument. Yes, individuals are complicated. But, it is not that hard to notice patterns in how collectives behave! The point of this argument is to create an image of 'complication', that 'we're all very complicated, don't try to make sense of what we're doing, don't scrutinize what we're doing'. I don't know if you think we're dumb enough to not see it, or whether you are. And, as far as the 'social media' argument goes, whatever happens on social media has real-life consequences. Real people get cancelled because of what happens on social media. I have never seen this lecture of 'get off social media, it could be biasing your thinking' be given to a feminist. Never. Interesting, isn't it?!

Here's another thing I've noticed about feminists - whenever something happens that helps their agenda, they will indirectly claim credit for 'believing the ideology that made this happen' but whenever something happens that doesn't help their agenda, now, they will ascribe that to the 'bad guys' 'not believing the right ideology'. When something good happens, no matter who does it, they're the 'hero', while when something bad happens, no matter who does it, they're the 'victim'. It truly is a performance. And, of course, the villains of their performance are men. They're the heroes and the victims. Have you ever seen a feminist give credit for anything positive done by a non-feminist? Something that a non-feminist does that indirectly helps their cause. Have you seen it? I haven't. The credit for that positive thing has to go to them!

@LordFallThanks for the assumptions about a random person on the internet. Anything else?

Here's the thing, though - feminism is not doing any favors to your 'high-value men' either. Whether you define 'high-value' in terms of looks, money or even performative morality. Justin Baldoni got accused of sexual-assault, even though he had a TED-talk on feminism.

It is outdated 'us vs them' nonsense, it's fundamentally unloving and it has no place in a world where men are valued and respected. It glorifies disrespectful behavior towards men. All men. So, when a woman says 'I'm a feminist', realize that she's had some trauma with men, which is making it so she's failing to be loving towards men. This is her failure to be loving towards men. And, treat it accordingly.

Then what? You still have to fix the situation, right? Where you're being disrespected for the crime of being a man?

They are one and the same. In their ideology and their actions. There is an anti-male fundamentalism brewing in feminist circles. The point of the MeToo movement is to deny due process to the accused, such that they become guilty until proven innocent. The 'feminization of law', as it's been put by Helen Andrews, makes it so the moment a woman accuses a man of anything, it is automatically the word of God. All thanks to feminism. Here, she mentions how feminism has demonized male sexuality to death, which is apparent from the MeToo movement.

This one explains false accusations. At 47:55.

We do need to question the 'oppression' narrative too, that 'men are the oppressors'. If you have the courage to deconstruct this, do so.

So, the toxicity of feminism is not that recent. It's always been this bad. It's just surfacing now.

I think that a big reason for this stupid gender-war is atheism. A fundamental 'Godlessness' in the modern world, which leads to different agendas on the male side and the female side. Religion is not a great solution to this problem, because the gender-roles are too rigid. New-Age spirituality is a much better solution.

https://inews.co.uk/inews-lifestyle/regret-belittling-men-63-ended-up-alone-3569366?srsltid=AfmBOooulKB7f6tT6cfJaununB6BZIfmiGQpuyVPPyMRSSuf_ojfBdp5 This feminist author says that the root-cause of the dysfunctionality of her relationships was her feminist ideology. In case the link doesn't work, you can watch videos on youtube reacting to this article.

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1J5Yp4KcUp/ I think we need a man-hate mega-thread.

This is a hugely important video to watch. It describes the level of 'crying wolf' that feminists do. If this doesn't demonstrate that it's a hate-group, I don't know what will.

@soos_mite_ah I'd suggest that you have faith that the future will turn out fine. It sounds like you have been honest with him, he's seen who you are and accepted you for who you are. You seem to be doing fine, for now. Which means that you're currently doing something right. Even if you end up breaking up after a long time, it sounds like something both of you will grow out of relatively smoothly. And that's the worst-case scenario for your relationship.

'Believe all women', my ass. '1 in 100 accusations are false'. Bullshit. This is what the real 'science' says. Does the 'man vs bear' crowd have something to say about this?

I think he should get the full $110M and she should be sentenced to jail for life. My support is with Saifullah Khan. Who else is with him? Let's drum up support for him when the truth is on his side!

Could this truly end false accusations?

Given what I've been through, as a victim of false accusation, no.

Okay. Good to know that this is your stance on it. @NoSelfSelf was hugely guilty of it in the dating section. My theory is that he was a normal self-actualizer in the beginning, then he had some awakenings, then he went off the deep end and started to bypass practical reality. Very easy to do when you have your first few awakenings. I really wouldn't know how to predict who will fall into this trap in the future when you recruit a mod. Maybe you could set higher standards for existing mods relative to bypassing? Because if @NoSelfSelf really was as good as you're saying he was, it's possible that just educating him about this issue of bypassing may have helped him improve as a mod.