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Short-term or long time girlfriend? Lol because apparently in this day and age, that is a thing too!!! If you are looking for a long term girlfriend. You first need to work on yourself and become whole. If you are entering into this relationship looking to be fulfilled your relationship will suffer. If you are looking to have a girlfriend because as a whole being you just want to spread this amazing self love you have with someone else then that relationship has a chance. Only chance because that person as well needs to be whole. When two whole people come together something amazing happens. But when two or one less than full person comes together it becomes a battle of selfishness in which each is competing to "get theirs" or "get what's mine" out of the relationship. We can all give you tips and tricks to find and get a relationship. But if its not between two whole beings, your really just in it for a short term experience. Or long term frustration. Both are opportunities to grow...painful ones. Also here are a couple myths that need to be expelled. 1. If you are looking for sex you don't have to take a girl on a date. I haven't had to do that and I know tons of guys who haven't had to either. We are living in the most sexually free era right now of the dating game. 2. Most of the women looking for something serious are older, like 25 years old or more. If you are looking at below 25 most aren't but of course there are outliers. 3. You need to standout to get a woman to give you her real number. The secret? Here is the kicker.... BE YOURSELF. I am not lying. Women smell inauthenticity from a mile away. Women LOVE CONFIDENCE. The LESS you care about what she thinks about you, the MORE attractive you will be to her. Its when a man starts second guessing when the attraction is killed. 4. One of the best books on how attraction works in a relationship is a book called Atomic Attraction. Attraction is counter-intuitive. The more insecure a woman is around you, the more attracted she is. Ever notice how women chase men....who are unpredictable? Insecurity is a core component of attraction. 5. Balance is the key, a woman needs a man she can be secure in.....but if there is too much security there is no excitement. So you need to balance the two. There are two key secrets you need to learn about women. In the dating game WOMEN CHOOSE. So only approach and deal with women who give you choosing signals. The second key secret is men trade non-sexual attention with women for access to women's sexual attention. Men do not realize how important their non-sexual attention is to women. Women love a man who can look them in the eye, teach them something, guide them, make them laugh, and just give them a warm feeling by just their presence. Notice how none of these things have to do with sex. Not a single one. As a man you think none of these things are important, but if you master your non-sexual attention you will make women become addicted to you. Especially if you master both the Masculine and Feminine aspects. A man who has mastered both...is open. Completely and utterly open. The irony? A man who is completely open and comfortable will often repel a woman who isn't. So understand I am not saying every woman will like you, but the key to attracting and keeping a woman is energy or as they call it the vibe.

Well done!! Everything you said is true!! This is path you are on, is the path every human before you and after you is walking. Its wonderful you have become aware of what you have, the rest of humanity in their own time will come to this same realization.

Name one thing you have experienced outside of yourself.

Well yeah you can describe it like that. It still all points to divine communication. Yes its a meta-sense, because it is big picture oriented. Our logic is our attempt to take the big picture it presents us with and bring it down to our level to make sense of it. What we like to call integration.

At a certain point in my life I learned the limits of logic. Logic is your ability to take in information and make sense of it. Logic relies on memory, and it uses that memory to create a map of meaning. The problem is....if the memory is faulty....the logic will not be able to pick it up. You can only discover faulty memory by having an open mind, and the willingness to test the memory to see if it is true. This is why some of the most brilliant logisticians get stuck. They are unwilling to question their memory deep enough to tests its validity. They create biases against certain types of data....and become limited thinkers who are unable to create anything new. The proper way to go through life....is don't absolutely believe anything....question everything....but at the same time....trust your intuition to see you through. Your biggest barriers to discovering what is true is implicit bias, cognitive dissonance, and ignorance. Intuition can alleviate this, and raising awareness can alleviate this because it can allow you to bypass those limitations...and access divine intelligence....but that is another topic for another time. The West teaches the memory, logic, model of intelligence. As long as you operate from that model....you will be limited in your ability to learn. Question everything....the same you did as a child. Don't lose that child-like curiosity.

14? The hell? They should just rename it the Nadal Open.

Exactly!!! You get it!! Its hard to accept but this is how it all works. The Ego hates this though lol.

I don't think you all understand what it means by everything is one and that everything is infinite. Let me ask you something. Is infinity one? If everything is One, then how can there be a relationship? If everything is One, then how can you experience duality. If everything is one, there would be no distinction. You all thinking to limited. You need to expand your mind around the fact that reality is infinite. It is a paradox, whatever you say it is.....it isn't And whatever you say it isn't it is. Reality is nothing, and it is also everything. Reality is one, it is also infinite. If reality was ONLY one then you couldn't exist right now as a human. You are placing a limitation on reality when you say it is only one. Reality is a shape shifter, not just in form but in concept. It has no limits, it can be ANYTHING. So anytime you describe reality you are describing it from a particular perspective. Now when it comes to this particular dream, this dream has rules. These rules were created by an infinite intelligence. A single ego would not be allowed to disrupt all of this. Why? Because everything is interconnected. It would be like your kidneys wanting to do something different than it was designed to and thus your human body dying from kidneys not filtering like they were designed to do. Your ego does nothing, the only power your ego has is how it chooses to interpret experience, and the choice of what it wants to focus on. Your higher self is the one that is in control. The whole point of spiritual awakening is to discover your ego (your sense of self as a human) is not in control of anything and is merely in the passenger seat.

You are correct Irina, as you continue to grow and evolve...you will change. All change is death and rebirth. Our entire life follows this cycle. Its okay to mourn the loss of who you once were. Just don't forget to celebrate who you are now. I'm learning myself everyday to release control. Once we release control...is when we gain it. So funny how counter intuitive life is. Many blessings!!

This. There are rules to this dream. You didn't manifest anything, this is the trap. Let me ask you....do you make your heart beat? Make your heart stop beating right now. What you need to understand is there are rules to this dream. You aren't Neo and this isn't the Matrix. You are a Co-Creator. Emphasis on Co. Only when you release your attachment from this dream do you regain your true self. Right now you are dealing with the Ego. The key to finding out when you are being egoic is this. The ego always desires control. But the source of your ability is the opposite. Releasing control. Please notice this. Your ego is currently judging reality as not sufficient and is desiring to have Administrator privileges in this dream. Let me ask you....why do you think you are here? Do you believe you are here to live a life of constant attainment of things? If so, explain to me what does that serve? Is your true nature a consumer? Or is it a creator?

Pretty women have an abundance mentality, (unless they were picked on as a kid and are a late bloomer) think of women as a rich man or celebrity. You have to do something to stand out. Otherwise you are just some guy they danced with and had fun with. Unless that is a girl who isn't social, you won't believe how often that woman has talked to an interesting guy and had a fun outing. Most women in the dating market have had more dates and social interactions. This means they have more experience. So to stand out, you have to figure out for you what you can do to not seem like every other guy. If you are like every other guy, it won't go anywhere after the outing. Truthfully though I hope you are just looking for something short-term because the advice I am giving you is how women who are looking for fun and short-term operate. Different women are looking for different things. Usually (but not always) women who are in the clubs are just trying to have a good time and as they call it "vibe." These women see new experiences like a drug, and are just trying to get their fix. It's funny I remember in movies growing up the man use to call the woman for a booty call, now the roles are reversed and the women are doing it lol.

I think Leo would appreciate you not spying on him vaping. Let the man vape in peace.

I had found a lesser known Narcissism psychologist researcher who said she had success as well. I just like Sam because he was diagnosed as one. Many of the terminologies used he coined. For example he coined the term "flying monkeys."

I've done extensive study on narcissists, are they a lost cause? No, there is recent breakthrough therapy systems in place RIGHT NOW that have produced results. Sam Vaknim is a narcissism researcher who was diagnosed with Narcissism Personality Disorder and is one of the foremost experts on it. He was able to overcome his issues while also coming up with a therapy to help Narcissists become normal. Narcissists have an underdeveloped ego. Because of this their ability to connect meaningful with anyone is hampered. Dr. Vaknim believes it is a kind of PTSD. He refers to it being a PTCT or a form of complex trauma. Narcissists are created and it happens in the formative years. You should really lose your hatred for narcissism. Narcissists suffer, they are full of shame, guilt, and walk around with a feeling of emptiness within. Narcissists in some ways are closer to God realization hilariously. Because they see everyone as an extension of themselves, which is why they have poor boundaries. In fact Dr. Vaknim says Narcissism is a kind of religion as well. His theory is a little confusing for me, I might need to study it further to really get it down. But as a diagnosed Narcissist it is nice to be able to hear how they view reality. They view it completely different. Narcissists cannot help but be the way they are, but Dr. Vaknim believes he can SHOCK them back into the proper development they were supposed to go through. According to him they are stuck in arrested development, and he claims his therapy method called "Cold Therapy" can shock them back into a proper psychological development. According to him, when it comes to ego development they are behind toddlers.

The difference between a 10/10 and 8/10 is actually large. To put it in perspective. A 10/10 is the classic rolls out of bed, hair dishelved, and could walk into a photo shoot looking like that. A 9/10 rolls out of bed and is still cute. A 8/10 or lower wakes up and looks like most girls in the face, but once she applies a little make up she looks like the 9/10 - 10/10. Makeup is extremely powerful in its ability to alter appearance. Example: https://siachenstudios.com/list/16-cardi-b-without-makeup-pics/ What you guys don't realize....is the makeup industry does magic lol. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_x9yeN3uDQ So when you go out...understand most women are adjustables in appearance. Makeup has the ability to transform, along with all the other accessories as well. You can take a 4/10 to a 6-7/10 with the right makeup and clothing.

Exactly. Everything is our mirror. The cool thing is this concept REALLY wakes you up. It is the key to being honest with yourself and the key to developing yourself both spiritually and psychologically. Its the key to doing shadow work.

Interesting, I notice you love that term ego backlash. Did you coin that term? And cool yeah the colors can be awe inspiring. This is true, but my consciousness has been returned to baseline at the moment so I don't see the mystical stuff as clearly. This makes a lot of sense. The sad thing is I couldn't test this for myself on me I would have to find some low conscious person and watch them take psychedelics to find out lol.

So I came across a video on Youtube that can showcase a little Non-Duality for those who maybe a little skeptical. Video: Also to go along with the video....when you finish it.....read this comment left by one of the viewers. "myself and 5 of my friends experienced hardcore telepathic communications on LSD , it was so intense that IT SCARED TF out of the SOBER people in the room. Some of the sober people began to ask if they were dosed, what was going on, to stop, how tf are we doing this, it was NUTS!!! we asked each other questions telepathically, but first we told the sober people by writing the question on a piece of paper in a different room. then the person questioned telepathically would say the Answer out loud to the questions asked, EVERYONE freaked. we repeated it a few times before people started feeling really freaked out hope that wasn't too confusing, but it blew everyone tf away, the sober people there are the only reason i believe this wasn't some shared delusional psychosis experience. they also said it FELT like they were on drugs WITH us when this was all going on, almost as if the vibe in the room made them trip during this experience, after they left, they felt light and floaty but sober again, base line in 5 minutes and NOBODY dosed them, or accidental exposure was IMPOSSIBLE." Thoughts anyone?

You'll learn one day. You can only be deceived if you are not honest with yourself. Conartist= Confident artist. They play on your desire, and gain your trust. You can only be deceived with your permission. For example....you could block me, or I block you. Or just ignore me. You can only be deceived if you allow someone in your mental space.

What you don't understand....is I am aware right now that you are doing that. That is why I said, you cannot convince me or anyone against their will. You have ultimate authority of your mind. There is nobody to blame when you fall for the deceit of others. Consciousness cures all. Right now at this very moment we are engaged in an egoic game for power. Right now we are moralizing and demonizing each other. I am completely aware right now this is happening. So please explain how you can convince someone....who is aware of what is going on? I can just choose to not care and walk away, and you can choose to do the same. Right now at this moment we are both just arguing with ourselves and projecting onto each other. So again... explain how what you claim can happen. You can only trick those who refuse to be honest. Right now I am being petty, right now I admit that fully. Right now I am being sensitive. I own my crap, I leave nothing in the shadow. That is what it means to love yourself, to accept everything even the flaws. As long as you can be radically honest and own your crap, nobody can deceive you. Again one day you will learn this. Deception only happens when you are not honest with yourself. As long as you are honest with yourself and don't fragment who you are by ignoring your flaws...you can't be deceived. You get deceived when you first deceive yourself.

Lol no you couldn't nobody can convince you without your permission. This is not even up for debate. It wouldn't matter how much Will you have. The one thing somebody cannot take from you is your perspective. If you really think you can convince someone against their will, then you have much to learn. Sure there are things like hypnotism, and suggestive avenues, but again that person has to submit to those things. So no, there isn't enough will in the world or charisma in the world to convince someone if they choose to tune you out. Charisma is all about attraction....I'm pretty sure....there isn't any attraction going on here. I'm also conscious of all the psychological power games that go on and all you have to do to overcome them all is to literally not care about your status among others. Because every game is an appeal to others and their perception basically its politics. At that point if what you are saying the group likes more, in that arena you are correct even if you are spouting b.s. so no....it wouldn't work. For others sure....but not me.

I've always thought the Journals was just people sharing some of their random or deep thoughts. Maybe make it that people can't post in the journals outside of the person who started it unless they give permission? It could solve that problem. But yeah if someone is coming inside your journal starting crap blocking them makes sense.

Lol you couldn't convince me of anything, more projection. I said all that because your responses didn't make sense and the conversation was going no where. All I did is repeat back to you that apparently everything I said was nonsense...even though it is literally supported by all of human history. If you took the time to actually try to understand what I was saying instead of reacting you would have understood. You don't have to agree with someone to understand them. I've noticed a lot of people on this forum are reactionary, they don't even try to understand what the person is saying. I'm not perfect in that regard as well but its to the point they'll claim your speaking b.s. and can't even articulate what part is b.s. Also here is a secret. If you really believe that someone is not walking around carrying around some fear or insecurity...that just means you are not conversing with them deep enough. Even the most stable person has some insecurity or fear. For example, even if they are secure in themselves they may worry about others in their circle who are less capable. But hey...what do I know? I'm just some guy on the internet.

First I got to say, you have a gift for writing. That was very well written and articulated I enjoyed every minute of it! Many of your realization reactions were the same as mine. For me I started to feel like a looney tune character lol. But I am glad you realized your true nature. I am curious how this will impact you moving forward. For me personally it made life seem even more alive if that makes sense, it brought some of the child-like wonder I had as a kid back.

Yeah I know that much. I was just wondering, psychedelics really do bring forth what is within. So I guess if that person is not on the path...they are not going to experience ego death. They say it shows you what you most need to see. So I guess for some people....they need to see colors and shapes lol.