Razard86

As a guy I want the few woman on this forum to express what it is they (realistically) would desire from a male/female relationship. But first a few disclaimers: This is not an exclusionary thread, if you want to make a thread of Bi sexualism, homosexualism, transgender relationships you are welcome to make your own thread in fact you are encouraged. This thread is just one I want to make because I am trying to reach an even deeper level of understanding of what I already know currently in my life experiences as a heterosexual guy. Now with that out of the way, ladies I welcome you to think long and hard about this. This thread can help you understand what it is you desire in a partner and also what you contribute. So here we go!! 1. As a feminine woman what qualities would you most want in a man for a long-term relationship? After you decide that, how best would your own qualities compliment those qualities you desire to see in a man? 2. Why do you want to be in a romantic relationship in the first place? Do you believe you are trying to gain one to fix or cover an insecurity? 3. If you were to sum up in your opinion what you would want a man's role to be in a relationship in one word what would it be? And for your role what would it be? As life is not static how comfortable would you be with those roles being reversed due to life circumstances? 4. Do you consider yourself to be a patient person? How judgmental do you think you are? Do you believe you could stay with a partner who changes over time into a different person like from a funny person to a deep introspective person or vice versa? 5. How important is career to you in a relationship? How important would it be to have kids? 6. Do you have a tendency to look for your partner to make you happy or do you take your own personal happiness as your own responsibility? Do you attract partners who look to you to make them happy? **This thread is for women*** I am pretty sure some men are still going to enter in and say their piece. If you are, don't derail the thread or make any judgments. This is just for exploration and discovery purposes for all involved. Let's not bring in our personal histories in dating and project them onto each other in here. Thank you for your interest! For fun look at Chris Rock's explanation. I rather like it. This is just for laughs....but there is truth present as well. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FT4Z4Blss0U&ab_channel=AfricaOnNetflix

Why am I even wasting my time, you are just disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing. If you take the Non-Dual perspective then I am you and you are me, which means we cannot even have a conversation since there is only one. You need two to have a conversation, so we are just two thoughts interacting in universal mind. You can't take a relative argument and since you can't refute it you run to the NON-DUAL perspective. With the NON-DUAL perspective there isn't anything that needs to be said about polarization. At this point your just playing games and not being honest. But whatever play your games man.

Here is a video of Rupert Spira talking around the subject. Its interesting how he dances around it. It might be he wants his students to find out for themselves. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0cjm7kGw-I&ab_channel=RupertSpira

1. If that was true you wouldn't be responding to this thread. Responding to this thread is service to others. You'd only be doing this if it was some way to get the poster under your control as the Service To Self Path is all about control. 2. The next contradiction is your statement is a humble statement which contradicts unless it is a scheme you are using to draws other in to control them. So either you are full of crap or are playing games to get the the OP to come under your guidance so you can exploit them. Remember Hitler was not Service to Self Oriented enough to be considered Negative Polarity. Look up Gheghis Khan and Vlad the Impaler those 2 were listed as negative polarity and I am pretty sure you aren't even close to Hitler level which means YOU ARE NOT considered negative polarity.

There isn't any real evidence for ADHD most Clinical Psychologists actually admit this. In truth it actually doesn't exist and is overwhelmingly diagnosed in young boys. If you look into the history on why this has been the case and what changed as far as how the school system was set up in Western Culture (The Prussian School System) you would understand why this was the case. In truth most issues with concentration are a result of overstimulation due to modern technology which is why most people born in modern culture struggle with attention issues. Recently when I took a psychedelic a couple of months ago it changed the wiring of my brain and increased my ability to concentrate by quieting the mind. Most neuroplasticity is heavily influenced by the environment. If you took a kid away from technology long enough his brain will reorganize the wiring and he will be able to concentrate. When I entered basic training over a decade ago we basically had no contact with T.V. or internet the entire time we were there. About 2 weeks in you notice your ability to concentrate skyrocket. When I left and went back to watching T.V. and perusing the internet those issues returned. So most of these issues...are just environmental based on social and physiological conditioning.

I noticed today of the importance of staying in an aware state and being accountable in that moment. I realize that even with my awareness I give in to base desires at times. I also am struggling to understand when to deploy masculine love and when to deploy feminine love.

Look at this picture and what do you think? Think of the brick as all of reality....notice how color helps sell the idea of separation.

Thanks for sharing, recently I have started to enter negative thought spirals myself and I usually don't have these issues but what I noticed is we have layers to our being. We are multi-dimensional so what is in, will eventually come out. It just needs the right trigger, the right catalyst. Its cool though just new ways to learn what is inside you.

This is very true he has a gift for this. I don't think some people on the forums understand either, and when they do find out it will put them in an existential crisis. To know that your life is just a thought in an infinite mind...no more significant than a thought in your own mind would drive some to suicide.

You interpreted it as dismissive and callous and used the past experiences of others as a reference point to look at this title. The title simply says he is afraid to tell people they are God. Its a complete statement with no judgment. I could say person A is afraid to ride elevators. You see? Look how easy we as humans use the past to judge the present moment. ( I do it too).

Drunkenness is a state of consciousness, don't you notice the world changes if you get drunk? If you take a small non-breakthrough dose of a psychedelic the world changes again, if you take a breakthrough dose the world changes again. Happiness is a state change, your perspective is different when your happy. When you are sad and depressed again it changes. There are infinite examples.

You actually think a person who is in service to self can awaken? You do realize the biggest barrier to awakening is ego right? If I am selfish I wouldn't even notice the things associated with Spirituality and if I did....my sensitivity to it would be drowned in my little ego schemes and power plays for possessions, power, sex, and drugs. The Law of One series says Hitler isn't even selfish enough to fit the bill of a complete Service to Self because he thought he was doing right. The best example they gave for a service to self was Genghis Khan so go look him up. The other example they gave was Vlad The Impaler.

Watch this video. A psychedelic could answer this question for her. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hDOfuojt20&ab_channel=RupertSpira

I'll explain to make it a little easier. If you were a blind man, there would be no images, so with sight you are just seeing images. So what makes the image feel real? The sensation of touch. If you grabbed at cup and didn't feel anything you would instantly know it was fake, or if your hand went through it. Science has shown that all things we touch are empty space. https://interestingengineering.com/science/due-to-the-space-inside-atoms-you-are-mostly-made-up-of-empty-space So Science shows you are made of nothingness, also we know atoms are just more image also but I digress. So its the resistance between the charge between two objects that makes something FEEL physical. So notice this...if you lost sight, physical touch, emotional feelings, smell, and hearing, even if I saw you in my room for you....you wouldn't be anywhere. Now let me take away your last sensation, the feeling of awareness itself from which all things stem forth. This happens when you are in deep sleep. So in deep sleep you have none of those things listed above....so do you exist when in deep sleep? No you do not. Understand that to exist you must first have awareness, then all the other senses give you a reality. Your reality is just sight, physical touch/feeling, emotional feeling, smells, and hearing. That's it. You see when you deconstruct how simple it is?

Best channel on how to maintain attraction, and to rekindle it. The book is great also. Atomic Attraction. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQlIi1_uWqo&ab_channel=DevelopAttraction You need to understand the psychology of attraction. Its one of the most important concepts you will ever learn its applicable in basically every endeavor in life.

Great post!!

I ate an edible for the first ever and it was stronger than Jedi Mind Fuck Mushrooms. This was within 20 hours of taking the Jedi....so you could hypothesize that maybe it reacted with any remnants in the system who knows. But what I can say is that edible hit me like a truck, I exploded into infinity off an edible.

Mostly clitoral stimulation makes girls squirt. So just master different ways of stimulating that part and you can make her squirt.

You can't offend anyone, he created the offense.

Your response is confusing.... did you notice I also said he might want his students to find out for themselves? Or do you have an urge to find something to disagree about?

Ummmmm if you are everything.....you wouldn't have a bias. Bias is the belief that you are NOT everything thus you deny it as invalid/bad/demonic/evil. Love= acceptance. Wisdom= Understanding both the absolute, and the relative and how it all connects. To Understand is to connect, so wisdom= love. It takes much attention to understand something, takes much attention to gain wisdom. Again=Love. They are the same.

Many people believe that a word and its definition is an objective fact. That the word blue just corresponds to a color. You will have people debate over and over on definitions and labels believing that said labels and definitions are objective. They don't realize that all meaning is subjective. I'll present a scenario for you to understand. Person A loves puppies. When they hear the word puppy their eyes light up. Person B hates puppies, mostly cause they are allergic. When they hear the word puppy they look around in apprehension and annoyance. When Person A hears puppy they think loving thoughts, When Person B hears puppy they think annoyance, and allegoric responses. When someone talks to you in a language you don't know, their words....are dead to you. Their words have no meaning to you. For you to understand their language you need to be able to picture...and to feel what the words are pointing to. Once you are able to conceptualize and MAKE A CONNECTION, then the words become ALIVE. They have MEANING. I know its sappy, and people are tired of hearing it.....But meaning, connection, life....its just love. Life is continually pointing to the same thing...love. You cannot escape this, everything is love even your denial of this message is love. You love the way you perceive things currently and don't want to lose that perspective because you love it. Everywhere you look is love, communication is just an act of love that you take for granted everyday.

All separation is imaginary. 1. Demonizing others and blaming them for not agreeing with you, is the same thing as complaining about discrimination. Think about it, you are mad at them for not agreeing with you, so you call them a slur like phobic, racist, whatever. So they then get mad for you calling them that and they call you some slur. So both parties are engaging in the same situation demonizing each other because they disagree. 2. You need to understand that disagreement is normal, you disagree with your self (have conflicting thoughts, fears, and doubt) but yet you expect for that to be any different when you deal with people? Notice that makes no sense. 3. Nobody triggers you, YOU trigger you. Triggering happens when something bothers you. The cold can bother one man, and be heaven for another. Its a personal problem that needs to be worked through. As long as you blame outside forces for what you create, you will live in hell a hell you have created for yourself. If you want to be Satan and torment yourself be my guest you have that right. But only you are responsible for your feelings NOBODY else.

Your not lazy, you lack passion. Currently right now you are struggling with two things. 1. Not sure what you want to do. 2. Have an idea what you might like to do, but do not believe you are capable of doing it= feelings of unworthiness. This means you have a mild form of depression. Low self-worth in relation to what you really want in life. Its no problem the key to overcoming depression....is to do something. DO ANYTHING!! Depression saps you of motivation and makes you non productive. When you are tired of being this way, get up and do something. You always have control over how you feel at any given moment. Realize that all thought and beliefs/ are just impressions you gathered throughout your life and have no basis in truth UNLESS you believe they do. Watch this video to understand how much your thoughts create your reality and make a commitment to learn to master your thoughts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EokHiVt0KeU&t=3931s&ab_channel=Actualized.org Start the journey of accountability. Everything starts and ends with you!!

I'm glad you agree thanks for your post.