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People would be more attracted to How To Be A Fuck Up At Life, because it's like "Whaaa???" better chance for people to click the video. because most of what people do on a daily basis is fucking up their life. and it might open their eyes that they are doing it right this second.

Yeah.. that's why this can be so paradoxical, there's A LOT of grey area, not everything is black and white as we would like it to be. An ego giving up on enlightenment (truthseeker) needs to realize how important it is in my knowledge graph, so I became a little assertive.

@electroBeam You can't seem to read between the lines of what I'm saying, you take everything I say at face value. You take everything I say and break it apart. I can do that too, but I'm not gonna play this justification game with you. Your whole paradigm of "this is wrong" and "this is not what I meant" and "this means this" and "you are actually saying this" and "if you say this it means this" can't you see all your assumptions and insinuations are just that? No matter what I say you'll do a mental gymnastic to turn it back on me. I'm not the one saying anything is good or bad YOU ARE, I'm not the one saying this is true, YOU ARE. I'm not the one saying someone is born with emotional mastery. YOU ARE. Just because I say something doesn't mean you need to believe me. Now go ahead and explain away everything I said so you can feel better about yourself. This is just a justification game. There's no point it's just beliefs attacking beliefs. World views attacking world views. Just a new dogma.

Being motivated and actually BEING enlightened are two different things. someone can know everything there is to know about enlightenment and still not be enlightened. Again I'm not talking about motivation, I'm talking about actually being enlightened, I never said the fiction is good or bad, I never said it doesn't help, all of which are assumptions you've made. Again you assume I said having an agenda is bad. Some people seek validation to see if they got it, Some selflessly explain their experiences. And also I am aware of my own agenda, again, assuming that I'm not aware of what I'm saying. My "agenda" is maybe giving OP a little insight and traction to stay on this track and take responsibility to do the work. and it seems your agenda is to explain away everything I said to serve your ego and buy into your own bullshit. (yes, same as I am right now.) Who is this helping? you? me? or the OP? I agree that people need to know about enlightenment and be motivated, and I also agree that this forum can be helpful, but it's counter productive in the sense that talking and theorizing and creating story's and yapping does not make you become enlightened it might help yes, but it won't be permanent. People who take responsibility for this don't need emotional support, they take whatever information they have and work with it. People who need emotional support aren't committed to the journey, they just wanna see what's going on. Taking on this journey is gonna need more than just motivation and some enlightenment experiences.

talking and being convinced by others doesn't make you become enlightened. That's why sometimes I feel this forum is completely counter productive to enlightenment, anything anyone tells you is a complete fiction. The only thing anyone is really doing when they tell you something about enlightenment is pointing you to this "blind spot" that's all anyone is doing. Don't get advice and rationalize it away on the forum so it makes sense or it doesn't make sense, people can explain away anything you think and conceptualize and they will, why? because it's exactly what we are trying not to do, people have their own agendas and trying to convince themselves of things. Take what people, Leo and others and just use it in your practice and filter out what works and what doesn't (assuming you meditate everyday.) Everyone's at different stages in their development. This is a lone wolf journey.

True true, that's why I think I just need to take a week off and meditate for 8 hours as Leo talked about But in terms of enlightenment buying into our own bullshit seems like the answer, ''find your own answers'' they say. It seems my own answers come from this awareness that is nothing, and they just keep coming and its endless, so my whole world view is coming into question.

Assumptions are groundless, any assumption is a foundation set that essentially has no ground. Even the word ''assumptions'' is groundless so your assumption to be using "concepts and thoughts to realize our own errors in thought" is also counter productive and more groundless assumptions.

Become enlightened.

Questions find answers and a means to no end. It seems a huge issue is, its hard to imagine nothing can create something, but, this nothing exists.

He has videos on this, "how to get shit done" and "how to stop procrastinating" I think what you need to learn is ridding your limiting beliefs which he has only covered in his life purpose course.

He doesn't cover looks because it's so LOW on the scale of true attractiveness compared to the things he talked about. Look your best, that's really not that hard, a guy who takes care of himself and his looks is just a part of having the FULL PACKAGE. But it's so unimportant compared to the other things he listed.

Leo gave some good reccomendations for focus, cut off all distractions, work in block time. 90 minutes, then a 10-15 min break, then back to it.

Mindfulness increases your awareness, Self inquiry helps you find answers about who you are in truth, looking at yourself very objectively and honest.

Remember it's both of your faults, not just hers but yours too. There's no point in placing blame on yourself or her and thinking about the past, the only thing you can get from the past is a lesson. So take this lesson and just let it go man. This isn't a bad thing, this could very much be a good thing. but whether you believe it's a bad thing or a good thing is up to you. choose good, you'll be way, way, way better off. If you choose bad, you'll have a lot of unnecessary suffering.

Well, I could tell you move on, never go back to her, because honestly that's the best option to what it sounds like. But I know how hard that can be, I also see it in my friends, going back to their ex, no matter how much they fight, how much they "talk it out". The truth is you have to learn how to love someone, you have to learn how to keep your girl, you have to learn how to talk to your girl, you have to find out what makes her happy, and more deep you have to know what you like and how to keep yourself happy, and be a man and know when enough is enough and have the courage to cut things off if its the best for both of you. Usually we just wing it and think it's gonna be okay. But honestly this shits like gravity, you're gonna feel needy or she's gonna feel needy, she'll be available, you'll hit her back up or she will then "work it out" and your right back in it. You honestly have to learn to "escape the atmosphere" if you know what I'm saying. If you have a friend that can help you stay away, all the better, because you'll be slowly drifting towards her without even realizing your doing it. Because the way I see it with most people, is their relationship has literally crashed and burned like a plane crash and there they are deciding whether to pick up all the pieces of the plane to pick it up and put it back together. And most people spend their lives doing just this. Move on is a complete understatement. and its one of the most hardest things anyone can do or has the courage to do. Don't go back to the plane crash man. This will be so much better for your happiness, your courage and personal growth. You can't put a plane back together if you don't have the right tools. and you don't.

23 apparently having a midlife crisis too after looking at all the signs haha.

This is just becoming a justification game, just because social conditioning keeps us from expressing ourselves doesn't mean we can't express ourselves. It also doesn't mean there aren't consequences to your actions, there are. What I am ACTUALLY talking about goes way deeper than just "is it okay to do this by society?" or "people in society would obviously do this to me." What I'm talking about is you living in fear and how you talk to protect your ego from whatever you think society will do or will not do to you.

To answer A, yes, admired/accepted, to answer b, you assume you have control over how people will think of you/how they will react. The truth is you actually don't. So the difference between whether you will get killed or live a fulfilling life is really a product of your thoughts and not in the external world. It's like a self fulfilling prophecy or the law of attraction. and c: We aren't talking about identifying with just gayness, we are talking about Identification of our whole entire ego, self, thoughts, assumptions that we make everyday. If someone is insecure with their gayness then that's an internal conflict, an egoic conflict and it doesn't actually exist in reality.

When your inner self is so powerful it automatically projects itself on the outer world, as you become more aware of the reactions your getting, you slowly learn what you are giving off, re-calibrating so your ego is satisfied. And being your True self doesn't care if people label you as weird, because you are internally grounded, you see "being weird" for what it really is. and third there is a distinction from inner world and outer world, Most people are caught up in thoughts and their ego, and realizing that there is no self/ego is the actual realization that you are reality. you are the inner world and outer world, and by you saying I'm here, and they are out there, is the ego, which is the thing we say doesn't exist, and when that distinction is cut off, there becomes no YOU struggling against reality, but you being aligned with reality. because if there is a self, there's a NEED to struggle against reality (to be accepted, get what it wants, trying to control things which you have no control of), which is cause for a lot of your suffering in life.

No, but this is his journey, and in a way he is documenting his way to enlightenment and putting all his insights and progress for everyone to see, and that's inspiring to me.

Or it could be exactly that, something happens in the exact same way and it flips something in your brain that recognizes it, it might not be exactly the same, but very very close. I don't really have any idea either but this is my explanation.

Yes that's true. but there's a saying Leo talks about "if you think you're right, You're right, and if you think your wrong you're also right." Purpose and meaning only exists in the mind. "It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy, If whatever you feel your purpose is in life, is what it is, you make your purpose. So that means, if you're a nihilist and you think that there is no purpose and that life is pointless, then that's what it is for you. And you will be right in that.And if you think your purpose is to go out there and to do something, to raise a family, go out and build a business, make contribution, whatever, that will be your purpose and that's pretty much the end of it." - Leo

Of course you can have your eyes closed! I find when I have my eyes closed it's a lot easier to fall asleep, depending on how tired I am, that's really the only difference.

That's an egoic reaction, no ego likes hearing it doesn't have control, I didn't like hearing this, but the ego's control that it thinks it has is actually the cause of suffering, because you believe you have control, but you actually don't and you suffer because of that. The problem is the ego likes to have control, it likes to have a purpose, it loves chasing after things, and you take that away, the ego feels useless, hence the egoic reaction. You can still go after these things, but your relationship to the suffering and pain you feel trying to control everything can be taken away.

Ooh I really like these. good list.