patricknotstar

If I'm in a dream it controls me but once I go lucid I can control my dream environment. The cost is knowing none of it is real, so I have complete freedom with my imagination being the only limit , infinite pleasure but the burden of knowing none of it is real . Seems analogous to awakening , atleast from my conceptual understanding of it as i'm not actually enlightened. Just a thought I had as someone who lucid dreams a lot (4-5 times a week) side note: Tbh lucid dreaming isn't infinite pleasure because when I get to the good stuff my heart rate jacks up and I usually wake up , sigh

I DESIRE , BUT I CANNOT MATERIALIZE ALL MY DESIRE SO I SUFFER. I TELL MYSELF IF I CAN STOP DESIRING ALTOGRTHER MY SUFFERING WILL END, BUT TO NOT DESIRE IS OF ITSELF A DESIRE. THE DESIRER IS THE DESIRE, TO CEASE TO DESIRE WOULD BE TO CEASE TO EXTIST AS A CONSCIOUS SELF. THESE IDEAS OF LIBERATION FROM DESIRE ARE ONLY PROJECTIONS OF THE DESIRER, TO SIT UNDER A TREE IN NIRVANA, ETERNAL BLISS STILL HOLDS THE PRESUMPTION THERE IS A SELF THERE TO EXPERIENCE THAT BLISS BUT THERES NO ONE. THERE IS NO WAY OUT THAT INCLUDES ME COMING OUT ALIVE. Ofcourse this is just how I feel currently with my limited level of consciousness but people who've done more work than me can you explain the flaw in my thinking because I can't seem to solve this riddle. I know to some it might seem silly

my personal sense of self is going to dissapear? well that doesn't sound very nice. That sounds like dying

thanks Leo , this reminds me of a quote by J cole "they tell me this shit ain't as good as it seems , but tell me till you get it how could know." Hopefully one day I'm able to live out my desires and then see if they bring me fulfilment , right now I think they would bring me completion and happiness but if they don't, well that would be quite a trip.

never used any technique just something I've been able to do as a kid and they've started increasing in frequency as I've gotten older. Used to be just once a month at one point.

Looks are not the most important thing in life, but looks affect everything that's important to life. Whether you want to admit or not, there is a looks threshold men must meet to even enter the dating market. And if you're a woman and don't believe me try making a dating profile with the picture of a below average looking man. Without meeting a certain physical threshold as a man you will be forced into a life of loneliness , you will have zero dating prospects , you will have little agency over your life and be depressed as you are denied a large portion of your deficiency needs. Now ppl will say you can take care of yourself etc etc , not true there are some people who's facial bone structure is simply so poor, combined with other factors such as balding , extremly short that it just seals their fate. No amount of game and inner work will get them success with women. Don't deny this , as it's very condescending to those who were born to this fate, but instead I ask you what can someone who was born this unnatractive to where they will never experience attraction and romance do to fill that void and frustration in their life?

his frustration comes from never having a gf. Romantic intimacy is a very fundamental need and it's understandable if someone can't attain it they would see no point to life. Don't look at the symptoms but how can he fix the root problem which is his romantic frustration, is it his appearance , behaviour , does he even try etc

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