BlueOak

Yes, well put. An alternate way to look at it: Too good would be, spending time in nature, caring for it, and appreciating it. Ditto your food, home, community, etc. What we have now is unbalanced. Our values are not in alignment with sustainability, so we don't sustain and take care of ourselves. We burn out, we have depression, reoccurring relationship problems, weight problems, dietary problems, musculoskeletal problems, and mental or physical illnesses. I see all this in the macro too, families not having kids, societies breaking apart, social unrest, and unnecessary national or personal debt to name a few.

So you all understand, this is a common theme here in Europe to think about, not a one-off video I happened upon. I do not vouch for the quality of any of these compared to the previous video, which I considered a reasonable quality. These are to demonstrate that the war is being discussed and planned for if it happens.

People won't sit back and play the game of what if against an aggressive dictator. The longer it takes Russia to recover from these wars, the better it is for the rest of Europe. That's precisely why we are trying to get aid to Ukraine. People can put moral things on top of it to make themselves feel better, but everything humanity does is self-serving. Putin isn't that smart, he's got some intelligence, sure, but he hamstrings himself by killing anyone who doesn't say yes to him. I argue with you in this thread but I don't for one second think I am more intelligent without your input. Do you understand? If I were in power, I'd want you and Bobby in my ear checking my bias, to come to a better decision. I will repeat: This is the 8th war to rebuild or control former USSR territories. Moldova is an almost guaranteed 9th. The Baltics would be a calculation, is NATO going to respond with enough force to stop me? Already knowing that the Suwałki Gap gap could not be held, war games showed that even with American assistance, Russia would cut off and siege the Baltics, overrunning them (let alone without America). This is why those countries are creating so many bunkers to slow the Russians down, and Poland is restoring a large armored core. - They believe there is a chance they will be invaded as it has happened so many times before. Germany and the UK are moving troops to the region because they believe the threat is real. Everyone recognizes Trump wants to pull out of NATO, so the Europeans are moving to fill the gap and push back against Russia. There are many reasons for a Russian invasion that I keep talking about, the Russian population crisis, needing a shorter border, reforming what Putin saw as the greatest Russian loss (the USSR territories), the one China, and one Russia principal that is getting all the Russians around the world into one nation. Russia is led by Putin, but he still must satisfy the hatred of the 'other' in Russian people. An ideology that he's cultivated to keep himself in power, and the strong nationalist population core that all dictators require to stay in power. Russia is fascist and it requires perpetual war to sustain that ideology. Distracting people from economic misfortune is often a reason people go to war. - Then there are trade routes, pushing influence outward, connecting to Kaliningrad, getting access to ports, etc. Europe will show its Europe, with 44 different voices wanting 44 different things. It will always show this. Expansionist authoritarian powers are seeking to test what they can take from that.

The video agreed with me, that NATO might not launch nukes to defend one country. I think it's probable. Think of the calculation: do we end the planet, or send in conventional forces? Even more likely with Trump in office, and his desire to pull out of NATO. Slovakia even said they would not send troops to defend another NATO country under attack, and Bulgaria is unlikely to. There will be countries that simply do not, especially without American support. You overestimate a NATO response to defend Poland or the Baltics. Especially more nationalist governments. Thankfully these eastern regions, and some others are preparing themselves for this pattern of events.

I agree Putin has adjusted his calculations, in time and effort, not ambition or the underlying reasons such as: his population crisis, needing a shorter border, or wanting the gas connections/supplies into Europe; hindering Turkey's growth in the Black Sea region, and Putin's imperialistic ego, or zealous fascist support requiring war. Because it hasn't stopped Putin from fighting these wars, doubling down, expanding, or mentioning Moldova, Poland, and the Baltics in his plans. Russia cultivates fear and uses it as a weapon. So don't be surprised when its successful. European states serious about the Russian threat are moving to a 3% budget. With some considering 4%. The Era of peace in Europe came about because of the 2nd World War devastation and death toll, with treaties such as NATO that said we wouldn't fight each other again. Then America became the guarantor of democracy so we didn't need to fight anymore, it was a period of stability and peace for us. Because Russia is not in NATO, we are fighting in Europe again, if they were, we would not be fighting them. If people come back in boxes, it initially leads to anger, hatred, and war. Rarely it leads to a desire for peace, but only when enough suffering is experienced. Yes, Europe, and certainly all NATO allies combined, could match the US military if they dedicated enough of their GDP. Then they'd be more proactive in using it to further their aims. Then you'd say oh, those aggressive Europeans! People don't spend all that effort, money, political, institutional, and cultural capital on something to receive nothing back. Russia is a regional power. All the numbers indicate it. Elevating it above that is why they are overreaching and continue to do so.

I've backed it up with many examples of why these wars were fought. You don't agree with them, but ignoring that others do is your main flaw. I can acknowledge Russia's concerns, even if I don't agree with them, you cannot do the opposite. I will repeat, for the 1000th time now, this region has been engaged in hostilities for centuries. We had a period of peace, thanks entirely to Europe coming together with America and making peace here. It's not naturally like that otherwise. You are advocating for WW3. That is the alternative. We cannot match the US military budget at present, though that is being changed it is a gradual process. The support would be us getting directly involved, and settling things in Europe as we used to, with long, bloody wars. Think what countries like UK, France, Germany, and Poland mobilizing troops and sending them into Ukraine would mean. I doubt we'd stop at Ukraine either if an actual war is declared, we'd have to take out Russia's capacity to fight the war, which is their industry, ports, and infrastructure connections.

America was reluctant to give Ukraine any more aid. It was held up for months. vs Eastern Europe has had centuries of conflict with Russia, is rearming, and talking about sending troops? Do you see how you are ignoring the reality of what is occurring, and why it's occurring? European powers fighting wars in Europe have always met other European powers stopping them. It's a miracle that it hasn't happened so far, and it's only the case because America is giving money to Ukraine to fight it themselves. (Also because you are right, people in Europe got complacent) Do America, Russia, and any other arms producers like selling guns? YES! Do they give nukes to countries? No! America hates nuclear proliferation, as most countries do. We are talking about millions of people, and I am trying to give a collective view here, covering their leadership in the same statement.

Then maybe Russia is a pawn too? Did you see how that assumption went? Then how many European countries are rearming? I'll link a video at the bottom with the latest development to match Belarus. The foreign policy of Europe is 44 different countries' foreign policy, including Russia and Russian-aligned states. Again, your point of view sees one block. It sees the West, or NATO, or Europe. From our point of view, we are 44 voices, with 44 different foreign policies. Here is one of them: Poland asks again for nukes: https://apnews.com/article/poland-nuclear-weapons-nato-russia-ukraine-d92c508d6ff53683a25f1bc62d256f86 If you can for a second, try to put aside your (can I say block or collective) bias and understand Polish concerns, especially with Belarus getting nukes, then you can see the war in more focus and the potential fallout from it. Or the video version, the start is the relevant bit.

For people who have no idea about how Europe operates. When one power starts to conquer territory, alliances arise to fight them. It has always been that way, the different powers have kept each other in check for hundreds of years. *That is what a non-globalist reality looks like, the thing so many right-wingers have been rushing toward for a couple of decades with open arms.

1) THEY DID. Ukraine beat them out of Sumy, Kyiv, and Kherson, then held a line. Putin is interested in a greater Russia, this is his 8th war to create it. As the video shows, if Trump pulls out of NATO, a war with Europe is likely. Again, you belittle Europe, it's insane. Why do people do this? They did it to Russia, and now they do it to the rest of Europe. Do they want to create the same result again? It boggles the mind. Keep pushing, keep calling people weak, and the result is a war. When Europe does it back to Russia, you'll be saying oh how could this happen, those bad Europeans? Surprised face. Do I think far-right governments will tolerate an aggressive Russian expansion on their borders, and meddling in their elections, a pattern that has for centuries meant war and instability? No, I don't. I think without America holding NATO together there would already be a larger regional war, with Polish, English, and Baltic troops in Ukraine (at a minimum probably France and Finland too). Your entire focus on the Americans as the bad guys misses the regional history and reality of the region. As I've tried to tell you 100 times, America was reluctant to give this last round of aid, but Europe was asking for help or getting ready to use their own troops. Russia wants the baltics back inside Russia, as the video tells you. There are large Russian populations there. Putin has already said so. I can only keep repeating what he's said. You can ignore it. You can put your head in the clouds and just say America is the bad guy, thus never seeing both sides, or the ground reality at all in that case.

The front line barely moves and the only reason it's moved meters at all is because Ukraine had to ration its artillery and ammunition. Now it can match or surpass the Russians for a couple of years again. Your entire analysis is wrong. You can't see Russia suffering, you can't see Ukraine holding. You quote to me things like the average age of a Ukranian soldier earlier without even realizing its because those under 27 were not allowed to be conscripted, now its 25. I get my information from the map itself. You have Russian propaganda. Ukraine is not on the verge of death at all. I just told you they are conscripting another 500,000 soldiers for the summer. Don't listen to so much Russian propaganda, and try to do an objective analysis. The line barely moves either way. There will be some Ukrainian offensives in areas that are less well dug in, and some Russian offensives. Everything is not as well defended as anyone here is making out. Certain territories are very well fortified, but not things that have been occupied for a month, That's how wars are fought It is not one battle that decides everything, it's small operational gains and losses. People have forgotten I suppose, because like you say they are used to one weaker country fighting a stronger one, not countries that are more evenly matched. The reality you haven't adjusted to still is that Russia isn't much stronger than Ukraine. With enough western weapons, Russia is closer to an underdog, but it gets BRICS support to even it out. Democracies don't give up land to Tyrants. Expect violence and instability for decades in any occupied area. With the aid, it'll be up to 1k+ a day if they keep up their human wave, they probably won't and go back to defend instead.

Maybe contemplate why others arguing bothers you? There could be something there to teach us about communication, or it could be an issue you have with life. Myself, that's how I communicate a lot of the time. Debate, questioning, and then arriving at an understanding by going through that process. Some bosses, for example, love it when I pull apart systems and then find ways to do them better, they can handle questions on the fly with no problem. Another boss thought I was trying to usurp their authority. To give this a parallel, a good meditation technique is on the train or somewhere noisy near distractions, it's a great practice for being able to be anywhere.

As always and with everything, people look at 10% (or, in this case 1%) of people and then say there are not enough role models. There are not enough men/women to date. There are tens of millions of average working men that we could use as examples in my country alone. The average is not enough for people. They need a weightlifter who is a billionaire and dates five women at the same time to take notice. That isn't masculinity, that's a cartoon character or caricature to get your attention. It also doesn't help the average person because they are so far removed from them, regardless of ideology or beliefs.

When you asked how someone can know something invisible to the eye, I answered with: Ask yourself. Develop your intuition. Ask reality to bring you the answer. You tend to trust only what you directly experience, I am the same. This is a way to answer any answerable question. I am sorry if I worded it in a harsher way than intended, the way you were talking sounded nihilistic. The void wasn't an insult. We are voids that we fill with... I want to say love, but everyone would put something different there.

Ask yourself Get in contact with your intuition, and remove all guesswork. Ask big YOU to show you. Why do you think you are here? Just for the heck of it? That there is no purpose to any of your life? - That's a nihilism phase. Its a void that you fill.

You can dissolve the duality of fear/love. What do you seek by avoiding the thing you fear?

Infinity still has those conditions yes. They are still part of infinity. You can choose to go back to them and reincarnate over and over again. We pick this because we might not see why they are occurring, or we might want to perceive another aspect of infinity from that experience, or the opposite half of that experience. Even having the opposite half of the experience or a related aspect, we are still experiencing the same thing we left here doing.

All choices are made seeking love, even the most horrific ones. If someone is in enough pain, it is completely understandable. With an understanding of the need for social safeguards and properly documented attempts at therapy from different specialists and practices, It should be their choice, not mine or yours. The discussion then becomes about how to grade depression in terms of pain. I wrote it out as I had experienced it, and where I'd grade the level of suffering. An 8/10 on the upper end of suicidal spirals, but getting a person suffering in an honest place to tell you the truth can take a lot of work and trust, this is crucial in both deciding this and healing them. If they have weeks they are not suicidal, then they have weeks they are not in chronic pain. it's important to take that into consideration in these kinds of discussions.

That will happen if he's allowed to rearm and attack again, yes. This is the 8th time he's done so. If he's held where he is, or pushed back, he can't go further.

Russia has already ruled out giving up any territory it has stolen, so there is nothing to negotiate. Unless he's willing to step back from that, what point is there? Just to give Putin time to rearm and go again?

@Karmadhi First off I'm not completely against sending Troops into Ukraine tomorrow. So let's get that right. I almost went myself at the start of this war. If you think the better option is NATO vs BRICS? If not don't use the line I or we want anyone to die for me/us. It is a horrible choice to do it this way, but it stops the nukes from flying and keeps Russia from advancing further. Population numbers at this stage are not reliable for either country. At the start of this before Ukraine's and Russia's exodus, it was about 3.5 times the population, and the casualties are at least at that ratio. Ukraine, with aid, can hold indefinitely. When Ukraine is not being outshot 10 to 1 due to a lack of shells, and has the coming airpower, that casualty rate is going to flip even further on the Russians. On the failed offensive. It's interesting that so many people, giving me the Russian talking points, think one battle decides the war, but it doesn't. It didn't when Ukraine had victories, and it didn't when Russia had victories. Wars are long things, and they usually last several years up to decades. Sure, Ukraine had money in the past, they might get another 300 billion of Russia's own money, which is being fought in courts now. Economies often decide wars. There is no winner in war, but you are buying into the Russia narrative a bit too much here. Millions have fled Russia over the years leading up to this war, and their population crisis is going from bad to worse. You could also say the same for Ukraine, lots of women and children have left. Meanwhile, Russia also snatches people up from the street and then conscripts them for whatever reason it can to meet its quotas. Ukraine for a long time had more volunteers than it could arm, so most of the Russian talking points on that were merely propaganda. This is why there is still a war going on because if you believed the Russian lies, they'd have destroyed Ukraine 10 times over. Russia tends to avoid conscription from its two favorite oblasts, but for the rest, they take whoever they need, whenever they need them. The main point is, if you think Ukraine will be destroyed, Russia will be crippled as well. Russia will not recover because it was already suffering a population crisis before this war even started. Now they've got lots of crippled men, old soldiers with PTSD, and ex-convicts roaming around their cities, meanwhile, they've burned up the population they needed to, bluntly, breed and reverse their population decline. Also, they have so many partisan groups burning things down, it's just commonplace these days. Ukraine is always being rebuilt, and the EU and NATO will ensure its safety and prosperity. Russia is a broken-down shell of a nation outside of its two favorite western cities. I've watched far higher Russian losses secondhand through videos marked on the map, than were reported in Western estimates until I stopped watching it daily. The Enforcers channel marks all recorded locations where incidents happen daily on an interactive map. The old Russia has yet to do a proper mobilization line always makes me roll my eyes. What are they going to arm those people with toothpicks? They are already in a wartime economy and can barely kit out their current forces without outside help. I suppose if other countries produced even more for them? Flawed logic. What could Europe gain in this hostile climate by alienating the US? If anything we need to tighten our ties with America, because of BRICS's aggressive expansion, and their meddling in the American government. The UK has plenty of resolve when it comes to war, we just don't like fighting them, but we have a reputation for being stubborn and not giving in, that's one of the reasons we understand and appreciate Ukraine. You'll find that your underestimation of how democracies resist autocracies is exactly the reason for Putin's over-extension in Ukraine France is a powerful country and has a long history of warfare. People keep belittling the French, and it's already making them take a harder posture. I saw it when their African colonies were hit, all the Russians mocking the French, it's going to get them into an egoic state, Spain and Italy also. These are all powerful nations and economies, all capable of fighting a war. Most large nations in Europe are. I'm not sure why you think if a nation is threatened enough that it won't respond with force. I guess everyone needs to keep pushing Europe till they find out again, then they can complain about those bad Europeans with a surprised face.

We'll we've discussed the strategy to death. Hold Russia in Ukraine so they can't advance further until Putin is dead and his KGB stooges have grown old and passed on. Russia is crippling itself here, and China is buying it up. I know you don't agree with the analysis, so you can't agree with the strategy, and that's fine. Practically? 60% of Russia's USSR armor stockpiles are gone. 70-80% of its professional fighting force. Its air and naval losses are mounting, things it cannot replace. When there is a mobile Patriot battery with ammunition again, most of Russia's remaining long-range bombers firing on civilian targets are going down. Just like they did before when one was mobile with ammunition. Another bomber was recently taken out, as was another ship; it's almost weekly for Russian ships these days. Ukraine has put in for 500,000 more conscripted soldiers for the summer. 61 billion more dollars in aid buys a lot of things. It could buy a break in the Russian line because they've used much of their current manpower on repeated human wave attacks, at the minimum, it will buy holding the line against Russia. It also buys European countries not getting directly involved with boots on the ground, this was looking more likely. If this maintains the status quo, with Russia stuck in a quagmire, and Europe not in a war that would bring us to WW3, then it's the biggest relief for millions.

@Sincerity | @TheCloud Thanks. It's alright, that was just a rough week. Most weeks, I only have my issues to deal with, and that family dynamic is in the background. So I maintain a fairly level mood, 3/10 depression most days so nothing major. I realized I hadn't shared the above here for insight and reflection, so it was a good opportunity. @Sincerity I try to say that my contribution to the dynamic was not making my life more of an example to my brother, so he had a positive role model to follow. Given that he had no stable father figure, it could have meant a lot, or it could have meant nothing versus his opiate addiction, who knows because nothing else did. At the moment, I am attempting to keep my focus on my task of becoming a professional editor, and some days it's easier than others. You are right though a change of location and distance will help again, I had that once before. It doesn't fix your own life, but I've not felt part of all this for a decade or more. I guess that is a result of and a cause of the ghosting. It's easier to ghost when I feel disconnected from the environment. @TheCloud Yeah, I went through that about 12 years ago, in regards to my mother, I started that process in earnest back then. She's got limited narcissistic qualities too, but they are codependent. If you were to question her identity, she'd become a rock. She was quite fierce when I was younger and could become just as angry at times because, at a young age, I would reflect my father's behavior in arguments with him. Something she was fiercely against. These days, though, she's more of a doormat, to put it bluntly. That quality was always there, but it's enhanced, my brother is such an expert manipulator after 25 years of doing it. The whole family were manipulators, and he's better than they are now. They've been worn down to shells of themselves on this issue, where my father is an angry black void and my mother is a robot. Like Sincerity says, it's time to take a longer break than I have and move further away, I don't have much of a life here in the three rooms I live in, and though the area is beautiful, the people in the surrounding area and I are very different.

This isn't for any particular reason other than to talk for the sake of talking or healing it. It's been a rough week. Advice is welcome, skip to the end questions if you are low on time. Since my brother has been going through a rough spot. I've felt the same pull on me a lot recently, and ghosted things again, only for a week. I don't have much guilt or shame for ghosting in me anymore, so I don't need to hide from that in the pattern itself. I also have no partner that I am skipping out on that needs me, so there is no painful consequence. My brother is still an opiate addict at 40, and he started before he was an adult. My 70-year-old+ mother still finances his addiction, so he doesn't kill himself. It's about as toxic a relationship as you'd imagine. She drives him to get his drugs and gives him the money. He had been working for a good long while but recently lost his job, and his girlfriend, so she's paying for all of it now not just petrol and the extra he'd usually need to get by. My father is a broken man, he's less angry now than he was most of the time but he lives in a pit of despair (mostly self-created). As a kid, we used to argue every day and then I would get a physical punishment about once a week, hand, cane, or belt. So my abuse was never the unpredictable rage others experienced, for me it was routine, and for years I could think of it as normal. It was like being raised by an angry, narcissistic 6-year-old who did nothing but get into shouting matches over small things. Such as the TV control being in the wrong, spot, the door being open, you saying the wrong word, or leaving a cup on the kitchen sink. Just ridiculous things. I remember watching Bender in the breakfast club say this is what happens to him when you spill paint, and I thought well, no to me that happens when you leave the door open. I learned to shout back at first, and that led to the physical abuse, honestly, though the enraged daily shouting was far worse. At 6 I was repeating to him what he was saying to me, that's the earliest I remember the volatile arguments, I mean, a full-blown temper over any small detail like spelling mistakes at primary school, never a simple disagreement. That was the hardest bit of deconditioning I had to do: not taking every small thing like it was the end of the world or a threat I was about to be hit for. Why do I say this? Well, I find it good to write these things out. Especially when life is tough and maybe someone has an insight I haven't thought of. It also explains my brother's initial choice to escape into drugs and my ghosting pattern. If I am not in life, I am not affected as much, computers were always somewhere that was certain and predictable. This escapism was why I loved fantasy time as a kid and eventually computer games. I assume my brothers escapism was similar. Over the many years, I've/we've tried all the things I know in relation to my brother. Love, sympathy, acceptance, denial, anger, pretending, getting him in rehab (expensive) and even using the police. We've experienced everything you imagine from an addict also. My dad and I don't often talk, as you can imagine, but he did say something today. He was talking about suicide and the helplessness he feels, I told him he doesn't see my brother; he sees the addict, and he replied that he'd never seen my brother, only as a kid, because he'd always been on some kind of drug. I realized that he was right. At what point is the person just the person? If that's what they've been all their life, that's what they are. So I realized in my head that, at this late date, I'd still be excusing it all somehow. My brother is and will always be an addict, while my mother is alive, until she or he dies. ^ 1) How would you deal with a ghosting pattern if you found yourself in one often and were tempted to do so? 2) What would you personally do regarding the family situation, bearing in mind that it's been almost 30 years? Also, I am broke and trying to restart a career, so large expenses are out of the question. *Go easy on my mother's codependence also, it's understandable given the environment. I don't excuse her enabling, and believe me I've talked at length with her but I do understand why it happened.