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The 4 hour documentary by Steven Greer was deleted (no surprise). Probably it's still available somewhere, but I can't find it on youtube anymore. After searching I found it on Amazon prime, but it's less than 2 hours now... interesting... https://www.amazon.com/Unacknowledged-Exposé-Worlds-Greatest-Secret/dp/B06ZYGGG2N

This thread is about coming full circle. It's about understanding the whole picture. Most people like to protect their beliefs in advance and are not ready to learn without their existing assumptions. When we blindly protect our beliefs and assumptions we feel more at home and safe which is an illusion. Because of that most people as they age lose their ability for accepting new explanations, new facts and new realizations because they identify with that state of being at home and safe and because of that, they reject and don't accept new explanations, realizations...because if they did, they would have to invest energy in changing their ego, and when we're identified with our thoughts and emotions we will want to maintain it. This is what cognitive dissonance is. It's a thought-emotion based blockage from our ego/mind that automatically triggers it's defense mechanism by triggering resistance and fear about change so it maintains itself. We overcome this by being honest with ourselves and with forgiving our self the emotional reactions with conscious re-direction of our life force. If you are Self-realized, do you know how to practically use that realization to systematically transform your life and remove ego reactions methodically? So many people that claim to be enlightened are basically just aware of their infinite nature, their undefined self, aware of the formless non-physical aspect that extends to infinity in all directions and dimensions, that is all present, always here and now, through which space-time moves, when you glimpse that you realize that you are everything and nothing at the same time... That's good, that's quite radical and good. Enlightenment will remove all of suffering and you will come to mental piece and inner silence. But... you will NOT be blissful. At the moment of realizing enlightenment and oneness, you see everything as perfect but the questions is it really? The paradox is that it is, and it's not. And now you have to integrate that paradox. "It's not this or that, it's both" - Bashar The question is....is that realization using you or are you proactively using that realization to come to full embodiment resulting in total bliss? If not, then your enlightenment is half-assed. When you become enlightened you realize and see how everything is happening without you doing it. It's a total mindfuck. It's really like stepping out of the matrix and seeing it for what it is, like super mario realizing it's not the character but the screen. But....that's not nearly enough. That realization is so big, that you don't know how to actualize it and so you can get stuck in passive observation of the present moment for decades. Passive observation of the present moment will never be enough to embody that realization. For example. you can be fully aware all the time, but if you are not able to see how your ego is trying to survive, you will be a passive observer and you'll be following the thoughts and emotions that are responsible for the maintenance of an egoic program. You will stay selfish and ignorant. What is necessary is active observation and acting on principles that are based on oneness, value equality, what is based for all life ...... in the now moment, inside yourself.... it's understanding that you are playing a part in the great scheme of things. (you being a fractal - a part and simultaneously the whole... well we need to act like) Active observation=a shift in being/looking -> a shift in relating Passive observation=allowing and accepting everything -> staying stuck in "all is perfect the way it is" When you're fully aware you see how thoughts and experiences pop up in the present moment without you making a choice. These thoughts, emotions and experiences come up without you making a choice and tell you who you are. Now you have 2 choices. Accept and allow these things or make a conscious choice to change yourself within yourself. To accept and allow the automatically generated reaction to continue or to stop it and do something else. To make a choice you need to be aware. We allow it to continue with our ignorance, non-understanding, carelessness for our state and well-being and self-direction and with our resistance to being honest with ourselves and taking responsibility for our thoughts. We are not our thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts are our tool that we can learn do direct instead of being submissive to it. Our automatically generated ego takes control of ourselves only if we allow it and this is when we don't give ourselves a clear principle based self-direction - when we are not clear about how we want to exist and do in every moment. Let's first define awareness and consciousness. Looking comes from awareness/being. Thoughts and thinking comes from consciousness/your mind. By stopping and looking you are re-defining yourself within yourself. You are changing your relationship to these things. You stop by becoming aware of your breathing (you can also slow it down, in the beginning it's much easier to manipulate your breathing by slowing it down than to be aware of it, just don't do it mechanically and try to observe your breathing, be one with it). When we are not conscious of every breath we take, we direct our energy into our thought-emotion energetic system and at that point we're not even aware of our body. This is an ideal scenario for our parasitic mind to take control of our attention and gain energy for it's own survival. When you are asleep you are simply assuming you're making all the choices in your life, and you're also assuming that if you've made that decision then it's probably a good one, when you're awake you're seeing your own shit that pops up in the present moment and you're able to re-define yourself in the present moment, by being something else. You are no longer identified with the thought, emotion or experience and that's when transformation takes place. Bliss is something beyond positive emotions, it is a result of embodying the Devine aspect of yourself. Bliss is divine and it's your true nature. Bliss feels good, but it feels better than feeling good...it's feeling like a God. Everything is energy but there are different kinds of energy. For this article I will focus on the mind energy and life energy. Life energy is a stable energy. The unstable energy is mind energy. The mind uses energy to preserve itself, it NEEDS energy for it's own survival. Mind energy is parasitic and if you identify with your self-created thought-emotional conscious system you will accept and allow the mind to suck the energy from your body for it's own survival. It is like a vampire, if you follow the automatically generated thoughts and emotions that show up in your awareness, you will allow the mind energy to maintain itself and the result is that your physical body will age and die one day. It's like staying asleep in the driving seat of a car.... you are the driver not the fucking car. What we are does not need energy to exist, it's eternal. A lot of Self-realized people still don't get this, they are aware of the totality...but not conscious of the part that they are playing in that screen. You are reality and you are also in reality. You are aware of the reality that is happening in you, and you are conscious that you are that self-created reality. If you are not conscious of that, then you are lost in the formless aspect of you and you don't know how to integrate that realization in your life, you don't know how to navigate between the paradox of it all and because of that you are still submissive to your automatically generated thought-emotional based system. What are you? You are an undefined being, being able to be aware, able to recognize patterns, self-reflect, to be self-responsible, self-honest, principle self-directive and able to co-create. You are always present, that means that you don't need energy for survival unlike your mind.... From that, we can clearly see that there is something more to non-duality, we are all one, but we are different, we are individual units of consciousness, souls... at different levels of maturity who are able to grow in discernment, intelligence, wisdom, love, compassion through using our abilities that I described earlier. Awareness(god) is creating his own consciousness field and this field of consciousness carries information that was accepted as true and allowed to be. This is our ego, this is the though-emotion energetic based system. You can only change yourself while being in yourself (that is a radical statement that you need to become conscious of, the character needs to shift from BECOMING a character to BEING, from form to formless and back to a different form)... Everything is now, but did you make a distinction between being and becoming? Are you aware of the constant change that is happening in you in the present moment, and be able to be principle self-directive when an automatically generated though/emotion shows up or will you be selfish and ignorant...react and follow the dualistic mind energy, that will suck the energy from your body for it's own survival? You created the mind through imagination but now the mind is using you, you are lost in your own dream, you are asleep while the process of survival is happening and because of that you are allowing and accepting the egoic reactions to continue, when you are aware, you notice how thoughts and emotions automatically come out of nowhere and you notice how these thoughts and emotions need your attention to survive... you are able to stop them, transcend them and be principle self-directive in the now moment. The mind will of course trigger fear, because it fears death and non-existence -> an illusion, so it will seem like you are powerless in the passengers seat, but that is an illusion that can be overcome by being aware that you are the only one here and the only being responsible for your direction, and that you always was that which is here&now.... you will need to train your discernment abilities to recognize appearances from reality. Following certain thoughts and emotions of course has benefits, that's why you do it...BUT...are you seeking positive experiences and emotions? If yes, then you are identifying with your emotions, you are polarizing reality into good and bad. You are basically being selfish and ignorant. When we're under the influence of certain chemicals we easily forget our self-responsibility and power of self-directing and start being submissive to our automatically generated thought-emotion programs. When we look through our ego, we want more of these experiences. Ego wants more! When we look through our ego we want to maintain our selfish interest and what is best for the ego AND NOT what is best for all life just because of the generated emotions. Ego is afraid of honesty because if we are totally honest, the ego might lose it's benefits so it uses all kinds of ego defense mechanisms to avoid facing the truth. Ego thrives on ignorance and avoidance. An internal or external trigger will trigger a behavior of thinking, feeling and acting and you will need to stay mindful to notice that - that's mindfulness . Then, you will stop the egoic reaction by focusing on your breathing, focusing on your feeling in the body and every sound around you, you will become present. Then you will bend the flow of energy based on described principles. By shifting that energy, you will enter an unknown territory, your mind will be afraid and it will trigger fear for the purpose of shifting the energy back. In that moment you will stay present and cultivate a metaphysical connection to reality by being grounded in the present moment, in that case, you are practicing transcendence and witnessing how triggered thoughts and feelings of the old program are trying to sedate you for the purpose of You putting attention into them. And in this process you will understand what is being and becoming. The process that will be described is holistic. It doesn't focus just on the spiritual or emotional or thoughts or physical aspect it focuses on transforming all aspects, that's why it's revolutionary and very advanced but the thing is, that it's so simple that everybody can understand and use it! The principles are based on oneness, value equality - what is best for all. What is best for all is also best for you. "I take others into account and treat others the same way as I would like to be taken into account and treated if I was in their place" A shift needs to happen. A shift to where you don't operate based on your thoughts and emotions but on a deeper level of knowing. A shift from memory to knowing. Some aspect of you always knows...but you don't listen carefully enough. Instead of listening and deeply feeling the truth you are accepting and allowing the thought-emotional based system to steal your attention so it can maintain itself. You quickly jump to conclusions, quickly jump into action.....you are being reactive, because you take things as obvious...and that's a trap of the egoic program because if things slowed down, you would have more opportunity to discern falsehood from truth and truth would have more opportunity to shed falsehood. You need to slow down to stop acting like a sheep, following his thoughts and emotions. And you do this by taking a few controlled breaths. When the thoughts and emotions pop up in the present moment via internal/external triggers to steal your attention from what is best for all beings, then you slow down. You must intend to become aware and then you will be aware. By setting an intention you will awaken in the present moment (in the linear sense for example you will set an intention today and tomorrow the triggers will trigger thoughts and emotions and you will be awake in that moment because you've set the intention). Commit to setting intentions to redirect your life force. For example: smoking. Picture this scenario. It's time for lunch break, the smoker usually smokes a cigarette after the lunch break, so that's an external trigger, then there can be also an internal trigger that says ("another cigarette and then I will come back"), BUT if the egoic program was integrated due to repeating it a lot, then there will be no thoughts like that, it will just seem obvious to the smoker that that's the next thing he will do, in this case he is assuming the thought-emotional based system is true and you will always do what you believe to be true. Then that's going the become his reality, because he imagined it to be real....but then let's say a shift in consciousness happens where that no longer makes sense and is no longer true, let's say the smoker found out in reality he doesn't want to smoke but to finish smoking, at that moment he becomes aware of the bigger picture, he steps out of himself and becomes aware and he connects to a deeper level of knowing that is present, he starts imagining a new reality, a new possibility existing. He awakens.... so let's say now comes the same scenario, he finishes lunch and goes to his location to smoke, he grabs a cigarette, he lights it up and then....he awakens, he becomes aware and knowing and at that moment he has the decision to drop the cigarette or to continue smoking it, if he continues smoking it, he promotes the thought-emotional based parasite but if he drops it, he embodies his new truth. When he became aware, memories were not needed to drop it, he was aware and thus knowing....and that's the way toward embodying truth. You come to deeper and deeper levels of realization. But now he needs to transmute the old program and awareness alone usually doesn't do it because we need a new program to integrate, to remove a program without adding a new one will just create a sense of emptiness and after a while we will spiral back into the old program just because we don't know any better, as simple as that sounds. Awareness alone is curative only in the short term. We transmute the old program with speech. So, the smoker comes home, analyzes his emotional reactions in writing(this step was possible only after he became aware), he is honest about his self. He writes self-correction statements about what is best for all and then he needs to say it out loud, for the transmutation process to take place, he needs to repeat these statements, once is not enough and by doing so, he embodies a higher truth, that was deeply felt. We can only change ourselves inside ourselves, analogy - screen (awareness) and mario (the character-you-the thought emotional based system), the character needs to become aware of the screen and only after that he can shift to a new program, like being a character in a movie, if the character wants to play a different role in a different movie, he needs to drop his role and stop following his thought and emotions. By doing so he is becoming a master of himself. You will avoid writing things out and analyzing your reactions at all costs because being honest and reflective of your actions is dangerous to the maintenance of your ego. Make no mistake, you will never feel like doing it. IF you will not do it, that's the same as being identified with the thought-emotional based system. You will keep rationalizing, making excuses, believing your lies and you will keep deceiving yourself but slowly if you keep at it you will become better at spotting your own bullshit, facing your own self, overcoming the fear of losing parts of yourself and do self-correction to change yourself. You always put trust in something, now is the time to ask yourself what you put trust in. There are different levels of knowing. The first is hearing something, the second is contemplating it and the third is making it instinctual. But how can you make awakening instinctual...? BY following certain principles. Alignment with truth. Remember, it's not only about realizing Truth but about being in alignment with Truth. Alignment is not the same as balance. Alignment is about being in tune and connected to the present moment. Being in tune + connected to the present balance. By being in tune and present, we allow the higher self to manifest. For alignment to happen, there needs to be calmness and silence for us to listen and then discern different energy flows. When we're in alignment then we're supporting all life and beings with our actions and if we're not , we're creating disharmony and unbalance in the universal system. We're here to be present to a certain role in the evolutionary process of consciousness. A divine role consists of certain beliefs, attitudes, visions, thoughts, states, interactions, sounds, voice, communication, feelings. So, you need to be present to specific things that remind you of who you are...and not what you truly are, because no thing can trigger the memory of what you are, because what you are is not a memory So...you need to train your discernment abilities to recognize these things. Not just staying in the present moment, but regulating your attention/energy flow/body movements to be present to specific things. And you do this by slowly silently deeply feeling things to discern if you resonate with them or not. This is totally different paradigm than taking things as obvious and reacting to the perceived stimuli. Consciousness is this infinite field that can resonate at infinite number of frequencies, different frequencies = different experiences(sounds, feelings, visions, thoughts...) but as souls we will not resonate with all frequencies, it's not really our purpose to do so, and this is why I told you to discern if you resonate with it or not...that is God understanding what it actually is. Freeing ourselves from the automatically generated thought-emotional based system is a process in which we step by step with every breath and with a few tools 1.conscious breathing 2. self-honest writing 3. self-forgiveness 4. self-correction take our responsibility for our mind/ego/though-emotion based energetic system and start AWAKENING. While doing that we take into account the law of one and value equality of all life, because that's the best for all and because of that best for us. Every action that does not take into account "I take others into account and treat others the same way as I would like to be taken into account and treated if I was in their place" is an action that is coming from our deluded ego. Awakening is a process where we realize our power of directing our eternal life force. To direct your life force, you don't need any kind of energy, because you are eternal and don't need energy for existing. You don't need stimulation. If you're stimulation driven then when there is no longer a supply of your stimulation you don't have any motivation anymore to do the act, you are like a program that will stop existing if there is no supply of input commands. And most people are just that, programs. Being self-honest is about being honest about your state, thoughts, emotions, actions, intentions we're existing in. This is our ability to see our source without judgement. Only by being self-honest life is born until then we're only our automatically generated thoughts and emotions. With writing we discover which thoughts created our emotions and we forgive ourselves. Then we write self-correction statements. And breathing. Only when we're aware of our breathing and grounded in the present moment, we're able to direct our life force. The process of writing looks like that. This is the most efficient form. 1. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed ____ (describe your harmful selfish way of thinking, acting, emoting) 2. When I notice and become aware of ___(describe the things you mentioned earlier), I stop and breath. 3. I am conscious that ___ (1. describe the harmful consequences of your pattern and why it's not supportive for all life. 2. Describe why and how the changed action is better for all) 4. This is why from now on, I am committed to (describe a practical healthy mind pattern new pattern that is best for all life with which you're substituting the old, unnecessary, selfish and harmful pattern) "You are the program and also the programmer" - Arcturus RA With this process we are expanding our understanding of our ego/mind and that gives us power to change ourselves. We are becoming more aware of our selves as the eternal life force and our ability to self-direct selflessly. We are becoming more familiar with our way of thinking, with our habits, reactions and though-emotional based states that we're submissive to. With this process we're coming back to our full power by being less submissive to our thoughts and emotions step-by-step, breath by breath. With this process we're removing all kinds of limitations and we're becoming able to express ourselves more effectively more and more. You can do this at the end of your day to reflect back on your day, you can also open a blog on blogger like many Destonians do to keep yourself more accountable. So, now I have a question for you. Will you start practicing the process and do what is best for all life or will you accept and allow your thoughts and emotions to direct you. I will explain a method that I learned from Destonians. Keep an open mind. Resources to take it to the next level: https://desteni.org/ http://lite.desteniiprocess.com/ https://eqafe.com/ https://eqafe.com/p/consciousness-awareness-back-to-basics https://forum.desteni.org/viewforum.php?f=10

@Avi Khomutovsky I didn't label stuff in my experience. I was just trying to be mindful as much as possible. So, aware of my breath, feelings in the body, sounds in the environment, colors, things... I was mostly trying to be aware of the sounds and things that I saw. Just notice as much as possible of what is happening and when you notice that you're getting entangled in mind chatter, redirect your attention back to what is happening (the sounds and colors in this moment, you can add breath and feelings in the body later).... that's the techique. It sounds simple, but you must do this with intensity, in every moment. Don't try to be calm, the goal is to be mindful. @Demeter I did this practice everywhere. Even in school. During school days I was overwhelmed (mostly because of the environment), but then after a few months, things got better. It probably took me 30% more time to finish school work and projects.

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Actualized Blueprint - 100+ of the most powerful personal development concepts of all time. https://actualized.org/blueprint Actualized-org-blueprint.pdf

Self Control - How To Develop Self-Control To Create An Amazing Life By mastering yourself, you’re creating more self-control. Self-control is being able to: discipline yourself direct your own life. Self-control leads to: stronger relationships, a better love life better health ridiculous levels of success with your finances powerful contribution and impact on the world through the work you do. Self-control leads to feeling: excited, positive, proud, joyful, peaceful Lack of self-control leads to: depression negative thinking worry pessimism anger frustration overwhelm your life’s work is to develop self-control, to develop self-mastery Start looking for solutions in the inner world. we live simultaneously in two worlds the outer world of circumstances ( the computer that you’re looking at, the chair you’re sitting in,how much money you have in your bank account, the relationship you’re in or you’re not in, the country you reside in, the city you’re in) the inner world of psychology (feelings, thoughts) what’s going on in here is ultimately what you care about. Whatever you’re chasing out there, you only care about it because of what it does to you in here. Think about it. That million dollars you want to earn? Yes, you want to have a million dollars, but in the end, you want to have a million dollars because it does something for you in here. It literally sends out some chemical in here that’s making you feel good, which is why you’re pursuing it. The same thing with your relationship. The problem is we tend to think all the solutions and all the challenges in life are out there. the biggest trap you can get caught in is to become a victim to the outer world and not pay enough attention to your inner world. Victim mindset: being so focused on the outer world that the outer world mesmerizes me reacting to the outer world, I am not creating what I want too concerned about the outer world and with what’s going on in the outer world paralyzed by outer circumstances "It’s the boss. My boss is not as good as he should be. It’s my spouse, my spouse is doing crazy things, behaving in irrational ways. It’s the guy at work who is not doing the job that he’s supposed to be doing." Creator mindset: belief in myself. self-esteem. resourcefulness. drive. vision, goals. self-control, discipline, emotional mastery Creator = empowered Victim = disempowered (actually you are so powerful that you can create the illusion that you don't have power) Most people are stuck in the victim mindset. Most people are too concerned about the outer world. Let’s tie this back to self-control. To be able to influence the outer world, you need to have your psychology mastered. When you master your own psychology, it becomes easier to influence the world, otherwise the world is always influencing you. why developing self-control and discipline is really hard emotional labour involved. There is struggle involved with building self-control. How to develop it? through work. You have to develop emotional intelligence, start thinking, introspecting, start watching yourself, start building up consciousness. imagine your brain as being a thermostat. A thermostat is a self-regulating system. When it gets too hot, the air conditioning kicks in and brings the temperature down. When it gets too cold, the heater kicks in and brings the temperature up, to maintain this equilibrium. you have opposing forces. One is saying it’s too cold, the other is saying it’s too hot, how is it going to pan out? There has to be a war. There has to be a clash going on inside.A Battle Of Wills. Some of them sometimes win out, other times others win out., you have clashing neural networks. They’re vying for control. build up your prefrontal cortex, right here, which is able to control, for example, the different impulses that you have. It controls whether you’re going to splurge on that donut you know you shouldn’t be splurging on. It controls whether you’re going to keep up with your gym routine. It controls whether you’re going to explode at your spouse in a fit of rage when they do something that bothers you, or that you didn’t want them to do. Ultimately, what personal development is, it actually takes place on a physical level, where you have these neural connections being built. You start to notice that you get more awareness and more ability to control your feelings, more ability to control your emotions, more ability to control your behaviour, more ability to persist in spite of the fear, to have courage, more ability to learn, more ability to introspect, to be very honest with yourself. What are some things you can do to build self-control? disciplined practice. get up at a certain time when you want to be getting up. if you have intentions to meditate, do that. If you have intentions to journal, do that. If you have intentions of eating healthy, do that. If you have intentions of going to the gym, do that. Be very disciplined and consistent about it. 2. unhook from media and stimulation. stop television, radio, gossip from your friends, advertising, negative influences from your family, from friends, browsing internet all day, chatting with friends, ice cream, chocolate.... Get back to your source. Spend some time by yourself in solitude. Think about things. Be introspective. Raise your level of consciousness.

Profound Quotes #003 - "Children Want Candy; The Intelligent Want Self-Control" - Rumi ‘The intelligent want self-control; children want candy.’ ~ Rumi The reason that people are not getting what they want in life is because they are behaving like children and they are after stimulation, excitement and pleasure, whereas what is truly important to be after is self-control. This can manifest in all sorts of ways. It can manifest in very, very unhealthy dysfunctional ways or it can manifest in more healthy ways, but either way it’s still the search for candy, for stimulation. Example of a Spectrum of stimulation and pleasure: heroin cocaine marijuana alcohol partying video games television sex food relationships gym trying to get a good job So you’ve got this spectrum of activities that you’re doing from the very beginning here with the heroin addict, which is a completely dysfunctional, basically completely shit life. It’s basically leading towards an early death Then you’re kind of moving your way up, slightly better, slightly better, slightly better forms of stimulus seeking until you get to this end which is maybe pursuing a really nice career which on the surface it’s very hard to fault someone for doing that, but in the end all of this stuff what you’re doing is you’re looking for a hit. You’re Simply After Candy "So you get caught into that trap, but in the end what is the difference between someone who is seeking a marriage as an outlet for happiness and fulfillment versus someone who is seeking heroin for that same reason? In the end there’s not much fundamental difference. It’s still the same thing. What you’re looking for is you’re looking for something outside yourself to make you happy." The wise want self-control. The wise want self-mastery There is no chance for me to be happy if I: don’t control myself and my impulses my emotions and thoughts don't understand myself on a very deep level not just intellectually but also practically Where you ultimately want to be is you want to be in a place of happiness, just quiet, sober contentment with your life. Undisturbed, unreacted, unfrantic. Just very calm, very peaceful with what is. You want to have tranquility and serenity. You want to be okay with how the world is.

Bad Relationships - How To Break Your Cycle Of Painful Relationships dysfunctional intimate relationships, whether it’s a marriage, or long term girlfriend/boyfriend situation, or even a short term girlfriend/boyfriend situation. 3 Levels, from the lowest to the highest Codependency: This is where you are at if you have problems with your relationship, and you keep getting bad relationships Dependent on each other. You guys can’t be independently happy, but you can be happy together. (It never really lasts.) Leaning on each other for support, using each other as emotional crutches. You just need your needs desperately met. A codependent person can only stay in a relationship with another codependent person. A codependent person is never going to be able to stay in a relationship with an independent person. Independent: confident and grounded individuals they come together and have an independent relationship. They don’t synergise. It’s simply just independence, they’re sharing some stuff together, but it’s not really the synergistic relationship. Interdependent relationship: This is where two come together, and then they perform almost like a choreographed ballet, where they start moving in sync, and a synergy effect happens, and really, something awesome flourishes that’s greater than the sum of its parts. Interdependence is really just independence of two people, then deciding to do a really nice choreography together. You can move out of codependency and into independency. Once you’re independent, then you can start to have nice relationships. Look Inside You are choosing to be in this relationship there are deep personality flaws within both individuals in this relationship. There individuals are not willing to address these flaws. The problem is in you. The pattern of bad relationships is going to keep repeating until your psyche has a gap/ void in it. You need to fill that void with something, and that other person is doing it for you. That’s why you’re hooked. You’re addicted to that other person, so you keep coming back even though you know this relationship is not healthy. Once you get honest with yourself, once you really get fed up with this recurring pattern of bad relationships then you’re going to tell yourself “OK, what can I really do to take responsibility?” Once you’re at that point, then you have to ask yourself “OK, what is the real void I’m trying to fill? Why am I so needy?" That usually comes down to one of these five things. money sex love companionship support, emotional support or other forms of support One of these things is going to be the cause of your neediness and your codependency. When you’re independent, you don’t really need love. You want it, but if you don’t get it it’s OK. Step 1: Identify one of these gaps — let’s say that your gap is love Step 2: then you have to look back and see where does this gap come from. (past, from your childhood or early adulthood.) probably what happened was that you weren’t getting enough love. Maybe your parents got divorced when you were young.Maybe some sort of traumatic situation happened, or you have some self-esteem issues, or insecurities. You feel that you’re deficient in some way. You need something to come in and fill the void. What’s you’ve been doing your whole life, especially in your dating life and your intimate relationships, is that you’ve been looking for the person who’s going to fill that void. What you were really looking for is an external solution to an internal problem.The problem is that when you find an external solution to an internal problem, then you’re even more dependent on it. The nice thing about doing that trace is that it gets you more awareness, more consciousness, so that you’re not acting as unconsciously in the future, in your relationship You are the cause of your own relationship problems, not the other person. You have to bite this bullet and admit it. The gap is not going to go away just because you change relationships. a happy, successful relationship that has a chance of continuing on the long run is a relationships that has a ratio of five to one of positive to negative interactions.That means for every five good things that happen in a relationship, one bad thing happens. How many negative looks they give each other? How many positive looks? How many loving looks? How much positive conversation is going on versus negative? How many fights are there relative to all the good stuff that’s supposed to be happening in a relationship? if you’re in a codependent relationship, then you’ve got to break it off. When you break it off, you have to break it off cold. (you’ve got to endure a little bit of pain to grow yourself and move on to the next stage. ) Make sure you don’t come back to that person. Then, when you’re off on your own, you’re going to have time to reflect, to ruminate, to really introspect, to do this tracing back activity, to find out what are the real codependency problems within you that are causing this pattern.

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What Is The Point Of Life? An Advanced, Life-Changing Explanation Pasted from youtube user: Thomas Vanhuysse Short answer: Creation! The problem of rationally trying to answer the question: "What is the point of life?" Leo starts out by denying an objection that people from the materialist paradigm might come up with: "Reality is just arbitrary." It is just this physical, rigid system. Life is not dumb, it is not accidental, it is not coincidental, it is not arbitrary. Life is intelligent and designed. You need to step out of your ego mind and rational mind to appreciate the brilliance of reality and the design behind it. What is the point of the Universe? (macro-level) The Universe is an infinite singularity: An infinite amount of dimensions, an infinite field of consciousness. It is completely self-aware and alive. It is all-loving and creative. It is God. The Universe subdivided itself into an infinite number of parts because there is ultimately no distinction between a division and a unity, it is all one. All possible subdivisions are already contained within the Universe and always have been. There is only one ultimate Reality, containing within it an infinite amount of sub-realities. It is radically all-encompassing, if you will. The only one thing the Universe can do, for all of eternity, is explore itself. Remember that the Universe is not dumb, it is vibrantly alive! It can desire! It desires constantly to know itself. It does this through your human life and an infinite number of other experiences. The only way in which the Universe can know or be itself, which are ultimately the same, is by living through every single infinite amount of possibilities. All there are within the Universe is an infinite number of perspectives. The point of the universe is to live through every single one of them in order to know and to be itself. - The point of the Universe is itself. - The point of the Universe is for God to simply be Itself. - The point of the Universe is to experience all the parts and teh whole of Itself. - The point of the Universe is for God to experience itself being a creator. - The point of the Universe is God realization. For God to awaken to Itself. - The point of the Universe is for God to create Itself and to love Itself. - The point of the Universe is unity through division. What is the point of your human life? (micro-level) - The point of your human life is to realize that you are God. - The point of your human life is to realize that you created all of this, but that you forgot. - The point of your human life is to realize your own magnitude. - The point of your human life is to Love yourself. - The point of your human life is to become God-like. - The point of your human life is to be a consciouss creator. - The point of your human life is to conquer fear through unconditional Love. - The point of your human life is to embody Love and Goodness. - The point of your human life is to inspire others through your example. - The point of your human life is to experience the duality. - The point of your human life is to experience every moment fully. - The point of your human life is to help others to awaken. - The point of your human life is to evolve your consciousness. - The point of your human life is to align your will with the will of God. - The point of your human life is to create the most beautiful creation possible. - The point of your human life is to choose and define who you want to be. "Consciousness has devided itself and it seeks to reunify with itself. This cycle goes on forever. You have an infinite number of lives, and you cannot die." […] "You have nothing to lose in this process. There is no possibility of failure." OBJECTIONS: "Life is meaningless!" Life is meaningless, but that is not to be confused with nihilism, depression, lack of inspiration and motivation, negativity… Being is prior to meaning and it is much more profound. The point of anything is itself. Human life has a deliberate design. It's part of a greater whole of which you might say it does have a function, a meaning. "I thought that nothing mattered?" Nothing matters, yet God must still be God. It must still experience itself. That is what it means for God to be God. Ultimately, Creation does not matter. That's why God creates. It creates for the joy and delight of Creation. "Isn't this religious dogma?" No. Verify the Truth for yourself. "How could you possibly know all this?" Through mystical experiences, contemplation, deep study and research of spiritual scriptures and books. Through intuition and direct consciousness of God. All the answers about life you come up with are ultimately your own imagination. But everything within Creation is imagination! "What if you're deluded?" What is the alternative…? Any alternative you give is also just a point of seeing the world. So do the spiritual practices and see for yourself if you are God. "isn't this contradictory to life-purpose?" No. Life-purpose is a practical human realization about what you are passionate about as an indivdual. "Can I fail at life?" No. Death is an illusion. You are immortal. All roads ultimately lead to Nirvana. Don't rush to enlightenment for the sole purpose of trying to avoid failure. As explained earlier: there is no failing this game. "I just want to escape this life and suffering. Why don't I just kill myself?" If you do, you'll escape to Nirvana. Eventually, however, you'll want to polarize yourself again and reincarnate. Where you are right now is the perfect place where you need to be. When you die, you will be here. "Isn't this an ego driven explanation of the point of life? No. It's an explanation of the design or architecture of life. "Doesn't enlightenment mean there is nothing to do? You make it seem as though there is stuff to do." If you want, you can do nothing. Enlightenment doesn't say anything about what you should or should not do in your life. It is simply the realization that you are ther Creator. Then, you can choose what you can create. There are no "Should's" within the Universe unless you create them yourself! "This explanation of the point of life isn't in line with what I heard or believe." Spirituality is a broad concept and certain people will use certain words to explain certain things. It is a complex phenomenon. "Isn't reality perfect? So then why does it need improvement?" This is a simplistic notion of non-duality. From the absolute perspective, this is true, yet practically you can consciously choose to improve your creations.!

these topics explored more deeply and part 2 of understanding emotions.

Emotional Intelligence The 1# factor of successful people is high EQ (Emotional Quotient) and not IQ (Intelligent Quotient). Wrong Assumption: People who are smart and who have high IQ are able to get stuff done. That's usually not the case because they get stuck in their head and lose touch with emotions. Emotions are what really creates success in life. Emotional intelligence is your ability to work with emotions. What EQ is not: sociability being a confident extrovert Definition of emotional intelligence: "the ability to recognize and understand your emotions, in yourself and in others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behaviour and your relationship”. 4 Pillars of emotional intelligence: ability to understand your own emotions, being able to label your emotions ability to control your emotions ability to read emotions in other people (empathy) ability to manage your relationships Notes on Pillars: Pillar: having more awareness there (being self-aware and conscious)....a broader range of emotions Pillar: to be able to discipline yourself, control yourself, so you’re not having those crashes and ecstatic peaks, but you’re somewhere in the middle. To manage emotions to channel into your work, or the habits you’re trying to instill in your life, like your diet or your gym Pillar: It’s your ability to understand what other people are experiencing and feeling, being able to relate to that, your understanding of their point of view. It’s really the ability to step into somebody else’s shoes and look at life or a situation from their perspective. Pillar: How smooth are your relationships going for you? How well are you communicating and interacting within them? Effects of EQ: anger management. - being able to manage your anger well accountability. Responsibility, ownership and not blaming others. Self-honesty and honesty with others. assertiveness and confidence: - Good and effective communication stress tolerance: Minimizing stress, anxiousness, negative thoughts, judgement and guilt decision making: Being a strong decision maker and not waffling all the time, making a decision and then going back, and going forward, and going back, and going forward... Or not being able to decide between two things for a long time, flexibility: Being able to flow with life and handle the challenges and situations that are coming up. Or are you very rigid and set in your ways, and everything is bumping into you and causing all sorts of pain and suffering? That’s a sign of low EQ. presentation skills: How well are you able to give a presentation, to speak, to convince people, to motivate and inspire people? listening skills: How good of a listener are you? Are you able to really listen to what people are telling you? Are you able to understand it, to really empathize with it? Are you able to then show them, reflect back to them that you did understand? Do people think you’re a good listener? Or do people think you’re a poor listener? If you’re a poor listener, that’s tied to low EQ. If you always have negative emotions, you have low EQ. (You’re not recognizing them in yourself, first and foremost, but then you also don’t have tools and strategies for how to manage them.) more so than IQ, EQ is highly developable (meditate to reduce stress and journal to understand them better...) Homework: Find out if you have low or high EQ through surveys (online or in books)

How To Meditate Deeper Stage 1: Beginner: Simple Observation Allow everything to happen. And all you do is just watch it. You simply observe it. Whatever’s going on is ok. Your mind will wander. Let it wander and do whatever it wants to do without controlling it. Let it think about tomorrow night. And let it think about the email you just got. But, as it goes there, your job is to watch it go there, and just be mindful of the fact that: “Oh, it’s going somewhere. It was here, and now it’s there. And now it’s here. And now it’s there." You don’t want to take your thoughts within that meditation session seriously at all. Not just thoughts, but also feelings.You can either buy into those and take them seriously, or you can just watch them. So, your objective here is just simply watch them. Stage 2: Inermediate: Active Detachment You try to drop the thought, release it. Actively try to release every thought that comes into your mind. So, it’s just like the first stage, except now you’re actually doing a little bit of manipulation. You always have to go meta, see what’s happening and then release, alright? And if it fails, don’t worry about it. Try it again. don’t resist thoughts arising. Because thoughts will arise. What you do is say: “Oh, that’s a thought. Let me just let it go.” And you let it go. Stage 3: Advanced: Awareness Focus you put your awareness on awareness itself. here what you’re doing is — you’re kind of working on this problem of understanding what awareness is. And the way that you do that is that you notice that everything that comes up is just content that fills this space of awareness. The field of awareness is filled with content. An emotion is a piece of content. A thought is a piece of content. An itch on your ass is a piece of content. Now, usually what we do is we get sucked into this content. And we get sucked into our thought stories and into our emotions. Your job here is just to become aware that all this stuff actually is content and it’s happening within this field of awareness. And that awareness itself is not the content. focus your awareness on the fact that content is arising. And you try not to get sucked into the content. And you keep your awareness on the fact that you’re aware. Notice that things enter awareness and then they disappear from awareness. So, they arise and then they die. And then they rise again. And then they die again. And this is happening constantly. What you need to do is focus your awareness not on the content, but kind of, like you zoom out. And you try to maintain that as consistently as possible without having your mind wander off course

Understanding Resistance It’s easy to identify the feeling of resistance. Resistance happens when: you create imperatives for yourself, things that MUST be done, when you force yourself to do anything, it's like pressing the gas and brake pedals on your car at the same time.... Life should flow. But, insidiously, we tend to resist the things we want most. (Not wanting to go to the gym, read a book, meditate) you use excuses and reasons (I’ll go to the gym… Tomorrow for sure! I swear!.... I’ll call my Mom… But I wonder if anyone replied to my witty Facebook post. I better check now.) Your higher self wants you to do one thing, but your lower self creates sabotage. The Ultimate Technique for Releasing Resistance - Sedona Method Counter-intuitively, the way out of resistance is to accept it. Process for releasing resistance: Conjure up the feeling of resistance. Feel it. Let it flood your body and mind. Ask yourself, “Could I let go of this feeling?” Ask yourself, “Would I like to let go of it?” Ask yourself, “When can I let it go?” Repeat steps 1-4 at least four times until the feeling disappears. Note: Step 1: There is a big difference between actually feeling a feeling, and merely thinking about it. Step 2,3: Don’t force a “Yes” if you really believe “No.” Step 4: Answer honestly. If you want to hold on to the feeling for 2 days, then say, “In two days.” If want the feeling gone right now, say “Right now!” Any answer is acceptable. It might be subtle at first, but you’ll feel the heaviness lift, even if you answered “No!”, “No!”, and “Never!” each cycle takes about 30 seconds. It takes 4 cycles to feel a lot better. So you can release resistance within 2 minutes Allow Yourself to Feel Shitty Simply ask yourself, “Could I allow myself to just feel bad right now?” Surrender to the situation. Yes, the situation sucks, but it sucks x10 more simply because you’re resisting it. When you stop trying to escape bad feelings, most of them simply disappear. The “Just Do It” Method simply forcing action as thoughtlessly as possible. Just take that first baby-step. Then the second baby-step. Then the third. Soon enough you’re on a roll and the resistance naturally melts away.

Division vs unity - The engine that runs reality "...to form a more perfect Union..." - Preamble to the US Constitution Division and Unity is the engine that runs the entire reality. Everything that you see is an example of this. There is a purpose, a point, a goal and a logic to the mechanism. Everything is an interplay between division and Re-Union. (includes social level, personal life, relationships, birth and death, biology, chemistry, physics...) It's very profound when you start to see how this shapes everything that is happening in your life at a practical level, it puts everything into context, it allows you to take a step back and kinda see what is the reason of reality and how intelligent it is. The history of mankind is a series of divisions and re-unions and it unfolds like a fractal. . re-union is love (45min) consciousness going through a process of polarization and de-polarization, division and re-union, it expands and it contracts back, it converges and re-converges. Disintegrates and re-integrates. And it keeps doing this forever. Examples: hydrological cycle (it starts in the ocean (unity), evaporates through heating into particles, then form individual clouds and then some clouds re-unite and when enough divided clouds unite, there is enough re-union, starts to rain - it divides into separate rain droplets and then form paddles on the ground, they start as divided paddles and then start to merge together into streams, rivers, and then back into ocean, back to its source Morning smoothie - starts with elements, starts with earth, water and sun, then these elements grow into plants, (the plants has to unite different elements earth, sun, sunlight), then this plant can bear fruit, fruits separate from the plant (division), then you add different fruits, blend them and get a smoothie. Then your body has to un-do that process, digest them, separate them into individual molecules that your body can then use for nutrients, minerals, vitamins to nourish your cells, every cell has it's own requirements and needs Cells(division) Organism (unity) Body is a division within consciousness Species - one species, then geological things happen, a mountain range emerges, one species now lives in two different areas, one area gets more rain, the other is more dry and now the species have to adapt to different environments and then over time you get different species then these two species meet, you get a hybrid (re-union) and then the same process will happen again and through this process we got all the plants, animals, fungi, bacteria, birds... human race (unity), started in Africa, then wen to populate the world and got different human races (division), then they started inter breeding and got a third one (unity) Good and bad is a division and need to be re-united War - world war 2 - hiter wanter to create unity by division which is insanity (but he did it out of love) but in the process 50 million people died, and that created a need to unite - european union (easier to defend against China, America, Russia if EU united). so there is deeper intelligence to it. If bad violent aliens tried to conquer the world (independence day style), then all of the cultural differences would not be important anymore and we would unite to fight this common enemy in order for us to survive. clan warfare - Saddam Hussein who tried to unite tribes into larger nation states, the middle east is still a very tribal culture (stage purple) 13 colonies (division), created USA (unity - unity of divided things) and that's how it made it easier to defend against attacks. USA has now different states so it's not a total unity, even thought it functions as a unity, states merge together but still remain individual and autonomous. Soviet Union - it divided, couldn't be maintained EU, now brexit and the rise of some nationalist from stage blue people who want to maintain their individual identity, their German, Italian identity... but the EU is so beneficial so it's difficult to leave it. sometimes the unity has to divide (soviet union) roman empire - grew so big that it was difficult to maintain (internal corruptions..) and then they fell apart kriya yoga - probably hundreds of versions religion - judaision - divided into chrictianity, then cristianity into catholic church then into protestants and catholics.... internet - first small shops, video sharing sites...(division), then 1 social media (FB), one video sharing (youtube), one search engine (google), one that dominates ecomerce (Amazon ) - unification monopolization - what is being provided by this unification, you have one place where you find everything the downside is that it's much harder to start something new and revolutionary like in the beginning . One social media, benefit is that all your friends are in one place, the downside is that all get milked by facebook businesses - big businesses buy small ones, small ones can't compete with the big ones, small ones are searching for ways to differentiate (to divide from the big ones) and then big ones buy them (unification) , there is a lot of monopolization going on in business. The big ones buy smaller ones until they get so big and need to divide into smaller ones, this is especially a problem in America because of unenforced laws, and then the problem is that corporations get bigger than the government and start to manipulate it, which is a problem for maintaining democracy. You eat something - unification, you shit something that you don't need - division even spiritual people cannot keep their shit together and have to divide process of birth and life - birth is a division or polarization within consciousness, consciousness splits itself into two different organisms, creating a sharp distinction between two parts of itself, then this organism grows and eats other organisms, the process or eating is a process of reunion, you are using to to fuel you then you are excreting those parts that you can't utilize and this process is a process of division. Male female division happens so later a reunion through Sex and in this process a new birth happens, at the moment of maximum union is the very moment when the next division is created, a new birth. One cell at first, then this cell divides into two and then next into two, through the process of division, until there is one unified baby, then the baby comes out, division, then get soon back to suck mums tits - reunion, function as a family unit, then grows up separates from parents division, the grows old, dies and merges with infinite consciousness-reunion atoms unify to create a molecule then molecules unify to create a protein, then those protein unify to create a cell, then cells unify further to create an organ, then organs to create an organism, then a family, a tribe, a nation, mathematics (unity) - sub-field (division) physicism (unity) - sub-field (division) integrating different fields- unity - holism (leo's work)... there are so many sub-field that you can spend 50 years in one and that's why there is more interest in bringing stuff together to understand what human life is about social justice warriors (want more unity) vs anti-social justice warriors (want more individualism and less collectivism, more division) reunion of science and mysticism will happen in the next hundred years intimacy and space - you are first divided, then start dating, having sex, united, but then you want space and that space creates more desire to unite, and then you want your autonomy and sense of self hood again how stars are made - a bunch of gas united by the force of gravity (unification), then when there is too much unification the star explodes(division) black hole (strong unification force) and if you come close it kills you, that's why the ego is terrified of love marriage (unity), divorce(division) entropy - a measure of unity or division, high entropy is high unity, a lack of distinction, a lack of division. Life is about division. This is a concept in thermodynamics that tells us how life spreads through the universe, what molecules are doing is that they are moving to greater and greater levels of unity, everything is run by fluctuations in entropy. To have motion at all is through a division, need to create one position here and one position there, so it needs be a a difference between positions and only now we can have a sense of motion and then to fuel that motion with energy there needs to be an energy gradient, there needs to be high energy here and low energy there so they equalize out, and when they equalize out of all energies and positions through the whole universe and there is no difference and distinctions between anything anymore we are in total unity, total non-duality, total oneness and here you cannot have anything distinct, specific or any forms, you cannot have any motion, there isn't a sense of time. If you want motion, division, space, time you have to divide consciousness (it's not like a physical system like scientists think just some random stuff). The world is starting to globalize because of techonology and because people want peace, they want an interconnected globalized world where people can travel and trade around the world, where we have internet everywhere, we want unified laws, so we have to interconnect different nations... you want to travel to some place in Africa and not get your head chopped off and the only way that's gonna be possible is through globalization. That if someone from Nigeria hacks your bank account that you can sue them in court, that would be difficult to do now. There is a trade off when you unite things and also when you divide things. Reality is a unity of divided individual things. When you see this bigger pattern and start to understand what all of life and consciousness is doing then you stop resisting the re-union. It is not simply that re-union is good and division being bad, it is just a dance of consciousness. The balance of division and unity changes upon what is needed at the time, when this is not understood, this only deepens our problem. because people get ideological about "ohh taxation is evil, socialism is evil, redistribution of wealth is evil - not it's not and neither is capitalism evil, "if capitalism is good then socialism must be evil" that is not right lol, both extremes are wrong which is not to say that we take the middle point between the two, it's a dynamic equilibrium, it depends - for example in America the pendulum has swing so far to the right with neo-liberalism, rampid capitalism and libertarianism that now it needs to swing back to democratic socialism, redistribution of wealth and higher taxation then when this goes to far we have to swing it back to the opposite end . There is no black and white answers to how much we should be united and how much should we be divided. It is a combination, it's division within unity within division, within unity, within division, within unity... it's a fractal. Imagine how your body would work if every cell would want to maintain it's independence and autonomy for itself. Let's say even if each organ in your body didn't want to unite and coordinate but it wanted to be arrogant and just do what it wanted to do. Like your heart pumping blood only to places it wanted to. This is what libertarians and right winders don't understand how society and civilization works because they only taut individualism and freedom as if it some absolute good, and it is not, reality is deeply interconnected and no part of reality is totally free or totally independent from the other parts. Especially in biological beings, your cells have to be very selfless and participate in some larger cause or purpose in order for your body to function. Libertarians doesn't understand how human life and survival hinges upon collectivism/collective organization - you have to appreciate your role in that, it's the height of arrogance to think how you're entitled to freedom and individualism, this is a benefit you earn through lot's of coordination and cooperation. The opposite of that is also a danger of becoming too integrated and neglect individual rights. (like china's treatment of Muslims minorities and the Tibetans -- too collectivist and neglecting individual rights) So how to build a society is not through one of these ideologies but with an interplay between the details of this. the problem is how do we get multiple diverse entities, with different, needs, interest to unite (common currenty...), to unite is for the benefit of all Even the most spiritual people cannot keep their shit together, they divide. Contemplate why does this keep happening? If there is one God and one Truth, why does this happen? Why all the ward, different sects, countries, why do we care about maintaining boundaries between countries, why do we form different alliances, why do we have different tribes that fight each other, why do people have a problem with globalism and nationalism, why do we have different races, why do people have a problem with marrying different races.... find the larger pattern here, look at it from the God's eye view. Sometimes things get so divided that it get untenable and unsustainable and a re-union is deeply craved and needed. open mindedness - not being attached to anything, (beliefs, ideologies) you are open to everything (maintaining the purity of a dish without mixing it with other stuff because of being closed, can miss on a lot. The other side is also true, if you are too open and mix everything with it, the purity of a dish will be gone) ego is a division, ego came out of unity, so the ego is always struggling to maintain its division from its environment, and re-union is what the ego calls death. the end is the begining, perfect loop zero is infinite, if you have a circle and collapse it down to a point of zero dimensions, as soon as it has zero dimensions it simultaneously expands and has infinite radius . beginning is the end, perfect strange loop subject and object collapse into unity, space and time collapse in no time and no space The universe started as this one undifferentiated "thing" but then wanted to differentiate and specialize, but then got frustrated with all division and limitation and had to re-unify. Total unity is God or Love or Truth, that point of singularity before the big bang we try to reach with awakening. you can't grasp totality with a part (like scientist try to grasp consciousness but to understand consciousness you have to be in the business of unifying consciousness and this is where mysticism, yoga(in sanskrit means union - subject and object, perceiver and perceived, life and death, matter and energy, mind and body) and meditation come into play) snowman -to let him survive, we have to program it with fear for anything that will melt it, survival agenda, sense of self for it to maintain its snowman shape... but eventually will die and once it does it will unify with its surroundings and merge with infinite love. The snowman comes from love and goes back to an infinite love just like you. Unification comes with costs and benefits. It's not an absolute good. Even the ultimate unification of death comes with costs (totally indistinct, you are not any particular way, so you cannot enjoy an ice cream, enjoy having a dog, having sex,..) and benefits (total peace, bliss and no more problems, no more survival, no more worry ). If you want to know what re-union feels like you have to divide yourself. If you want to know what it feels like to become God you have to create the illusion of not being God,. God is nothing and so totally indistinct that it can't even really know itself because even the process of knowing oneself requires there to be a knower and a known, god can't really know itself because it is itself. God can't reveal itself to you because God is nothing. Seeing Jezus, Buddha, Ganesha...these are all just manifestations of God and actually God is totally infinite and indistinct, which means you can't grasp it, define it and draw a picture of it... Muslims are smart for not drawing pictures of God Allah and Mohammed, because they think that to draw any picture of them is to diminish Allah (and then the scientists make the mistake "Ohh if you can't draw God, then God doesn't exist" lol). people resist unification and sometimes think of it as oppression, but sometimes unification happens only through great pressure, sometimes it requires war, death, cruelty, turture, murder, rape... to understand this helps you to come to peace with all the evil that happens in the world because all the evil in the world is often just the pressure to unify. There is no such thing as evil, just love and intelligence. (hitler did war out of love) this is not about justifying behavior it's about understanding how god works...it's about understanding the structure of all of reality and why it unfolds exactly as it unfolds. the fundamental rule of reality is that all divided entities will unite and all unified entities will divide another rule is that no part can get a monopoly over the whole, because the whole is unlimited and a a part is limited, the limited will never conquer the unlimited so it is futile. god seeks to maximize diversity of form, infinity is the maximum diversity of form, so God is the ultimate unity of all diversity, diversity is not the opposite of unity it is the very definition of unity. division and unity -- both are impermanent and important. imagined distintions and then unimagining them to unite infinity is not a number, it is every number all at once, 1 if infinite, 2 is infinite.God and infinity is every possible form God wants diversity because it is an expression of its infinite creative potential . Nothing gives God greater joy than expressing its own true nature and spawn infinite diversity to share it with, who, who, YOURSELF, cause there is nothing but yourself, when you are infinite, you are one, so you can't share yourself with anybody but yourself, so you fragment into a million pieces and then you share the joy of God with all those pieces by having them to re-unite and re-create you and this process goes on forever . Evolution is a universal process of differentiation and re-union and it is driven by love and intelligence and the key to evolution is maintaining this balance between division and unity. If you get too much division, you get hell, if you get too much unity you get hell and there is way to know how to balance this, it has to unfold. Be ware of ideological people who hold the unity as the absolute good or who make a duality out of division and unity as if these are separate things, they are not, they are like two types of unity. There is unity with a lower case you and there is unity with a upper case You. Absolute unity vs relative unity. there cannot be a unity if there is no division. unity has to include division. Life and reality is one giant fractal of infinite consciousness, this fractal is God, You, Love, division and unity. Your birth was a division, your death will be a re-union and everything that happens in between will just be a variation on that theme and nothing else can happen in reality because reality nothing more than differences and distinctions imagined by infinite mind and then unimagined by infinite mind by unimagining the distinction you unite what was distinct HOMEWORK: For the next week when you walk around notice how every object and situation around you is an example of division and unity

A lot of good information for INTPs in this topic.

What is Art? (from user:StandardProceduree in youtube comments) WHAT IS ART? - In Essense, Art has alot to do with attaching Meaning and Significance to something in Existence. - Its a process of Projection. - 'Everything is Art, and nothing is Art.' - Objective Vs Subjective Art? Relative Art. Art is relative to your Species, Culture and Era. - Try to imagine what our standards of Art will be 10000 years from now! - There is a deeper level at which you can view Art; Don't look at Art as something a human being constructs, look at art as becoming conscious of the Innate Creativity and Beauty of all of Reality. Example: Looking at a dead bird on the side walk; one person sees just a dead bird, or more likely, doesn't even see it. While another person viewing the exact same dead bird, sees vast inter-correlated DEPTH and experiences deep PROFUNDITY from the Context and Perspective of the situation. - What context are you putting it into? - What context are you choosing to view it from? (Also.. How would you need to grow Internally to Increase your Level of Context from which to experiance infinite Beauty in the seemingly mundane?) - The higher your Level of Consciousness rises, the more of your Reality you are able to see the Infinite Beauty in, you see the beauty in all of it. THE PURPOSE OF ART - What is the Ultimate Purpose of Art? TO DELIGHT IN INFINITE CREATION. To widen your Scope of Awareness to facets of reality which are infinitely beautiful. What moves you with deep Emotion and Awe internally? To Highlight of facets of reality you find beautiful, which you can Encapsulate the Essense of, and can share with others. THE PROCESS OF CREATING ART - Playing God Yourself - Tapping into Infinite Creation, notice there is constant Perpetual Creation; 'Out of Formlessness, Form Arises.' - The Creative Force is at the Heart of Evolution; Everything is Evolving, Planets, Star Systems, Reality as a whole, Societies, Art, Cultures, Technologies, Belief Systems, Religion, Economies, Humans. YOURSELF. - YOU EVOLVE. - The Intelligence we ascribe to ourselves is a Hair compared with Infinite Intelligence - The Purpose of Art is to tap into that Infinite Intelligence and participate in that - To participate in the Maya; the massive Dream State Illusion of Reality; You Create within that consciously - People wake up and realise they have the Force of Creation within themselves; Its Enjoyable to participate, and add uniquely to the process at play - you become a Vehicle a Vessel for Creation and that is very enjoyable - as it produces a deep Spiritual Connection with Life. - Art's job is to Pedestalize Beauty, and to Glorify it, Add to it, and Magnify it! - The real joy as an Artist is when you have a new Creative Insight of taking multiple elements that struck a cord in you, and combine them together, and then have some new Epiphany of how you can combine these things in an even more Beautiful way, and then produce something that is even more newer and even more awesome! - The Creative Force is almost like Gravity, its a Force of Nature - The Force of Maya, the ever evolving and unfolding Illusion of Creation - Emotions purpose is to initiate action; Most people live life in a pragmatic daze! They are stuck in the engagement with Self-Survival & Reproduction. And their consciousness reflects that. There is no Heart in it; Where is the Joy, Happiness, Love in perpetuating that? - Art can AWAKEN you Internally; enabling one to recognize the Cosmic Work of Art; In both the Macrocosm and the Microcosm of Life. It can remind you of the the Beauty of Life - It can SLAP YOU AWAKE! - The Creative Process is a Spontaneous Process - You cannot produce it on Will. You can however... Set your Environment, Train yourself in other ways that help to increase the odds of these connections occurring; One of the ways to increase these odds is by being Emotionally moved by lots of stuff, and by studying lots of different stuff; The more stuff you study the more stuff you Observe, and the more Interconnections you can make; So that ultimately - The Creative Process becomes a Spiritual Process. - Art involves Right-Brain Thinking. - The Creation of Art by its very nature results in the desire to Share it with the Whole World; We are programmed to enjoy sharing anything which is Beautiful & Meaningful to us with other people; Thats why one of the best things you can do in your life is to make your career about sharing the things that you love the most with other people. THE PROCESS OF VIEWING THE ART - As with anything in society... Art is State of Consciousness Dependant - both in its creation and in the viewing of it. The viewers of Art get Infected with Higher Conciousness. (- WOW. EPIPHANY BOMBSHELL.) - Viewing Art is the 'Lubrication in the Engine of Humanity' - Spiritual Connection Vs Approval:: An obstacle to artists is to try and maintain the Spiritual Connection to the Art while negating becoming hooked on the Approval they get from Making the Art. - Shaping Culture without letting, IT, Shape You. - Understanding both the Macroeconomics of Art and Culture:: How well your art does will depend on how well it aligns with Economics and your Culture at the time. The challenge for an artist is to find a way to stay true to what you find beautiful, without being overcome by the Suduction of Success; Success seduces the artist to seek more Success, sacrificing the Spiritual Connection they once had to the Art in the process. Also, as an Artist you must learn Business & Marketing and Learn Psychology. - The Deepening of Spiritual Connection, to Beauty both outside of you and Inside of you. - Becoming Masterful at putting Beauty on a Pedestal - Every single day becoming a more Pure Vehicle for the Universal Creative Force NB how this relates to your Ego, and Personal Development!! The Ego and Art are Inversely related: The Less Ego you have = Less Obstructions in the Spontaneous Creative Process = Better Art! PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WORK FOR AN ARTIST:: Cure all your neuroticism, fears, anxieties, depression, nihilism, chemical addictions, negative thinking, need of approval, attachments; And your Art will become Super-Charged!! - Enjoy the Process! - Dont let Maya use you as a Tool or a Puppet which just grinds you up burns you out, and then spits you out. Enjoy the Process. - Beware of Art as Medication - Build Art on the Right Foundation. Hit two birds with one stone: Combine Personal Development + Art together in a conscious way. - THE VISION:: The Vision to work towards is to note that: At the Highest Level of Personal Development - The Process of Art is Effortless.

Outrageous Experiments In Consciousness - 30 Awakenings In 30 Days There are infinite variables that influenced the formation of this thing, this door is the start and also the end of the universe. When we look at a door we can think of what was before that door, how this door came here and what will happen in this place where the door is at the moment in 20 years All parts/components are connected to each other but don't necessarily communicate between each other. With higher consciousness these parts communicate with each other more and more and with that comes more knowing of oneself. We can't rely of language, other people and experiences. All desires are biased, we would you want a women instead of a man, why beautiful ones instead of ugly ones...God has only one desire and this is knowing his real self...the majority wants this or that and what they get with want a particular thing is a limited aspect of God and not infinity. the purpose of life, reality is a contest who can love who more, true love is not receiving love, true love is giving love, true love is being love infinity is this, echo of who loves who more, I love you more, no I love you more....to infinity God's love is always bigger than our love, each time we receive God's love it transforms us and reveals blockages. Are you willing to love hate, murder, 9/10, ex girlfriend who cheated on you, your father who abused you, your mother who criticized you all your life and never gave you the love that you deserve, kids in school who bullied you, cristians, atheists, devil worshippers, ... How deep is your love really...God is able to love all of that without any hesitation. But you are not. So, you have to surrender and go true a phase of integration and acceptance. And then bounce that love back to God. This means as you embrace more of who you are and love really deeper, that is your love for God. The hardest thing to love is your own self-hatred, it's all the things that you don't love your self for. The function of love is transformation. Love opens us. When it opens us, love shows us our internal blockades. These are the obstacles that limit out love. Love is forgiving, tolerating and accepting of our devil patters and sins. This kills our ego. And that's what triggers transformation. This is what makes us humble. This is what heals us. Healing is love and truth. If there is anybody that you know that is dysfunctional (even yourself), that is suffering, sick, in need of healing.. it is really fucking simple, what they need is love. If you are addicted to drugs, it's because you lack love. If you get into fights all the time with parents, it's because that relationship lacks love (you lack the love to love them and vice versa). If you're insecure about your looks you lack love. If you are over weight, you lack love. If you have physical health problems you lack love. growing up lack of love manifests The thing that will heal you is giving up all your lies, selfishness...Truth and love is the answer. What you need is love and truth. The acceptance of reality as it is. That is love. when you lack love, you don't radiate love, you are like a black hole sucking in love. God is like a white hole, radiating love all the time. I'm sorry - for not loving more. This is the only thing you should apologize for. This is the only thing you should regret in life. Being selfish instead of loving. for not loving your family, friends enough, people in school enough, I give you love and I want nothing from you. I accept you as you are - i accept the fact that you hate yourself, I accept the fact that you were not strong enough to love, I accept the fact that you are limited and that you are weak, petty, selfish, ignorant and I love it. And I don't need you to change at all. So it's not like God is loving you to trick you into changing yourself to improve yourself. Real love is I love you as you are. And I don't need anything from you. And all those things you think I think you need to change for me, I don't need you to change. I can accept them all, exactly as they are, because that's love. God does no only say he loves you, he demonstrates you and that transforms you. thank you for love you say to God (you truly mean it ) I love you (when you truly mean it ) MY only job is to love. God shows you how he is able to love, and that is an invitation for you to see how much you love. Can you love, rape, abuse, your parents who said something bad to yourself that made you depressed for years, the guy who stole your car... of course I can love it all!!!! and then you say I can't love that, and God says to you "Its okay, I love you". 1h:36min when you see murder on TV, God lived through that, God is willing to experience it, God loves it all. If you loved as much as God, this duality would completely collapse and you would become God, so what is separating you from God is only your capacity to love. Which is only a function of how selfless you are. The only reason you are not able to love is because you have selfish biases and attachments, so are you willing to surrender all of those? Including your life? 1h 47min - too deep to write it here, must watch Everything is love. Reality is love.

Advice for young people (part 1&2) Lessons: Life needs to be lived to be understood. We are born like blank slates, knowing nothing and completely ignorant and then we get bombarded by life, life is not an intellectual pursuit, life is here, it is embodied, you're in it, you're feeling it, there is pain, there is suffering, intense pleasure and joy, it takes most people a long time to get the enormity of what life is. So much to do, to learn, to explore, so many mistakes to make, so many traps to fall into. When you're a blank white paper anything can be written on it (the challenge is that the individual and the collective are intertwined that it's both a blessing (technology, comforting lifestyle, entertainment, books...) and a curse (if you blindly allow yourself to be programmed by your culture and society - this will rob you of your happiness and potential to use your mind to really ace life) Life is enormously complex, there are many dimensions to it, so many variables, and the most important variable is who you are Life can get much much worse than you ever imagined and life can get much much better than you ever imagined You will have to both learn and figure out how life works but also learn and figure out how you work and how you fit into life and nobody can tell you that because you're uniquely you (Leo will give general advice, but you will still need to customize your life to you, nobody can tell what you should be, only you know what is best for you, if you want to be this or that, only you know what brings an emotional response out of you...) You gotta be true to yourself, be willing to honor your uniqueness Life is a self-discovery process. Be original. Don't copy others, don't try to copy the success of others, don't try to jump on trends in society...make a long term investment to develop your own internal success by discovering your authentic passions, motivations and values. Find your own voice and style. Figure your life for yourself, be introspecting, you gotta wonder at some point (Why am I alive, Why am I here at all, am I just here to repeat somebody else's life or am I here to do something new? Leo suggests that you're here to do something NEW...Why am I here to do? - Don't look for that answer from somebody else, turn inwards ) Spend more time reflecting and turning inwards and ask yourself deep questions about life rather than getting answers from other people. What do I want? What do I desire? What am I passionate about? How can I be more passionate about life? Why was I chosen to be here? How to live a good life? Quickly pick up on lessons. The quality of your life hinges upon the quality of your mind and how you use your mind. The people that earn the most money and are the most successful in our society they are not manual labors, construction workers, they are the deep thinkers, strategist, visionaries, inventors and the creators. Master your mind, most traps are the traps of the mind, the enemy is yourself. If you want to ace life, you need to take responsibility and ownership of your mind and how you're using your mind and by introspecting seeing how your mind is contributing to the kind of results that you're getting in your life. The mind doesn't want to look inwards it likes to projects outwards. Reality is weird and twisted thing that it seems as if we're in a physical material tangible world and it seems as if stuff is happening to you, that in fact is an illusion, your mind is projecting and creating reality, it is not simply that there is a reality and you were born into it. Your thoughts, emotions, belief systems, ideologies are all creating the kind of reality that you see out there. Your mind is playing an active creative role not just in how your personal life unfolds but it is generating all of reality. And when you're conscious of that it is no longer your reality, but your creation. Take the process of learning and understanding extremely seriously. (#1 Key: Start Questioning Everything. Ask high quality questions. Always be questioning what is life and how it works. 26min) The point of questioning is not to get the answer, the point is to go through the process of questioning and thinking through it. If Leo gives you an answer but you don't go through the process of deriving it from yourself, you're not gonna get the value from it. Sometimes it will take you years of curiosity and passion to discover an answer to a question. Have something in your life that you're deeply passionate about. Find a few things that you want to develop your life around. Go beyond finding a job, develop a career and even beyond that to developing a life purpose (check the Leo's life purpose's course). 1/3 to 1/2 of your waking hours of your life will be devoted to work, so it makes sense that you wanna have a lot of passion in your work. You want to feel like your work is meaningful. Meaning is something you create. If you find something meaningful, then that is what you're gonna do. Meaningful is whatever you say it is. You want to be useful to mankind. Be useful to society on your terms not on societies terms. The rarer you are compared to other's around you, the more valuable your skill set is, the more they are willing to pay you to help them and to partake in whatever creative work you're doing. And on this basis you can build a relatively comfortable life with freedom and such that you don't have to worry about money. Develop high quality desires. There are low quality desires (desire for heroin) and high quality desires (desire to be selfless). Purify your desires. Desire is much more important than knowing how to do something. All tangible things are accomplished only through desire. Life is something precious. Life is a miracle. Life is amazing and you have been blessed with it. My life is important. Reality is incredible, tune in for a second that you were born as you think you were, in the conventional sense, you exist, here you are, you're a part of reality, you're participating in this subjective experience of reality, put your awareness on that be WOW, it is a miracle that I was even born. Notice how lucky you are to be living where you are, that you have decent health and a lot of time ahead of you. Your obligation is to make the most out of your life. How do I live a good life? What do I desire, what is worth while doing, what is meaningful to me, what do I want out of life. Reality is a subjective thing. It is not like a physical object found somewhere in the universe. Be in touch with your feelings. Be in touch with how reality feels. Being in touch with your feelings and your intuitions is far more important than just thinking. Spend a lot of time feeling. Feel physical objects, environments, feel emotions, feel the difference between anger and sadness and depression and sexual arousal. Make fine distinctions between these and many more. Also, you cannot logically think through what your passion should be, you gotta feel it. You have to be connected with what moves you and what moves you is emotion not logic. Emotions are more powerful than logic. Your life is run by emotions, emotions are more fundamental than logic and thinking. So get out of your head and more into your body and feel yourself. If you don't feel good in your body and if feel good about your life no amount of logic and no amount of external conditions will do it for you. Because in the end you want to be satisfied and you want to be happy and passionate. Intuition will get you a lot further in life than just cold reason and logic. You have to be in tune with your heart not just with your logical left hemisphere. Feel deeper into negative emotions. That will allow you to feel better in general and that will allow you to feel deeper into positive emotions. You will be suffering a lot, when you are feeling lonely, sad, depressed, angry, jealous and any other negative emotion, rather than numbing yourself and distracting yourself, have the courage to feel into that more deeply. Face difficulties head on rather than trying to avoid them. Stuff that you deny, ignore, suppress or sweep under the rug in life will always come back to haunt you (it will create a neurotic toxic psychology in you, there is a cost to these things... there is a cost to lying, manipulating, stealing, cheating) The worst thing you can do is lying to yourself. You have to deal with the hand that you've been dealt. Like in poker. Sometimes life will be challenging but you have to commit to living a good life. Take truth really seriously. If you don't know the truth about a situation and you have some false story about it, then what you got is nothing. The truth is the substance, the reality of it. If you don't have the truth about a situation you literally have nothing. Because reality is what is true. Truth is reality. Reality is what you see around you. Truth is what everything is and the only thing that there is. So if something isn't true, it is not real. And if it isn't real, it is not here and if it is not here, it is not in your experience and if it is not in your experience then it's nothing to you, it doesn't exist. Make a life-long commitment to be committed to truth at all costs even when it's painful. Avoid all temptations to lie, manipulate, to deceive and to not be truthful with other's and even more importantly with yourself. Human beings are different. Externally but also internally in their minds. Notice how different people are on the outside and translate that into inside. It will seem like they are similar, it will seem like they are copies of you, it will seem like they feel like you, it will seem that they behave like you. People have different personalities, genetics, brain chemistry, ideologies and software that is running their mind, different operating system, different levels of ambition, motivation, different fears, different levels of neurosis, different levels of trauma they experienced, different energy levels, moods (some are more happy, some are more depressed, some are more positive, some are more negative), introverted, extroverted, different stages of development and consciousness, have access to different aspects of reality, they don't see the same things as you. Advice is not the same for everybody. What works for you might not work for somebody else. Life is not just a process of exploring external reality and other people, it's a process of exploring your own self because you don't really know who you really are (as an ego and personality). You don't know what food you like when you start, you don't know what sex you like, you don't know what school and career you would like to have Go above and beyond the bare minimum in life. Always work on some personal/career related project in your life. Through these projects you will develop skill and experience. Never allow the phrase "But I don't know how" stop you from doing something or attempting to do something. If you don't know how to do something, research it, buy books around it, go to google, read articles around it, find videos about it on youtube, ask people about it, find the people who know how. You don't need to know anything in life, all you need to have is the desire and the clear intent that you want to do it. From that everything else will be generated. All of us have traumas. And that is like a weight you have to remove from your shoulders. You have to heal that. Anytime you were not approved of or loved, you got trauma, something that shocked you and denied you the love and acceptance that you should have gotten. or scared you... and then because of that you get desperate for love. What you need to understand is that you are not looking for seeds, you are looking for love. The earlier the trauma, the more work you will have to put in to heal it. Ask yourself how much trauma did you accumulate in the first 20 years on a scale of 1 to 10. That trauma creates neediness and then you spend your life to get that love that you have been desperately craving in that specific form that you wanted. Learn about proper nutrition. Read books about how to eat healthy and look carefully at the food that you're eating.If you eat the mainstream diet you will not be able to fulfill on your amazing life. Focus on eating whole foods, vegetables, fruits. You need that raw fuel. You will need a very clear mind, you will need to be able to focus Reality is not a physical system. It's consciousness. Everything that you see or experience is consciousness. The way you understand consciousness is by experiencing it and by being conscious of it. Everything is made out of consciousness. Why is that important? Because if reality was made of atoms then that makes it seem as if reality is separate and distant from you, like there is a subject and an object and the subject is separate from the object, that means I am here and I am looking at the atoms over there. But that is not your experience of reality, you experience of reality is that you are meshed in with it, this physical room that you are sitting in is part of your head, there is no boundary between it and you, that opens up a radical new possibility, because if reality was separate from you, external to you, then there is always a boundary through which you can never pierce through to get to the bottom of reality. To live life awesomely you need to understand that it is all consciousness, and once you grasp that the subject and the object are interconnected that means that you have direct access to reality itself, access to all different levels of consciousness. Reality is infinite states of consciousness. (waking, dreaming...). You can be in bad contracted states and in good expansive states. The more conscious you become, the more understanding you have of how everything truly is. The less conscious you are, the more you are in a sort of a daze and a zombie,the more you are sleep walking through life, the more you lie to yourself, the more you manipulate, the more selfish you are, the more fearful you are, the more petty you are, the more lost you are and you cannot see why the smartest and the most intelligent choice is to be on a most selfless and most loving path. Love is a fundamental feature of reality, because reality never was some molecules and atoms, it was consciousness. The entire system was designed by consciousness so that consciousness can teach itself what it is, which is love. So it can explore different ways in which love gets expressed and how love gets manifested and actualized. Fear is just an absence of love. Fear is love of a very contracted sort. Love is fully expanded without any fear. Like a dimmer switch. more light is more love. Life is a training ground to teach you how to love and how to be selfless. This requires going through great struggle and suffering, falling in many traps and much trial and error. The suffering will teach you how to be more loving and more selfless. The quality of your life is about how much love you can radiate out to others. How do you want to radiate love? How are you gonna manifest it? How god like are you willing to be? (selfless and loving) Radiating love - pure radiation of yourself, your personality, of how you want to live, of how you want to use your body, your creativity... The quality of your life will hinge upon how much you give into the fear vs how much you pursue love. Pursuing love is difficult. Notice that in your life you are doing things out of fear or out of love. You are feeling fear or you're feeling love and you're driven by these 2 forces. Consciousness can either love itself or recoil from itself. Your job is to love more and more and more especially those things that recoil you until you become completely unconditionally loving and this requires becoming more and more selfless. The more selfish in life you are, the worse your life will be. The more selfless, the better your life will be. And this is one of the most counter-intuitive things. Life is imaginary, you are in a dream. Don't confuse the dream for reality. The entire universe is a giant infinite mind of infinite imaginary potential. Atoms are something that consciousness dreams into existence. Life is like a game, it is an experiment in creativity, you are thrown into the matrix of possibility and you get to decide which things you want to actualize. Don't waste time criticizing and judging others and yourself, simply focus on what you want to create. Direct experience is king. Notice that experience is all that you have of reality. You can't name a thing that was not experienced by you. Reality is experience. So, don't believe everything, test it out and see, everything that Leo said here has not validity and truth to it unless you validate it for yourself in your direct experience. You have to practice observation, meditation, you have to be aware, you have to turn inward, self-reflect, introspect, question deeply, contemplate. Turn your life into a scientific investigation and experiment. The aim of your experiment is to figure out what is reality, consciousness, life and how you live the best life possible. Get metaphysically serious about life. Figure out what life is, why you're here and what it's all about. The taller you want to build your skyscraper the deeper you have to dig the foundation. Understanding reality is worth it. The work is worth it. To independently investigate and understand reality for what it is and how it works is worth it and you will never regret it. Your youth is your most precious resource. A 750 million net worth guy said in his 60s that if he had the chance to go back and start from scratch and lose all of it, he would take the deal. This is how much your youth is worth if you use it properly. Be very very careful about how you're investing your time. Most of your time you should be investing in your future. Be very strategic about how you use your time and energy because it will get much harder as you get older (your mental peak will start to decline after your 30s). From the age of 15 to 30, this is where your ENTIRE life can be made or lost. Don't waste your time on stupid activities that don't pay you anything back. You want to make a commitment to make a strategic long term investments in yourself. Think of your life as the ultimate DO IT YOURSELF PROJECT. You can play the game of life exactly as some MMO video game like world of warcraft. The trick is that the game of life has so much freedom that in a sense you get lost in the freedom of it, there are so many things to do and so many ways you can be that there is nobody guiding you the way they do in the world of warcraft, where you start one quest and that leads you to the next quest. But with life is much more - WHAT DO YOU WANT OUT OF IT. You need to be the designer of your own game and life, you need to set your own objectives, you need to have enough vision to see the possibilities Treat your life as an adventure and work of art to see what you can create with your life. Take risks and don't be afraid to fail in life. Fail more, fail faster. The real danger is not that you will take some crazy risk, the real is you're gonna be complacent and do nothing and that you're just gonna get the same result that everybody around you is getting which is a mediocre result. What you should be scared of is you not taking some BOLD action like starting a business and maybe failing at it or getting into that relationship and maybe failing at it or maybe traveling into a new country and living there and maybe failing at it and have to return back home. This is all great stuff that will grow you even if you fail at it. And these failures will be the investment upon which you build the foundation for the rest of your life. So, don't worry about failures. The greatest failure you should be scared to death of is just sitting around and squandering your time and achieving nothing and investing nothing and then in your 30s you have nothing to show but a meaningless job. What you should be scared of is being distracted by all the unimportant stuff that is happening around you that most people are engaged in, not having a vision that you're working on. Don't get distracted by petty "human" shit. (gossip, politics, who is the victim, who is the victimizer, who started a war, who cheated on who, who is being mean to who, who did what to who... there is no satisfaction in playing these game) Imagine you were the only human on earth and see how this cuts out so much bullshit. Don't pay too much attention to what the herd around you is doing. (see also trap 16) Commit to challenging yourself with your life. Be the one who sets the challenges, don't wait for life to challenge you. By challenging yourself, you get to live life on your terms and that strengthens you up so the demands of life don't overwhelm you and you can easily deal with them. In this way you get to choose the challenges you're passionate about rather than the challenges that are enforced upon you from the outside, things that other people want you to do or that society demands of you because you might not be passionate about those things and you might not find those challenges meaningful. Counter-intuitively, the easier you try to make your life, the harder it's gonna be. Stop looking for life to be easy. Stop trying to find the path of least resistance in life. Stop looking for some shortcut on how to get rich or how to quickly build a business so it quickly earns you money or just how to get some quick sex or how to get any kind of job so you just have a job. Stop with this bare minimum approach to life. Be wary of shortcuts and magic pill solutions, usually they don't pay out and end up wasting your time because you don't build anything stable with them. Focus on building stable solid things in your life. (business, relationships, health&fitness) There is a stable way to build a business that is grounded in a deep foundation or there is a flimsy way of building a business, if you build something flimsy it might make you money for a few year but it will crash down and you will have nothing left. If you focus on building a solid foundation for your business it might take you longer, it might take you 5-10 years to do that, but once you do it, that foundation will be so solid that it will pay you dividends for a long time to come and the skills you learn and who you have to become to build a solid foundation for a business that is the real gold of life. Take the time to do things right, even thought it's gonna take more work and there's gonna be less immediate pay off. You will get out of life exactly the effort that you put into it. Who you become in the process is the real gold in life. Not the end result but who you become. Develop a strong work ethic. Learn how to hunt before the age of 20. Earn the money for the things you want to buy and don't depend on your parents to buy you stuff. Set a high standard for yourself. You get in life whatever your lowest standard is. Whatever is your lowest standard for the house you wanna live in, is probably the house you will end up living in. Whatever is the lowest standard for the kind of relationship you're willing to tolerate is probably the relationship you will end up with. Whatever is the lowest standard for the kind of career or job that you have is probably the job that you will have. Whatever is your lowest standard for how much money should be in your bank account in probably the amount that will have. This also applies to your physical appearance, your weight, what kind of food you put into your body, the excuses that you're willing to tolerate. So have high standards for the people you relate with, for your friends (don't let just anybody be your friend), don't sleep with just anybody have some standards, standards for the kind of teachers you learn from, standards for the books you read, standards for the kind of environment you live in Aim beyond basic survival in life. If your life is gonna be just about survival and getting by, and if it's gonna be just about utility and pragmatism, you will not be satisfied with life. The greatest joys in life are not basic survival and are not pragmatic and utilitarian. You can become very successful and wealthy by being highly pragmatic and utilitarian but it won't be satisfying. There is a deeper dimension to life than survival, that doesn't mean you should ignore survival, survival is crucial, it's just that survival is the bare minimum and we're going beyond that into spirituality. Commit to never doing mindless work. (working at starbucks, flipping burgers, cleaning toilets..)Work on things that have add something to the advancement of mankind. Work on that in a conscious way. You need to feel like you are contributing to society in some important way. Don't over-plan your future. You need to be adaptable, improvisational and opportunistic. Give your life room to breathe and to unfold. You want to have a vision for your life but also you want to have some room for exploration so when you notice some opportunity you are free to jump on it, don't have some rigid idea that your life has to unfold in a particular way. You will not be able to predict the greatest opportunities in your life years in advance, it's gonna be an opportunity that arises in the moment and in those moments you need to have the courage to seize on those. Be careful to not get stuck in a rut. Don't tie yourself down too much with a bunch of commitments ( a house, a marriage with children) You want the freedom to explore yourself more, you can tie yourself down once you get in your 40s and 50s. In your 20s and 30s you want to travel, live in different places (change the city you live in every 5 years at least). Don't overload your schedule with too much obligations. (socializing and non-stop work...) Leave room for going inward: for solitude, to meditate, to self-reflect, read, plan out your life, vision, dream, work on a side project, be creative, to listen to yourself, to find the deep answers The deepest answers are not found in books or from other people they are found inside yourself in moments of solitude and deep self-reflection. Make time for solitude. Make time where you can sit for an entire day/ . (without internet, social media, no obligations, no chores, no socializing, no work, no entertainment, no distractions, no phone calls..) and listen to your heart, your highest self, listen to your creative aspirations,passions, Visioning and thinking about your life, self-reflecting, doing the inner work, that's where the real work happens. Discover yourself in those moments. Create something new. Become creative. Creativity is the source of passion. Focusing on being creative empowers you. You feel like a victim and dis-empowered when you're not being creative. Go beyond the mainstream most popular sources of information. Find sources that are not popular but create amazing content. Instead of following the one with 10million subs, follow the one with a few thousand but make sure that it's still high quality content and that it's truthful, don't fall into some occult practices. Pull from many different sources and perspectives and don't just do what everyone else in the mainstream is doing. Don't waste your time hating, fighting, judging, criticizing, blaming, negativity, trying to control others, have no desire to control others but yourself, have no desire to tell other's from some righteous position how they are wrong and what they're doing is bad and evil and that it could be done better. This is all distraction rather focus on what you need to do to be creative in your life. When you're being creative and when you're investing in yourself you have no time for all these pointless distractions. You can create value, you don't need to control or manipulate others to get you something that you can get yourself by turning inwards. Be creative in your life...because then you will be empowered. When all your time and energy is spent on inner work, making yourself more creative, more passionate, growing yourself, investing in yourself, becoming more spiritual when you're doing this you have no time and room for negativity, blaming, criticizing, judging, fighting, hating it's all pointless, it's a distraction. And you have no desire to control or to manipulate anybody else because then you become self-reliant. You don't need to control somebody else or manipulate them to get you something can get yourself by turning inwards and anything important, that is of any real value in life you can generate for yourself, you don't need to control or to manipulate somebody else to give it to you. SO why play those game, go directly to the source. Generate it yourself. A lot of people create entire careers out of negativity and blaming others... focus on what you're gonna create for the world that is positive, how are you gonna grow yourself, when you're growing yourself you have no time for these distractions, you don't care what others are doing around you because you are too powerful, you are too creative, you don't need their approval, you don't care about their criticism because you are going full steam ahead. Be careful because people in society will try to trick you and scam you and deceive you. This is just normal for the level of development of the current society. Don't take the people's words at face value, and they are tricking you and scamming you not because they are evil and that you should resent them for it, it's simply because they themselves are ignorant and looking for shortcuts and this is just a survival strategy. People will tell you things when in in fact the thing they are describing is exactly the opposite of what they are trying to convince you it is. People will try to trick you and deceive you in relationships in friendships in business, when you go to the grocery store, when you go to the restaurant, when you're reading books, watching the media... because most people are enagaged in lying to themselves, most people don't value truth very much. When you're not in touch with your own deep creative resources and power, you're still gonna survive in the world somehow, so you will do it through trickery, deception and scamming, you will create a business that doesn't produce anything new and valuable for mankind rather it tries to scam you. Example: grocery store a label fat-free, as if it's something healthy and then you look closer and see that there are all sorts of chemicals in there that are even worse than fat. Don't automatically assume that what somebody is telling you is true. Somebody tells you they are enlightened/ that it is a good deal/ that you will earn a lot of money this way/...don't believe them. You can take this too far where you become paranoid, skeptical and fearful and you're not able to relate to anybody because you're not able to trust anybody. Don't try to get loved from others or from things. When you got trauma (been denied love) then because of that you get desperate for love. What you need to understand is that you are not looking for seeds, you are looking for love. Love is counter-intuitive in the sense that you think that you will get love by getting others to fill your cup and so you will be running around with your empty cup asking them to fill your cup for you, begging them, being needy, trying to manipulate or control others to give you the love that you seek. This is the opposite of how love really works. Develop yourself to be a non-needy person, such that your cup is already filled and so you're filling other people's empty cup. And you fill your cup through spiritual practice, creative work and passion. Changing who you are in the world, changing your being at the identity level, this is where your deepest results come from. Why you buy the car? Because it gives you the feeling of love, you do some drugs because it gets you some feeling of love...having these things is fine but don't expect these things to give you love and stop making these the things the source of your love. These things should be secondary, but for most people these things are primary. Because they don't know how to generate love within themselves and so the only substitute is get love from the outside through purchasing stuff and clinging to stuff. Transcend that paradigm by working on yourself, by doing spiritual practice, by being passionate about life. There are many stages of development that human being go through. These levels of development are totally different ways of looking at the world and being in the world. There is a certain sequence of these developmental levels and stages that people go through.Studying these stages can give you a preview and a road map of things you'll be getting yourself into in the next stage which can be very useful and can speed up your entire growth process and that can point out all the common traps. (spiral dynamics, Ken Wilber's model and others from the developmental psychology) ...What is really important to understand is that There are stages of human development and consciousness that we could call super human, which are possible, these are ways of being the world that are so radically advanced and profound and different from the stage you're starting this journey from, that you can't even imagine it, you can't conceive of it and it would be shocking and radical if you were dropped into it that you would have a hard time believing that such a thing is even possible or real. These stages are so advanced that we couldn't even call them human, these are beyond human. The point of life is to reach these super human levels of development. To break out of the mold of what you consider ordinary physical reality and all the limitations that come with it, this is what everything is leading you towards that where you will transform from the caterpillar into the butterfly, which means a new kind of human. Reality is perspectival, relative and subjective. Perspecival=reality is perspective. Reality is not one way, reality is the perspective you take on it and everyone is taking different perspectives on reality. Appreciate and Fall in love with the idea that there is no reality outside of one's perspective of it. The thing that is there is an infinite number of perspectives and without those perspectives there is nothing there. Study all the implications of this. What this does is opens you up from being locked in one perspective yourself and then it will allow you to explore different perspectives and to appreciate them all and to be free of them all because every perspective is limited. GO through life not trying to defend your perspective as if that it's the only right one and not thinking that there is one true perspective out there that people can have and that all other ones are false but rather look at reality as if there is no reality, there is only perspectives and get curious and open enough to want to explore different perspectives. Explore perspectives just for the sake of exploring perspectives and your life will go much better than what 99% of people do which is just defending their own perspective and trying to trick themselves into thinking that it's the objective ultimate truth when it isn't. You want to create a meta universal operating system which is able to deal with applications from any other operating system, then you're free, you're not limited or bound to one perspective/paradigm and this makes your mind the most flexible, creative and you're also able to appreciate the full diversity that constitutes life. (think about all the apps that Mac can't use because they are stuck with Mac OS or the app that is available on Mac but can't run on windows) What you need is the willingness to detach from your own perspective, question your own mind at the kernel level and let go of these kernels that are grounding your sense of reality and that is scary, difficult, emotionally challenging because that anchors your entire sense of identity in life so take that on as a project to explore more and more perspectives without getting attached to any particular one. This will deepen your ability to love, understand, it will make you more creative, flexible, make you less arrogant, less selfish. There is more happening in life than meets the eye and to discover that you will have to go beyond materialism, what culture, science, parents and teachers teach you, you will have to go deep inside, deconstruct your own mind and push yourself to lead a life that is not ordinary get to work and repeat the next day kind of life. The most significant challenge you will be dealing with for the rest of your life if you want to understand reality and yourself is the epistemic challenge of figuring out what is true and what isn't and deconstructing all of the programming that you received during the first 20 years of your life through your childhood and education... and that comes from your culture and any bottlenecks or falsehoods or deceptions or lies within your culture will be programmed into you but you don't know what all of those are and so in the process of discovering yourself you will have to shed layer upon layer of all the false conditioning you've been programmed with that is keeping you from living a free open life. So you'll have to overcome your culture's programming but also your own internal self-deceptions (see 3 part series on self-deception) Greatest enemy/obstacle will be complacency, laziness, distractions, the taking life for granted and the fact that nobody around you is doing it ( and that is happening all around you among your peers. ) You will need a deep commitment to this process. A very long time horizon, a deep motivating vision and confidence in yourself that this is the kind of life that you wanna live The #1 key to living a good life is to be more conscious and to raise your level of consciousness. Life is about 2 forces. Fear vs love. Selfishness vs selflessness. This is what all life boils down to at a metaphysical level. Your life is driven by fear or love. Most important core pillars (the engine that you use to drive your life, instead of going with the flow and getting the status quo, the default and the boring stuff, like a monotonous job): Curiosity. Develop curiosity about everything. Constantly be learning. Be passionate about teaching yourself how life works. Through questioning, reading books that you're interested in. Passion. Find something you're ridiculously passionate about so you can pour 10000 of hours into it. Desire and ambition. Maximum, radical self-honesty. Always be honest and truthful with yourself. Life is deeply counter-intuitive. Being proactive. Be in the drivers seat when setting the direction of your life. You have to be proactive and go out there and be learning, researching, looking for things that you're passionate about, setting goals for yourself, motivating yourself, Mastery. Pick one thing to develop mastery in and skill around that. Radically open mind. Most common traps people fall into (you gotta be careful): Ideology and falling into belief systems that other people have invented and taking them as dogma and defending those and fighting over those and debating over those. The number 1 trap is getting your mind locked into one of those belief systems because those beliefs are like the operating system upon which your life will hinge, the operating system then dictates what software can run in that environment. You need to make sure that you're not working on the surface level (changing the apps) but that you're working on deeper level of looking at the internal working of your operating system and making sure that you're not limited or straight jacked by some operating system, some ideology, paradigm, belief system and even going deeper to the heart of the OS and that takes into metaphysics and spirituality. Laziness There will be a lot of people that will try to tell you the answers, but you have to discover the answers for yourself. Treating reality as though logic is the ultimate lens through which to understand reality. Being hyper logical and analyzing everything. "I want the positive emotions and I don't want the negative ones, so what I'm gonna do is feel the positive ones and then suppress, deny, ignore and numb out the negative ones. " Huge mistake. Deceiving and bullshitting yourself (stems from a lack of self-honesty) Eating the mainstream diet. Culture feeds you poison, so you will have a hard time using your mind and feel into your body. Judging what is being created around you. Not taking life seriously. Most people don't take life seriously. There are many people that are completely not serious and work at star bucks and watch netflix, then there are a little more serious people who start businesses and become doctors and lawyers, and then there are the really serious people, these are the people who are metaphysically serious. This means they are serious about questioning consciousness itself and how you got here and what you're doing here and actually trying to figure out life. Squandering your youth. .. where you are doing the bare minimum to survive. Playing video games, letting parents to pay everything for you, partying all the time, spending time in immature relationships which go around in circles and don't go anywhere, using too much social media, watching too much TV, masturbating to porn Settling for mediocrity by having low standards. Temptations to imitate others. DON'T. Notice when you're imitating others and force yourself to be authentically you. Falling into temptations to take shortcuts. Looking for shortcuts and immitating people who take shortcuts and most people like to take shortcuts because they don't think long-term. Settling for a meaningless job instead of seeing it as a stepping stone toward something larger. (a job, or business that actually contributes to the advancement of mankind) Not outgrowing desires. Being distracted by petty human shit. (Imagine you're the only human on earth and notice how that cuts out so much bullshit). Society will always try to distract you and convince you that this stuff is important. Focus on your vision and what you want to create and focus on becoming a strong human being . So when most people are talking about politics, gossip.... you're at home working on yourself, focusing on creating, reading books, meditating, contemplating and introspecting... Trying to control other people. (see lesson 68) Feeling weird for not doing the stuff that most people do (engaging in complacency, distractions and laziness) and then doing the things that most people do when they nay say you and discourage you and drag you down like crabs in a bucket (when one crabs try to exit the bucket the rest of the crabs try to pull it down) living life on the surface, not going deep being deceived by other people believing that other people around you are more developed than they are. Most people are mediocre and they have never seriously developed themselves. clinging to your perspective and trying to denounce the perspectives of others (this comes from believing that reality is an one objective material thing – how can then be possible that people have such different perspectives on reality...it's that there is no one thing there, there is only perspectives) Core values you need to follow to live a good life: Creativity Heart Love Intuition Independence of mind Clarity of mind Life long learning Reading Authenticity Radical open-mindedness Passion Vision Ambition Purpose Spirituality Fearlessness Truth Raising your consciosness Work ethic Focus (The ability to concentrate your mind) Wisdom Service to others Selflessness Solitude and self-reflection Questioning everything Curiosity Going beyond materialism and survival There are many degrees to all of this is not either you are ambitious or you're not. Commit to following on this every single day and keep reminding yourself that this is what you're doing in this life. This is the back bone of your life and everything else is secondary (entertainment, socializing, games, fun) Fundamentals are simple but executing on this is difficult because it takes commitment and you have to do it day after day, year after year and not get distracted by all sorts of silliness that is happening around you in society. It takes vision, courage and the willingness to go it alone. This is a journey that is done in one in a million if not less. You can find like minded people, but if you want to go to the super human levels, don't expect anybody to come along on your journey, you're gonna do it all alone or you're not gonna do it at all. The ultimate questions: How much are you willing to invest in your life. How much do you want out of life. What are you willing to settle for, are you willing to settling for nothing less than super human? Are you going to honor your life and acknowledge the miracle that it is by working on actualizing your full super human potential. Are you willing to sacrifice and to work and to pay the price for that? To invest in yourself, every single day. To push your comfort zone, to ascend every stage that we have mapped and that we know that humans are capable of ascending up, are you willing to go to the very top

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@Milos Uzelac I suggest you post only complete summaries. Everyone makes different summaries, but in general it's quite hard to make a short summary from a lengthy video, it also depends on the content of the video, for some videos short summaries are enough, for other ones a long one is necessary. The summary you posted is quite good for now, keep going.